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Title: At Least Have the Decency to Lie About Your Sexuality
Post by: Hazumu on April 06, 2009, 10:51:05 PM
Mike Alvear
Host of HBO's The Sex Inspectors
Posted April 6, 2009 | 04:47 PM (EST)

The Huffington Post (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/mike-alvear/at-least-have-the-decency_b_183334.html)

Quote"I would if I could." She was confused. I looked in her eyes. "I'm gay."

Judging by the length of her silence, I clearly surprised her. And she surprised me right back. Her reaction wasn't at all what I expected. She didn't turn her shoulder and ignore me for the rest of the flight. She didn't suddenly go quiet and change the subject. Instead, she narrowed her eyes and said,

"Why do you people constantly flaunt your homosexuality? [...]. "What do you mean 'flaunt,'" I said, exasperated. "I've been trying to keep my private life private but you've been badgering me about it for the last 15 minutes. What did you want me to do -- lie?"

"Yes," she said.

And with that one word I understood something about conservative people that I hadn't realized before. If they can't change you to fit their narrow view of the world, they expect you to at least have the decency to lie about it.

I stared straight ahead for a few seconds then turned to the woman. "You wanted me to pretend I'm something I'm not so that you wouldn't feel uncomfortable."

"Yes."

"So honesty is a virtue, unless it makes people uncomfortable?"
Title: Re: At Least Have the Decency to Lie About Your Sexuality
Post by: tekla on April 06, 2009, 11:04:12 PM
they can't change you to fit their narrow view of the world, they expect you to at least have the decency to lie about it.

Sure explains their taste in preachers and political types don't it?