Community Conversation => Transsexual talk => Female to male transsexual talk (FTM) => Topic started by: Calistine on July 31, 2009, 01:53:49 PM Return to Full Version
Title: I don't know..
Post by: Calistine on July 31, 2009, 01:53:49 PM
Post by: Calistine on July 31, 2009, 01:53:49 PM
I don't know if I should go along with this...I feel its right. But at the same time...maybe I was born female for a reason. I do like it SOMETIMES...and if I change its irreversible...
I don't know..:(
I don't know..:(
Title: Re: I don't know..
Post by: myles on July 31, 2009, 02:13:07 PM
Post by: myles on July 31, 2009, 02:13:07 PM
I think a gender therapist would be able to lead you to the right answers here. It's hard to tell anyone else what is right or wrong for them without knowing all the info and since I am not a therapist all I can do is suggest one and say I feel for ya. hang in there!
Myles
Myles
Title: Re: I don't know..
Post by: sneakersjay on July 31, 2009, 03:23:26 PM
Post by: sneakersjay on July 31, 2009, 03:23:26 PM
That's why they recommend a good gender therapist. Lots of people identify more androgynously and don't feel the need to transition. There is no one right answer that fits everyone.
Some people transition immediately and fully, others prefer a slower route, others take a different path altogether.
Jay
Some people transition immediately and fully, others prefer a slower route, others take a different path altogether.
Jay
Title: Re: I don't know..
Post by: Jamie-o on July 31, 2009, 08:27:10 PM
Post by: Jamie-o on July 31, 2009, 08:27:10 PM
I felt the same way for a long time. It took several months after I started really looking seriously into transition before I was able to feel completely comfortable and certain that it was the right thing to do. And you know, sometimes I still find myself feeling a little bit "she". But for me, having the male body presentation was much more important to me. (I see myself as roughly 85% male, 15% female.)
Like others have said, a good gender therapist can help you sort through your feelings on the matter. On the other hand, be aware that some of them are prone to filtering their clients experiences through their own, so they may unconsciously push you in one direction or the other. I know my therapist was all set to write me a T letter before I was really ready. Fortunately I had some well-timed financial setbacks that made me put on the brakes for a few months.
Like others have said, a good gender therapist can help you sort through your feelings on the matter. On the other hand, be aware that some of them are prone to filtering their clients experiences through their own, so they may unconsciously push you in one direction or the other. I know my therapist was all set to write me a T letter before I was really ready. Fortunately I had some well-timed financial setbacks that made me put on the brakes for a few months.