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Well only 7 days to go til i go to my first psychologist app to be assessed :S...i don't know where everyones from but those from UK will know things over here are still old school.

When i say old school i mean the doc im going to see has been assessing FTM's and MTF's since before jesus was a boy so u can imagine, he's a dinosaur.

Anyone care to tell me about their first assessment appointment? im kinda nervous about what to say and do at mine.

hi Bobbi,

               i think you should say and do as you feel inside, not what you may think is the right thing to say. i also would not assess the doctor before you have met him, and worked a bit with him.  i'm sure you don't want him thinking "oh great, a snot nosed brat" while you're thinking he is "a dinosaur" and nothing is being accomplished.

i hope all goes well at the appointment Bobbi.



beth

i'm just going off of what people who have met him (for other reasons) tell me, regardless i'd be polite and try work with him as best i can.

At the appointment my mother wants to come with me (im very close to my mother) but im not sure if this will be a positive thing or bad thing (i tend to over analyze things) it shows that my family know and they are supportive, which they are, but at the same look like i need her there if u know what i mean.

haha i think im rambling nonesense. 

Hello Bobbi, welcome to Susan's most wonderful Place (=

I've very happy to hear your parents are supportive, that is a very good thing indeed (= You may wish to see what the Doctor thinks, sometimes appointments are viewed as pretty personal. I personally think that as long as you can be open with her there as without it would be fine.

I'm not familiar with UK protocol but I'm guessing such topics of what you intend to do, why you think you feel the way you do, how long have you felt that way and things of that nature will be the discussed, as guess only, but hopefully somewhat accurate.


Please feel free to join in on the conversations (=

I wouldn't let my mum into the appointment if I were you. Mothers can reconstruct your childhood in ways that they would like to remember when you're sitting there remembering thinking you were a boy and playing with cap guns, they'll be remembering you in a pink frilly dress, never mind that you bit your mother in the fight to avoid wearing it.

And yeah, I reiterate what the others have said. Just tell hiim what you feel. He'll ask questions about various times in your life and tell him as best as you remember. It's not something to try and manipulate. If you are TS, it will show up. If you aren't, can you imagine how you might feel a few years after a wrong diagnosis when you have a goatee and hairy back?

There's a guy in Australia who's suing his doctors because they approved him after he manipulated them deliberately. He presented as MtF, got tested, failed, read up on how to manipulate the diagnosis, went back and was approved for hormones and surgery. A couple of years later, he's regretting it and blaming his doctors. Never mind what that says for taking responsibility for your own actions, the point is, let the professionals do their work and make the diagnosis.

Dennis

Thats interesting Dennis, I live in Australia, and Ive never heard about that incident/ you described.
Ive yet to see a psych for an assessement, but I agree with most here, its best to be yourself and let the specialists do there job ~ hopefully they are good at it too :D
. :angel:

Best wishes everyone,
~Nathan~

Here's a link to the article about Alan Finch, who now speaks out against gender reassignment:
http://www.realityresources.com/sue.htm

This article doesn't talk about him taking the test twice. I found that on another article somewhere. I don't know what happened with his lawsuit, but I hope it failed.

Dennis

I recall that article although not from the same source as you Dennis. I believe she lost the case, not sure on that. I think I read it on another transgender site and the woman who posted it was really P.O.ed. It does tend to make doctors more apprehensive about treating GID and can discourage new doctors from entering the field.

Interesting how Jerry got a hold of this person. I wonder who contacted who. You can count on people with an agenda to grab any negative thing they can get thier grimmy little hands on to condemn everyone. I'm sure if Jerry were in charge we'd all be in nice little
re-education/concentration camps.

Keep a watchful eye boys and girls. These types don't give up easy.

Good Journey,

Cassie

well the appointment went well! heh i spoke honestly and answered his questions as best i could. I let my mother come in with me and she was great, sat there and listened didn't say much at all.
After speaking with him for about 30 mins he told me he thought i was was a "prime transexual" and is now refeering me for the second oppinion.

All in all it wasn't a horrible experience, the questions asked i didn't find hard to answer. I've always felt this way so really i just went in there as the person i feel i am and told him i've taken my transition as far as i can without help, now i need his help to continue it and he supported that. :)