Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Check as many as you want.

I can only wonder about those who chose "To go trolling" or chose "all of the above"...  :D

I believe most of us come here to find comfort and community.  Like any community, there are those that you just love to be around and others that really get to you.

I still love coming here and I still consider all of you as my family.


Janet

Oh and I forgot to mention,
To socialize
To gain knowledge
To gain confidence
To find friends
To become part of the online community

Sometimes it is to help find the truth in misleading statements. Most times to provoke thought. The last is to get a good laugh.

QuoteTo gain knowledge

To share my knowledge and experiences

These where only a couple that I had chosen..

Jay

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To gain confidence
To find friends
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues

debating and "streightening out the confused" were only picked because I find myself in debates "everywhere" and frankly, I love a good debate, and I do "like" to correct people who're operating on misinformation, which would classify as straightening out the confused, I suppose...

I picked other ones ofcourse.
knowledge and stuff..

I'm with Janet Lynn-- it's the community I seek.

I'm here to learn about myself and maybe find my path. 
I'm in an area which is supposed to be good - but I'm not sure I'm up for a face-to-face with folks yet.  Part of me is afraid that I'm just too new and will be viewed as a fake and will be rejected before I've even started.
Chances are I'm being irrational - but that's me. 

I'm here for the free coffee.

I like having a place where I can express things about myself that otherwise I feel the need to keep hidden.  Obviously I'm not very out yet :P.

Quote from: Renate on October 19, 2009, 07:49:59 PM
I'm here for the free coffee.

And don't forget the doughnuts :)

-={LR}=-

I feel it's less risky to foam at the mouth while aimlessly ranting about here as apposed to do so in public...& the people here are pretty cool.

Yes, I agree with the above.  I will always seek out other trans people to try to understand more, and interpret the experience of being trans.  It is fascinating to be trans, why was I called, and for what purpose.  I know a few of these answers but it will always be a pleasure to talk with other trans folk and see what experiences we share.

I just wandered in here by accident a few months ago and can't find my way out again. Who moved the door?

Deanna  ???

Quote from: Deanna_Renee on October 19, 2009, 10:51:04 PM
I just wandered in here by accident a few months ago and can't find my way out again. Who moved the door?

"You can check out any time you like. But you can never leave."  >:-)

/me hi5's Janet Lynn

Like the song "Hotel California" says you can check out anytime you want, but you can never leave.  :police: ( >:-) >:-) :laugh:)

High Five to Flan

Janet

Well, then... Waiter, please bring me my wine.

We haven't had that spirit here since 1969.


Janet

What kind of hotel are y'all running here? No wine, no exit, no trolling (okay, that's a good thing), and lots of happy friendly, sharing, group huggie kind of people everywhere? I think I'll just stick around a few more years. :)

Deanna

At 46 I am a late bloomer and have just started my journey to 'I don't know where'.  Susan's is extremely supportive and I read so many posts as part of trying to understand lots of things about transitioning and how other people have dealt with their issues and own personal journey. 

I kept all this hidden for a zillion years and have done some pretty tough male jobs, but I have always been more female than male.  It only returned this year via 'second life' of all things and then I found this site and never knew so many other people felt the same way.  I don't know where I am heading, but I do know that I visit this site at every opportunity and read what others have written and look at their photos.  Oh, and laugh at all the jokes. 

I see everyone here as what they want to be and not as they are now.  So much so that sometimes when a girl asks a question about something I think to myself: 'Why would a girl have trouble with that?  Then remember that they are still becoming girls, silly I know, but true story.

I love this site totally.

Rebecca xx

Quote from: Jay on October 19, 2009, 01:52:58 PM
To gain knowledge

To share my knowledge and experiences

These where only a couple that I had chosen..



Jay

me 2. 

got one more: 2 moderate.  :D :D >:-)

Quote from: Deanna_Renee on October 19, 2009, 11:24:51 PM
What kind of hotel are y'all running here? No wine, no exit, no trolling (okay, that's a good thing), and lots of happy friendly, sharing, group huggie kind of people everywhere? I think I'll just stick around a few more years. :)

Deanna

Dang it's all my fault, they're just trying to cover for me. There was plenty off fine wine to go around for all & they even locked it up till we all made it here...I busted in & drank it all...I am so sorry, I promise I will never drink any more wine until tommorrow & this time I really mean it!

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What kind of hotel are y'all running here? No wine, no exit, no trolling (okay, that's a good thing), and lots of happy friendly, sharing, group huggie kind of people everywhere? I think I'll just stick around a few more years. :)

Deanna

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Quote from: Deanna_Renee on October 19, 2009, 11:24:51 PM
What kind of hotel are y'all running here? No wine, no exit, no trolling (okay, that's a good thing), and lots of happy friendly, sharing, group huggie kind of people everywhere? I think I'll just stick around a few more years. :)

Deanna

because it's easier to hide a nut in a bag full of nuts than in a can of soup? :laugh: (j/k)
hey there's some really fine people here and they have some dreamy cute guys for mods, too (https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.cosgan.de%2Fimages%2Fmidi%2Fliebe%2Fd040.gif&hash=f30a48b7aa636ea913ed4fbd52911ce4ffd788e5)

I came to learn and not be alone, I stay because I seem to have found some incredibly beautiful ppl to share things with when I have no live person to do the same.

"anytime of year, you will ike it here"

I needed answers and friends to relate and identify with.

I've learned allot about myself and others and have met several wonderful people

My selections were:

To gain knowledge
To share knowledge & experiences (with other SO's or whatever)
To become part of the online community
To understand my SO
To support my SO (not least of all via the aforementioned understanding)
Because I know nothing about transgender lives (but learning)

Initially to give my wife a forum where she could express her concerns and frustrations as a SO. Since things have settled down and she now accepts what is happening to her the family and me (Thanks Susan) Im finding less reason to come here. Its more out of habit now.

I come here mainly because this is the one-stop-shop for anything that deals with gender identity. There isn't another comparable place on the Internet.

Quote from: LordKAT on October 20, 2009, 12:22:56 AM
I came to learn and not be alone, I stay because I seem to have found some incredibly beautiful ppl to share things with when I have no live person to do the same.

"anytime of year, you will ike it here"

I wasn't going to comment on this, I did fill out the poll but what LordKAT said just gonged inside my head.

To not be alone.

Mostly for friendship and be part of a fantastic family. Hugs and Kisses to all, Genny

We all have our own reasons for coming here. Isn't it wonderful that a resource such as Susan's exists?

Gennee
:)

Yes, Gennee, it is wonderful.  :)

I originally found susans.org while looking on google for TS forums.  At first I wasn't sure I would like it here because you gotta be tough cuz people are tough on you.  But i do like it here, now that certain people understand me a bit better.  I  never meant to do anything bad here, that was not my intention.  My intentions was to gain knowledge, meet other people, and lots more stuff that was listed on the poll.

I've met a few really cool people here.  I hope to meet more, if they would take the time to understand me.  Nobody's perfect, I know.  I hope to get to understand you all as well.

Thank you.  :)

Quote from: axlred66 on October 22, 2009, 03:01:17 PM
I originally found susans.org while looking on google for TS forums.  At first I wasn't sure I would like it here because you gotta be tough cuz people are tough on you.  But i do like it here, now that certain people understand me a bit better.  I  never meant to do anything bad here, that was not my intention.  My intentions was to gain knowledge, meet other people, and lots more stuff that was listed on the poll.

I've met a few really cool people here.  I hope to meet more, if they would take the time to understand me.  Nobody's perfect, I know.  I hope to get to understand you all as well.

Thank you.  :)

And I happy that you are here, Axlred

Gennee

Well, I think that we all kind of evolve through being here and that the reasons we are here tend to change over time. Like for me, when I first started, it was more for a sense of community and to learn. I feel like I did that (and continue to do that) a lot in the beginning especially. Once I felt comfortable walking my path, walk I did! I walked and walked.

One thing I do like doing here is documenting my journey. I remember when I came here I was reading many blogs and just learning from different people's experiences. One thing I swore I would do some day is return the favor. So...here I am. I started documenting at the very beginning and now here I am two and a half years later (wow, has it REALLY been that long!!) and I feel like I'm getting near the end of my journey. Now, that doesn't mean I'm leaving or anything, I just find that the urgency I used to have, the frantic angst that would fuel late-night blog entries and what-the-heck-am-I-supposed-to-do-now moments has really not been around.

I remember thinking how I'd never know what my life would be like in the future, like I was just unsure how everything would turn out, but I hung on to my faith in myself and my perseverance to get through anything. I had and have awesome friends who have been there every step of the way and that's helped too. Nice question Julie :) Meghan

Quote from: gennee on October 24, 2009, 12:38:18 PM




And I happy that you are here, Axlred

Gennee

Aww thank you Gennee :)

As LordKAT and Living in grey said.

To be not alone.

To offer help as others have helped me.

I have arisen from a lonely and dark part of life thanks to you all.

I do not think I could survive the unspeakable horror of being in the wrong body without the love of you all.

Cindy

I came here to make friends and for a better understanding of why i love being a women. And also to know that i am not alone in this journey.

I keep hanging out here because I like hanging around people with similar interests to myself birds of the feather flock together as they say.

And also this site has a awesome wiki that is very helpful and easy to understand.

At first it was to be supported by others.

Now it is to support others.

-Sandy

Oh, most certainly to annoy the confused.  It's just that I'm the only one confused, and that is annoying!   ::)

As someone said before, for the free coffee.  I have to say however, that the service here is terrible.  I'm still waiting for my first cup.  If this is self-service, I'll have to get a Starbuck's uniform - girl's of course!   >:-)

SusanKG

The espresso machine is over there.  You get two breaks, one every two hours and because you only work 6 hours today no lunch.  Your uniform will be here tomorrow.



Janet

The coffee is *free*!?!?!

-Sandy(SuSAN!!!)

You know,..
First time I came here it was simply to find "others like me" and have some semblance of support from that.. .

Nowadays... I find that the nr. 1 reason I come around is to support the site and it's members. Try and offer a voice of reason when people are confused/upset. And Just... you know.. cause I love you guys/gals/others...

What he and she said :angel:

I don't feel so lonely now. I want to make others feel that way too.

Cindy

I came here because I am bored and lonely...

Quote from: Tal-12A7 on December 13, 2009, 01:36:35 PM
I came here because I am bored and lonely...

You're friends here are many... :)

Quote from: SusanKG on November 22, 2009, 10:41:26 PM
As someone said before, for the free coffee.  I have to say however, that the service here is terrible.  I'm still waiting for my first cup.  If this is self-service, I'll have to get a Starbuck's uniform - girl's of course!   >:-)

SusanKG

Quote from: Janet Lynn on November 22, 2009, 10:47:02 PM
The espresso machine is over there.  You get two breaks, one every two hours and because you only work 6 hours today no lunch.  Your uniform will be here tomorrow.

Janet

Allright, this is totally uncool. Three weeks ago, I was promised my uniform, and it hasn't come in yet! This little black dress is getting pretty raunchy.  :icon_eek:And the espresso machine has been busted all the time and they won't let me have a cup from the service bar. Fooey!

Other than that, I love it here. Who says Girls don't have fun!

SusanKG

Uh, susan, I think you need to plug the expresso machine in first. Unfortunately the outlet is behind the counter it is on and the counter don't move so well.  I can get you a hot chocolate for all your troubles.  marshmallows with that?

Just to get slightly back on topic  ;D, another good reason for joining this forum is discovering that there is a network of people around the globe that feel the same way about themselves. It is extremely empowering to know you are not alone after all.

Alexie

Fine SusanKG!

Here is your coffee......

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimages.google.com%2Furl%3Fsource%3Dimgres%26amp%3Bct%3Dimg%26amp%3Bq%3Dhttp%3A%2F%2Fwww.swindon.gov.uk%2Fde%2Fcoffee_cup.jpg%26amp%3Busg%3DAFQjCNH-eBayClQogf1OTvLFwZPepGPpxg&hash=9a8926762836b1963dc674d70af67d6d3993bd77)

And Your Uniform.....

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Ft2.gstatic.com%2Fimages%3Fq%3Dtbn%3AceNmnCDwgaq3JM%3Ahttp%3A%2F%2Fwww.made-in-china.com%2Fimage%2F2f0j00ZBKEahSgbYbCM%2FHospital-Uniform.jpg&hash=9cba46ed4b2ba4cdd8602b9d81cb6de13d20c384)


Hugs and Love
Janet

Quote from: Tal-12A7 on December 14, 2009, 06:25:03 AM
Seeing so many people from the same country who have a good time together makes me feel even more miserable...

