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Well almost six months into RLE and I think I really like this, not that I ever doubted it. For the most part things at home have improved. My wife and I took a vacation for a week last month, talked a lot about issues and since coming back our relationship has improved.

Transitioning at work thus far has been more than I could have hoped for. I am treated with respect and as a female. My Supervisor retired this month and I have been encouraged by the guys I work with and several other Supervisors to put in for the position. I will submit my paperwork tomorrow and see where this goes. I was recently transferred to the Women' s Clinic at the VA and had my first visit with the Primary Care Physician.

Finances are tight as is for many of us. Due to an adult daughter and four grandchildren moving in with us several months ago, my extra money for electro died out. I was told last night that she is planning on moving out at the end of this week so hopefully I will be able to get back on track with things I need to do. God, I hate shaving!!!

My Endo has increased my estradiol dosage and added progesterone and I already am noticing the effects. Yay! I am comfortable going out as myself and am starting to slowly eliminate the random thoughts that I am am a guy dressed as a woman. I am a woman! I have started talking to my Therapist about SRS and she is supportive and feels I am ready to proceed. What a step that would be.  :) 

So all in all things are moving forward, one step at a time. Hugs all and love for my Sisters and Brothers here.

~Wendy~   

That's great news.  How does your wife feel about the transition and in particular SRS?

Good for you, Wendy.

I hope you get back on track.

Janet

You Go Girl!!!

Congrats


Beni

Jill, Janet and Beni, thanks.  :)  :icon_bunch: Jill, it has been a long process with my wife over the last two years since I came out to her. We both try to take things a step at a time. She has her moments when she wants nothing to do with Wendy, all she wants then is him back. I understand that and try to give her space during those times. For the most part my transition has been a steady forward movement and she has for the most part accepted this. We are friends at the moment and I don't look for a return to the romantic side of things. My performance as a man was in reality faked anyway, but thats another story. She blew up the first time I indicated I was ready to proceed towards the next step which is SRS. It was a rather heated encounter but she has since accepted it in theory if not in actuality. That remains to be seen. Hope that answered your question. Hugs

~Wendy~   

Wow Wendy. It really is good to read about positive experiences at work.

With your wife, baby steps. I always keep in the back of my mind I've had 41 years to deal with this. She's had how long?

Congrats, Wendy.  It sounds like you are making wonderful progress.

This can really be hard on those close to us - especially a spouse.  My wife always knew I was a cross dresser, and that's what I had thought I was.  Most of the time she would accept that and even enjoy shopping for women's clothes together.  Other times she had trouble with it.  I figured she knew in her head that it had nothing to do with her, but sometimes had trouble knowing it in her heart.

It's wonderful you are doing so well and that, for the most part, your wife is supportive.  Be gentle with those who love you.

*hugs*
Kate

Goodness, I sort of drifted away. A belated thank you to K8 and Lori. Everything seems to have finally come together. I love being the woman I was meant to be and it was like the name change back in February was the catalyst that finally allowed me to full time and get to where I am.

My coworkers have been fabulous in their acceptance and being comfortable and at peace has allowed me to form many new associations with both sex's at work. The women there have been wonderful, inquisitive and supportive. I wear my hair bobbed long because of one of their suggestions and I just love the style.

My home life and even my wife has adapted as well as one could expect. W ere still together, more as friends but maintaining a lifestyle of give and take.

The RLE has actually ended for me and I will now move to the Surgery board.
It all can work if you let it, set a goal, complete it, take a breather and set another goal. I think its really about taking steps and not overloading your plate. Hugs

~Wendy~

Welcome back, Wendy.  I'm glad to hear things are going so well for you.  How wonderful for both your wife and you that you continue to have a good relationship.

Quote from: Wendy C on October 29, 2009, 07:05:19 PM
It all can work if you let it, set a goal, complete it, take a breather and set another goal. I think its really about taking steps and not overloading your plate.

Oh, I agree.  That is what has worked for me.

*hugs* :icon_flower:
Kate

Thanks Kate, I did miss coming here to Susan"s, I just had too much going on the last couple months getting ready for GRS and lining things up. Hugs

~Wendy~

Hi Wendy, I missed this thread the first time.  Sounds like things are still going well for you.  It's always nice to hear when someone has so much support. Hugs.

Hi Katherine, nice to hear from you also, hugs. Hope things are going well for you as well.

~Wendy~

I'm happy to hear things are going so well.  If you can keep your family and work through transition you're a very lucky girl.

Congrats!  :eusa_clap:

Julie

Thank you Julie. I really don't know how it will all play out in the end but I do hope that we can at least stay friends. So much of our lives are entwined and it would be hard for either of us to just pack up and leave the other.

~Wendy~