Community Conversation => Transgender talk => Topic started by: klampner1961 on August 17, 2009, 03:39:26 PM Return to Full Version

Title: update on Help i think my friend is ?
Post by: klampner1961 on August 17, 2009, 03:39:26 PM
well i havent updated in a long while, so the short version first, i found evidence that my best friend is taking hormones and has been doing reashearch on this. i talk to a bunch of you on this and got alot of help. i did speak to him about it and as i suspected he denied everything. although he did finish taking the remaining pills(he dosent know i know this). did they ever work he lost alot of his body hair and i saw changes in his face. anyway i know he stopped them soon after we talked. he now has gone back to his original apperence and the hair has grown back. i cant help but feel that i may have enterupted what should have been for him. it breaks my heart to think this. all i wanted and still do is to be there for him. i know he still has an intrest in this, i wont say how i know. there have been suddle hints to me bout things and all im doing now is just being the best friend i can to him.
Title: Re: update on Help i think my friend is ?
Post by: lizbeth on August 17, 2009, 04:54:26 PM
it's often very difficult for us to even admit this to ourselves, let alone others. until he does, he will not open up to you. keep trying to offer your support but try not to come across as threatening in doing so. little subtle offeres of support like "you look nice today" or "that color is flattering" can go a long way to helping him open up to you. try not to confront him with a "you look like a girl" or anything too over the top since it might force his defense mechanisms to kick in.