Hi Tal,
I don't know where you're from, but it's likely we may have people from there as well. But we are not all or even mostly from the same country. While it's true that the majority of our members hail from English speaking countries (US, UK, Australia, NZ, etc) due to being an English speaking site, we do have many members for whom English isn't their native language as well.

I might add that you seem to have a command of English, Tal.  Just jump in anywhere.  We are a friendly bunch regardless where we are from.



Blessed Be
Janet

Janet and Nero,

I think Tal may be evoking the spirit of "Marvin the Paranoid Android" from Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, given the avatar and the tone. (I may also be wrong)

I come here for information, and for the non-judgemental friends.

Now, to veer back off track, thanks Janet, the best cup of coffee in a long time. How did you know I always wanted to be a woman in uniform?

Tal, we may be from different countries, but we are from one world inside another world, if that makes sense. (If not, I mean human beings from this planet with personal situations that make other people seperate them away.)

SusanKG

Why do I come to Susan's?

Curiosity (I tend to be curious about most things)

Trying to sort out what's going through my mind, (are these thoughts "normal" or I'm just going even more insane then I am all ready)

May be to find some answers.

To remind people that I'm an individual & that my life doesn't compare to any of yours.  We might share a common bond, but we aren't the same.  We're very diverse, all different otherwise why do you think Susan herself has all these categories on her website?

To vent sometimes. To see that I'm not the only one who feels this way, even though it seems that way most days IRL. To see that there really may be a light at the end of the tunnel. Right now it might be only a pinhole, but it exists, and I'm grateful for that.

This place does fa for me I just come here for habit. But Aaron you worry me. Tell me to fo if you want but talk

I first came for information.  I settled in and found a home where people understood what I was struggling with.  I got help when I needed it and was able to offer help to others who were struggling as I had.  And now I come because it has become part of my life - like my friendships IRL and a lot of other things I do. 

I still need help from time to time.  I'm really grateful for this site and for the people here.

Thanks Susan and thanks to all of you. :icon_flower:

- Kate

I joined because I was confused about what was going on inside of me and why I was having these feeling and desires. I need information and friends who understood what I was going through.

I stayed on for friendship encouragement. And there is always more I need to learn as my journey continues.
I also like to help and encourage others.
Jillieann

Quote from: Jillieann on December 19, 2009, 04:27:51 PM
I joined because I was confused about what was going on inside of me and why I was having these feeling and desires. I need information and friends who understood what I was going through.

I stayed on for friendship encouragement. And there is always more I need to learn as my journey continues.
I also like to help and encourage others.
Jillieann

I couldn't have put it better myself  :angel:

Alexie

I think I joined mostly to socialize, although a lot of those other options can occur during socialization. I have supportive friends locally, but I'm one of these hermits who tends not to leave the house much unless I'm getting some obvious benefit. Plus it's too cold for camping heh. Maybe Memorial Day weekend.

Listen to Joe Bonamassa, "Sloe Gin" it's me, and this place gives me the smiles I need the knowledge I seek, and the security in finding out who and what I am.

QuoteSloe Gin, Sloe Gin
Tryin' to wash away the pain inside
Well I'm sick and I'm all done in
And I'm standing in the rain
And I feel like I'm gonna cry

I'm so damn lonely
And I ain't even high
I'm so damn lonely
And I feel like I wanna die

Mayday, mayday I've been shot down
Over stormy seas
Well I feel that I'm drifting away
Can't seem to get a grip on me
Well I can't even try

I'm so damn lonely
Ain't even high
I hate to go home alone,
But what else is new?
I'm so damn lonely

I hate to go home alone,
But what else is new?
I'm so damn lonely...

You stand and bleeding people pass me by
No matter if you live
No matter if you die

Sloe Gin, Sloe Gin
Tryin' to wash away the pain inside
Well I'm sick and I'm all done in
I'm standing in the rain
And I feel like I'm gonna cry

I'm so damn lonely
Ain't even high
I'm so damn lonely...

Being relatively new to this site, I can say I came to be with others who are like me: people who don't think I'm completely nuts for being TG.  There are so many feelings that we all share that most people don't understand. I think the thing that has kept my interest is the dedication that you have for this site and the obvious friendships that you made with each other.  There are so many bright and interesting people here.  I think it is great that we can have a place to talk.  I don't feel quite so islated knowing there are sisters and brothers who dealing with many of the same problems that I have been facing by myself.

Quote from: cocoon on January 27, 2010, 09:43:05 PM
Being relatively new to this site, I can say I came to be with others who are like me: people who don't think I'm completely nuts for being TG.  There are so many feelings that we all share that most people don't understand. I think the thing that has kept my interest is the dedication that you have for this site and the obvious friendships that you made with each other.  There are so many bright and interesting people here.  I think it is great that we can have a place to talk.  I don't feel quite so islated knowing there are sisters and brothers who dealing with many of the same problems that I have been facing by myself.

I couldn't have put it better myself.

Alexie

I was reflecting on the fact that I have more friends on Susan's than anywhere else, even though I have only met you on email.

Love to you all

Cindy

I need help, and Im fresh out of places to find it.
I'm desperate, and need people who know what its like.

I selected the following because they cover pretty much all of the others.

• To socialize.
• To gain knowledge.
• To share my knowledge and experience.
• To become part of the online community.
• To learn how to deal with certain issues.

When I originally joined, I had to provide a reason why I wanted to join 'Susan's' and I quote "It would be appreciated if I could join the group so that I can provide insights on how I become the person that I am today, so that others may benefit from this knowledge and become 'who they want to be'."

What I neglected to mention was "to learn from the experiences of others around me and to put words to my feelings and thoughts that I have always had."

By doing this it allows to me to sit back and reflect on what I have achieved and hence provide guidance for my future, for whatever path I chose to follow.

Kind regards
Sarah B

I come here to get info about crossdresing and the best way to go about it  since i am very new at it and still a closet CD, i may always be a closet CD.

I joined Susans after searching for a forum for a long time. I lurked at few before I made my final decision b/c I wanted to be sure I was joining a site that was accepting and kind. All of you ladies (and gentlemen) are so nice and helpful and confident and really make me feel like maybe I can do this crazy thing. You are all so beautiful and lovely... It really makes me think I can be, too.

I see things differently since I found my gender therapist. She told me two things that really clicked for me, 1) I don't have to go at it alone. Many have been through the same struggle I am facing and are willing to offer their kindness, friendship and support. This is really where Susans comes in. 2) I need to get out and explore the woman I am before I'll be able to make a decision on transition. She suggested I explore being femme before I decide to full time RLE. Her reasoning is that I may not even like being in the real world as a girl, and I should probably find out before I take it too far. 

These two things have really been the impetus for the changes I've seen in myself recently.

I'm pretty sure this is the happiest I've been in a long time. I'm quite certain I like it.

Toodles,
~Jasmine :icon_chick:

Right on Jasmine  :icon_chick: {{{HUGS}}}

*Can't stop there...I'm just a huggin' machine*{{{HUGS}}} Everyone*

I'm here to make friends and socialize with other TS folk out there, and also to gain knowledge and confidence to help me in my transitioning. I live in a community where it is not very easy to find support, guidance or even fellow transfolk so the internet has worked wonders for helping me gain the knowledge and connections I need.

I really like this community and the people here. It's very welcoming, and I feel safe discussing my issues with others here.

Because of the comfort I get and to meet so many wonderful people that understands where each are. I'm still new, but I really love it here....

I feel so blessed I came across this site.

It has giving me a lot information. And a lot to think about.

A feeling of belonging, since I no longer feel am I the only one out there that has this feeling or that feeling.

And a few laughs along the way, that just made my day when I wasn't feeling all that good on those days.

Thanks to Susan, all the staff, and all the people of this community for making this a place where everyone belongs and feels accepted.

Love you all,
Sally  :icon_hug:

I post here coz I feel people are more open minded and accepting here then in my own country.

Most TS in my country believe one can only be a woman when you have had surgery, but for me beeing a woman is different and more then that.

One of the biggest reasons why I come here is to build confidence and get myself more confident in my GID.

See in the past even though I knew about it, I really tried to convince myself that it wasn't the way I was, about two years ago I ended the prohibition on writing about it in my diary I had felt that if I talked about it, it became more 'real' which was scary. Later, once I had thoroughly worked over some of these issues in my diary, I felt that I needed to come here and discuss and understand, which helped me build my confidence in myself to the point where recently I finally told someone IRL. I think this site has been instrumental in reducing my fear.

I'm new. I'm here to understand transsexualism :)

I come here for information and to read others experiences, which alot of the time are similar to some of my experiences or feelings. Gives me a sense of not being so alone because I can't relate to anyone around me where I live in many ways. Also to ask questions when I feel the need or to comment on anything not even having to do with trans issues. I like the people, and it seems to be much more drama free than alot of other message boards I have come across in the past!!  :angel:

Quote from: Mythic on March 31, 2010, 09:33:53 PM
I'm new. I'm here to understand transsexualism :)

Welcome to Susan's, Mythic.  :icon_flower:

There's a lot of good information and good people here.  Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common.  Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.

Be sure to look under the Announcements heading.  There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours:

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
  
• Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
  

Look through the other stuff there, too.

Happy exploring. :icon_wave:

- Kate

I come because we all pretty much share the same experiences. Reading the threads is helpful and often gives me the confidence and courage to pursue my dreams :)

I come here because there are like minded people that can understand.

Out in the real world, such people are few and far between.

I came here because of the interesting threads & to speak with open minded people.
Hopefully to gain more confidence as well.

I come on here so i can chill out and not have to worry how others percieve me. I can completley relax, where as out and about in the big wide world i have to restrain myself of like even the way i'd normally walk or sit so i don't get stared at. It's so frustrating i don't really like going out anymore =/  if i didn't have my friend i'd probably be a hermit.

(aw twit! flies landed in me tea )

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and experiences
To find friends
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues

Mostly to make some friends and not feel so alone, I don't know any other trans people in real life yet :(.

"I come to Susan's First and foremost for the obvious...to net-work with like minds...
Secondly, I come to Susan's because I kno' who I am and I don't have to justify meself to anyone (here)...und
Thirdly, I come here because I can be me here, I can socialize tha way I want to und how I want to without someone being derogatorily hypocritical..."

I come here to learn more about how to deal with my issues, how to approach family with my problems, read about others and how they have dealt/are dealing with their own issues, and so on. And, of course, to meet others in a similar situation and network a bit. :)

To be able to have discussions without being moderated from the get-go. I certainly understand being moderated if I do something wrong but when I'm trying to engage in a conversation to have every post moderated is hard for me. I like getting into conversations, getting into them deep and even, sometimes heated.

Hmm... I guess mainly I'm curious about transsexuality.  I have a couple of transwomen friends and I just feel so goddamn sad for them.  It's really unfair...

But anywho, I'm curious about what it's like to be transsexual.  But I feel really bad asking these friends really personal things, because I just want to treat them like normal ladies.  I mean, I don't ask those kinds of probing questions to my, uh... well, for lack of a better term "normal" friends.  But that doesn't prevent me from being curious about this stuff.  If that makes sense...

Education always makes sense. Lurking for ....personal or sexual or the need to see a freak don't. I'm not saying you are the latter. I am saying, that some people are like that. I'm glad you want to 'expand your mind' and learn more and do so without offending friends. That shows compassion.

Quote from: LordKAT on May 25, 2010, 06:45:58 AM
Education always makes sense. Lurking for ....personal or sexual or the need to see a freak don't. I'm not saying you are the latter. I am saying, that some people are like that. I'm glad you want to 'expand your mind' and learn more and do so without offending friends. That shows compassion.

Is that directed at me?  And if so, have I um... have I been offending people?   I'm sorry...  :'(

Maybe I worded that weirdly or something... I just wanna understand more and stuff...  It interests me because it's so sad and ignored by society and stuff... I dunno, I'm not very good at expressing myself... Sorry...   :embarrassed:

No need to be sorry, Legora.  I think LordKAT was saying that your interest in learning more about what it is like to be transsexual is good if you are doing it to be more compassionate and understanding of your TS friends.

But we get some lurkers who are here only for some kind of titillation, thinking we are freaks in the zoo or something.  It's annoying.  We are normal people born with a normal condition of having our bodies and souls misaligned.

Education is good.  Broadening your mind is good.  Realizing that there is more variety in humanity than some narrow-minded people will admit is good.

So stick around, Legora.  Read the rules, particularly Rule 9.  I think that was the one LordKAT was referring to.

Welcome. :icon_wave:

- Kate

Quote from: K8 on May 25, 2010, 08:21:15 AM
No need to be sorry, Legora.  I think LordKAT was saying that your interest in learning more about what it is like to be transsexual is good if you are doing it to be more compassionate and understanding of your TS friends.

