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I came to rant about this here...since that scum troll can't see it here

I'm on this other forum. I love this forum...A lot of the people there like me (which is surprising). That forum used to be so fun to go to but then a few months ago this member shows up. I never paid any attention to him until he downright insulted me in a topic I made about my mother being in the hospital. At the time, I had to help my dad and my brother by myself cope through all this. We all had to help each other since it was such a tragedy. I made a topic about it on this forum and the people were so nice there they posted all of their sympathies and asked me to keep them updated on my mom's progress. I got PM's from a few members who offered to help me out if I needed someone to talk to. They're such wonderful people. Then this piece of s*** shows up. He insults me. Me, and including the members who posted in that topic told him to GTFO if he can't say anything nice. He proceeded to drag it along instead of listening to us and actually leave. I fought and argued with him because he was insulting me in a time of crisis. I felt I had to defend myself. Me and him both wound up getting a warning on our accounts because we broke a certain rule of the forum. My warning's about to expire next month sometime. Including his warning...I want this piece of scum banned for good. If he gets three warnings then he's banned. He already has two but one of them is going to expire next month. God....I don't understand why they don't ban him. He continues to downright insult people on the forum. It's sickening. Sorry if this is long...but I wanted to get this out. Lately I haven't even been wanting to go to the forum anymore. Not all because of him, but things are changing on the site and whatnot. If he ever left, I know I could go there happily and post happily. But eventually probably another troll would come and take his place. And the funny thing is, only a couple people on the forum agrees with me that he's a troll. Everyone else seems to think he's just rude and entertaining to watch spew of bull****. I can't get entertainment out of him. He insults everyone and has hurt people's feeling before. He never hurt me, but he sure angered me.

Sorry...this was a long rant about a troll that I can't do anything about. It just crawls under my skin that the admins there won't ban him when he's just useless

Maybe I haven't looked around on Susans enough, but it seems this place doesn't have a lot of rude people. I guess if I have to stop going to the other forum I guess I can come here more often..

~James

Hi James

Trolls  are just that. There are people in life who just do not have one. They just try and seek attention because they have no skills in anything. These are the people who scratch windows, these are the people who push aside the disabled, these are the people who demand help when they hurt but have never tried. They are pityful. My advice is to not engage them; they are not interested in an argument, they just wish to be rude. BTW, as you know many on Susan's site like to argue and debate, that's healthy! sometimes it can get a bit rough, but I've always been gentle on newbies and am happy to defend and debate with the (older) girls and boys who want to debate. These sort of boards are still in their infancy. We have to generate a whole new set of "manners" to cope with it. For example, many of the comments made in discussion would have prompted a needed a duel to death in the 19th century. Sueing in the 20th, and a rasberry now.

We change but we society still needs manners.

My advice?

Don't deal with people who have bad manners. I would not want them as a friend so why talk to them?


Luv

Cindy

*^{as quoted from the intelligent and beautiful Janet.}

Thankie for the posts ^__^

Yeah trolls pretty much get their jollies from upsetting people. I've put this guy on my ignore list and I ignore him. I just don't like to see other people (especially newbies) be a victim to him and get a bad impression of the site. If it wasn't for a-holes like him, the site would be wonderful. Whenever I see someone start to become a victim (I see this happen in the chat room) I PM the new person and warn them of how much of a troll he is. They usually thank me lol

Sorry to hear about your mom. What happened? Is she okay?

Unfortunatelly, trolls tend to show up at the worst times and usually attack when you are most vulnerable. Don't let 'em get to you. We all have are various moods, but some folks are too self absorbed and insecure to be nice to anyone else.

