Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: Ryuu on November 24, 2009, 05:02:10 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.
Post by: Ryuu on November 24, 2009, 05:02:10 PM
Post by: Ryuu on November 24, 2009, 05:02:10 PM
In about half an hour, I'll be on my way to the airport, to go see my grandparents. I'm not going to openly tell them, but I'm telling them that I'm now going by Aaron. And well, they'll probably notice the fact that I now have buzzed hair, and am binding and wearing men's clothes. And of course they'll get suspicious if I ever spell my name. (Otherwise they'll probably just think it's Erin) I'm taking it slowly since they still haven't seen me since last year, which was when I was just beginning to question and was *trying* to be a girl. Also my parents separated in February and they're still coming to terms with the fact that my mom's not coming to Thanksgiving this year. And I'm worried that they will think that that brought this on. (especially since they divorced because my mom's lesbian. I know it's not the same but they might not)
Like I said, I won't tell them openly, but as my mom said, "Your grandma's intuitive. She'll know something's different."
I'll post when I can and tell how it goes! *nervous*
Like I said, I won't tell them openly, but as my mom said, "Your grandma's intuitive. She'll know something's different."
I'll post when I can and tell how it goes! *nervous*
Title: Re: Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.
Post by: Janet_Girl on November 24, 2009, 06:08:54 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on November 24, 2009, 06:08:54 PM
Best of luck, Aaron. You will be fine.
Janet
Janet
Title: Re: Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.
Post by: Between Names on November 24, 2009, 09:14:14 PM
Post by: Between Names on November 24, 2009, 09:14:14 PM
Good luck man. I actually only have one grandparent left, but I'm still not looking forward to telling her about it. :O
Title: Re: Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.
Post by: Ryuu on November 27, 2009, 01:41:51 PM
Post by: Ryuu on November 27, 2009, 01:41:51 PM
Well they haven't talked to me yet, but apparently they asked my dad the night we got there, about my new name. They haven't wanted to talk to me yet, and probably won't this visit. My grandma is apparently afraid that I'll have a more difficult life (which might be true, but that's not enough to stop me) but wasn't openly dissaproving.
Title: Re: Coming out to my grandparents...sort of indirectly.
Post by: K8 on November 27, 2009, 06:47:24 PM
Post by: K8 on November 27, 2009, 06:47:24 PM
As always, YMMV, but I got better results when I was direct and open rather than trying to do it indirectly. I think people appreciated it. But my grandparents have been dead many years, so what worked for me may not work for you. :-\
Good luck, Aaron, however you do it. :)
- Kate
Good luck, Aaron, however you do it. :)
- Kate