But we get some lurkers who are here only for some kind of titillation, thinking we are freaks in the zoo or something.  It's annoying.  We are normal people born with a normal condition of having our bodies and souls misaligned.

Education is good.  Broadening your mind is good.  Realizing that there is more variety in humanity than some narrow-minded people will admit is good.

So stick around, Legora.  Read the rules, particularly Rule 9.  I think that was the one LordKAT was referring to.

Welcome. :icon_wave:

- Kate

Hehe, yeah, sorry.  I, um... I need to learn to take things less personally.  I'm sure you get a lot of people who think of this like... fetish fuel or to be mean or something...

But, um... thank you very much for the warm welcome!  I read the rules, but... I can't remember which one #9 is, hehe.  Thanks!

Legora, You offended no one that I know of. Once again Kate has saved the day and interpreted my post correctly and with better writing than I.

I came here for information. I stay for the company. There are few places online where I can be accepted as myself, without having to explain myself.

In part to find information that I can't really find elsewhere, but also in part to socialize with people who don't get tired of me rambling about gender day-in and day-out. x3


Also, Legora-- you're absolutely welcome here! It's wonderful to see open-minded allies who are willing to learn. Willingness to learn and accept is a valuable quality to have. 83

Quote from: Crow on May 30, 2010, 08:46:50 PM... to socialize with people who don't get tired of me rambling about gender day-in and day-out. x3

lol!! That is *so* true!!! :D

i checked a buncha stuff!

For the intelligent and non-porn oriented conversations.

So I can wear a swim top and a cute hat  :laugh: >:-) :laugh:

I came here because the other trans forum I belong to is too quiet and I wanted to find a busier one. I've seen a few reccomendations for this one in various places.

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces (not much right now)
To find friends
To become part of the online community

To socialize.

The exact reason for my being here, is that in July I fell in love, and when trying to express it, I felt no counter-love, no Anteros calling me from another shore. I hate to remain stuck in such misery, so I felt need to socialize more, and forget the whole episode.

I tried straight, heterosexual date, but I feel it to be a such disaster, as I not really am the man, the women are looking for. Then, what I am, who am I..?

Quote from: Emmik on May 26, 2010, 12:13:34 PM
I came here for information. I stay for the company. There are few places online where I can be accepted as myself, without having to explain myself.

I'll second this.. I continue to learn things and feel very comfortable here.. I also enjoy hanging around in the chat rooms, where I can be me without having to restrain myself or not be too "girly"..

I come here to beat around ideas with interested people, but I stay to beat around Rebis with interested people.

Quote from: Pica Pica on August 10, 2010, 02:12:00 PM
I come here to beat around ideas with interested people, but I stay to beat around Rebis with interested people.

That does sum things up nicely, doesn't it.

My answers:

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and experiences
To gain confidence
To find friends
To try to get others active in the community

I found about this forum after reading Q&As on the LGBT section on Yahoo Answers. For the poll, I picked the following...

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To gain confidence
To straighten out the confused
To learn how do deal with certain issues
Because I know nothing about transgender lives

Quote from: Kairi on August 21, 2010, 10:15:04 AM
I found about this forum after reading Q&As on the LGBT section on Yahoo Answers. For the poll, I picked the following...

lol I found Susans from there too  :D

I don't need anything here for myself, since I've been assimilated completely for over 20 years, however I hope I can pass onto brothers and sisters here some of my knowledge and experiences gained over these many years. I'm not here to argue with anyone upset anyone since we all start from a different point and have our own views.

I initially joined to gain info on specialist medics (m-t-f) surgeons... and any current patient feedbacks....that would affect my decision process.....

(being a veteran of procedures from back in the 1990's) in some cases nowt's really changed....

But then discovered what a bright bunch, and in some casy sassy, thoughtful and witty peeps you be.... so thought I'd get stuck back into the throng of it all for a wee while....while I get my year of part two 2nd generation tweaks done and dusted....

I arrived here to seek information and to gain understanding by reading other's experiences.

So far you people have helped me a lot in sorting out my feelings.  :)

Quote from: Saskia on August 21, 2010, 11:47:11 AM
I don't need anything here for myself, since I've been assimilated completely for over 20 years, however I hope I can pass onto brothers and sisters here some of my knowledge and experiences gained over these many years. I'm not here to argue with anyone upset anyone since we all start from a different point and have our own views.

Me three :) was recommended from there! A bit of a 'harsh' community on Yahoo so nice to see so much support here.

...to try to fit in and be a part of a community.

My disability, however, may hide that and make it seem otherwise.

This is a very active and informative community. There is a lot to be gathered from here.

I came here initially for information, but stuck around for the friendship, knowledge, and sense of family or community. I don't feel so isolated knowing that all of you are out there going through similar things. The support and advise and good conversations of course keep me here as well! =]

Quote from: AprilDawn on October 13, 2010, 05:28:53 PM
I came here initially for information, but stuck around for the friendship, knowledge, and sense of family or community. I don't feel so isolated knowing that all of you are out there going through similar things. The support and advise and good conversations of course keep me here as well! =]

Wow... You just totally nailed it... IMO  :icon_chick:

Thanks Virginia =] I think I nailed it too :p

Why? Never close enough?

There is no purpose in life, so why justify one for being here?

There is an end, yet i haven't even began.

P.S. There is no presistant mute self option on chat.

I'm a cisgendered male, and I don't know anyone--family or friends--that's transgendered. So why am I here? I've been supportive of the transgender community for a long time, even though I'm not part of it myself and don't personally know anyone who is. I enjoy the people that make up the community, and I'd like to learn more about transsexualism and make friends with transgenders.

I discovered this site when I was trying to decide if I'm really ftm and if I should transition.  At times when I've lost interest in transitioning, I've stuck around because this is a nice, friendly community.  I can always relate because I'm definitely genderqueer, but most importantly, I just think this site is informative and full of good people whose posts I enjoy reading.

I really appreciate the fact that I'm recognized as a guy here.  At the moment, this is the only place where that happens.

I go on here and a couple other LGBT sites.  I just want to be able to talk openly about stuff without always being uncertain if someone will troll after me or flame me.  Plus, there's so many smart people on here that I can learn from about this whole path.  And of course, meeting new friends doesn't hurt.  ^^

So far this forum has seemed to me to have the most solidarity. I've been involved in a few GLBT online communities, but the members of this one are able and willing to offer the best support, advice, help, and friendship. I just feel safe and happy here. That's why I keep coming back.

:)

LOL @ 2 people choosing the trolling option.

I come here mostly to gain knowledge on people's experiences.  And also because I like to waste time on the internet in general.  I used to be a huge forum junkie, visiting like a dozen different forums every single day.  I'm glad to say that I've cut my addiction down to only five forums a day!

I come here to learn and socialize.  I have been a part of a couple of message boards before, but they closed down.  When I found this place, I really found that it was fun, interesting, and educational.  Now, I come here because I like and respect people here.

I am cis gendered, but I don't come here so much because it's a transgendered site any more, but because I like the people here and learn a lot, not only, about transgendered issues, but about a lot of things.  I don't know, there are just a lot of fun, intelligent, and interesting people here.  I like it because it is wide, yet intimate.  I know the people who post and there are a lot of people who discuss every issue one can think of. People here are liberal and open-minded.  It's become that the transgendered issue isn't even in the equation for me.  I just have found a group of people that I really like, trust, and respect.

Quote from: April Dawne on October 13, 2010, 05:28:53 PM
I came here initially for information, but stuck around for the friendship, knowledge, and sense of family or community. I don't feel so isolated knowing that all of you are out there going through similar things. The support and advise and good conversations of course keep me here as well! =]

I couldn't have said it better. I wasn't sure what to garner from this site. Initially I figured I might get some answers, some consolation, and perhaps reach a place where I could feel secure in whatever decision I made regarding my SO and our relationship. Instead I was warmly accepted, I continue to gain knowledge and education from everyone here, and I have built meaningful relationships with quite a few people on this site.

I feel as though people here actually care about my feelings, and I genuinely empathize and care about theirs. I never expected that to happen from a support site, but Susan's has completely changed my view of that. I look forward to reading everyone's posts, I look forward to sharing my stories with the people here. It's a great feeling to know a place like this exists for EVERYONE that needs support.

Because we all need a shoulder to cry on, and the more people we find out about the more we understand ourselves.

I actually found out about this place due to a recommendation with the idea that this would be better for me than another trans-based website I visit, especially as I'm young-ish (21, even though I often feel older :D ) and that I'm quite active in terms of posting and visiting sites, so somewhere bigger and with a wider range of people would benefit me more than a smaller site geared towards slightly older people.

The major reason I come here is, kinda obviously, to help straighten out the creases and find the answers deep inside my grey mush, but if I can help someone or give advice then maybe that'll help too. The more open and honest I am about this, the easier it'll be for me to find the answers and the happier I'll be. I've a lot to learn, and there's a lot of people here to learn from.  :)

You totally hit it on the head for me, Jackie.  I have found people who really seem to care about one another.  We get heated up and passionate and get in fights (sort of like families), but there is a honesty here, and caring.  They're isn't a lot of trolling here, and there are a lot of people here who stick around and that we know.  There is actually nothing like this forum.  Either they have a million people that you never see again, plus a lot of horrible trolls, or it's a dead forum.  Kudos to the moderators here.

Jackie, I was a total jerk to you, I'm sorry.

 I came here to become one with the universe...
With Many Hugs,
Suzi S.

I came here because I needed people in my life who were open minded and understood. I stayed because like many others I found a second family here. I love being able to give advice just as much as getting it. I find myself constantly on here because there are so many different types of boards/threads and so many different people. I love learning about new cultures, opinions, and ideas and this seems like the perfect place.

I needed some advice on transition related stuff. I'm already a member on Laura's Playground, but whatever.

I stay because I'm bored and it's a fun site; I like talking about transgender and gender topics too.

Emoboi comes for the food.

I came on the forums to help support others on the boards here.  I want to learn more off of here so I can help others who want to transition and need the help to figure out what to do.  I also enjoying the company here, already being involved with the Caption the Av and TNPTP threads.  I also like welcoming people to new things and I just want to be a good friend to people here.

I've come here to make terible puns and write poetry....
Or, Alternitively, because I feel a bit like a husk right now, not knowing who I am, where I'm going in life, what I really feel about anything and how to make a connection to a person. But that's alright, because I have pie.

I came here to hopefully see if I can find someone who feels like I do i.e. that their internal gender changes every few weeks to a couple of months. Also I'm here to see if I can find how to better explain myself because currently when I ter to explain how I feel inside some people have been like "oh you're probably just an MTF who is a little confused." and while I do thing that could be a possibility I don't think that's the case.

Well, a few years ago I stumbled on the place, browsed around and never really left. There were two people, Cindi and Dennis that played a big role in my hanging around actually, I do admire them greatly.

I came here to gain knowledge and to be part of a family.hugs,rachael

To gain knowledge.
I've talked to a few people online that were on a suicidal forum that I'm on. I felt a bit awkward giving advice when I'm not transgendered myself, but I believe my advice was actually pretty well as I was praised. He also told me he was pan-sexual at one point (I actually had the impression more people would be pan-sexual), and both these things encouraged myself to find a places where I could talk. I read topics every now and again, but my main attraction is the chat room as it enables me to get to talk to someone better (I am pretty lonely, ha).
Just last night I was on Laura's Playground Chat and after talking to two people they went a bit into their personal life.

Guy; My dad's having a hard time believing. I went to a therapy today and after that my dad still wasn't convinced and believes I'm doing it for attention. – I can only protest and tell the person they're not doing it for attention and that he needs to see a gender therapist now. I told him he should consider opening up to his dad to see if he can make him understand.

Girl; I'm going to be telling my parents today as it's my birthday & my friend will be over so they won't argue with me. – I was asking her how her parents were. I told her that doing it on her birthday weren't a great idea. She asked me how I'd approach the subject, so I told her I would say to my parents what they would do if I was to date a transgendered person. This would give me an insight on their reaction to this & if they could it relatively well then that's when you say about yourself.

I've come here just for that little extra helping hand. I've gone through my transition pretty much alone. physically anyway, with a nudge here and there. Without my online friends and a few IRL ones I'd have probably been miserable for the rest of my life. But despite my stubborn streak, so called bravery and positive attitude, I've realized that this is something I cant do alone. So I want to give a little something back.

Like many, I'm here to gain knowledge through others experiences, and come to an understanding about myself. I also want figure out what options would be best for me, about the pros and cons, and maybe build a bit more confidence in seeking help/coming out.

