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Title: coming out to family
Post by: Gates on October 28, 2009, 12:15:46 PM
Post by: Gates on October 28, 2009, 12:15:46 PM
i have aready came out to my husband about being FtM
but am worried about coming out the my family for one thing there is my mother who wouldnt accept it at all she didnt like it when i changed my birthname to Ella a few years back and still calls me by my birth name
there is my dad whos mental health isnt very good at the moment he is in hospital as he has had a mental break down so am worried about telling him
my sister wouldnt really care because all she cares about is how it will affect her
am really dont want to come out to my family at all but there will be a point were i will start a wear mens clothes and have a hair style like a man
its just how are they going to react to this am worried about
Gates
but am worried about coming out the my family for one thing there is my mother who wouldnt accept it at all she didnt like it when i changed my birthname to Ella a few years back and still calls me by my birth name
there is my dad whos mental health isnt very good at the moment he is in hospital as he has had a mental break down so am worried about telling him
my sister wouldnt really care because all she cares about is how it will affect her
am really dont want to come out to my family at all but there will be a point were i will start a wear mens clothes and have a hair style like a man
its just how are they going to react to this am worried about
Gates
Title: Re: coming out to family
Post by: K8 on October 28, 2009, 08:15:18 PM
Post by: K8 on October 28, 2009, 08:15:18 PM
Welcome to Susan's, Gates.
You don't have to do everything at once. I came out to my friends before my family, but my situation may be different. You want to build your base of support the best you can before you tackle the hard ones (if possible).
BTW, I changed from the diminutive of my birth name to a more adult version when I was 13. Forty years later my mother still called me by the diminutive (when she didn't call me by my brother's name ::)).
Welcome and good luck. :)
- Kate
You don't have to do everything at once. I came out to my friends before my family, but my situation may be different. You want to build your base of support the best you can before you tackle the hard ones (if possible).
BTW, I changed from the diminutive of my birth name to a more adult version when I was 13. Forty years later my mother still called me by the diminutive (when she didn't call me by my brother's name ::)).
Welcome and good luck. :)
- Kate
Title: Re: coming out to family
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 28, 2009, 09:26:58 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 28, 2009, 09:26:58 PM
Hi Gates, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 3500 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:
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Family can be the hardest to come out to, especially when they are not well. I would suggest your sister first as she really wouldn't care. Then maybe Mom and Dad last. JMHO.
Blessed Be.
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 3500 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
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Family can be the hardest to come out to, especially when they are not well. I would suggest your sister first as she really wouldn't care. Then maybe Mom and Dad last. JMHO.
Blessed Be.
Janet