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Title: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 12:06:27 PM
Let me introduce myself, although I think some of you already know me.  My name is Bren, I live in San Diego, I've been on hormones for 6+ years, am on Facebook (you can find me if you search bnice2meplease@yahoo.com), and I'm married to a lovely woman who loves me as Bren.  I have had no surgeries yet because it's hard to save when your ex wife siphons off all your extra money.  I did have money last year, but the financial crisis hit...and my sales were cut in half...ouch, so I had to use my savings to survive.  I live a quiet life.  I'll be 54 on the 17th...how time flies.  I have so many years of living as a male, I don't know if I'll ever realistically be regarded by the world as fully female...but, such is life.  My focus is not on stealthy living, but on emotional wellness for myself and living authentically to myself.  People can accept me for me or not.  I'm the home-body of our couple.  I do the shopping, cooking, and housekeeping.  She does laundry (which I hate to do).  I love to travel, eat out, go to movies, museums, talk to friends, and many other creative pursuits.  I write poetry, many you can read on http://brendthepoet.blogspot.com (http://brendthepoet.blogspot.com).  Thank you for having me.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 12:56:49 PM
Hi Bren, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 3700 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another sister. :icon_hug:

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Blessed Be.
Janet
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 02:54:47 PM
Thank you, Janet, for our welcome.  I will remember what you said.

Becca, I'm not a vegetarian, but I do like vegetables.  I'm not a vampire, don't go to vampire movies, and am not into that fantasy.  But, I have a black motorcycle and I like black clothing and some goth fashions.  To me, hormones are a serious medication that I take under a doctor's supervision, not a fantasy aid.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: LordKAT on December 06, 2009, 04:37:10 PM
Welcome benice,


Becca, You're my kind of vamp but I too wonder about the "fantasy aid" comment.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 08:31:47 PM
Would you like to try greeting me again, without the vampires, hormones to make you a real vampire (???), or the sparkly vegetarian ones?  Or have I made a mistake joining this forum?  I wasn't sure how to respond to your comment in your posting signature that said you take hormones to become a vampire.  To me, vampires are fictional, so if you have some fantasy that you're a vampire, ok whatever, and if you're taking hormones to aid you in that fantasy...then you and I are not taking hormones for the same reason and I don't really want to interact with you about your fantasy game.

I'm not a kid.  I'm an adult, almost 54.  I'm a financial planner.  I'm a transsexual who has been under a doctor's care for over 6 years, I'm married, I have an 18 year old son, I like cooking, writing, making jewelry, traveling, and photography.  I'm a Christian, but I don't go to church, because I'm not welcome in most churches.  I've been a writer, director, actor in many dramatic productions.  I've been a soloist and chorus singer all my life, although I haven't been since my transition.  I had to detransition my documents, which said "Female" on them in order to marry my French fiance' (which was the only way we could be together.  So, the "groom" had a 38B chest.  I plan on surgically completing my transition when I save enough money.  I'll probably go to Dr. Reed for SRS and Dr. Spiegel for some FFS.  I live a quiet life, caring for my clients and working from my home office.

So, am I in the wrong group, or is this a serious site?
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 08:51:11 PM
Never mind Becca.  She like to keep it light and fun.  You are in the right place.  Sometimes we get too serious.  And Welcome again.

Go back to your crypt, Becca.  Leave the poor Dear alone.

See we can be lighthearted.  But we can, like any family, get on each others nerves.  By the way, I am 55 and just as much a kid when it is called for.  And an adult woman for the most part.


Hugs and Love
Janet
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 09:02:45 PM
Sorry, I didn't have any warning.  I can have fun too, but I thought I made a serious introduction.  I wasn't mentally prepared for the bizarre.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 09:14:31 PM
Well you have met Becca, and of course then there is Virginia Marie.  But most of us are very adult.