I came here because I wanted to gain Knowledge. I have learned a lot about the lives of other people by reading quite a bit in each of the forum categories.

Raise Hell and Take Over the World!!!  :laugh:

  To share my experiences, to help others with my knowledge, to gain knowledge I haven't heard or experienced before.  To hang out with others with my condition on a friendly, stable forum.
  Joelene

No real reason.. oh wait... to let those that don't know that google images cache images from susans and links them to trans related words. I was doing it earlier and so many pics especially avatars came up I was like hey I know you ....oh wow and you! aahh I remember that pic! holy crap I hope no pics of me show up! wait I hardly ever post pics... ......but still :/

I wonder if the backend programming team have the ability to stop this from happening? no meta?

To support my other half. We began the journey together, and its finally nice to find a location that accepts the partner! All too often I've felt excluded - or have been. I hate that! But I've also recognized that NB needed somewhere to talk to others going through similar things, but this is the first time we've found somewhere that is inclusive. So, thank you so much for that!

I've been a reader for awhile and now I'm posting.  Gee, everything's going so fast.

"I come to Susan's, because of ALL tha beautiful, interesting pee-pole who post here...of course...duh!"  ;D

I joined because i've been a member of another trans site in the UK for years but have become tired of the hostility there. I came here hoping to find a more varied group of trans people, better understanding and respectful interactions.

Quote from: ChloeDharma on August 19, 2011, 07:00:06 PM
I joined because i've been a member of another trans site in the UK for years but have become tired of the hostility there. I came here hoping to find a more varied group of trans people, better understanding and respectful interactions.

"I understand completely what you are saying ChloeD...but then, MyDear, there is "Hostility" und "Belligerence" where ever one may travel...!"

"But, however true this may be, still welcome to OUR home...and I do hope you find aplace here..amongst 'like-minds'"

Quote from: ChloeDharma on August 19, 2011, 07:00:06 PM
I joined because i've been a member of another trans site in the UK for years but have become tired of the hostility there. I came here hoping to find a more varied group of trans people, better understanding and respectful interactions.

We may or may not be talking about the same website, but I have self-exiled myself from the really big one because there is a GG mod there who threatened me over a post that I (as a MTF CDer) made in support of my FTM brothers, implying that I had no right to comment on their thoughts or joureny. BTW - the post was not insulting, questioning, off colour or otherwise off-base, but rather on the commonality in all our journeys. I decided I no longer wanted to participate where abuse by the mods ruled the roost.

I spent the next 6 months looking for other places to socialise. My reasons for desiring, in fact needing this socialisation, is because I want to offer hope to others like me (particularly CDers) that it all works out, but also, once again, support my brothers.

A part of my journey is that a very good friend is FTM and  we have talked at great length about his journey. The deepest pathos I experienced, is when I held him in my arms as he cried because his family situation (married with two kids) has made his transition next to impossible. Having shared so much of his journey, I hope not only learn more, but also act as almost a voice for them amongst my sisters.

Another part is that, while places like this have helped me to know that I am not alone, there are still times when, I do feel alone amongst my CDing peers because I like FTM CDers (which BTW I understand as distinct from FTM TS people, particularly as reference above), as I feel like that's where my other 'half' of the world is.

I think I'm getting too weird her as words are failing me, so I'll just say -- I'm here

Huggles

Toni-Lynn

Quote from: ChloeDharma on August 19, 2011, 07:00:06 PM
I joined because i've been a member of another trans site in the UK for years but have become tired of the hostility there. I came here hoping to find a more varied group of trans people, better understanding and respectful interactions.

Can understand that, I came here for similar reasons although the UK site I came from was LGBTQI rather than just T. Maybe it's a UK thing, who knows :)

I came because I am lonely and I don't have anywhere to go...

Now I come to Susan's to socialize and help others.

In my transition time there was no internet, there was even not a real community, we where with such a few people.
More than 30 years ago I started transition, I was lucky with the looks as a female looking boy and I never had comments about passing, I had bad luck with accepting from family and friends.
I passed into the bunch of cis girls friends, some of them knew about my transition, but I could never speak about it, because they didn't had a glue what's like to go for transition, they saw me as one of the girls and that's it.
One of my best friends told me that it looked horrible to her but she said I can't imagine how this must feel.

No I'm talking with people who are dealing with the same thing, I don't have to explain, you get the message.
I think that's great, people who I can understand and despite my horrible English they understand me.

I made friends here, and this year I had the opportunity to visit two of them, isn't that wonderful?
Beside that, I hope that my experience can contribute to people who are making the journey that I've made.
I know about the fears, the rejecting and the feeling of being an outlaw.
I made mistakes by taking the comments of family and friends seriously and that maked me sad.
I hope to prevent that others will make the same mistakes as I did.

Another reason is....I like it here, there are plenty of nice and friendly people and some comments are written with a great sense of humor (thanks for that Tekla) So, give me a reason why I should not be here.

hugs all
Annette

I need someplace to go! I was a mod a at another forum and because I was trying to be of service to our community I spent a great deal of time there. I lost that recently and I need somewhere to share with my brothers and sisters. I am using the same name because I can be no one else and so it feels a bit odd here. I know there are people here who know me from the other site and I hope we can find each other here. I guess I am just really disappointed with the way things turned out. It really hurts. I was there for over a year and a half and had thousands of posts. Now its all gone! The terrible thing about it is my hormones are so screwed up I can't even cry about it. I don't have anybody to tak with about it who understands what these online communities become for us. I won't go back and so I am starting over again here.

Huggs

Emily

I feel I am very successful and rather than living in "stealth" I'd rather hear a different perspective and maybe inspire some people. To learn, to grow. I am not really part of the transgendered community IRL, so I reserve the stuff to online forums.

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues
To understand my SO
To support my SO

I just need as much support as i can get. I'm weak like that. And proud of it!

Ugh, I can't even imagine sorting all of this out by myself. Plus it helps me cope a lot. And you know, socializing is nice too, I'm really repressed everywhere else, not so much at home but mainly at school and other places and on other forums and stuff.

I come here to feel safe.

To share my knowledge and expereinces
And
To support my SO. :)  :D

Up until this week, I posted/lurked on a different trans* related forum, but due to various reasons, will no longer be frequenting that board.  I think I'll be be coming here from now on for the learning and such.  Also to support a few friends.

To understand/support my SO, and because I know next to nothing about transgender lives, but I'm starting to get somewhere now thanks to this forum and you wonderful people :)

I dunno, curiosity maybe. I used to be more a part of the trans community, but over the last several years, I pulled back and I guess I am sort of sticking my head back in to see if anything has really changed.

I visit Susan's to learn from others knowledge and experience. Thank you to Susan and all the positive people! :)

Jennifer

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To debate an issue
To gain confidence
To find friends
To straighten out the confused
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues
:) I think thats about it
Oh Also because it's a fun site to be on

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To become part of the online community

Because that's all I do with my life. Basically.

I love it because its not so personal which can quickly become a clique and that can become a place where people start trying to trash each other or the lowest on the totem pole where soon there are only a few who stay because they dare not be seen for who they are in the public at large so they are then forced to stay connected and yet they start looking for new people to join and thusly attack again the person they feel is the lowest on their totem pole.


Yepper here at susans you can get lost in the crowd and be a part of many crowds and know that somewhere here is a place for everybody..

its not a place where people are put into power as monitors who then seek people they can boot..

yepper gotta love susans and the variety  ;) :D ;D >:( :( :o 8) ??? ::) :P :-X :-\ :-* :'( >:-) :angel: ^-^ :laugh: :police: :angel: :embarrassed:

Keaira has been linking me here since i've known her and i've read the forums a fair bit, but now i think i need another community for support with all that's going on...

Quote from: Amazon D on February 24, 2012, 06:17:06 PM
I love it because its not so personal which can quickly become a clique and that can become a place where people start trying to trash each other or the lowest on the totem pole where soon there are only a few who stay because they dare not be seen for who they are in the public at large so they are then forced to stay connected and yet they start looking for new people to join and thusly attack again the person they feel is the lowest on their totem pole.


Yepper here at susans you can get lost in the crowd and be a part of many crowds and know that somewhere here is a place for everybody..

its not a place where people are put into power as monitors who then seek people they can boot..

yepper gotta love susans and the variety  ;) :D ;D >:( :( :o 8) ??? ::) :P :-X :-\ :-* :'( >:-) :angel: ^-^ :laugh: :police: :angel: :embarrassed:

Amazon that is a weapons-grade run on sentence. ;D
I dig the use of all the smilies too.

Quote from: Felix on March 03, 2012, 07:46:39 PM
Amazon that is a weapons-grade run on sentence. ;D
I dig the use of all the smilies too.

I once wrote a 300 word composition in one sentence to get back at my teacher.. Yea my mind gets going and it doesn't stop for grammer.

Because the people on this forum are the closest I get to interacting with trans people and this forum is the only place where I can interact as trans and as female.

I came here for the food.....

Lol no I really came here as a method of coping and meeting other trans folks since there are no LBGT resources/groups near me or no hope of transitioning anytime soon.  If this site wasn't available then I would go insane.

Quote from: Malachite on March 14, 2012, 04:37:19 PM
I came here for the food.....

Me too, they don't half make a mean burger. That reminds me I used to have a forum once with my friends and we had a 'bar' where we used to 'eat' and 'drink' whilst chatting and pretend to steadily get drunk. We had quite a few bar fights as well. You couldn't say we didn't have imagination.

I come on here to chat to people without having the weight of knowing they don't know I'm ftm. Especially I like that even though they know I'm ftm they simply think of me as male and not 'the boy that used to be a girl'

I come to Susan's because I am respected for who I am, I feel a sense of belonging and family, and I like to share support and information with others, as well as make people smile and feel loved. :)

Quote from: April Dawne on March 14, 2012, 05:29:49 PM
I come to Susan's because I am respected for who I am, I feel a sense of belonging and family, and I like to share support and information with others, as well as make people smile and feel loved. :)

I actually couldn't think of a better way to say it than this., Yeah +1 for this post - if there was such a "Like" button. :)  :)

 :) thanks Kitty  :) Hugs!

I'm looking for people to talk to Who are also transgender.  I'm deep stealth.

Needed some knowledge, some help, and a community..
Figured I could find it here~

To help me sort out wtf is going on with me and to find a supportive community.

To gain more knowledge to help me make decisions I face now and ones I know will be coming at me in the next few years....

This is the only place, the only place, in the entire world where people understand what non-binary is all about.

I certainly don't, and I am one!

Odd that I never posted in this thread before.

Hmm... over time my reasons have changed, sometimes subtly, sometimes drastically.

Now... to try and understand why people think the way they do, to gain insight on why they feel the way they feel, and to see the shifting visions of this world through countless new eyes. To maybe share what calm, strength, and empathy I have inside with others, so that they never feel alone, as I have at times. To attempt to instil a sense of purpose, hope, and the courage to believe that, regardless of circumstance, there is always a light in the darkness, even if walking towards it involves the hardest steps one ever has to take. :)

Wow, those are beautiful sentiments.

I came here primarily to find advice, to feel safe, and to be able to talk on a website where the majority understand what I am going through. Though my friends are (for the most part) incredibly wonderful people who listen and help all they can, I always desire another person like me to talk to, who understands first hand, and not just what they've been told and come to accept.  A sense of acceptance, understanding, and on some levels, empathy, are very nice.

The main reason for me coming here is to socialize, I really want to make friends with other trans* people and I wish this could be just the right place for that! Also, I'm looking for little- and big brothers for me - I want a little brother so bad, because there's nothing I want as much than helping someone out when they need it the most; if it's with coming out, questions about transition and so on... I want to be the support and help for someone! But yeah, I also want a big brother, someone who's had his genital surgery and could give me support and advices.

Yeah, that's why I'm here.

I wanted to talk about being trans with people, but mainly I wanted to talk about myself as a guy, as a trans guy, so as to see if it was something I wanted to commit to as part of my identity, and to learn ways of talking about it to people--a personal vocabulary, if you will.

That this forum has a great many older members of the community (and is quite active) was why I stayed past 15 minutes. I really like hearing the voices of many generations on issues, and Tumblr is mainly people my age or younger, so it's good to have a different set of people to hear from.

Quote from: jokkemies on May 12, 2012, 09:09:19 PM
The main reason for me coming here is to socialize, I really want to make friends with other trans* people and I wish this could be just the right place for that! Also, I'm looking for little- and big brothers for me - I want a little brother so bad, because there's nothing I want as much than helping someone out when they need it the most; if it's with coming out, questions about transition and so on... I want to be the support and help for someone! But yeah, I also want a big brother, someone who's had his genital surgery and could give me support and advices.

