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Title: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Calistine on July 21, 2009, 05:37:21 PM
People are so stupid. They don't realize tha a person does not need a penis to be a boy. I feel this way. If I decide to have a masectomy and hormones, I will probably not have bottom surgery. people say, oh well you know your never going to get sexual satisfaction. I don't care. This is who I am, and I don't need a penis to say that.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Nero on July 21, 2009, 07:05:31 PM
yeah and you don't need a penis to have sex. and no, sex is not overrated.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Mister on July 21, 2009, 07:11:16 PM
I halfway agree with Nero... but I'm biased.  lol.   Sex is NOT overrated.  IMO, the only people who think it is are the people who aren't getting any.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Chamillion on July 21, 2009, 07:25:40 PM
I used to think sex was overrated too, mostly because I didn't really like being touched. Going on T has changed that completely though and now I love it. I think a lot of it just has to do with having dysphoria about your body; if you can find a way to overcome that, sex is dank.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: tekla on July 21, 2009, 10:46:32 PM
Sex is overrated

You're doing it wrong then.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: finewine on July 21, 2009, 11:16:12 PM
If I generously assume that the OP's "sex is overrated" is refering (very clumsily) to sex classification by genital anatomy, then yeah kinda. And yes, being a boy is more than whether you have Mr. Bojangles between your thighs.

However, I can't help but read it the same way previous posters have, in which case...bollocks dear, sex is fabulous. :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: NicholeW. on July 22, 2009, 09:40:35 AM
There's nothing wrong with sex that a good partner cannot help cure. :)

And for the other sex, there's nothing that a good endo and surgeon cannot cure. :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Janet_Girl on July 22, 2009, 03:50:56 PM
Sex is not overrated, unless it is in your wrong gender/sex.

And just as you don't need a penis to be a man, nether does one need a vagina to be a woman.

Gender is between the ears, not the legs.


Janet
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Virginia87106 on July 22, 2009, 04:55:15 PM
There are women who have penises, and there are men who have vaginas.  The genitalia does not make the person.  Some like to have sex, others don't, and for some it does not matter.  The important thing is that you have no body modifications because you think you "should", or you feel pressured by the culture to, or you feel pressured by other trans-people to.  Have the modifications, if any, because YOU want to.  And the way you want your body is YOUR business, and you may refer to yourself in the gender of your presentation.
If you want to have sex, have it with joy and gusto you deserve, whatever your body looks like.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: sneakersjay on July 30, 2009, 08:44:36 AM
I would love to get a meta.  But if it doesn't work as well afterwards, I'll be truly bummed.  I keep thinking, if it ain't broke, don't fix it.  Won't change the way I have sex anyway, so...?


Jay
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on August 05, 2009, 12:43:02 AM
Ok I'm gonna edit this post before anyone else sees it. My original post seemed kinda immature so I'll try and rephrase it so it doesn't sound stupid

Yes I kind of agree that sex seems to be overrated. But I'm a virgin and haven't experienced anything sexual so I can't really say from experience. I'm pretty sure that even if I had sex I would still feel the same way. I mean..I'm Asexual so I don't feel any sexual attraction (once in a great while I do though).

Just stating my opinion..not trying to look like a troll or anything
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Jay on August 05, 2009, 03:34:06 PM
Quote from: Nero on July 21, 2009, 07:05:31 PM
no, sex is not overrated.

Yeah it really isn't! If its done right that is ;)

I can't wait to have a phallo and for the surgery's to be complete so I get to have sex properly!

Jay
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: finewine on August 05, 2009, 04:25:05 PM
I don't think it was trollish, Walter. :)

In fact, it's perfectly understandable - if, for whatever reason, a person has no interest in sex, they're hardly likely to have much opportunity to understand what all the fuss is about.   I can rave about how wonderful asparagus is but if it's not to your taste, it's inevitable that asparagus will seem "overrated" :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: stacyB on August 05, 2009, 05:08:59 PM
Kind of two parts here.... first is obvious, dont knock it till ya tried it, and of course once you try it, if done right... well, you know the rest...  :D

but....

...some might not find it enjoyable even "done right" if love does not accompany sex. If sex is truly great, sex with someone you love and have a deep connection with... well, awesome doesnt begin to describe it!  ;D 8)

Thats where whats between your ears comes into play. Notice I made no mention what equipment you or your lover utilize... not really relavent....
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Autumn on August 07, 2009, 03:59:17 AM
Asexuality is a biological abnormality - the human species is designed to want sex, frequently. Even homosexuals (...especially homosexuals?) seek out sex, it's not simply for reproduction.

