Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Topic started by: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:08:23 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:08:23 PM
Post by: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:08:23 PM
So a random person friended me on Facebook.. and I accepted.. for gods know what reason.
Today I got into a discussion with one of these random people.
My facebook account has a number of pictures, and my "avatar" there is the same one as here.
For "some reason" the discussion involved transsexuals.
And the guy I was talking to asked me if I was MTF.
I stared at the screen for a moment.
And I have No idea how to feel about that question.
It threw me completely off guard.
I just had to write it down somewhere, well, like here.
Today I got into a discussion with one of these random people.
My facebook account has a number of pictures, and my "avatar" there is the same one as here.
For "some reason" the discussion involved transsexuals.
And the guy I was talking to asked me if I was MTF.
I stared at the screen for a moment.
And I have No idea how to feel about that question.
It threw me completely off guard.
I just had to write it down somewhere, well, like here.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Imadique on June 27, 2009, 01:22:00 PM
Post by: Imadique on June 27, 2009, 01:22:00 PM
Well at the very least maybe it's better for him to ask rather than make the wrong assumption and run with it for ages until you find out and hilarity/frustration ensues...I guess...
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:54:59 PM
Post by: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:54:59 PM
true..
it's the first time I've been mistaken for a woman in a man's body,... being.. you know.. the exact opposite o.O
it's the first time I've been mistaken for a woman in a man's body,... being.. you know.. the exact opposite o.O
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Chamillion on June 27, 2009, 03:56:59 PM
Post by: Chamillion on June 27, 2009, 03:56:59 PM
it might be because, in your avatar at least, all you can see is your face. in early transition, sometimes its hard to know if someone is MtF or FtM if you can't see the rest of their body and see which gender they are presenting as ???
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Syne on June 27, 2009, 07:40:36 PM
Post by: Syne on June 27, 2009, 07:40:36 PM
It happens to a lot of us. I outed myself to someone I was interested in (pre transition) and she thought I meant that I was FTM and that it "all made sense now". LOL. Another friend introduced me to a gay couple that she knew. Later on I found out that they were perplexed on why a pretty girl such as myself wanted to be a guy. My friend "straightened" them out. ;)
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Rinneko on June 27, 2009, 07:51:00 PM
Post by: Rinneko on June 27, 2009, 07:51:00 PM
Sorry, but I gotta lol at that. xD To be honest, you do look a little more femme in that picture than you do masculine. I'm sure that's quite the opposite offline, though~ Ya seem to make a lovely dude.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Imadique on June 27, 2009, 09:29:58 PM
Post by: Imadique on June 27, 2009, 09:29:58 PM
Quote from: Miniar on June 27, 2009, 01:54:59 PM
true..
it's the first time I've been mistaken for a woman in a man's body,... being.. you know.. the exact opposite o.O
Heh, I had it happen once. I sent my cd to a queer radio show and the guy assumed I was going in the other direction 'cos I hadn't changed my name yet. He brought me in to talk about it and it was the most awkward interview I've ever done, he kept asking me about all of my insecurities :D
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Autumn on June 28, 2009, 04:23:36 AM
Post by: Autumn on June 28, 2009, 04:23:36 AM
I saw an endo last year, who had spent a very long time dealing with transsexual patients. Exclusively FTM, it turns out.
And she thought I was one since I was using my male name. She was very confused in the beginning.
And she thought I was one since I was using my male name. She was very confused in the beginning.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Mister on June 28, 2009, 10:06:54 PM
Post by: Mister on June 28, 2009, 10:06:54 PM
I found most MTFs I ever met IRL assumed I was one of them. FAIL.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Nero on June 28, 2009, 10:47:35 PM
Post by: Nero on June 28, 2009, 10:47:35 PM
People mistaking mtfs and ftms. I don't get it. I mean don't people realize most ftms don't femme it up? I mean it's hard pressed to find ftms in any stage of transition dressed as female.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Miniar on June 29, 2009, 06:31:34 AM
Post by: Miniar on June 29, 2009, 06:31:34 AM
meh, since I borked my glasses I got new frames, so that might help....
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: Hazumu on June 29, 2009, 09:52:35 AM
Post by: Hazumu on June 29, 2009, 09:52:35 AM
I've had similar situations where I've revealed I'm a transsexual, and have been asked, "so, you're becoming a male?"
People don't understand. We're deep in the middle of the phenomenon (we ARE the phenomenon,) and we know so much about ->-bleeped-<-, because it's a part of us that doesn't really go away. But we're somewhere between .04% and .5% of the population (Lynn Conway numbers,) and most cisgendered folks have no idea...
In such situations, I take a deep breath and look at it as an opportunity to teach.
Karen
People don't understand. We're deep in the middle of the phenomenon (we ARE the phenomenon,) and we know so much about ->-bleeped-<-, because it's a part of us that doesn't really go away. But we're somewhere between .04% and .5% of the population (Lynn Conway numbers,) and most cisgendered folks have no idea...
In such situations, I take a deep breath and look at it as an opportunity to teach.
Karen
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: tekla on June 29, 2009, 10:03:29 AM
Post by: tekla on June 29, 2009, 10:03:29 AM
That's not much, what a high of 1.5 million given an even population distribution and demographic spread puts .5 million on the Eastern Seaboard between Boston and D.C. (but mostly in Amherst and Manhattan) and another 250K on the West Coast, with a smattering between, and that's for the big numbers. At the low end of Conway's numbers we have about 120K, 30,000 are on the Eastern Seaboard, another 17K or so on the West Coast (8K of that in the Bay Area) so the odds of running into anyone outside of those population zones is rare.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: jayjay on July 06, 2009, 04:55:58 PM
Post by: jayjay on July 06, 2009, 04:55:58 PM
The first time I met my gender therapist she thought I was an FTM as well.
Title: Re: Well... that was interesting...
Post by: K8 on July 06, 2009, 07:45:10 PM
Post by: K8 on July 06, 2009, 07:45:10 PM
Well, we are in transition - in between one and the other - so I guess it makes sense that it isn't always clear which way we're going. ??? Still, Miniar, I agree it would give pause if someone thinks you're going the other direction. :P I think I would have reacted in the same way: Uh, what?
But in a way, it was a compliment for you to be thought as a man trying to be a woman but not succeeding very well. After all, isn't that what you've been? ;)
- Kate
But in a way, it was a compliment for you to be thought as a man trying to be a woman but not succeeding very well. After all, isn't that what you've been? ;)
- Kate