Yeah, that's why I'm here.

You might consider posting a short biography in the "Introductions" board.  Welcome!

I guess I just wanted to find a place that specialized in Trans matters, with people with intimate or personal experiences in it- I'm already on a couple of LGBT boards, but I was hoping for something a little more specialised.

Plus, one can never have too many friends online (offline, it's easy- not that I'd know).

I am Bobbi.  ;) I guess you could call me a Closet TG, perhaps an incorrect term, I don't advertise to the world, although I can't hide my Breasts and the Stretch Marks are forever. I really can't believe how fast they have grown. I do not belong to a group or have TG friends. I do not know the Nomenclature. I search Online because I have more Questions than Answers.

Suddenly a little after 12:01 AM, February 1, 2011 I couldn't breathe. I found later that day that I had DVT and a Pulmonary Embolism. A lot of Blood Clots passed through my Heart on the way to Both of my Lungs. The first hospital thought I had a Heart Attack from Enzyme Test Results and transferred me to a Heart Hospital where they eventually discovered the truth. I am Very Happy to be ALIVE Today!! Most Die.

Since they have found I have a Mutant Gene and I am Predisposed to Blood Clots and DVT, I guess just like my Grandfather. I always thought the Blood Clots and his PE were from an injury, a Bull smashing him in a gate. I wish I had only known. I'm on Coumadin/Warfarin for Life.

This why I am here? I have told more than I will probably share in months. I hope you will not mind me peeking around, I have off and on for a couple of years.

Take Care All  :-*

Well it's not like I am coming out or anything like that I live in San Francisco so I've seen it all, I think being here is important because I have been through so much I want to help, aid, or whatever any TS with answers even if she really wants to know if your bums huge I will never lie, promise.

I come to Susan's in order to meet others and share experiences, knowledge, etc. Mainly it is to meet others and just surround myself with others who understand.

Just to find a little info on certain issues, not much interaction on here with other people, but that's life i suppose,

I was going nuts with the dysphoria, and telling about it only to people I knew they would say I was wrong. In the end I decided to ask somebody who had been on this same situation. And it was for the better.

I need to be part of a community who understands our issues.  It is good to not feel alone in all of this.  The other learning stuff is good as well.

Love,

Davina

To gain knowledge.
To share knowledge and//or experiences (Regardless of how lacking one of those might be in certain regards. :P)
To find inner peace.

Other --> To bring a little bit of humor to serious discussions.  ;D

To interact with others and to gain some clarity.  I just want to feel that I am not alone and that it's not wrong to be me.

lolz at the to go trolling option  >:-)

Umm, what's trolling?  ???

Quote from: Laura91 on October 29, 2012, 01:27:08 PM
Trolls are pathetic. While there is nothing wrong with having a sense of humor "trolling" is just stupid and sad. It isn't funny at all.

um thanks for your two cents? lmfao

::) ::) ::)

Quote from: DianaP on October 29, 2012, 01:35:51 PM
Umm, what's trolling?  ???

http://lmgtfy.com/?q=trolling (http://lmgtfy.com/?q=trolling)

estas agredecida ^o^

*Agradecida

And, yes, I am thankful. Now I know.  :)

Quote from: DianaP on October 29, 2012, 01:46:59 PM
*Agradecida

And, yes, I am thankful. Now I know.  :)

damn typos :3

Now that I think about it, this website may have saved my life.  :o

Whenever I feel sad (and I mean VERY sad, i.e, suicidal sad) I always feel better to know that there are other people like me who have actually managed to make the best out of being trans and lead normal lives, despite all of the social stigma associated with people like us.

Why do I come to Susans? Well there is no other T* resource quite like it. The rest of the T* sites on the web are, in comparison, rubbish.

Personally I would prefer to be banned from this place because it is too addictive for me. I get too drawn into the discussions and spend far, far too much time here. The negative posters really get to me and it sets me off. I can read the forums without getting too upset but having the ability to respond to the nay-sayers just sucks me in and upsets me. I come across people who sometimes just seem to want to argue and run other people down and tell them that they are wasting their time transitioning and I cannot stand on the sidelines and I get drawn in to the discussion. I find myself unable to stand aside and watch a person wanting help being told that they are wrong or will always be ugly or unable to pass. There is enough pain in transition without having that rammed down your throat.

It is just not Susans, it happens on other forums too, but this one is so much easier to use and so much more active that the effects are worse for me. I have had accounts here in the past. With the first one I got really badly upset by a group of five posters and I practically ran screaming from the forum. With the second account, when I deleted it I emailed Susan and asked her to block my IP address (which is static) so I could never access this place again because I knew I would be back. I guess she did not because here I am again.

I am not blaming Susan for this. That would be both inane and ungrateful of me. Many people find great comfort here and this place may have even saved lives. No, I know the fault is mine and the flaw lies within me, but that does not make it any less painful for me.

Quote from: Laura91 on October 29, 2012, 01:27:08 PM
Trolls are pathetic. While there is nothing wrong with having a sense of humor "trolling" is just stupid and sad. It isn't funny at all.

I think CoolCat was pointing out it is a humorous option on the poll!

I appreciate the primal scream therapy that results from my interactions here.

Other. I work here!

To find friends, to socialize, to troll. ;)

I seek the knowledge of other transgender people to help me become what I want to be, as well as to interact and build an online frendship with those people <3

I was just curious about transgender people.

Babysit teenage trolls  :laugh: 

(Just kidding)

To learn from the wise old people.

annoy old people

just kidding

Why, you whippersnapper, if I get out of this rocking chair, you're in big trouble, I tell ya!

I want a rocking chair, they seem fun, I'd probably want a pipe too :P.

Quote from: Jamie D on October 29, 2012, 03:08:10 PM
I think CoolCat was pointing out it is a humorous option on the poll!

I appreciate the primal scream therapy that results from my interactions here.

Yeah, but I was just commenting on internet trolling in general.

Quote from: Brooke777 on October 29, 2012, 10:15:54 PM
To learn from the wise old people.

You mean JamieD? since when were they wise?

Quote from: Cindy James on October 30, 2012, 02:33:53 AM
You mean JamieD? since when were they wise?

I did not say they are the wise one....old, yes. Wise....mmmmmmm

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 29, 2012, 10:23:03 PM
Why, you whippersnapper, if I get out of this rocking chair, you're in big trouble, I tell ya!

Hey I am the only one allowed to annoy DM!

You've been slacking off, though. I need a new annoyer.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 30, 2012, 02:43:28 PM
You've been slacking off, though. I need a new annoyer.

D: I'll try harder! Ya know?

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 30, 2012, 02:43:28 PM
You've been slacking off, though. I need a new annoyer.

I'm gonna steal one of Cindy's brands and sneak up behind you.. Left cheek or right?

That brand of justice seems to be your answer to everything!

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 30, 2012, 04:48:20 PM
That brand of justice seems to be your answer to everything!

Would you prefer a simple spanking?  >:-)

I has been replaced.

(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fimg585.imageshack.us%2Fimg585%2F9083%2F1345931830188.gif&hash=ee2fc71a6f8e7569d0bbdbc6a16894a828b0e2ff)

No, no, no! <positioning Snowpaw so her butt is between me and the branding iron> Of course I still need you!

Good question, kinda just ended up here somehow after a string of events..

shows up as top result in many of the transgender-related terms i google.. often the only relevant result

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 31, 2012, 06:10:15 AM
No, no, no! <positioning Snowpaw so her butt is between me and the branding iron> Of course I still need you!

*yips and hops off happily* yay ^_^ and ow

Yeah, it stings. You get used to it.

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 31, 2012, 04:45:11 PM
Yeah, it stings. You get used to it.

You mean there will be more? O.o

Just a few.....

Quote from: Devlyn Marie on October 31, 2012, 05:10:15 PM
Just a few.....

:O

To help others and offer advice/support and make friends.!n the late 70's when I realised I was transexual  and it would never go awayI didn't know any other TS or organisation.10 years later things weren't much better when I started to make the journey

To get reconnected with the TG community as I've been stealth for so long. It is a safe place but it can also be a very lonely existence never being able to talk to others who understand.

To annoy Jamie.   ;D

Mission accomplished!  ::)

Quote from: Jamie D on November 24, 2012, 10:40:08 PM
Mission accomplished!  ::)

So you are saying that I am annoying, huh?   I knew it!


:icon_sadblinky:

I come for advice, for giving and accepting support, and to be able to see discussions with people who share the fact that they are trans in common. In my every day life I am surrounded by cis, mostly straight people. Hopefully some day I will be able to help others by sharing experiences, I do enjoy being able to help others.

I come to learn, socialize and be part of a community in no particular order  ;D

Lucia,

First, as I've not really spoken to anyone in real life about this to see if I had a hope of passing one day, now to learn more until I can build up some courage to actually come out about it, eventually maybe to help others in return but I'm a complete newb with everything trans so that wont be happening anytime too soon :P

To undermine the community of the website!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(https://www.susans.org/proxy.php?request=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.pic4ever.com%2Fimages%2F15_9_171.gif&hash=a7c4d7508361a0cdaea4f5ecbaddc017a96e161f)

HEHE!! Nah I came here to have a personal informational source I could use instead of all the outdated websites.

My choices for other are:

To be a positive role model for those coming through the process

To show that one can have a really happy life after all is said and done

To try and teach myself to be more understanding and tolerant of the less fortunate members of our community.

Quote from: Simon on November 24, 2012, 08:56:18 PM
To get reconnected with the TG community as I've been stealth for so long. It is a safe place but it can also be a very lonely existence never being able to talk to others who understand.

Amen brother :)

I come to Susan's to learn from others' experiences and feelings as I learn more about myself and attempt to find my best path forward.

And as I make my way down whatever path that may be I plan to share my experiences so they may be of value to others in similar circumstances.

I also hope to build some friendships along the way.

I just need some socializing and tips on how to live before transitioning, how people did it, maybe to find someone with a similar experience, and just somewhere that will tolerate me

Well I chose

To gain confidence

To find inner peace

Mostly because of my situation... Want to transition for the past 15 years, yet cant due to family... Need to get out my feelings somehow.

I come here mostly to relax, see what others are talking about, chat with others, and enjoy myself.

to meet people like me

I come here to find support for things, as well as socialise, and distract myself when I feel bad.

I was still in denial when i found this place. I tried out some of the voice techniques "just for fun" and they made me realize that with the right technique, i can actually sing some of my favorite songs. A few days later i finally came to a realization and now i'm here.

There's a lot of info and knowledge here and I have a lot of questions.

This website's abundance in relevant information is incredibly helpful for me. I've been lurking here for the past eight months on a regular basis.

I come here to gain knowledge, to support and be supported, as well as become a part of the online community.

I transitioned SO long ago (1974) and lived stealth for so many years that I don't think my experiences are very relevant today so I feel like a relic from a bygone age. I lost all contact with 'the community' when I transitioned and returned to see what things were like 30 years later and I stayed because every once in a while the opportunity arises to offer a historical perspective or some glimpses of life long after transitions. It IS a much different world today!

Just seen this has been updated.

Mmmm, I think my thoughts have changed. As they should.

I'm now a player in trans* rights. I run my own support site and what I support do here is just icing on the cake.

Why? I'm not too sure. I can, so I do.

Most of all for the support people gave me when I needed it.

And for one very special phone call from a woman who couldn't take it any-more.

It haunts me, it always will.

I come here so I never receive the same phone call ever again.

RIP my sister

I'm sorry.

I appreciate your support Cindy as it is so hard.
Thank you for being there for us as I know about phone calls you never want to get.

I come here because I can be me, and relate with others without being judged.
I can have fun with as well as start helping others.
I don't want to be alone dealing with this.
I can share my small steps and successes.

Susan's has allowed me accept who I am and that I am not alone, This has always been very very hard and confronting but something I always knew I had to do.

J

I'm not ready to be me in the real world yet. I wouldn't be accepted at home or at school as a guy. So this seemed like a place where I can be the guy I feel like I should be.

This forum has been popping up consistantly in my google searches on various transgender questions for the past couple of years, after I came to my self-realization it became clear to me that there's no better way to learn about transgender stuff than from other transgender people so I have been wanting to join this forum for a while and I've just now finally gotten around to doing it.

I still don't know anybody here, so that will take some time.

I come here to gain knowledge and seek guidance and support.  The more resources I have, the larger base I have to draw from as my love continues her journey. As I gain this knowledge I hope that not only can I support her , but that I can be a positive force in my local community. 