Hugs and Love
Janet
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Jillieann Rose on December 06, 2009, 09:20:54 PM
Hi and welcome to Susan's.
I'm a male to female transsexual too.
Have a wife, 3 kids and 4 grand kids.
Age 59.
Glad to meet you.
Some people here use humor to help them coupe.
Jillieann
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Suzy on December 06, 2009, 10:06:19 PM
Hi Bren!   Nice to see you on Susan's! 

Hey everyone, she is very nice, don't scare her off just yet.  I told her there were some nice people here.   ;D

Anyway, glad you found us, Bren.  Join in the discussions and enjoy your stay.

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Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 10:22:22 PM
I'm sure Becca is a very nice person.  I'm sorry, I'm prickly right now.  I'm feeling seasonal sadness, being reminded involuntarily of my one brother's death a couple years ago, my other brother's distance and failing health as a kidney recipient, my parents' decline as 82 and 81 year olds, my 18 year old son's disinterest in seeing me, and memories of how my life "used to be" before involuntarily being outed and going through divorce and separation from the life I knew and pursuing transition, but not being able to afford to complete it so I'm left in limbo.  So, how's your life going?

Post Merge: December 06, 2009, 10:27:43 PM

but I dried my eyes and made brownies...chocolate and baked goods...the universal panacea for whatever hurts.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 10:30:58 PM
Lots of Sisterly Hugs, Bren

Having been orphaned 2 years ago now.  Loss of my family.  I understand why you are being sensitive.  But many of us have been there and while it is hard, we do understand very much so.



Hugs and Love
Janet
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Hannah on December 06, 2009, 10:53:31 PM
I hope you find what you need here darling.

It's a signature, a humorous quote by one of my role models. It's no more bizarre than an avatar picture. We clearly haven't gotten off on the right foot, so I'll try again :)

Welcome!
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: V M on December 06, 2009, 11:07:26 PM
Hi Bren  :)

Welcome to Susan's

I'm 48 and have several injuries that cause me allot physical pain on a daily basis
My folks are both in their 70's
My kids have no interest in me because I'm not rich and my X talks smack about me.
The rest of my family is dysfunctional as hell

I tend to kid about a bit. This helps to lighten the load so I'm not quite so heavy headed

Finding friends here at Susan's has helped allot

{{{HUGS}}} - Virginia
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 11:09:12 PM
 :icon_hug: Becca.  Well... Abby from NCIS is fav on that show.  Sorry, I just didn't get it.  I'm an O.F.I.T.  (Old Fart In Training)
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Hannah on December 06, 2009, 11:21:17 PM
QuoteTo me, vampires are fictional, so if you have some fantasy that you're a vampire, ok whatever, and if you're taking hormones to aid you in that fantasy...then you and I are not taking hormones for the same reason and I don't really want to interact with you about your fantasy game.

I'm going to read that to my therapist next week, that's just too cute lol.
What is an ncis?
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 11:25:34 PM
WHAT?  You don't know who Abby is?

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NCIS  Naval Criminal Investigative Service.



Hugs and Love
Janet
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 06, 2009, 11:29:20 PM
NCIS is a show on TV (Naval Criminal Investigation Service) see http://cbsncis.wetpaint.com/page/Abby+Sciuto (http://cbsncis.wetpaint.com/page/Abby+Sciuto)

Post Merge: December 06, 2009, 11:30:08 PM

Abby's the bomb!
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Hannah on December 06, 2009, 11:31:33 PM
Oh, a tv show! Sorry, the term just ended and my brain is still a bit fried. The only tv shows I can really quote are Firefly and...uh...True Blood. I can talk about Anne Rice with you all night though  :-*
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Alexie on December 06, 2009, 11:34:36 PM
Hi Bren and welcome aboard.

At least we all share one thing in common and that's what makes this family very special. We all feel a bit prickly from time to time, but I can't think of a better bunch of people to bare your soul to.

Love Alexie

Post Merge: December 06, 2009, 11:35:42 PM

Quote from: Janet Lynn on December 06, 2009, 11:25:34 PM
WHAT?  You don't know who Abby is?

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NCIS  Naval Criminal Investigative Service.



