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Title: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: mtfbuckeye on March 02, 2009, 10:13:03 AM
Post by: mtfbuckeye on March 02, 2009, 10:13:03 AM
We found out that my wife is pregnant yesterday. Don't get me wrong... This is great news. I love kids, and I always wanted two children (ideally, this baby will be a girl, but I'd be happy with a boy as well).
But.. I also know this means any hope of me transitioning is delayed for a couple more years at the least. Also, I don't particularly like how masculine fathering another child makes me feel right now.
So yeah, it's a crazy mixture of euphoria and melancholy for me right now...
But.. I also know this means any hope of me transitioning is delayed for a couple more years at the least. Also, I don't particularly like how masculine fathering another child makes me feel right now.
So yeah, it's a crazy mixture of euphoria and melancholy for me right now...
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: almost,angie on March 02, 2009, 10:25:14 AM
Post by: almost,angie on March 02, 2009, 10:25:14 AM
Aw! Congrats on the new kido. Don`t feel like you are fathering another child. Just know that they have two mothers. On of them just looks like Jack Black.( for now)
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: Nicky on March 02, 2009, 01:32:12 PM
Post by: Nicky on March 02, 2009, 01:32:12 PM
You might look masculine but you don't have to parent in a masculine way. Approach it in a way that feels right. Do the best you can do. That is all the child will want from you.
Having a baby and transitioning are not mutually exclusive things. Don't be afraid to approach it. Just take things a little easier and allow for down time.
congratulations!
Having a baby and transitioning are not mutually exclusive things. Don't be afraid to approach it. Just take things a little easier and allow for down time.
congratulations!
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: Genevieve Swann on March 02, 2009, 01:32:38 PM
Post by: Genevieve Swann on March 02, 2009, 01:32:38 PM
Maybe transitioning soon would not be a bad idea. The sooner a child becomes accustomed to it the better. Young children learn very quickly and adjust. I have two daughters and they have their own lives now. Me being a CD didn't seems to bother them much. Actually it was accepted and nobody seemed to notice. Congratulations and good luck.Genevieve
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: myles on March 02, 2009, 01:39:27 PM
Post by: myles on March 02, 2009, 01:39:27 PM
Congrats on the new edition. I understand about the kid thing I have 2 and after 2 years of trying to decide what to do I decided the younger they were the better. Today I took one of my sons to the dr. (I haven't told them yet seeing my therapist today about how to do that) and I asked if he would still hold my hand if I was his dad. He said yes and asked why, I said well I was just asking and he said then I would just call you papa and smiled. (hes 9)
Kids are amazing.
Myles
Kids are amazing.
Myles
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: Yochanan on March 02, 2009, 06:35:17 PM
Post by: Yochanan on March 02, 2009, 06:35:17 PM
Wow, congratulations, Johnnie! *hugs*
Nicky got it right:
Nicky got it right:
Quote from: Nicky on March 02, 2009, 01:32:12 PM
You might look masculine but you don't have to parent in a masculine way. Approach it in a way that feels right. Do the best you can do. That is all the child will want from you.
Title: Re: Wife is Pregnant (Mixed Emotions)
Post by: Susan on March 02, 2009, 07:03:56 PM
Post by: Susan on March 02, 2009, 07:03:56 PM
Quote from: mtfbuckeye on March 02, 2009, 10:13:03 AM
(Ideally, this baby will be a girl, but I'd be happy with a boy as well).
Just remember you never really know the answer to that question until you ask them and they answer... :P