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Some time ago I made a post regarding to a social networking program called secondlife. I became argumentative and became rather defensive after a couple of people disagree to what I was doing.

I want to say that I'm sorry. I know deep inside that you are right... It is only pretending and not focusing on reality. It's hard for me to say this but I am a coward. I fear of being alone in this big world. If my friends and family doesn't support to what I want to do then I would be alone and that is what I fear the most so Instead of facing them and telling them the truth I hide inside of my room and act out.

I hope I can still use this site for support without the animosity. I want to start from the beginning again.

Oh I remember those posts, and of course you're welcome here, getting it right occasionally in the long run is what we do best, getting it wrong on occasion is pretty constant too.  If you're just kinda making all this up as we go along, and we all are, you're not going to bat 100% all the time.

Yes your welcome here. We all need support.

Welcome back. Don't worry about it.
Cheers,
Myles

It takes a strong, brave person to admit to being wrong. Welcome back :)  :icon_wave:

Quote from: Cami on September 16, 2009, 07:40:07 PM
It takes a strong, brave person to admit to being wrong. Welcome back :)  :icon_wave:

I agree.

Welcome back dude :)

Quote from: Cami on September 16, 2009, 07:40:07 PM
It takes a strong, brave person to admit to being wrong. Welcome back :)  :icon_wave:

taks a strong, brave person to be wrong and then admit it. ;)

Quote from: J.M. on September 16, 2009, 05:20:17 PM
Some time ago I made a post regarding to a social networking program called secondlife. I became argumentative and became rather defensive after a couple of people disagree to what I was doing.

I want to say that I'm sorry. I know deep inside that you are right... It is only pretending and not focusing on reality. It's hard for me to say this but I am a coward. I fear of being alone in this big world. If my friends and family doesn't support to what I want to do then I would be alone and that is what I fear the most so Instead of facing them and telling them the truth I hide inside of my room and act out.

I hope I can still use this site for support without the animosity. I want to start from the beginning again.

Euh...did I miss something? I'm a newbie of 3 months now but I feel concerned cos I am very much into second life too. All what I can't be in real life, I could be in second life. Be as beautiful I want, dress in clothes I want, flirt with all straight men and BE who I AM, fly and do all things that I could not in real but the only problem it was virtual but I loved it despite that. The Linden currency money I get from my rich virtual boyfriends. All what I can say it's really cool and it helped me a lot during my depression, every time real life was getting harsh, I was evading in virtual. For me too the virtual was so real. 

It's nice to see you JM, welcome back.

Would you like to start fresh with a new introduction to the physical you? We'd like to get to know you  :)

Ah, I remember that thread. That was long time ago in forum-time! :laugh:

Welcome back :).

I don't think there was an animosity towards you. It was more a concern that you were cutting yourself off from reality and setting yourself up for a major dissapointment.

It's good to hear that you're mentally sorting things out. It takes guts to admit when you've been running away from life, and more guts to correct the problem. Kudos.

Welcome back, and don't worry.
You're not a coward, you're just dealing with a "lot".

It takes a strong man to apologize. I understand your anxiety. I haven't come out to everyone yet but those I have are mostly unsupportive (except for doctors). I too fear losing my whole family and job when I come out. The thought of telling them is terrifying, but I think I'll be relieved too because it's no longer a secret. I believe the time to tell my family is coming up soon. So, we'll see.

Sometimes you have to take baby steps and take things at your own pace. But, I have to remind myself to not let fear and the unknown paralyse me as well.

Quote from: Teknoir on September 17, 2009, 03:14:15 AM
I don't think there was an animosity towards you. It was more a concern that you were cutting yourself off from reality and setting yourself up for a major dissapointment.

Agreed. You don't have to give up your role playing, just don't let it take over your life. And recognize it for what it is - roleplaying. Something to do to relax and unwind. But not a replacement for reality.

You're fine. I don't see a need to apologize. You didn't do anything wrong.  :)

Quote from: Nero on September 17, 2009, 07:27:51 AM
Agreed. You don't have to give up your role playing, just don't let it take over your life. And recognize it for what it is - roleplaying. Something to do to relax and unwind. But not a replacement for reality.

You're fine. I don't see a need to apologize. You didn't do anything wrong.  :)

I agree with everyone, it take a lot of guts to admit when you're wrong, but in this case I don't think you necessarily did anything wrong, you just weren't ready to face reality yet. Many of us have probably had a point in time before we came out to ourselves where we just weren't ready to face it yet. Now that you're ready, we're totally here for you. That's what we do! ;)

Welcome back!

Wow I can't believe how many responses I received back from my topic, Thanks!

Thanks for understanding me, I knew I came to the right place to seek support :D

I can now comfortably sit down on the comfortable chair and knock my shoes off and relax :)

Ugh I"ve avoided Second Life because I've yet to get a first one.

I actually told a waitress in Atlanta in 1996 where I was in the Olympic trials, that "first, you have to have basically no life.... then be kinda good a sport"