For knowledge, as well as support. There's no trans* groups in my city, nor do I know any transgender folk offline, so internet communities suffice.

What is really funny is it said you may ONLY select 20 heck that is ALL of them

There are Four groups in my city - Two with a pro - one free and one pay - this group actually tossed me out of it's facebook group for some unknown reason - I think for not attending soon enough - - the other two groups have these very young people who are more oriented towards bi gender and gender fluid and are much younger than me and have said very hurtful things to me.

I originally came here after starting at a different site which had a less friendly forum and I am autistic and need an easier forum.

I need information.

interaction for friends

I am moving to a new city where I plan to be completely stealth as a lesbian and I have to have an outlet if I can't talk in real life I have to do it somewhere I mean I can't do it on my Tumb1r!   :angel:

I started using the forums for knowledge and information, but now I'm mostly coming back for inspiration and to be a member of a community that actually accepts me.   :)

I am glad the I have gotten to know you "vegie."  I think I am a better person for the experience.

I came here for the ladies!  ;) ;) ;)

:P

I come here because it's nice to have a place where I can post my thoughts and opinions without the fear of people overanalyzing them. Sometimes I feel like cis people read a lot into the things I say in order to try and understand my transition better, but with trans people, I know that I can say things and generally be understood.

i didn't particularly come to this place, it was only a few weeks after i had discovered the correct terminology for my gender and the tension was getting pretty high. i needed some serious help from somebody who would understand my problem, so i googled something like 'help for trans men' and stumbled upon this, and i knew this was what i was looking for. and i joined straight away! it has helped me a lot to bear the tension and feel confident...

i have been around for years actually. i lost my old password. any idea how i can find it?

I came here--very recently--to learn more about what it means to be transgendered. I think, after thiry-three years of giving this whole "female" thing a go, it's really not for me. And I've known as far back as I can reliably remember, which is five years old, that I wanted to be male. The desire has never, until recently, been especially dramatic within me, just a deep, bedrock need to be male. It's only recently that I've begun to explore my options. This forum seems like a good, friendly place to start doing so.

:D

I came here long ago from a faraway galaxy.... Oh, wait, that's from another movie.  ;)

What was it, eight years ago I first came here?  Boy was I locked deeply in the closet!  And totally afraid of telling anyone.  I needed to converse with people who could empathize.  I had a lot of questions too.

What I learned is it's better to be yourself and start a new life than live a life pretending to be someone you think those around you want in their lives.

I'm fairly new here. When I recently decided I was going to finally transition, a trans friend of mine said I should seek out some support groups. I did a little Googling looking for local groups, and also found Susan's. I figured it would be a good way to learn more, and interact with other transgendered people.

I enjoy reading people's experiences, especially when it comes to things like FFS, and also just little day to day things. I'm currently still living as a male, so I enjoy hearing about member's who are living as female.

I also find it very inspiring to see the before and after pictures, etc. All in all I'm happy to have found Susan's and I enjoy interacting with the members.  ;D

Quote from: Julie Marie on November 24, 2013, 12:38:33 PM
I came here long ago from a faraway galaxy.... Oh, wait, that's from another movie.  ;)

What was it, eight years ago I first came here?  Boy was I locked deeply in the closet!  And totally afraid of telling anyone.  I needed to converse with people who could empathize.  I had a lot of questions too.

What I learned is it's better to be yourself and start a new life than live a life pretending to be someone you think those around you want in their lives.

Great to see you Julie Marie  :)   Hope things are going well with you

Hugs

I came here to learn more about the trans community, make friends and offer any meager advice I can.

I'll stay here to learn more about the trans community, make new friends and support my boyfriend.  ;)

Quote from: big head horsey-faced marsh monster on November 25, 2013, 03:07:08 PM
I originally came here just for the interaction and to see what the trans community is up to, albeit a small portion of it.

I stay because of the interaction and because of a few great people that I care about and enjoy annoying...   :P

It's working.....

When I come here I feel like I'm not hiding. I guess it makes my closet a little bigger. 

why? enlightnement and conversation.

To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and experiences

I'm mainly here to snoop on you people.

I joined to be able to be myself with a family in denial. And to learn how othr people feel.

Because I'm terrified and apprehensive and ecstatic about what's coming in my life, and as incredibly supportive my family and boyfriend are, sometimes I need to get things out and get a perspective from an outside source, as well as find a supportive community for the myriad questions that, no matter how much I've thought about this, I had no way of seeing coming.

This place helps me not think. Work used to help distract me from what a still have to do, who I haven't told yet ect.. Now this helps as well and here I can also ask for help with any questions I have

Mostly for tips, knowledge and some insight into TG lives.  Even before the desire to CD became strong, I was always curious.

I found this site purely by accident  it's been the best accident of my life  this site and the great ppl here have helped to set the real me free.  This chic is never goin back.

Oh you know a place to talk with people like me. To start friendships, be inspired, ask for advice, and if I needed a shoulder to cry on this community is here for me. It is the community that drove me to come out, I was scared and alone, you guys and girls showed me that I wasn't.

The thing that I saw on this forum that had the most impact on me was the transition before and after photos. After so many years of repression the woman that I am came out, crying to be free.

"Please don't withhold this from me.

" it's just not fair."

Now things are looking up. I'm out to most of the people that matter in my life, and now it seems I might be starting hormones soon. So I am extremely hopeful for the future now. When I saw no hope this forum gave me hope.

To put the impact that Susan's has had on me in mere words would be completely ludicrous. How I just wish I could convey how grateful I am to this community of transgendered people.

Your friend,
TB/SS

Quote from: Julie Marie on November 24, 2013, 12:38:33 PM
I came here long ago from a faraway galaxy.... Oh, wait, that's from another movie.  ;)

What was it, eight years ago I first came here?  Boy was I locked deeply in the closet!  And totally afraid of telling anyone.  I needed to converse with people who could empathize.  I had a lot of questions too.

What I learned is it's better to be yourself and start a new life than live a life pretending to be someone you think those around you want in their lives.

Hey you! I was thinking about you today wondering whatever happened to you. I hope life is going well for you in your corner of the world :) Meghan

Nice to see you Meghan. I hope you are travelling well.

Hugs

It's like a home and family to me.  I know that sounds weird, but the site is very important to me.   Why I come here depends on the day and how I'm feeling.  Overall, I would be hard pressed about leaving.  It's nice to relate with people that understand.  Maybe I won't be as active in the future as it can be time consuming here, as is life when you got things going on, but I can't see myself ever going away even when my transition is only background noise.  It's been too important to my life and I'm sure it will be for many others.  At the end of the day, even if I won't need support myself in the future, I would like to do what I can to help others as best as I can.  Especially the youth that are searching for answers like I once was and still am in the process of doing, hopefully I'll find them, lol. 

To gain knowledge, confidence and to make new friends.

Plus I think for people going though tough, life changing situations its good to have the online community where people are supportive (and more importantly understanding) where we can get the support we may not necessarily get at home, I'm lucky that my family is somewhat neutral to the idea but I have a friend who's family basically mocks her for transitioning but she has little choice but to put up with it for now since there is no alternative.

Boredom. Plus there's some cool peeps.

To be seen as as and treated as the person I really am without having to put up any walls.  This place has been like a bulldozer helping me remove barriers that I have placed in my own way.  Thank you all.

I think my reasons have changed the longer Ive been here and the further I've gotten in my transition, and really even my life. 

Well, in Italy the FtM community is kind of underground and we don't have a big place like this to share our experiences, stories and knowledge. I come here to try to help other people in transition, while I let them support and help myself.
Oh and to improve my English too ;D

This place is a huge resource for me and will very much be my support when I come out to parents next week.

I wanted to meet people who understand my experiences of the world as a transgender person. Some of my old friends - who, all credit to them, stuck by me - look kind of blank/uncomfortable if I start talking about trans stuff. Makes me feel really sad and distanced from them, even though I know they love me. But I can also sense that they don't totally understand, and I guess I don't have the confidence to push it. So long story short: I come to the board to feel less isolated and to pick up tips about dealing with tricky situations like love affairs and public nudity. :P

To socialize, gain confidence, meet/make friends and be a part of the online community :3

I selected

To gain knowledge
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues

I am primarily here to gain knowledge and support as I plan to come out. I find I love this site and it is helping me to gain peace daily :)

I've always enjoyed coming to Susan's place for a number of reasons, but specifically because: I like to socialize, to gain knowledge, to share my knowledge and experiences, to gain confidence, to find inner peace,  to become part of the online community and to learn how do deal with certain issues.  

Quote from: Gina Taylor on July 21, 2014, 01:10:08 PM
I've always enjoyed coming to Susan's place for a number of reasons, but specifically because: I like to socialize, to gain knowledge, to share my knowledge and experiences, to gain confidence, to find inner peace,  to become part of the online community and to learn how do deal with certain issues.

You have got it right there Gina some great reasons to come here.

I really miss posting in a forum, that's how I started making friends years ago.. I'm tired of Fb, I spend too much time there, and it's difficult getting comments on issues, or finding new issues like you have here.. I feel really comfortable in the trans and LGBT community, I've made some great friends over the years.. Why here specifically.? It was the first place I clicked on, I read some of the forums, and liked the way you do things here.. That's about it I guess..?

To find friends but it's not a really easy thing to do

I'm a troll >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-) >:-)

just stalking someone...

Knowledge and support. As well as just a shoulder to cry on.

I also like lively discussion.

I came here to support my friend and learn what she is going through.

For the free soda's, and fried chicken buffet every Friday...  ;D

Quote from: Mark3 on August 28, 2014, 09:30:32 AM
For the free soda's, and fried chicken buffet every Friday...  ;D

is there a chop suey day

Quote from: stephaniec on August 28, 2014, 10:17:59 AM
is there a chop suey day

"Chop Suey Tuesdays"..! Yay..  :)

Quote from: Mark3 on August 28, 2014, 09:30:32 AM
For the free soda's, and fried chicken buffet every Friday...  ;D

Yum, yes. And chop suey tuesdays. ^_^ I'm game!

I like the sound of Fridays around here :)

I come for the community, and to try find more friends around my own age. Most of the trans people I've met in my home town are older and as great as they can be I wish I knew more trans people my age.

hoping to find some specific ftm support - I have a couple of mtf acquaintances in the real world but know of only one ftm and not well enough to feel comfortable approaching him. It's also nice to have somewhere to talk through stuff in between shrink sessions and give my friends a break from all the one-track conversation.

I come here to try to find other people like me; share what I know; socialize; and express myself as male in a safe environment.

I try to gain confidence and some support in my own transition since I basically have none in my life... but honestly I will probably stop coming here. It's all just too depressing for me. I just can't handle other people's transitions anymore. Everyone seems to have a friend they can talk to, or a parent who cared, or started hormones young or had surgery already.

Maybe I just need a year to myself to figure things out because I just feel like a wreck in a lot of aspects of my life and being around other people going through the same thing isn't really helping.

To share common thoughts and feelings

I came here to find a safe environment to find help and make new friends.
I have tried a few other trans support groups, but ended up leaving them as all they did was try and hate cis people 24/7 instead of working on being supportive, and hate was not what I was looking for. Coming here, everyone works on being supportive and friendly and having fun instead of fueling the hate further, its a positive experience in my opinion

Because I meet the best people ever and I always feel good about myself for it.

*starts hug chain reaction*

Everyone hug two people and tell them to do the same.

*hugs everyone* ... I can't choose just two :D

I was hoping to find Buddha, Gandhi, Mohammad ,Jesus ,Confucius or Einstein or someone of similar knowledge to show me the path to an enlightened transition

idk, I like online forums and felt like I would be able to connect with people better here than on an impersonal site like ->-bleeped-<-

I want to go on a Queer forum which isn't focused on gay issues.

mostly for knowledge.  the amount of helpful information on the forums here is amazing, and most of it isn't outdated so you can go back and read old posts on things. 
but also to see the amazing progress of the ladies and gentlemen here for inspiration for myself.  and for helping build hope in myself that its possible to be happy by reading about other peoples experiences.

I found this place when I was googling tips on passing and then decided to stick around because there aren't very many forums like this that still have a pulse and are cozy at the same time.

I come here because no where else have I found such acceptance, not just for myself but for everyone who comes here. I've never before seen an online community like this.

And it's the only place in the world where I have never felt like a complete misfit.

I'm not what I would consider shy by any stretch, but when I first started to post it did have an odd 'going out on a limb' feel.  I was sure that once people read my crazy wonderings I would be shown the door, not only did this 'not' happen, but people actually responded!!!!!!!!  I kinda figured, well this just might be a worthwhile place to be.  Sure enough this just gets reinforced every day.   Dani

Well, I'm kind of shy, so just to meet people and learn about things.  Hope everyone is doing well!

