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Title: Is This Permanent?
Post by: K8 on September 09, 2009, 06:33:15 PM
Post by: K8 on September 09, 2009, 06:33:15 PM
Today I went to the shop that services my motorcycle. I hadn't been riding much so I hadn't been there since becoming Kate. It's run by a husband-wife team and has several other workers.
As luck would have it, both husband and wife were at the counter when I walked in. It took them a minute to recognize me, but they did. One of his first questions was: Is this permanent? (Absolutely.) She stuck out her hand to shake and said: Congratulations! One of them asked why I hadn't told them. (This is a hard thing to work out.)
He went back to work, but I spent about a half hour with her – talking, trying on women's riding gear, bonding as women. Several times she thanked me for trusting them. I know they want my business, but I really believe she was sincere and meant it on a personal level. She gave me a hug as I was leaving.
I didn't buy anything this trip but certainly will take my bike there when it needs service. (It doesn't hurt that he's a master mechanic.)
This is not the first time someone has asked if this is permanent. It has confused me in the past, but today it seemed like he was just trying to put it in context. Was I going to show up sometimes as male and sometimes as female? Or was I Kate from now on? Actually, I'm glad he asked. Some people don't and then take a long time to sort out what is going on. Perhaps as we come out to people we need to specifically tell them that this change is, indeed, permanent.
- Kate
As luck would have it, both husband and wife were at the counter when I walked in. It took them a minute to recognize me, but they did. One of his first questions was: Is this permanent? (Absolutely.) She stuck out her hand to shake and said: Congratulations! One of them asked why I hadn't told them. (This is a hard thing to work out.)
He went back to work, but I spent about a half hour with her – talking, trying on women's riding gear, bonding as women. Several times she thanked me for trusting them. I know they want my business, but I really believe she was sincere and meant it on a personal level. She gave me a hug as I was leaving.
I didn't buy anything this trip but certainly will take my bike there when it needs service. (It doesn't hurt that he's a master mechanic.)
This is not the first time someone has asked if this is permanent. It has confused me in the past, but today it seemed like he was just trying to put it in context. Was I going to show up sometimes as male and sometimes as female? Or was I Kate from now on? Actually, I'm glad he asked. Some people don't and then take a long time to sort out what is going on. Perhaps as we come out to people we need to specifically tell them that this change is, indeed, permanent.
- Kate
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: sd on September 10, 2009, 03:47:33 AM
Post by: sd on September 10, 2009, 03:47:33 AM
Sounds like a great day Kate. :icon_hug:
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: Cindy on September 10, 2009, 04:09:06 AM
Post by: Cindy on September 10, 2009, 04:09:06 AM
Interesting experience Kate.
You do seem to be in a nice accepting community. I'm really glad the other women are bonding with you. That will really get the guys to accept you, if any have hang ups that is. Or things that hang down that look interesting :police: Cindy I've warned you before about inciting sexual interest :laugh: >:-)
Take care Hun
Cindy
You do seem to be in a nice accepting community. I'm really glad the other women are bonding with you. That will really get the guys to accept you, if any have hang ups that is. Or things that hang down that look interesting :police: Cindy I've warned you before about inciting sexual interest :laugh: >:-)
Take care Hun
Cindy
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: Jamie-o on September 10, 2009, 06:43:22 AM
Post by: Jamie-o on September 10, 2009, 06:43:22 AM
I love all your little anecdotes about people's acceptance of you in your community. It makes me smile, and helps me remember that most people really are good and decent. Thank you for your uplifting updates. :)
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: Alex_C on September 11, 2009, 02:58:48 PM
Post by: Alex_C on September 11, 2009, 02:58:48 PM
You just look at them and smile and say, "Yes, this is permenant" lol.
And, half the joy of riding a BMW is wrenching on it yourself!
And, half the joy of riding a BMW is wrenching on it yourself!
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: dyssonance on September 13, 2009, 06:08:56 PM
Post by: dyssonance on September 13, 2009, 06:08:56 PM
For some people, it isn't permanent.
And they are aware of that.
Congrats on making new friends -- they always help...
And they are aware of that.
Congrats on making new friends -- they always help...
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: Tammy Hope on September 13, 2009, 07:10:28 PM
Post by: Tammy Hope on September 13, 2009, 07:10:28 PM
It's always cool to hear about someone having that kind of "no big deal" accepting reaction. I know you were grinning.
Title: Re: Is This Permanent?
Post by: K8 on September 13, 2009, 07:30:41 PM
Post by: K8 on September 13, 2009, 07:30:41 PM
Quote from: Alex_C on September 11, 2009, 02:58:48 PM
And, half the joy of riding a BMW is wrenching on it yourself!
No, Alex. I just bat my eyes and let the guys do it for me. ;)
- Kate