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well had an appointment at the hospital today, and they have now refered me to the psychologist person to start my counseling, so that was a good start to the day
however feeling psyched from the hospital i chose today as the day to tell my mam about wanting to transition, it didnt go too well.
she has basically asked me not to do it.  hope she comes round to the idea of what i told her.
now feel like a sack of s**t

Hopefully she'll come around. It's rare for parents to accept it right away.

Remember, you got to do what's best for you.

Tristan is right parents, understandabley, may take time to come round to the idea of big changes of any kind in the lives of their children. I'm sure she is just worried for you hun. You have already covered a lot of positive ground today. I think this may open up new lines of communication between you and your mum, an icebreaker if you like, at least that was my experience with my mum when I told her I was seeing the psych for TG issues. 

I wish you all the best hun

love & light


Lisa xx

thanks guys, didnt dare tell her that i had already been to the docs and hospital about it yet, that would have pushed her to far i think lol. hopeing she comes round sooner rather than later, i cant take her askin me not to do it, it made my head so mashed, even though i know what i want. argh lol

Its been over two years and my parents haven't fully excepted it yet.. but they are getting a tiny bit better.. I guess it takes time eh?

I wouldn't tell her about seeing doctors right away then man.

Congrats though!

Jay

cheers jay. cant wait to hear bak from the hosp to find out when my first counceling date is.
finalising choice on name in hope i can offiicially change some of my id etc

Congrats!

Personally i think the hardest step is actually telling parents, I should know its hard for me to tell them right now, so good on you! hope everything else goes well! :D

Yes, congratulations! :eusa_clap:

This is hard thing for parents to accept.  It'll take a little while for your mom to work her way through this.  Be open and nice to her.

My parents are long dead, but my older sister had a lot of trouble accepting this as serious, and then when she realized it was, accepting that I wasn't just causing myself all sorts of unnecessary problems.  Now she kind of treats me as her little sister. :D

Telling your mother was a big step.  Two big steps in one day!  No wonder you're having a rebound effect. ;)

You're on a roll!

- Kate

My Mum & Dad could never accept it. My sister had no problems, said she had known for ages.

As Kate said you have had a massive day, very draining on the emotions, so take care and look after your self

Hugs
Cindy

I hope your mother comes to accept your needs regarding transition.  My mother and sisters were very accepting, my stepfather wanted no part of it. He eventually came around, but not fully.  Like others have said, sometimes it's just a matter of when.  Regarding the counseling, I would think this is something she may need to know.  Unless this has changed, I believe that at some point they will want to speak with a parent.  Perhaps she will come around a bit more before then.  Congratulations on your progress.  It is so difficult to confront family.  That's a big step.  Hugs.

thanks for all the replys. It is so wierd how brothers and sisters seem to know what u gonna say before u tell them, my sister said she already knew i would transition one day. I just hope my mam comes round sooner rather than later. i get the feeling she will stand by me, just she wont b happy about it.
Hopefully the counciler wont need to have contact with my parents, i presume that being 22 means they wouldnt need consent off her or any thing like that  ???