I find I like Susan's better than most other sites I've visited. Sometimes I get a bit put off here and there. But over all, I like most of the folks here

She had a heart attack last March. She's fine now. Me, my brother and dad are taking care of her now. She can still do stuff by herself and everything, but we just like to do some of the chores and stuff for her more often than before

Glad to hear that she's doing better  :icon_chick:

Sorry about the trool- Love the don't let them rent space in your rhead comment, never thought of it that way.
Glad to hear your mom is doing better!
Myles

I had to deal with him in the chat room today. He's such a worthless piece of human life I swear. I'm just glad I'm not physically around him, I would not hold back to beat the hell out of him

Gah...It's just so hard to ignore him. I really need to quit that forum for a while

Hi...James
Sorry to hear about your mum . i do hope she is well on the way of getting better .   not some thing you can . just carry on  with & not need help .
Just a pity we have some people who hide behind a made up name then sling the drit .  It seems to me they have major probs . & dont grow up . face to face it would be a different story. I wonder if they live in the real world . after you have.  i see a change that we need to see . you just walk on by . & dont enter in to any talking or debate . then you dont have to take on thier down putting of people . dont give them any creadence. they soon go away .
          ...noeleena...

Hmmmm, that troll sounds like someone that use to be here. I could have swore that person was solely dedicated to try to get my goat, so to speak. Failed, because when I responded I did so in a civilized way. How can someone continue being aggressive towards someone who doesn't react or respond in kind? I don't believe I have any enemies here on this board or any other board I am a member of, nor out there in real life.

Love
Cindy

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Quote from: cindybc on August 30, 2009, 01:33:41 AM
Hmmmm, that troll sounds like someone that use to be here. I could have swore that person was solely dedicated to try to get my goat, so to speak. Failed, because when I responded I did so in a civilized way. How can someone continue being aggressive towards someone who doesn't react or respond in kind? I don't believe I have any enemies here on this board or any other board I am a member of, nor out there in real life.

Love
Cynthia

Was this troll's name Roy-Nilsson?

Its funny how people on the web have no inhibition. They have states between them and the people they talk to. Sometimes countries. They don't have a face to deal with personally so they feel comfortable speaking rudely even if they may be one of the politest people in person.
That just means they are a coward.
And I don't care if I never meet the people I speak to online. I don't make it a point to be a jackass.

Don't worry they will get theirs. Karma comes around.

By the way... dark chocolate and raspberries are awesome...

Hi James, nope, afraid it's not the same troll. Might be a few lost soles in this group but I think most here only bite ankles.  ;D

Hi Heatherrose, you are quite welcome to watch all you want for as often as I come here anymore it will be like watching paint dry. 

I do my best to spread love and share my experiences for what it's worth, or not worth. If it resonates, keep it. if not, leave it.

Love
Cindy

Oh I so hope Karma will gets this dude. I will praise God the day he gets what's coming to him. Not to be a jackass myself, but this guy deserves it for what he says

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Politest, understanding, supportive, and caring, sometimes even love, but you are quite right about the Internet, it doesn't appear that true intentions come through as true they were meant to on the other person's monitor, no mater whether it be across the street or in Timbuktu.

I will not wast my time with those who live to nit pick, argue, flame, or come in with a negative attitudes. It would be a waste of my time and theirs. But I have at times been on the Internet for several hours with someone who was truly in need of support.

After being a social worker for 20 years I have found that you can't please everyone, I was lucky if I got one out of 10 and that would be a good weeks work.

Love
Cindy 

it's very difficult, but trolls survive like any other brute beast- by being fed. It probably annoys them more to be ignored than anything you can say, because to a troll negative attention is still attention and they thrive on it. If everyone would ignore this jackass he would soon pick up his troll toys and move on to where he can be fed.

Or they just pick up and become your boss at some point.  The net is excellent training for dealing with behaviors that you will encounter in real life, more than you wish to.

You wanna believe it sis, what you have posted is exactly what I was trying to say.

Quoteon ne voit bien qu'avec le coeur

Ya wanna believe it, the heart can see soul deep.

Love
Cindy

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Hi Tekla, I never thought about it that way but it certainly has a ring of possibilety to what you say. I would not want to go as far as trying to analyze someone over the net, but I cannot and will not say it is not possible.

