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Title: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Jasonk16 on July 27, 2009, 08:36:49 PM
Post by: Jasonk16 on July 27, 2009, 08:36:49 PM
She pulls the whole
"You shouldn't be on testosterone because you flip out and I'm not dealing with this."
When she's the one that complains about things and makes no sense then won't talk about it then I'm confused so I get angry because she makes me feel like whatever is going on is my fault...
and it sucks because I can 't afford to pay for my hormones and appointments and blood work on my own so she helps and she could decide at any time not to pay for it anymore.
I hate being stuck under someones control.
"You shouldn't be on testosterone because you flip out and I'm not dealing with this."
When she's the one that complains about things and makes no sense then won't talk about it then I'm confused so I get angry because she makes me feel like whatever is going on is my fault...
and it sucks because I can 't afford to pay for my hormones and appointments and blood work on my own so she helps and she could decide at any time not to pay for it anymore.
I hate being stuck under someones control.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: CodyJess on July 27, 2009, 10:25:11 PM
Post by: CodyJess on July 27, 2009, 10:25:11 PM
Don't really have any advice for you, sorry man.
I can relate, though; to the whole 'being stuck' thing. It's worth putting up with ->-bleeped-<- sometimes if it means you can get what you want. Once it's not worth it anymore, you'll find ways to get away from it. For now, just try and hang in there, and do what you can to make it more bearable. Even if it means biting your tongue off once in awhile.
I can relate, though; to the whole 'being stuck' thing. It's worth putting up with ->-bleeped-<- sometimes if it means you can get what you want. Once it's not worth it anymore, you'll find ways to get away from it. For now, just try and hang in there, and do what you can to make it more bearable. Even if it means biting your tongue off once in awhile.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: LordKAT on July 28, 2009, 02:14:26 AM
Post by: LordKAT on July 28, 2009, 02:14:26 AM
She pulls the whole
"You shouldn't be on testosterone because you flip out and I'm not dealing with this."
When she's the one that complains about things and makes no sense then won't talk about it then I'm confused so I get angry because she makes me feel like whatever is going on is my fault...
I live under the philosphy that no one can "make" you feel anything. I amnot saying that your feelings are not justified.
and it sucks because I can 't afford to pay for my hormones and appointments and blood work on my own so she helps and she could decide at any time not to pay for it anymore.
I hate being stuck under someones control.
this is why I left home at 16. getting your own job and life is cool but cash is ever short. Have patience as time passes unbelievably fast when you look back on it.
I'm sorry your mom is not more understanding. My guess is that she read where T increases rage. My therapist recommended a low dose for me because of that.
"You shouldn't be on testosterone because you flip out and I'm not dealing with this."
When she's the one that complains about things and makes no sense then won't talk about it then I'm confused so I get angry because she makes me feel like whatever is going on is my fault...
I live under the philosphy that no one can "make" you feel anything. I amnot saying that your feelings are not justified.
and it sucks because I can 't afford to pay for my hormones and appointments and blood work on my own so she helps and she could decide at any time not to pay for it anymore.
I hate being stuck under someones control.
this is why I left home at 16. getting your own job and life is cool but cash is ever short. Have patience as time passes unbelievably fast when you look back on it.
I'm sorry your mom is not more understanding. My guess is that she read where T increases rage. My therapist recommended a low dose for me because of that.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Jamie-o on July 28, 2009, 03:43:26 AM
Post by: Jamie-o on July 28, 2009, 03:43:26 AM
Quote from: LordKAT on July 28, 2009, 02:14:26 AM
My guess is that she read where T increases rage. My therapist recommended a low dose for me because of that.
You know, it's all about balance. In fact, studies have shown that men get irritable when their T levels are too low, and giving them an extra dose of T makes them calmer and happier. There's something you can point out when she blames your frustration on the T.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: thestory on July 28, 2009, 03:54:25 AM
Post by: thestory on July 28, 2009, 03:54:25 AM
Quote from: Jasonk16 on July 27, 2009, 08:36:49 PM
I hate being stuck under someones control.
You're preaching to the choir. I can't take any steps forward in my transition till I'm out from under my parents roof and they wouldn't help me if I asked.
I still say you're lucky, but I feel for you.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Jasonk16 on July 28, 2009, 04:12:58 AM
Post by: Jasonk16 on July 28, 2009, 04:12:58 AM
In a way you could say I'm lucky but once you're given something that changes your life then it's taken away from you...it kinda defeats the purpose.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: thestory on July 28, 2009, 04:16:15 AM
Post by: thestory on July 28, 2009, 04:16:15 AM
True. Well it hasn't happened yet right? So I'm hopping for ya.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Miniar on July 28, 2009, 08:19:30 AM
Post by: Miniar on July 28, 2009, 08:19:30 AM
Well... if you can remain calm, composed, and refuse to use "Laden" words in the argument, then she'll just sound horribly stupid if she pulls that phrase again, and you can retort easily with "Well I'm not the one raising my voice and throwing personal insults!"...
No one "wins" a fight.
No one "wins" a fight.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Mister on July 28, 2009, 09:23:42 AM
Post by: Mister on July 28, 2009, 09:23:42 AM
- Get a job and pay for your own testosterone. If you already have a job, get a second.
- Move out ASAP.
- Move out ASAP.
Title: Re: Every single time my mom and I get into an agruement
Post by: Calistine on July 31, 2009, 05:46:38 PM
Post by: Calistine on July 31, 2009, 05:46:38 PM
The only thing you can really do if your not moving out is make more of an effort not to snap at her. She can't tell you not to be who you are