Well I just joined because I've given up trying to find a tgirlfriend here in the UK and I'm sick of only being able to find porn or escorts on the Internet so I figured here I'll at least be able to talk normally to the kind of women I wish I could bump into in the street.. if that even makes sense lol..

I'll get my coat.. :)


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I joined this site in the hopes of gaining a better understanding of gender identity and transgender issues and to help try to figure out what exactly I am (non-gendered, maybe? but still not certain).

My own local trans community forum is pretty much deader than dead:



Mod Edit - Links to other forums are against TOS.

It's a way for me to get my thoughts out of my head without having to "out" myself. It's also good to talk to people who are friendly and have had plenty of experience in a similar situation to the one I'm in :) xx

For me it has always been the wisdom and experience of those that have ventured before me. Medical professionals, psychologists and the like can claim that they "understand" etc, etc, but unless you have lived the lives that most of us have lived, I don't think that any of these people can really, truly understand.

Throughout life suffering form Mental Illness brought about by my GID, friends (and I use that term loosely) and family have slowly disappeared into the ether. Like many with GID, I find sense and comfort in knowing that I am not alone and Susan's has opened my eyes to this over the years.

Many people will tell you that it is imperative to have a support network to surround yourself with as you deal with GID and this is very true. Unfortunately, a lot of us end up finding ourselves alone with the only support we can rely on being the professionals we pay to see.

For some of us, we search the internet looking for groups that we can associate with, particularly in real life but like some have mentioned, most of what you find revolves around sex orientated websites etc. Like many, I too have been unsuccessful in meeting girls that were just regular people like me.

A local community organisation used to have a dinner night for us girls once a week. For me it was around a two hour drive to get there and then another two hours to drive back. At first I was excited to finally be part of a group of girls in real life but as time went on, this social evening of regular girls, slow became hijacked by girls who's whole life revolved around sex, sex work and drug use and one by one the regular girls were scared away because of the behaviour of others at these functions. Eventually the evenings were closed down because of the lack of attendance and the behaviour of the few that were still attending.

Isolation is the hardest thing to deal with when trying to live with GID and although I continue to search for real life contact with girls like me, coming to Susan's has given me strength and made the feelings of isolation more bearable.

If it wasn't for Susan's, I would have given up a long time ago.

An arena where I can feel comfortable, gain insight and life stories of folks journeys, challenges and successes. Also perhaps helping those that struggle as I have coming to terms and finally deciding that I have to press forward.

Also to make friends and feel accepted for who I am, as I am. The real life will come very soon, so the sharing and caring is important to me in preparing myself for the future.

And hey its such a vibrant and friendly place.

L Katy  :-*  :-*

I came looking for knowledge. I found it along with acceptance and the realisation that I am as normal as anyone else. I stay because you're all so lovely and I feel I'm among friends who won't laugh at me or judge me for being the way I am. I get a real dose of courage and hope reading the successes, small and large, that people share here.

I came to find a place where I could ask questions about transgender issues without being judged as evil, weird or perverted - a safe place.  And a place where I could try on a female identity without freaking out people in real life.

I am happy to say that the people here have all been really nice.

Quote from: Renate on October 19, 2009, 07:49:59 PM
I'm here for the free coffee.

Yeah, caffeine works . . .

Mostly here to assert my ID in some sense. And then there's the part about confirmation and being authentically me.

And then there's the part of me who gets up every morning and consciously thinks about what gender to present, and how. As big a deal as it is for me, I remind myself that most people I encounter day-in, day-out don't think much about my gender and how I present.

No skirts, no floral print blouses -- Gawd knows I have them!

I came here looking for knowledge, understanding, and people like me.

I first came here in 1997 after lurking for a few months.  My brother was in the hospital and I used his computer (first I had ever used online) to do a search for, I think, transgender.  I almost fell over when it came back and said something like "AOL found 48,743..."  One of the first to come up was Susan's.   I had never known another transgender person and through Susan's I actually met some local people.  Which led me to being somewhat out.  Which led to founding the Big Brother/Big Sister program for newcomers at Southern Comfort Conference and sitting at a table with someone on her first night out who is now nationally known transgender advocate.  That's the backstory.

Intervening years and caring, in her home, for my mother with dementia along with a disabled brother I lost touch with the entire transgender community.  The other night I was thinking about all the friends I no longer am in touch with and ended getting depressed and started crying.  So I came back here rejoining on 11/3.  Even if it's just online, I wanted to be among what I consider family.  I was pleased to see there is a way to financially help the site now and I'm happy to do what I can, if for no other reason, than I owe Susan so much more than I can ever repay.

Why do I come here? Because I love this place, the folks here helped me find myself. I came here lost and scared in search of hope. I found that hope and I found a light to shine on my path to redemption.

Potluck Wednesday is what keeps me coming back. :)

I'm here to share experiences mostly. I also want to meet people like me who have been through similar experiences and empathize with me. :)

I come to meet others like myself and try to give back to the community and those that are going through the rigors of transition.  Having been through it all years ago, and now living a successful life, I think I might be able to provide some help to those who have questions about what their future might hold.  I want them to know that yes what they are doing is not easy and sometimes very frustrating and difficult but, having said that, on the other side the world that they will live in will be a vast improvement over what they have known and the opportunities they will experience will be rich and fulfilling.

I came here to meet people like me. I dont know anyone who lives the same life that I do, no one to share experiences and talk about whats happening to me.  Most of the time I dont talk much on the forum, but I read a lot and learned a lot of things!

I came here because a couple months ago, I came to a realization that I might be trans and I had no idea up until that point. It was too much to deal with on my own and I couldn't tell anyone IRL. I was getting too anxious and depressed to go on. I needed an outlet, somewhere I could talk about this without any judgment and to find people who could help me come to terms with what I was feeling.

I'm glad this community is here; I don't know what I would have done without you.

Welcome to Susan's, and congratulations for taking your first steps 👣

I came BACK here because I'm still a transwoman and always will be.

Can't believe what I started many moons ago is still going.  I guess the question is always relevant.

The refrigerator expired - honest. I replace it but because of low water pressure the ice maker and water dispenser weren't functioning. I called Sear's product support 5 times because I kept getting the wrong information or my call was dropped and was sired each call. Time to research voice surgery and the best source of information turned out to be Susan's. I had the surgery a couple of months latter and a year latter I can't get this stupid chain off my leg that Cindy and the rest of the moderator staff put on it.

I come on here to talk to and meet other trans people, and to basically keep myself from going insane while I wait to get respite. As soon as a worker can watch my kids, I can finally start seeing a gender therapist and maybe attend a group. I also come on here to remind myself that nobody can dictate who I am (in situations where certain people in my life will try to convince me that I'm not trans and not part of the trans community). I also want to learn how to help our community out. I was thinking of maybe volunteering and helping homeless trans youth once my babies are in school, but I have no idea how I can do so.

What WarGrowlMon1990 says.  Yes!

This is the best support group I can find.  No, really.  You're here 24/7, there is a large, active and diverse membership, and lots of good information and friendly advice.  I've gone to real-world support group meetings, but the total Trans population not in total stealth no-contact mode in my suburban county seems to be about a dozen. Meeting for an hour once a month doesn't quite cut it for me.

To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To gain confidence
To learn how do deal with certain issues

To get information on how to go from getting my letters to actually getting surgery. Thanks

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To gain confidence and meet other people like me, definitely. I don't have a whole wealth of self-esteem and I'm quite lonely offline.

I'm just wondering if I'm LGBT+ or not. I have nothing against these people, I would just find it convenient to know if and where I fall under that spectrum. I'm already under the autism spectrum, something I'm admittedly not proud about. Right now, I want to make a post on here about my issues, but I don't know where to start.

The "General discussions" forum could possibly be a good place to start

Maybe start a topic called something like "Autism and the LGBT Community"

There you could state your issues and get advise from others who are also along the spectrum

I think you may be a bit surprised by how many other people are also somewhere along the autistic spectrum and will be happy to participate

Hugs

V M

Quote from: Riv3n on May 30, 2017, 03:08:10 PM
I'm just wondering if I'm LGBT+ or not. I have nothing against these people, I would just find it convenient to know if and where I fall under that spectrum. I'm already under the autism spectrum, something I'm admittedly not proud about. Right now, I want to make a post on here about my issues, but I don't know where to start.

Hi Riv3n

I am sure we can help you navigate this quagmire of questions you may have.

First thing is that most cis male/females do not spend any amount of time questioning their gender if at all. My 57 year old brother had never considered the question  until I came out. In most cases I would suggest that if you are here questioning then there is a pretty good chance you fit somewhere on the Trans spectrum. If you are unsure where to post just make the post in the section you think suits the best and if it is not right the Mods will make sure it gets to the right section so it will be seen by the people you want.

Do you have specific things you would like to ask

Liz

Quote from: ElizabethK on May 30, 2017, 05:21:58 PM
Hi Riv3n

I am sure we can help you navigate this quagmire of questions you may have.

First thing is that most cis male/females do not spend any amount of time questioning their gender if at all. My 57 year old brother had never considered the question  until I came out. In most cases I would suggest that if you are here questioning then there is a pretty good chance you fit somewhere on the Trans spectrum. If you are unsure where to post just make the post in the section you think suits the best and if it is not right the Mods will make sure it gets to the right section so it will be seen by the people you want.

Do you have specific things you would like to ask

Liz

Thank you, but not right now. I'll talk about them later when I am hopefully less busy.

I came here the first time back in the 90's just searching on the internet. For many years I would visit every now and then. Was considering transition but got side tracked for 20 yrs. I didn't know what transition was until I found Susan's Place. I've known I was transsexual since the 70's, but wasn't quite sure what that meant. The people on Susan's Place have over the years lead me to where I am now. In the 90's I wasn't in a good place in life to transition, but over the years all of you people on here have gotten me ready for where I am now. Finally in a good situation to transition! It's only been a couple of months but already I'm finally going where I've always wanted to be. To be who I am, and I thank you Susan for this Site. With me, you led the blind man out of a pit so the woman he is can find her happiness! I owe you more than I can ever give!

Loneliness, I guess, is why I came to this forum. 

I have many bisexual and transgender friends-both transmale and transwoman, both in the US and especially here in Thailand, but not all of them are open to talking about it, and in Thailand, being transgender is so taken for granted, it's seldom discussed.

But when my (married) ex-husband suddenly, and casually, announced last year that he was planning to transition to nonbinary female and wanted to eventually get back with me, I became concerned and wanted to know how someone could be "suddenly trans." Also there was good reason we got divorced.

I wanted to know:

1. if people who have never shown the slightest interest in being female before can suddenly decide they are transgender (the consensus is that it happens, since people are often unaware of their subconscious selves)
2. if treacherous males can change and become dependable after transition (the consensus: NO)
3. if I could find a transmale with common interests with whom I can be friends (so far, no. Zero response)
4. how to cope with having a nonbinary female friend who is clueless about transition (plenty of information on this forum)
5. how transmales and nonbinary people in general deal with life, to compare them with my experiences, and maybe learn new coping strategies (Some stories of this type, although the majority of posts in this forum seem to be MtF people working through transition)

Quote from: Raell on August 06, 2017, 09:53:19 PM
5. how transmales and nonbinary people in general deal with life, to compare them with my experiences, and maybe learn new coping strategies (Some stories of this type, although the majority of posts in this forum seem to be MtF people working through transition)

Unfortunately there is a reason for that. If you look at this page on the right hand side (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php?action=stats) you will discover that you are greatly outnumbered. That's why I try to answer FTM questions when I am able to.

True..my male side isn't talkative, as a rule. He'd rather head out on a hike with friends than sit around and talk. I guess that's why I usually hang with males and masculine females.

I used to come here right when I started to transition really to gain knowledge. It was to also get support because my family had not taken to my transitioning well and still do not.

I've returned to potentially help someone in a similar situation. My experience and input can hopefully make all the difference in someone's life.

Mostly I come here because I don't want to burn out my IRL support system by talking about my transness 24/7.  It's often on my mind, though, and I know I can post here whenever without people rolling their eyes.

Quote from: The Flying Lemur on October 23, 2017, 12:41:49 PM
Mostly I come here because I don't want to burn out my IRL support system by talking about my transness 24/7.  It's often on my mind, though, and I know I can post here whenever without people rolling their eyes.

I think that's probably my biggest reason too. Sometimes I feel like I'm annoying people by bringing it up all the time, and by all the time I mean when someone says something crappy to me and I need to get it off my chest before I blow up inside.