Love
Cindy

Perhaps it's a lesson about picking your battles in life. Especially for someone transgendered, we get enough to choose from. Internet trolls are a lot less troublesome than real life trolls. Which are easier to deal with than people who are serious.

edit: Motherf, I wait days to reply to this thread, decide mister and tekla aren't going to bother, and I get beaten while afk.

Yea and you got me as a door prise who hasn't been here in about six months. ;D

Love
Cindy

You only replied to reply before I replied, to spite me. You troll.  :'(

Ever hear the one about the troll who came for dinner?

Went rather well with a bottle of chianti  :laugh:

Quote from: heatherrose on August 30, 2009, 04:06:11 AM

Be careful what you hope for.
I've seen it work in my life, both for and against me.

you got that right sister! Or be careful what you wish for, which amounts to the same thing. I'm pretty sure it's the second principle of fairy magic (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.faeriewylde.com%2Fimages%2Fsmiles%2Fpook.gif&hash=e7490831c2ec1397a4a0a0f8550cb42e8d44011b)

*^{Posted at risk of the beautiful and talented Janet posting her favorite, Heather "willies" inducing reply.}

Just because you started it, Honey.  This one is for you.  ;D

Hannibal Lecter - Fava Beans and Chianti (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BjGpcEA-FyE#normal)


Janet

To simplify in my understanding of Karma,
Karma like any other duality, it is like a double edged sword. There are equally good and negative results. Simply put, what one puts out to universe is what one gets back.

You are master of your own destiny, the choices you make today are what you will be manifesting for yourself in the future.

Love
Cindy

Well I don't just hope this guy gets what he deserves. I know he's gonna get it. What goes around comes around. There's not much use in hoping for it. What I really hope and wish is that this guy gets banned. Or at least leaves the forum.\

I haven't had a chance to deal with real life trolls. I better take lessons now for holding back my temper for the day I encounter one. My temper, unfortunatley, is very short

I know he's gonna get it. What goes around comes around. There's not much use in hoping for it.

Ahh, if the world worked like that, if the best musicians made it and not just the pretty ones with the gimmick.  If nice guys really finished first, instead of being the first ones eliminated.  If vicious power-hungry people really didn't make it to the top by being vicious and power-hungry. Granted the ones on the internet may be cruder at it, but they are just in practice.  They will get more cunning as they go along.  They might well turn out to be the kind of people who can rob you blind and leaving you thinking that you were special because they choose you to rob. 

YRMV

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Dearest James,

I am so sorry that you have had to experience a "troll" especially at at time of your mother's illness. I have noticed that everyone here at Susan's are very loving people and very polite. That is to the credit of everyone here. What I find remarkable here is that posts are not pre-viewed before being visible. From what I have seen here, everyone is repsectful and no posts have to be removed. I am sure that has happened, but obviously it is a rarity here.
I am a forum moderator at another site and trolls are immediately discovered and banned. We watch for the following types

Admirers,
Posers,
Trolls,
Predators,

Anyone who is identified as the above list is banned.. permanently.

HUGS

Brenda

Quote from: tekla on August 30, 2009, 03:58:22 PM
Ahh, if the world worked like that, if the best musicians made it and not just the pretty ones with the gimmick.  If nice guys really finished first, instead of being the first ones eliminated.  If vicious power-hungry people really didn't make it to the top by being vicious and power-hungry. Granted the ones on the internet may be cruder at it, but they are just in practice.  They will get more cunning as they go along.  They might well turn out to be the kind of people who can rob you blind and leaving you thinking that you were special because they choose you to rob. 

Unfortunately sometimes this is true. Our society appears to reward and promotes this kind of behavior. To excel and step on everyone's toes in the process.
But this isn't true for everyone. I think good honest work and kindness would trump it in the end.
I could be wrong... but I'm an idealist.

Our society

And you think that other societies, like so say, the Holy Roman Empire, or Classical Rome and Greece, or any other society is really constructed any differently?

