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Recently, a friend has come out that he is a man trapped in a woman's body. After many questions, and reading a rather in depth blog about it, I've come to realize I may be as well.

I always felt like I was different. I'm not a typical girl. I don't like to dress up, I hate shoes that are uncomfortable, I dislike make-up... the list goes on. In fact, I've come to realize the only thing about me that is girly (besides my body, of course), is that I like my hair long and when it's really curly. That's it.

I'm a 34 year old geek. I always found it easier to "hang out with the guys", than I did to hang out with girls. Reading superhero comics, watching the lovely 80s cartoons, and my love of Star Trek and other science fiction made me realize I was a geek, and proud of that. But something else was there.

When I was a kid, I used to absolutely love watching hockey, playing with the guys whenever they'd do some sort of sport. In fact, I remember being a little agitated whenever my mom would pull me aside and say that's for the guys, or whenever she would dress me up in dresses.

I always thought that perhaps it was just that I was a tomboy. But somehow that label didn't fit me either. I tried to do all the normal things I thought a woman was supposed to do. Even getting married, with the white dress and all. But somehow I never felt close to my husband, in fact, I never slept with him. I told myself it was because I didn't fully trust him, as he proved himself to be dishonest and untrustworthy, but now I am starting to think it might be something else. Our marriage wound up falling apart, and now I find I am quite alright with being by myself, and with my cat.

Am I a guy in a woman's body? I do believe I might be, but I also want to know how one goes about figuring these things out. Would I get my body transformed to a man's? The only thing I see myself doing is getting rid of my periods, as I find them quite painful and annoying. I don't think I would be interested in changing my body... But I do feel as though something has been lit up inside me, thanks to my friend's honesty about his journey.

I also refer to myself on the phone or in person as "us" or "we". In fact, my mother pointed that out to me, and I found that weird as well. Is there something to that as well?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for listening.

TG

Hi Trek_geek, :icon_wave:

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First and formost find a good gender therapist and explore your feelings.

Hugs and Love,
Janet

Each person has their own idea of who they are. Sometimes that idea might not fully reflect who they see themselves to be on the outside.

This is a great place to learn about identity, and I hope the things you read here might help you find your way. As Janet said, the best place to start is to find a therapist that can help you. Or you may be able to find what your looking for just by talking to other people here.

Do some homework :)

Best of luck.

Hi, Trek_Geek. Live long and prosper.

You will probably learn a lot by talking to people here and reading online resources here and elsewhere. But a good therapist can be a real gift.

Have you read any trans man biographies yet? They can also help you to sort things out.

hey Trek_Geek, Welcome!

I swear, we are kindred spirits. I'm a 35 year old self proclaimed geek by nature and wear it like a badge of honor. I love watching almost anything scifi (sorry, syfy  ::) )and I have 2 cats and no relationships for quite a while. even when I was presenting male my hair was always long and I've been following hockey ever since Gretzky was traded to LA in 88.

stick around and read many of the other member's stories and hopefully you are able to answer some questions you are having.

lots of luck,
~beth