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So I've tried to search the forum for this but--not to my surprise--I didn't have any luck.

I am looking for androgynous clothing for me to wear at my wedding. While I am biologically male, I am mentally in the grey area between the binaries, leaning more feminine.

I am not out to a lot of my family (in part because my identity is still settling down, and it's more difficult to make bold proclamations when you're not sure what you're proclaiming) and as such I need to stay within reasonable limits--basically meaning no dresses.

Sorry if the post is a bit punctuation heavy, my thoughts are a bit scattered since it's like 4 in the morning.

What about a nicely-fitted women's pant suit? That's what I generally wear at such occasions. With minimal accessories it can be pretty gender-neutral.

Well, I hadn't thought of that. I'll have to go shopping and see how it would look on me, Thanks.

You could also look into androgynous hairstyle perhaps, there's a lot of options too in that department ;)

Yeah, I didn't mention it, but I'm already sort of androgynous looking (enough that even in my regular clothes I get shown into the women's dressing room a lot). My hair is about shoulder length but not too styled so that when it's down I look more masculine and when I pull it back into a high ponytail its really feminine.

Though I actually haven't fully decided what to do with it for my wedding, suggestions would be awesome.

Here's a pic with my hair down (I try to keep my eyebrows less messy, and I often wear some light eyeliner)

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I think you look nice just as you are in that pic. The only thing I can really think of as far as hairstyles, would be to perhaps to go with something that frames your face a bit more.

I like eyeliner too. It's my one "must-have" cosmetics item. But then, I find eyes very attractive and I think eyeliner looks good on anybody from the girliest-of-girls to the manliest-of-men.  ::)

BTW, I love your eyeglass frames. Very geek-chic. I've been thinking about getting some similar ones myself.  :)

wow to echo K, definitely geek chic. You just look like a geeky girl. cute. I second th women's pantsuit idea. It will look cute on you.

PS i wear eyeliner too.  :-X

yeah a slightly slouchy suit in black (so good for funerals and job interviews) , maybe a shirt/blouse in a bright colour - maybe even something pinky/purpley and maybe a black tie maybe not...nice pair of shoes, maybe a sligh heel.... sorted.

Well, I don't really have any wedding advice, but I'll join everyone else in complimenting your glasses and general appearance.

Well thanks everyone, I'm glad you like my glasses. Luckily for me they are completely gender neutral so I can wear them no matter what my expected gender presentation is supposed to be, which is important because my eyesight is so horrid that anything further then an inch from my eyes is blurry :-\.

You could go for some retro looking 3 piece suit - alla Nepoleon Dynomite. Not particulalry androgynous yet not something most males commonly wear these days. Just an idea to throw into the mix

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DKNY makes women's suits that don't look like women's suits.  And a few more fem (well as fem as a black suit can be) then those.  I love the DKNY stuff, male or female, its pretty hard to tell.

Your right, those suits are mighty fine. I like the fitted mens suits.. like this one:

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