I come here mainly because I'm isolated. Like, suuuuuper isolated. I'm not afraid to say it... I get lonely! I try my best not to bring my personal drama with me here. It feels like I do when I have written about some of the hardcore bad experiences I've had, but to me that is expression. I don't want to dredge up negatively, or bad experiences with others. I guess I just had to share my experiences.

I'd rather spend my time supporting others the best way I can. I wish I could do better though. Support is a powerful thing. When even just one person reaches out with advice, empathy, or even a hello -it can drastically change a persons day. I know it does for me. I spend a lot of time staring out my window. Going on long walks, when it feels like I'm going in circles. Back in my repressed days, I used to get on my car and drive for hours either in the mountains here, or into what constitutes a city here in Idaho.

When I start feeling lost like that, I come here. I just started coming here not long ago. Before, my online time was spent on sites where I felt relatively like I fit being there, but all the while having to hide my identity as a trans woman to have "friends."

I'm different. My social skills are geared towards survival skills. I'm working on that, this site helps. Most of the time I'm afraid of stomping around someone else's post in a reply with my big clumsy foot.

Relating to others out there means a lot to me. Hell, just having a smidge of conversation is divine! If you read me, you bridge the distance. I appreciate that lots!

Dana, you definitely aren't alone.  Many of us sought out this place not just for the information and help, but for the social contact with someone else who could understand us.

This is a great virtual safe space for us.

Quote from: Dana1979 on December 07, 2017, 07:50:09 AM
I come here mainly because I'm isolated. Like, suuuuuper isolated. I'm not afraid to say it... I get lonely! I try my best not to bring my personal drama with me here. It feels like I do when I have written about some of the hardcore bad experiences I've had, but to me that is expression. I don't want to dredge up negatively, or bad experiences with others. I guess I just had to share my experiences.

I'd rather spend my time supporting others the best way I can. I wish I could do better though. Support is a powerful thing. When even just one person reaches out with advice, empathy, or even a hello -it can drastically change a persons day. I know it does for me. I spend a lot of time staring out my window. Going on long walks, when it feels like I'm going in circles. Back in my repressed days, I used to get on my car and drive for hours either in the mountains here, or into what constitutes a city here in Idaho.

When I start feeling lost like that, I come here. I just started coming here not long ago. Before, my online time was spent on sites where I felt relatively like I fit being there, but all the while having to hide my identity as a trans woman to have "friends."

I'm different. My social skills are geared towards survival skills. I'm working on that, this site helps. Most of the time I'm afraid of stomping around someone else's post in a reply with my big clumsy foot.

Relating to others out there means a lot to me. Hell, just having a smidge of conversation is divine! If you read me, you bridge the distance. I appreciate that lots!

Hi Dana,

   I could have written a lot of what you did write here. Especially that second paragraph. I spend a great deal of time not staring out the window, but staring at my computer screens. Before finding out that I belonged here at Susan's Place, I spent 15 -20 hours a day playing World of Warcraft. I was no stranger to Susan's having visited it many times over many years for other reasons. It wasn't until I discovered I was transgender that I found I belonged in this community. Now I'm a resident here.
  I try to support others here and I have received lots of support here myself. This site has helped me in so many ways that I can never repay my debt. I understand your need to go for a ride. I love to drive. I feel relaxed and free when I am behind the wheel. If I am upset or angry I find driving helps me return to a calmer state of being. I am not a road rager. I don't take my problems out on other drivers. Just being on the road soothes my soul. I haven't taken a drive for awhile now. My current state of mind has gotten in the way of wanting to do things I enjoyed.
  You are a member of this community and as such you and your participation are important to others here. Good or not so good your experiences if shared helps someone else. You may benefit by making a thread of your own where you can be you. It's what I have done  myself. My thread could be titled "All about Laurie" because I am in there good and bad my thoughts and feelings are there. What is also there is the thought and care of those that support me and help me though difficult times.
  Dana, you belong here. You are an important part of Susan's. You "fit" here with all of us.

Hugs,
   Laurie

This site was suggested for me to check out by someone I consider a special friend. Her and I have made an unbelievable connection. Being new and just beginning my transition, MTF, I am grateful to have found a true friend in Dana. I can totally understand why she recommended this site for me-it embodies and represents what she and I believe in. It's nice to have the support of the community and to support the community. as well. I enjoy this site already and proud to be a part of this! There's a wonderful variety of people in lots of different stages of their development. Others like myself that are new should have no problem gaining knowledge, finding the support they need or just being able to be themselves.

Thank you Dana!
and
Thank you Susan's Place for just being yourselves and supportive!

I had to double check that I hadn't already posted here, due to the thread age. And wow, seeing all the people I remember from over the years was a bit of an emotional roller coaster.

Quote from: Sephirah on May 07, 2012, 05:11:15 PM
Odd that I never posted in this thread before.

Hmm... over time my reasons have changed, sometimes subtly, sometimes drastically.

Now... to try and understand why people think the way they do, to gain insight on why they feel the way they feel, and to see the shifting visions of this world through countless new eyes. To maybe share what calm, strength, and empathy I have inside with others, so that they never feel alone, as I have at times. To attempt to instil a sense of purpose, hope, and the courage to believe that, regardless of circumstance, there is always a light in the darkness, even if walking towards it involves the hardest steps one ever has to take. :)

Funny how some things don't change. I guess mostly this is still true. The people may change, but the need for a place like this doesn't. :)

Meet people, get advice, share art and interests and stuff. It's a nice community from what I see and it would be great to meet other trans folks and make new friends.

Well wow I picked a lot of things, such as hopefully gaining more confidence by talking with others who went through what I am going through now. Not to mention hopefully some friends as well.

For acceptance and understanding. Until being trans isn't a traumatic experience (it isn't for everyone, just most) then we'll always connect with each other. There's a void that men and sex can't fill for me.

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I am trying to learn, I am wanting to see if I am thinking clearly about gender issues,
I am wondering if I am in denial, and I am gaining insights.  Not sure if I will be of any help to any visitors here by my posts but if I do, great. 

I have concluded that likely nothing about this will be resolved right away for me. 
That is okay though.

Quote from: Dana1979 on December 07, 2017, 07:50:09 AM
I come here mainly because I'm isolated. Like, suuuuuper isolated. I'm not afraid to say it... I get lonely! I try my best not to bring my personal drama with me here. It feels like I do when I have written about some of the hardcore bad experiences I've had, but to me that is expression. I don't want to dredge up negatively, or bad experiences with others. I guess I just had to share my experiences.

I'd rather spend my time supporting others the best way I can. I wish I could do better though. Support is a powerful thing. When even just one person reaches out with advice, empathy, or even a hello -it can drastically change a persons day. I know it does for me. I spend a lot of time staring out my window. Going on long walks, when it feels like I'm going in circles. Back in my repressed days, I used to get on my car and drive for hours either in the mountains here, or into what constitutes a city here in Idaho.

When I start feeling lost like that, I come here. I just started coming here not long ago. Before, my online time was spent on sites where I felt relatively like I fit being there, but all the while having to hide my identity as a trans woman to have "friends."

I'm different. My social skills are geared towards survival skills. I'm working on that, this site helps. Most of the time I'm afraid of stomping around someone else's post in a reply with my big clumsy foot.

Relating to others out there means a lot to me. Hell, just having a smidge of conversation is divine! If you read me, you bridge the distance. I appreciate that lots!

You can also count me in as one who could have written much the same thing.  I have often said the title of the story of my life would be "Alone In A Crowd."  Outside my partner, I really have no one I can just sit down with and let my hair down.

We are not alone in that sense.  There are many others who feel utterly alone when not with those like them.  Social rules weren't created to be all-inclusive.  Too many people simply can't handle anything complex.   While we can work to change that, I find that until we do, acceptance is the best way to deal with a closed society.

   Honestly, in 2014 I had been pretty seriously thinking about eating my .45. I had just lost a lot of things that meant the world to me and wanted to scream. I didn't have any confidence at all, didn't know how to do my makeup, had mixed feelings about whether I should transition and thought if I did, that I would NEVER be passable. I came here for help, and unfortunately people were very busy and didn't really offer any help or even try to point me in a better direction. So, i left.
   I know now I was just the ugly duckling and that we all start somewhere. I'm glad I didn't go crazy. But now that I've come this far with only the support of my wife, I don't want others to have to do the same. I want to reach out to those who are just beginning their struggle and show them that this is a very reachable goal. Not just by saying "everything will be ok" but by working with them in any way I can.

I joined just to simply scream out iam trans, i didnt want to go straight into denial and i needed to vebalise this somehow.

I stay because it gives me an element of calm and understanding in my life, the feeling that i am not alone, its not just something that other ppl feel. Its inside me too.

I consider everyone on here freinds regardless if ive spoken to you or not, its the only place i can truly know its not judgemental and im acepted.

Love you all x

Because it's a peaceful, happy place, with so many nice people. And there is a lot of wisdom here.

I did it cause I want to meet other trans people

Quote from: Janet_Girl on October 19, 2009, 01:02:39 PM
I believe most of us come here to find comfort and community.  Like any community, there are those that you just love to be around and others that really get to you.

I still love coming here and I still consider all of you as my family.


Janet

Oh and I forgot to mention,
To socialize
To gain knowledge
To gain confidence
To find friends
To become part of the online community

This is a very good way of explaining it.
Im new and was looking for an outlet and board of knowledge and experiences.
So o.o... Community is important i agree!

Susan and Family.
^
?

Love you all ~
<3

I came to Susan's Place because the other Trans community I am in is very inactive. This place seems kinda inactive too as a lot of sections on this site are ghost towns, but that is just my opinion.

The local support is vanishing


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I put:

To socialize
To gain knowledge
To share my knowledge and expereinces
To debate an issue
To gain confidence
To find friends
To straighten out the confused
To find inner peace
To become part of the online community
To learn how do deal with certain issues
To understand my SO
To understand a family member
To support my SO
To support a family member
Because I know nothing about transgender lives
To try to get others active in the community

Originally, I was just alone, doing research and my research kept leading me here to Susans.  I had so much inside I wanted to share, but no one to share with, and I wanted to be a part of others lives as well.  I had no idea what kind of person I would become after I began transitioning, but I do like her a lot now.

It reminds me when I first fired-up Final Fantasy 11, thinking I would be a loner SMN(Summoner) and role-playing my whole sad backstory. But everything changed when I could reach people with my words and they could reach me, without needing to have my face get in the way of things. A very similar reaction happened here, too, and I am so grateful for this site and everyone in the community. People here are so beautiful, cool, helpful, and knowledgable and even funny!

I feel like, if I can learn from someone or I can help someone, then I will always be here. 

Hi, everyone! Newbie here. I joined Susan's due to 3 important reasons:

• To socialize
• To gain knowledge
• To become part of the online community

I know that as time goes by, those list of reasons would increase. :)
Cheers!

Quote from: AwayTravis on July 05, 2018, 07:44:47 AM
Hi, everyone! Newbie here. I joined Susan's due to 3 important reasons:

• To socialize
• To gain knowledge
• To become part of the online community

I know that as time goes by, those list of reasons would increase. :)


Cheers!

Hi AwayTravis,

Welcome to Susan's.

I want to encourage you to post in introductions section. That way we can learn about you and (clears throat) socialize better. ;)

I also have a little thing we like to share with all newly posting members. Please give it a read through.

A Cautionary Note:
This is a public forum so please remember when posting that The Internet Never Forgets, and the various web crawlers and archival sites out there may retain information that you post.

We cannot ensure that any information you share on the site will be protected from public view and/or copying or reproduction. This warning is also listed in the Terms of Service listed below.

If you give out personal information on Susan's you are responsible for any consequence.


I also want to share some links with you. They include helpful information and the rules that govern the site.  It is important for your enjoyment of the site to take a moment to go through them

Site Terms of Service & Rules to Live By (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)	Standard Terms & Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)	Post Ranks (including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
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Thank you very much, Jacqueline! Will definitely do that. :)

I had just came out to my long time VA counselor and was looking for support groups and information. To see what others have gone through.

Kymmie

Quote from: Steph on October 19, 2009, 08:05:32 PM
And don't forget the doughnuts :)

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I have to scrape the sprinkles off of my donuts.  Dieting is so hard!

Quote from: Kymmie Lorain on September 17, 2018, 10:58:13 AM
I had just came out to my long time VA counselor and was looking for support groups and information. To see what others have gone through.

Kymmie

The challenges we encounter, when expressed and shared, can help unite us. That's why I originally asked the question.  I was looking for hope.

Ours is a unique path. And within the path we each take, no two are alike. Our uniqueness can free us or paralyze us.