I know two asexual people. One of them told me she was molested many, many times growing up and has major trust issues.

The other was hugely christian, and told me that I was the only person she'd ever been attracted to in her life. Poor girl, how confusing that had to be.

Both of them, obviously hadn't experienced normal intimacy/relationships.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Jaimey on August 10, 2009, 12:06:35 PM
I would also add that the societal expectations for sex can also be a major turn off.  I have a feeling that's a big reason why I hate giving head.  Girls are (in a way) pressured to give head (I say "girls" because I have a female body...I suppose gay boys have the same pressure, but I don't know).  Just being expected to do it makes me not want to do it.  ???  I know an asexual person and if I had to guess, I'd say that's a big part of his reason.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Eamber on August 11, 2009, 11:41:28 AM
The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring. It hasn't changed since I was a kid. (I'm 19) I don't really understand or see the appeal of things people describe as sexually exciting. I've been in a few normal relationships, but those parts seem fairly mundane. I thought transition might change it, but nope. Oh well.

I can only imagine how bothersome and distracting it must be to be thinking about it all the time. Poor you guys!
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: sneakersjay on August 11, 2009, 01:49:54 PM
Quote from: Eamber on August 11, 2009, 11:41:28 AM
The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring. It hasn't changed since I was a kid. (I'm 19) I don't really understand or see the appeal of things people describe as sexually exciting. I've been in a few normal relationships, but those parts seem fairly mundane. I thought transition might change it, but nope. Oh well.

I can only imagine how bothersome and distracting it must be to be thinking about it all the time. Poor you guys!

My sister is asexual.  She is 46 years old and a virgin.  While she occasionally entertains dating men, she's extremely picky.  And then, she realizes, that men want sex....  She has never had sex, mind you, but thinks it's disgusting (her words).  She said stuff like this when she was 12 -- I thought she'd outgrow it.  Never knew people could be asexual esp. when I have always had a huge sex drive (even if I wasn't having sex!)

She seems to be happy, so who am I to convince her she's missing something?

Jay
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: lisagurl on August 11, 2009, 02:05:00 PM
Quote from: tekla on July 21, 2009, 10:46:32 PM
Sex is overrated

You're doing it wrong then.

Been there done that and I can find plenty of other things that are above it on the happiness scale.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Miniar on August 11, 2009, 02:13:57 PM
It's not the sex that's the issue, but the personal preference.
Just because you feel that sex is overrated, doesn't mean sex is, it means that you, yourself, aren't into sex all that much.
From my point of view however, even if I still don't have the "correct" equipment, I'm able to have good sex. And Nothing I've ever experienced can top a good couple of hours, playing in bed, sharing pleasure and understanding of one another's bodies, culminating in a moment of pure physical intimacy. There's just Nothing that tops it. Ofcourse, the way I see it, one has to have acceptance of both (all) bodies involved, and perfect, reciprocated, (and well founded) trust in the partner. When you have that, you can truly make magic.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on August 11, 2009, 03:34:40 PM
Quote from: Eamber on August 11, 2009, 11:41:28 AM
The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring.

Same here. I thought when it was said that being asexual was an abnormality that there was something weird about that. I don't think it's an abnormality, it's just the way we are
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Miss LXC 2.0 on August 11, 2009, 04:20:53 PM
Sex: 100% of the pleasure breaks down into: 99% is who you are with, 1% is what you do with/to them.  ;D

Sex: "Between the ears" will always give you a migrane  :P

Sex on television: You will most definately fall off.

Hugs~
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 05:01:25 PM
Quote from: Miss LXC 2.0 on August 11, 2009, 04:20:53 PM
Sex: 100% of the pleasure breaks down into: 99% is who you are with, 1% is what you do with/to them.  ;D

That's it.  I think if you find someone you love, you may find that you become sexually attracted to them.  When I was 19, I don't think I'd ever been attracted to anyone, probably for a number of reasons, but once I got in college, particularly in classes that I really loved (like Latin...as stupid as this sounds), I found that I started to be attracted to people in those classes...I suppose because we had the same sort of nerdiness.  ???  It's all in what you like.  Generally, when you like someone, you want to touch them...at least for me, anyway.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on August 11, 2009, 08:56:54 PM
Quote from: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 05:01:25 PM
That's it.  I think if you find someone you love, you may find that you become sexually attracted to them.