Hugs and Love
Janet

She's my favorite  :-*
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Suzy on December 06, 2009, 11:37:56 PM
Bren may never speak to me again after getting her into this madness.

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Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: V M on December 06, 2009, 11:40:43 PM
Quote from: Kristi on December 06, 2009, 11:37:56 PM
Bren may never speak to me again after getting her into this madness.

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If it wasn't for a bit of madness, life would be completely boring  :laugh:
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Suzy on December 06, 2009, 11:43:49 PM
Quote from: Virginia Marie on December 06, 2009, 11:40:43 PM
If it wasn't for a bit of madness, life would be completely boring  :laugh:

Agreed.  I've always been crazy but it's kept me from going insane.

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Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Janet_Girl on December 06, 2009, 11:44:19 PM
At least she knows that the inmates are running the Nut House.  ;D

Stick around Bren.  We really do have moments of sanity.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: jesse on December 07, 2009, 03:10:17 AM
welcome bren
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 07, 2009, 03:19:30 AM
Having ACTUALLY been in the mental ward of our local hospital...twice...I can assure you I can deal with this.  I think some of the nuttiest people in that place were the doctors and nurses.  After I took pills to off myself the 2nd time, my doctor showed no compassion or concern...he was just mad that I used HIS pills he prescribed to try to kill myself.  What a jerk.

There was a nurse who had been there forever I suppose...and they had to evaluate us twice a day (three shifts of nurses...two while awake, one while you slept...supposedly).  They always asked the same questions.  After 3 weeks of this...it got pretty maddening.  She said to me once, "It's time for your evaluation...would you like to do it here or in your room?"  "Oh nurse.....let's do it in my room!"  deadpan  "Alright"  Knowing what the first question was...after entering the room I exclaimed with exuberance "I HAD A BOWEL MOVEMENT!"  Deadpan "Great...that's the kind of thing you can share in group."  Another patient and I nearly died laughing at dinner over that one.

Post Merge: December 07, 2009, 03:23:17 AM

"Learn what you are and be such."  Pindar, 518-446 B.C.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: gennee on December 07, 2009, 01:23:02 PM
Hi Bren and welcome. An early Happy Birthday.

Gennee
 
:)
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 07, 2009, 02:22:02 PM
Thank you very much.

It's a rare rainy, stormy day in San Diego today.  But, we need the rain, after going 128 days without measurable precipitation.  I'm cocooned in my home office and doing paperwork.  I've done 4 trades for clients today that have made my revenue for the week.  Now I can focus on getting my paperwork squared away.  Btw, if you're in Arizona or California, and you would like to do business with a financial planner/broker who is trans, drop me a line at bnice2meplease@yahoo.com.  Thanks,

Bren
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: Dianna on December 07, 2009, 08:20:51 PM
Welcome Bren xx
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: myles on December 07, 2009, 08:40:17 PM
Welcome Bren- I am FTM but just wanted to say hello. I also have a few kids, a very long relationship (which has survived transition). You will find all kinds or people here, which makes the place fun in the end.
Cheers,
Andrew Myles
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: bnice2meplease on December 07, 2009, 08:55:05 PM
Thank you all for your gracious welcomes.

I've been watching and listening to the storm outside today...45-50 mph winds driving rain into my windows.  I hear banging, crashing, whistling, and creaking outside.  It's rare for San Diego, that's for sure. 

I'm alone this week until Thursday.  Drop me a note or chat me up at benice2meplease on yahoo, if you like.
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: jesse on December 08, 2009, 02:45:23 AM
i just love storms its like a shower for the earth lol when i was in college i use to chase tornados with the science club it was a blast until we almost got killed. got caught between two of them on a rural indiana highway. it was fun however now i want to see a hurricane hehe
jessica
Title: Re: Do you know me?
Post by: sarahF on December 08, 2009, 06:44:21 PM
Hi Bren
Welcome to Susan's. Every family has it's jokesters. Relax this is a fun place
Sarah