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I've been trying to deal with this since as far I as I can remember.  I'm TG (Haven't been diagnosed, but I know how I feel),  I'm 26 years old.  I'm a husband and a father.  But it seems the older I get the worst the thoughts.  It just seemed like simple curosity but its more.  Everytime that I look at a woman I see sexual disire and a continuous envy of wanting to be like her, to look like her, to feel like her.  I'm not sure this is making any sense.
I'm at the point of my life where I think I have to make a decision, this decision is going to have of course influences on other decisions such as my wife of 4 years leaving me.  I just know I'm not going to ever be happy if I just let it go and continue to live my life under a mask.

Please any thoughts or suggestions.

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Quote from: dethral on June 05, 2009, 07:35:51 PM
Please any thoughts or suggestions.

Welcome to Susan's, dethral, I hope you'll enjoy and profit from your stay with us. :) 

I have thoughts, but they'd be thoughts that might not give you what you need. The condition itself is extraordinaily personal and your reactions and thoughts and feelings are also personal. I could say "o, I understand exactly" but that would just be a guess. Just like I could say, "o, it's a passing phase that you'll prolly work through in two years, stay where you are now." That would also be guessing on sparse info.

The fact is I have no way to make suggestions to you about what your course should be, or could be, when I know not thing seven about you. (You gave me about six.) :) 

I'll make a suggestion though. If you'd like to explore yourself further and what the symptoms could portend for you I'd suggest that you consult with a therapist, perhaps even a gender therapist to try and get a bit further along in discovering what and how your desires and feelings might mean for you.

This link (http://www.drbecky.com/therapists.html) is one you could find helpful in that regard.

Diagnosis and treatment suggestions from those of us here at this site might well be exactly wrong. We prolly all have notions, but like I said, we are all a bit different and perhaps you'd do best to start your explorations with a therapist and yourself. Together you can make a much more accurate and full diagnosis than anyone here who has no real knowledge of you beyond the few introductory lines you've written.

I wish you all the best.

Nichole 

It gets really hard you're you're married, or even in a relationship. http://www.tsroadmap.com/index.html (http://www.tsroadmap.com/index.html) tends have a lot of good information.

I'll try and add my advice if I can. I don't know if it will be helpful or not...

Basically, be who you really want to be. Don't restrain yourself into one thing or the other. If the person you are with can't accept you for you are- instead of who they want you to be- then what it comes down to is that's not the person to be with. I know that sounds harsh, but can you really call it love in a relationship when someone doesn't approve of you being honest with yourself and with them?

If you decide that you do want to transition, take it slow. Your wife might be overwhelmed if you just slang it on her all at once.

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