Edit: Disregard this post. I don't wanna get involved in a conflict..
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Chamillion on August 11, 2009, 09:37:44 PM
Quote from: Miniar on August 11, 2009, 02:13:57 PM
And Nothing I've ever experienced can top a good couple of hours, playing in bed, sharing pleasure and understanding of one another's bodies, culminating in a moment of pure physical intimacy. There's just Nothing that tops it.
MDMA.  Sex is still pretty dank though  :P
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 11:36:05 PM
Quote from: Walter on August 11, 2009, 08:56:54 PM
Edit: Disregard this post. I don't wanna get involved in a conflict..

Not sure what you said or how you took what I wrote, but I want to point out that I used "may find" for a reason.  I'm not trying to force my experience on anyone else.  I'm just suggesting a possibility.  :) 

...sorry if that's a strange thing to post, but there've been HUGE arguments because of that exact thing...which is why I try to always use words like may, possibly, some people, etc...
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on August 12, 2009, 04:45:35 AM
Quote from: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 11:36:05 PM
Not sure what you said or how you took what I wrote, but I want to point out that I used "may find" for a reason.  I'm not trying to force my experience on anyone else.  I'm just suggesting a possibility.  :) 

...sorry if that's a strange thing to post, but there've been HUGE arguments because of that exact thing...which is why I try to always use words like may, possibly, some people, etc...

That's why I edited the post. I had realized you said "may" and I erased it but didn't think of anything else to write

So I wasn't weirded out, I just had a dumb moment and didn't know what to replace the post with :/
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Jaimey on August 12, 2009, 08:56:03 PM
Ah, okay.  That's good to know.  It's something I worry about a bit.  :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on August 12, 2009, 10:46:30 PM
Me too. That's why I try to avoid the serious topics
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: rachelanne on August 16, 2009, 01:30:14 PM
In my opinion, it's not only gender that's between your ears, but sex as well.  In my household as I become more the woman, my wife becomes more the man.  I'm the one with the pretty nightgown and the soft sents and she is more the agressor.  These roles continue to change as we both change within our perceived roles.  Sex is not overrated, it's all in what you make of it.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alyssa M. on August 16, 2009, 06:18:24 PM
Sex is overrated. It's not actually the best thing in the world.

It comes in at number two, with dropping steep pillow lines on bottomless blower winning by a nose.

Trust me, I've done both, and the pillow lines are better. But not by much.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Nicky on August 16, 2009, 06:24:02 PM
I like it. I can think of a lot worse things to do.  :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 05:04:30 AM
If you are female-bodied, getting a real, deep orgasm that first time can be elusive. Your damn thing's tiny, and when you try to play with it, its so sensitive it hurts. Until I was in my LATE TWENTIES I knew how to get excited, but had not experienced the actual goal of all the sex play ultimately. Once you learn that, you will not say sex is overrated.

Yes, I used to say sex was overrated too.

If you were born male bodied, it seems to not be such a problem. Hand. Joystick. Aha!

There's a book out, "Becoming Orgasmic" or something like that, there are more than one on this subject actually. They are written for the female-bodied. You need to learn what you are missing! Learn that and even the most casual, harmless "petting" gains a whole new meaning.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on September 02, 2009, 10:12:23 AM
Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 05:04:30 AM
Your damn thing's tiny, and when you try to play with it, its so sensitive it hurts.

I had never directly uhm..."touched" mine until a few days ago and when I did...ow. I didn't think it'd be that sensitive
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Genevieve Swann on September 02, 2009, 11:25:04 AM
If sex dominates all thoughts and actions the person has a problem. Sex is a small part of any good relationship. I do enjoy sex very much but respect and compassion are more important.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 12:10:56 PM
Quote from: James O.O on September 02, 2009, 10:12:23 AM
I had never directly uhm..."touched" mine until a few days ago and when I did...ow. I didn't think it'd be that sensitive

Yep there's the problem. Literally as well as figuratively, you have to learn to love yourself. That means learning to masturbate. Try stroking the area, not the thing, just the mound, lightly and even then, through your undies not directly. Stroke your stomach, play with your chest, just relax and learn what feels good and learn to just plain like yourself. Think about something or someone that gives you sexual feelings, doesn't matter what or who it is, could be Barney the dinosaur, whatever makes you feel a little tingle.