Quote from: bernii on August 30, 2009, 04:36:21 PM
Dearest James,

I am so sorry that you have had to experience a "troll" especially at at time of your mother's illness. I have noticed that everyone here at Susan's are very loving people and very polite. That is to the credit of everyone here. What I find remarkable here is that posts are not pre-viewed before being visible. From what I have seen here, everyone is repsectful and no posts have to be removed. I am sure that has happened, but obviously it is a rarity here.
I am a forum moderator at another site and trolls are immediately discovered and banned. We watch for the following types

Admirers,
Posers,
Trolls,
Predators,

Anyone who is identified as the above list is banned.. permanently.

HUGS

Brenda

That's why I'm thinking of taking a break from that other site and just coming here for when I have computer time and nothing to do. This place seems a lot more friendlier in other ways the other forum is not.

And the way you say you ban those people on the forum you're on, that kind of work needs to be done on the other forum I'm on. If that forum had mods like that on there, the forum would be wonderful. The admins there are too "sweet" I guess is the best way to put it. They need to get off their ass and ban people like Roy-Nilsson (which is the troll's username)

I would lmao if he say me typing this :D

Trolls and hosers!!! My goodness, we can't have that here now can we?  ;D

BEWARE OF TROLLER
(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fi11.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fa191%2Fcynthiag932%2FTrolling2.jpg&hash=1dc5afcf001eeda5f306aca31ea8d38234dd506f)

Love
Cindy

Oh my god that other thread is a trainwreck.

Most conversations - I'm guessing here, it's not like people talk to me - once transcribed, are trainwrecks.  One kind of a fantastic, almost thermonuclear, in its decent into sheer boredom.  (Most kinds) and ... b) Something were people actually forget what they want to be, and tell you what they really are.  Those things rock.  Bad indeed for the people who tell the truth - particularly when they are not the folk who, shall we say, who tell it as a normal course of action - and tell everyone who they really are.

Quote from: heatherrose on August 30, 2009, 07:38:34 PM

I don't bad mouth Susans.org or name anyone I know here, on other sites

I've bad mouthed him everywhere. And everyone who's seen him agrees with me (for the most part). I'm not talking behind this guy's back, I've told him all this stuff directly to him before

That whole forum looks like it's full of trolls or people who I wish were trolling. I've never seen people actually supporting other people who hate happy people who have sex. We're all alive because of sex. Hell, it looks like if you asked a lot of people there, they'd tell you that all fathers are abusive rapists and all mothers are weak-minded cows.

Which forum are you talking about, Autumn?

Quote from: James O.O on August 31, 2009, 01:14:50 AM
Which forum are you talking about, Autumn?

I wanted to see what the troll in question was on about and took a quick trip to google. I won't name A site in question because I've no intention of causing grief across forums, but I'm pretty sure I found the one you're talking about and the whole environment feels unhealthy. I appreciate the lack of desire that gender confused/mis-assigned people often have for sex, but the people there seemed to just be on some dumb crusade against people who get laid.

If I'm barking up the wrong forum, then there's another forum out there with a troll of the same name trolling people about cancer.  :o


I have no idea what you're talking about Heather, but hopefully what I've written above clarifies where I was coming from with that statement.

Quote from: Autumn on August 31, 2009, 03:25:33 PM
I wanted to see what the troll in question was on about and took a quick trip to google. I won't name A site in question because I've no intention of causing grief across forums, but I'm pretty sure I found the one you're talking about and the whole environment feels unhealthy. I appreciate the lack of desire that gender confused/mis-assigned people often have for sex, but the people there seemed to just be on some dumb crusade against people who get laid.

If I'm barking up the wrong forum, then there's another forum out there with a troll of the same name trolling people about cancer.  :o

The last statement (the cancer one) is correct. That's him. You must have seen the forum that he's trolling on then. I would mention the forum name but I don't want to cause trouble here or anything. The above statement though, I'm not sure if that's the same forum or not

And I've looked up his name on Google before too. There's some weird results for that name. I don't know if all of them are the same person or not

I do, and that is all I am going to say folks.
I only just left this message board because I got bored, most people don't want the help or support  of an old bat, I guess the tradition that the young have to find their own way the hard way still hasn't changed much. I see not much has changed here though.

Love
Cindy