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Well, I don't really know where to post this since there doesn't really seem to be a board suited for it.

For those of you who lurk all around the forum, I'm just curious. This isn't meant to be gender-related.

I just want to know what happens when you get angry, since we all experience it slightly differently. What the physical reaction is and such.

For me, the blood rushes to my head and I can feel in pounding, almost a headache. Then I get the urge to do something stupid (which I ignore.) And of course muscle tension.

So what about everybody else?

I esplode in chat like a nuke that kills friend and foe alike, it's my eternal weakness and my source of sin. It's how a lose friends in a flash and make new enemies when I'm blind to everything except the small detail that got me riled up in the first place.

It's when my head has a feeling of compression, and a ringing in my ears that makes me unable to hear my own "voice of reason". It's when hormones are in their monthly flux and I can't but for be on pins and needles.

This is the portrait of a monster,
me

For me, I can go into a blinding rage, and I am so tired of it.  I am so hoping that my Orchie will help to stop it.  I have tried man things, but some times I am a raging monster.  My ex could stop it, by just walking away.  But I am getting somewhat better by just taking a nap.  Thinking about it only makes me angry more.

I can feel the tension rising up like magma in a volcano.  and then it is Mt. Janet.  The most dangerous volcano on the planet.

Janet

for me its silence when i get mad i stop talkng at that point i can and have been known to be assaultive if the person who is causing it continues the arguement or presses the point further usually i walk away but i carry the burdon with me and can hold grudges a long time. I can take a lot of abuse from someone i care about but once im done im done their is no forgiveness in me at that point
jessica

It varies for me. I have stages of anger.

Annoyance causes me to tense up.

When I'm mad, my throat starts to tighten or feel as though it is swollen.

When I'm pissed off, my muscles tense, I sweat, I get snippy and I start to have an anxiety attack.

When I'm full of rage, I'm all those things and violent.

I used to be easily angered and though I never partake in physical violence to act on it I felt my brain chemicals change (my theory) and I would be in a rage almost. After lowering my T I no longer feel that at all. I can get mad or irritated with something but it doesn't take control anymore. And I adore that.

When I get angry I want to beat the crap out of someone! I can always feel my adrenaline pumping through my arms and I begin to shake.

I have to control myself. But I don't have any stages thats it! Scary I know!

Jay

Quote from: Flan on November 02, 2009, 12:24:17 AM
This is the portrait of a monster, me.

No, it's simply somebody who has to gain control over themselves.
It's somebody who has to become more happy with themselves.
It's somebody who has to stop being so negative in general because of the "boomerang effect".
It's somebody who has many positive features.

Mad at random people?  I tell them off.
Mad at friends, co-worker, or boss?  Silently fume.
Frustrated with something inanimate?  Throw the thing that is causing me distress, or otherwise break it somehow.
Mad at myself?  Drink.

I'm somewhat lucky in this area as I don't have buttons to push, or in other words words if you really want to piss me off, you have an agenda, & I must be extra careful in my reactions. I must attempt to diffuse the situation to better understand what's really going on. I haven't come accross a situationan where loosing my cool has paid off, but yes I am human & have lost my cool & regret every time it has happened.

Have any of you grown up with being not allowed to feel any thing including anger?

When I get angry, I start shaking really bad, and HORRIBLE thoughts run through my head, so bad that I cannot speak of them here on the forum.  Like the time my ex-gf was talking bad about my mum behind her back, I got so angry - I'm so glad I didn't lash out at her though, because if I did that I'd be in prison now.  During these times, one of my people tell me it'll be okay and that they will get paid back for whatever they done to me.  That usually calms me down.  If I stay in a state of anger, it's very hard to get me to snap out of it.  When I'm angry I cannot sleep either.

I have the most irritating reaction to anger, I cry

I get a lump in my throat, well up, and my voice goes all squeaky and ridiculous

I hate it so much

Usually i snap very quickly. i have a really short fuse.

i try to find the nearest pillow and beat it for awhile. or whatever inanimate object..

I know you said this isn't a gender topic but .. what really lights my fuse FAST .. periods... the mess.. ouuguhhhh... i just wanna.... rghhhghgh..

even thinking about it makes me SO TICKED!!!

i have not cried out of anger in a loong tme though. not that its a bad thing. it's a great release.

One of them best coping mechanisms is to learn to just hold the bad feelings inside & just keep pushing them further & deeper down inside until you forget about them altogether. I'm the quiet person on the bus, not the crazy rageaholic lashing out at every one. Just keep it deep, keep it cool.