You have to learn to relax and like yourself. Your body has to learn that your hands are not its enemies.

This is very important, your body is like a horse that has to learn that human hands can stroke it and make it feel good, not things that handle it roughly or only pay attention to it to pinch zits etc.

Now, for the orgasm part, I highly recommend getting a good vibrator like a Hitachi Magic Wand. See I used to be in much your same situation, and a friend of mine kept telling me I should get one, and I'd fool with it a bit from time to time, get a bit excited but that was about it. One afternoon I did'nt have much to do, was lying in bed and got it out, and was running it over my crotch with pants on, was daydreaming about this girl I was really hot for, and WOW.

Once you feel that wow, sex is gonna be a LOT less of a mystery.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on September 02, 2009, 01:43:00 PM
Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 12:10:56 PM
Yep there's the problem. Literally as well as figuratively, you have to learn to love yourself. That means learning to masturbate. Try stroking the area, not the thing, just the mound, lightly and even then, through your undies not directly. Stroke your stomach, play with your chest, just relax and learn what feels good and learn to just plain like yourself. Think about something or someone that gives you sexual feelings, doesn't matter what or who it is, could be Barney the dinosaur, whatever makes you feel a little tingle.

You have to learn to relax and like yourself. Your body has to learn that your hands are not its enemies.

This is very important, your body is like a horse that has to learn that human hands can stroke it and make it feel good, not things that handle it roughly or only pay attention to it to pinch zits etc.

Now, for the orgasm part, I highly recommend getting a good vibrator like a Hitachi Magic Wand. See I used to be in much your same situation, and a friend of mine kept telling me I should get one, and I'd fool with it a bit from time to time, get a bit excited but that was about it. One afternoon I did'nt have much to do, was lying in bed and got it out, and was running it over my crotch with pants on, was daydreaming about this girl I was really hot for, and WOW.

Once you feel that wow, sex is gonna be a LOT less of a mystery.

I already masturbate. I've done it for years but until a few days ago I didn't like..directly put a finger on that part of the body. On that night I was bored, not sleepy, and I got curious and did the "mirror" thing. While I was using the mirror, I found "that sensitive part" and honestly....didn't know what it was haha. I touched it and I was like "OW wtf is this thing? Oh it must be...yeah that's what it is..I think"

I had to ask someone .____. boy do I feel intelligent

(is pre-op and can only imagine what must happen when someone goes post-op)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 02:56:19 PM
Well first you go on T and that makes it GROW .....
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Miniar on September 02, 2009, 03:40:54 PM
Mine was never that sensitive.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on September 02, 2009, 03:51:06 PM
Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 02:56:19 PM
Well first you go on T and that makes it GROW .....

I had a feeling that's what happened. Oh boy...I've been considering hormones for a few days but gleh...I don't want that part of my body to grow
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 03, 2009, 12:26:34 AM
Why do'nt you want it to grow?

I told one of my male buddies that it'd be kinda cool to have a cock that just kinda sucks up into my body when not needed, like a dolphin or Brian the dog in Family Guy.

But basically um well, more meat is good. I mean the darned thing pre-T is so small, you can't do much with it. It's so much fun having it bigger, and the fun shivery feeling when it perks up, sometimes for no reason at all. Getting something like a real ->-bleeped-<- is going to be great. Having it grow enough to do some actual penetration, if I am so lucky, is going to be fulfilling my life's dream.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on September 03, 2009, 12:33:23 AM
I guess I'm still new to the transition thing cuz I didn't know (even with surgery) that it could be possible to do penetration
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 03, 2009, 01:12:58 AM
Apparently with our tiny litle dicks a little bit of penetration is possible. And as for ->-bleeped-<-s, well, it's a lot more fun with something the size of a  Brazil nut as opposed to something the size of small peanut or smaller.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on September 03, 2009, 04:12:26 AM
Even a little is better than none. I wonder what a BJ feels like..
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 03, 2009, 12:56:30 PM
A good BJ is supposed to feel absolutely incredible.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: tekla on September 03, 2009, 03:29:59 PM
I wonder what a BJ feels like..

