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I'm in a situation right now where it would not be a good idea, in any way, to come out as male. I go to a Christian school that cringes at such thoughts, and my parents are similar. My suspecting mother buys me gifts of over-the-top feminine cloths.

So I'm on a trip with this cringing Christian school, and I'm also wearing those oh-so-special over-the-top feminine cloths... yet I still get called "sir" five separate times in three days. The first time it happened, I was eating out with my friends, and one of them corrected the waiter when I wouldn't. I was laughing too hard.

Any of you remember the first time that's happened to you?

That poor waiter looked mortified. I gave him a good tip. xD

haha...yeah, i'm pretty much in the same place right now.

i'm not out to my family, but i don't really present myself as a girl.

for example, friday afternoon a man came and knocked on our front door. when i answered he looked at me for a good twenty seconds, looked up at the sky, looked at me again, and then asked if i was the dad of the house. i busted out laughing and told my mom to come to the door. i told my mom what he'd said later, and her response was, "why would he think you're a boy?!?"

there's also a guy who lives next door to one of my friends. he was drunk when i met him, but i introduced myself to him by my girl name. he decided i was a guy and has refused to refer to me as anything but that. i ran into him at a bar last night and i was with a friend and this guy started talking about how he thought this guy (pointing at me) lived in his apartment complex. i ended up telling the friend i'd gone with that i was pulling this elaborate joke on the guy so he'd go along with it.

Dude.  Yes.  It doesn't happen often but when it does I never know whether to laugh or not.  When I am by myself I don't correct people.  When I am with others they either take it upon themselves to correct, or they just stand there embarrassed for me.  Sigh. :)

I wrote about a similar experience once -
https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,9396.msg68082.html#msg68082 (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,9396.msg68082.html#msg68082)

Joseph

Well its pretty much day to day.. its very out of the ordinary for someone to think of me as female to be honest.

I get sir'd and mistered all the time now.

Congrats on the passing with out even trying dude! :)

Jay

Went to a sushi place the other day. My mom ordered for me, and said, "SHE'll have..." Later the waitress asked if she could take our picture (for the restaurant's picture wall) and she tried to get us to squeeze in together, and my mom leaned in front of me and the lady said, "Wait, no, he's behind you!" I leaned forward and I have never seen a picture where I look so pleased--haha.

It cracks me up how I get male pronouns mostly when I'm not even trying

They must just think I'm a chubby guy with a nice pair of moobs, binding seems to get me nowhere

I pass most of the time.  ;D
I'm not outed, and pre-everything of course...

It's a damn good feeling...
Sometimes I'm thinking: Man, If I'm passing without T and with this body, I can't wait to be on T one day...  :)

When I'm by myself I never correct people. When I'm with someone, I usually correct people (just because of the person I'm with) or just smile...
My mum always say "Oh, no, she's girl" and she had to say that a lot of times...  ;D  I think she's becoming less and less embarrased...

Ha the sad part is i get ma'am a lot now...i used to get sir and young man and boy and other male things a whooooole lot when i was more towards the genderqueer "alternative" side but now that i've completely accepted being ftm and dropped the androgynous thing a bit i get female pronouns even more! it's quite depressing  :icon_sadblinky: i really need to start T anyyyyways I usually only correct people when they call me things like ma'am or young lady or some crap like that quite frankly i don't think i look all that much like a girl my voice is very high though BUT back to what i was saying my mom will randomly correct people usually if one of her friends or relative ask her if im her son or grandson haha i wish she'd stop all it does is make things massively awkward cause then they just kinda stand there looking at me like hmmmmm *insert some chin rubbing here* lol ugggh *shudders*T_T

LOL.  I've given my legal name a few times when required to, and still gotten sir, or Mr.  Was cool.  Now if other people would call me same when am going by my prefered name and trying to pass LOL

Too bad about your current situation mate, but congrats on passing with the waiter!

Personally, I'm only out to my mum and my brother (and sort of my friends, but mostly there's just this strange middle ground where no one really seems to know what anyone else is thinking :icon_weirdface: ) but I get 'young sir'd and etc probably 90% of the time in shops and such.
It definitely is a great feeling for me, considering my feminine face, voice, and certain assets hiding under my shirts. :'D

I seem to pass more with older folks than people my age funnily enough. You'd think older people would be more old-fashioned, thus long hair=girl, and vice versa for people my age but eh.

That's funny. Not even your mother can stop it. Good luck getting past all the Christianity. They must have thought you were a crossdresser with those clothes.

Me, I don't think I've ever been taken for male. Face is too feminine. T will change that though, won't it?

I was eating at my favourite chinese place on lunch break one day, wearing my work clothes (mens navy blue polo shirt, khaki pants), I had short brown hair at the time, and wasn't wearing makeup that day...a woman who just came in saw my food when they brought it to me, and said to her waitress "that looks good! I'll have what he's +points to me+ having." I was happy all day. c:

it is a great feeling when people "mistake" you for your actual gender. I got it occasionally at work (cashier), several adults but many more children. they pick up on it easier...until their parents "correct" them :[

anyone notice that?

Quote from: SilverFang on April 10, 2009, 12:04:48 AM
That's funny. Not even your mother can stop it. Good luck getting past all the Christianity. They must have thought you were a crossdresser with those clothes.

Me, I don't think I've ever been taken for male. Face is too feminine. T will change that though, won't it?

Yes, T changes your face quite remarkably. People I knew as acquaintances before think I might be related to who I was, but they can't imagine that I am the same person.

Dennis

Quote from: Dennis on April 14, 2009, 01:35:22 AM
Yes, T changes your face quite remarkably. People I knew as acquaintances before think I might be related to who I was, but they can't imagine that I am the same person.

It can't happen soon enough for me. I don't see any changes yet, but I guess it's too early.

I'm still getting mostly shes and hers, but when I'm read as male, I'm pretty cocky all day.

No pun intended.

That was a good one Arch, brightened my day :).