It's like sex, but without the work.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 03, 2009, 04:00:39 PM
That sounds like fun, although I'm not known to be work-shy.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: darius82501 on September 14, 2009, 06:52:20 PM
I think about sex a lot. I always think of sex as a male so my problems with sex are that I really hate penetration and have a difficult time getting my mind where it needs to be to orgasm with a girl. I can, with vibrators, orgasm on my own, but penetration hurts and is just not pleasurable at all for me. I also am not a fan of my breasts being touched. This limits what my partner can and can't so and can frustrate them since I do not orgasm. Although, I do not orgasm per se, I really enjoy pleasing my girl. So, I do enjoy sex and continue to work on getting to the point where I can orgasm. I can understand why the dysphoria of your physical self being wrong could make one feel as if sex is overrated. I DO believe if you really are comfortable with someone and that passion for them is there, sex is soooooo much better.  8)

I am still considering transition as well. I like to talk to some of the guys who have done and are in the process. It helps to make my decisions. I assume that I will and sooner than later.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 15, 2009, 02:05:15 AM
I've never been penetrated so that's a total blank for me, I told my last GF she could try out the strapon she had on me, and that was a "no way" deal, she enjoyed me using it on her though! I wanted to see what it felt like, oh well.

Yes pleasing HER is the big thing with me, and I can sort of do "little" orgasms with a partner so far but not the big, deep ones. I figure it's a matter of time, and being on T now, maybe growth.  >:-)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: sneakersjay on September 15, 2009, 08:24:48 PM
All I can say is stimulation is WAY more pleasurable now that it's grown and is visible vs when it was tiny and invisible.

Jay
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 16, 2009, 01:45:03 PM
Yes! Growth is good.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Calistine on September 16, 2009, 01:53:24 PM
I actually do think I would like sex if I had a meta. I dont mind what ive got per say but a penis feels like something I should have.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 16, 2009, 01:57:42 PM
That's how the vast majority of us feel, that we should have a penis.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Shelina on September 16, 2009, 04:29:37 PM
Kyle you know I'm a straight mtf and if I would have been a biological female I would have been a straight female but you, you look so handsome that despite you're a ftm I would have made an exception just for you even you did not have a dick. I really have a crush on you and Silverfang...LOL!

Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Calistine on September 16, 2009, 04:38:07 PM
Quote from: Shelina on September 16, 2009, 04:29:37 PM
Kyle you know I'm a straight mtf and if I would have been a biological female I would have been a straight female but you, you look so handsome that despite you're a ftm I would have made an exception just for you even you did not have a dick. I really have a crush on you and Silverfang...LOL!
Thanks girlie :)
Ha that makes me feel good. I cant tell you how much Ive hated being rejected by girls because "Im a girl too" Ugggh.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Shelina on September 16, 2009, 05:23:11 PM
Quote from: Kyle :3 on September 16, 2009, 04:38:07 PM
Thanks girlie :)
Ha that makes me feel good. I cant tell you how much Ive hated being rejected by girls because "Im a girl too" Ugggh.

Oh boy we're exactly in the same ->-bleeped-<-ing boat, ALL but really ALL straight men I fell in love rejected me also cos am male, am more than fed up exhausted and this is the MAIN reason I decided to transition and the straights who accepted me, it was all about sex and I never really loved them but just liked them, it's the ones I LOVE which I am targeting. In fact there are 3 types of straights: 1. The extreme one who would not accept you even you're a post op knowing your past, he should not know, they fall into the majority. 2. The ones who CAN accept you BUT only if you're post op. 3. These ones have fallen into your charm and beauty and they generally make an exception for you. Unfortunately all men I have fallen in love with are in category 1.  :embarrassed:
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Silver on September 17, 2009, 02:17:11 AM
Quote from: Shelina on September 16, 2009, 04:29:37 PM
I really have a crush on you and Silverfang...LOL!

Aw shucks, Shelina.

SilverFang
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Shelina on September 17, 2009, 03:15:09 AM
Quote from: SilverFang on September 17, 2009, 02:17:11 AM
Aw shucks, Shelina.

SilverFang

Muah!  :-*
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: fluffy jorgen on September 18, 2009, 06:49:50 PM
Quote2. The ones who CAN accept you BUT only if you're post op.

Anyone who can only accept somebody else after ops=  >:( >:( >:(
Too many of this type out there!

As for sex, sex is over rated, love making isn't. There is definetely a difference. :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Calistine on September 18, 2009, 09:20:21 PM
Quote
As for sex, sex is over rated, love making isn't. There is definetely a difference. :)


Right on. Thats exactly what I was thinking but I didnt know how to describe it.

I learned today that antidepressants such as paxil lower sex drive. I have been on anti depressants for almost 2 years so that might have something to do with it.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: fluffy jorgen on September 23, 2009, 01:37:25 PM
Ditto. I'm on Fluoxetine.
It kind of makes the whole thought of sex obscure and revolting.

Feel like doing something that actually means something. If that made sense.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Steffi on September 24, 2009, 05:47:51 PM
In my experience and as stated on the information regarding most anti-depressants, the major problem is not so much a lowering of sex-drive itself, but making climax difficult if not impossible!
I've experienced both....... seven years/three different types of anti-depressants and now 15 months of anti-androgens.
The anti-androgens win hands down! - actually having (almost) no sex-drive at all is no big deal as far as I'm concerned...... life is so much simpler and more tranquil  8)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: fluffy jorgen on September 24, 2009, 06:39:05 PM
Quotebut making climax difficult if not impossible!

Food for thought.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 24, 2009, 10:34:28 PM
Having a sex drive is great, I think.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: finewine on September 25, 2009, 12:43:04 AM
Quote from: Alex_C on September 24, 2009, 10:34:28 PM
Having a sex drive is great, I think.

Yeah but I always find it hard to steer!  Better to pull over, in my opinion :)
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Alex_C on September 25, 2009, 01:20:58 PM
You made me LOL  :D

Of course on a motorcycle there's the old turn the fuel valve to OFF trick... "Woops the bike's not running, guess we'll just have to make out here until it feels like running again!"
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: icontact on February 14, 2010, 05:17:29 PM
The only thing I would like about having a penis is the ease of usage. Just being able to whip it out and ->-bleeped-<- whenever, wherever. Vagina requires a bed to get down and dirty.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Ruben on May 19, 2010, 08:02:58 AM
Quote from: Chamillion on July 21, 2009, 07:25:40 PM
I used to think sex was overrated too, mostly because I didn't really like being touched. Going on T has changed that completely though and now I love it. I think a lot of it just has to do with having dysphoria about your body; if you can find a way to overcome that, sex is dank.

My sex drive is VERY low due to my personal body image; having the 'wrong' body as I see myself, it sort of puts me off being reminded of it by sex/being touched. My boobs are the main issue, and, unfortunately, its what my fiancé likes alot about my body. I keep them for him. Thing is, I can't go on T coz I don't think my fiancé could deal with the changes. I'm a little stuck. :(
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: uni on May 21, 2010, 08:25:42 PM
Sex is overrated. Nothing in the physical world can compete with fantasy. They say that the brain is the most important sex organ and in my case its the only one since my organs are non functional.
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Legora on May 25, 2010, 05:31:06 AM
I know, right?  God, sex annoys me!  I'm sure that sounds pretty weird, but to me it is just the least possible important thing about a relationship, and yet every single society since the dawn of time has made such a big deal out of it.  How frustrating...
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: Walter on May 25, 2010, 01:27:49 PM
Quote from: Legora on May 25, 2010, 05:31:06 AM
I know, right?  God, sex annoys me!  I'm sure that sounds pretty weird, but to me it is just the least possible important thing about a relationship, and yet every single society since the dawn of time has made such a big deal out of it.  How frustrating...

This

I'm not Asexual like I thought I was, but I still don't praise sex like a good percent of the population does
Title: Re: Sex is overrated.
Post by: nikki_brown on July 01, 2010, 01:45:02 AM
Quote from: Eamber on August 11, 2009, 11:41:28 AM
The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring. It hasn't changed since I was a kid. (I'm 19) I don't really understand or see the appeal of things people describe as sexually exciting. I've been in a few normal relationships, but those parts seem fairly mundane. I thought transition might change it, but nope. Oh well.

I can only imagine how bothersome and distracting it must be to be thinking about it all the time. Poor you guys!

Different strokes for different folks. I am not interested in sex with other people because the mating game doesn't interest me. If I truly loved someone, I wouldn't want to get to know them sexually anyways. Procreation is not one of my prerogatives. Plus, you don't need others to give yourself satisfaction.  ;)