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 :D Okay girls and boys lets play a game ?

I'll start cause its my thread okay.

Now you have to be totaly honest ! otherwise Father Christmass wont deliver your pressie.

I want to go skiing this year in Aspen

Failing that my second wish is to have gift wrapped Tinkerbell and Brianna !!!!

Well one has to believe in faries !
:-* ;)

I want to go to Mexico and spend two weeks hanging out in the sun, drinking beer. Ticket's already booked.

Dennis

I wish for a Christmas with my family, especially my kids.  One filled with love and acceptance.

Julie

It would also be nice if all the family would stop feuding about silly things that happened hundreds of years ago.
But I live in hope.

My Xmas wish... I want to wake up and be a girl!
Well since that will not necessarily happen I have a ticket going off for a new jeep i wanna win that!
Now after being greedy and self-centered i want my family to all be safe and my mother to live to see another Xmas after this one!
Ricki

Hmmmmmm..... For my family to behave like a family instead of ..... well... nevermind....

>:D Now for reality to hit.......     Id like to win the loto.... LoL

Wish number two, the most realistic of all is to have a sucessful uneventful drama free year....

Lynner
I'll be needing those specific lotto numbers of yours so i can play them too!
merry xmas early
Ricki

Quote from: lolli on November 04, 2006, 05:44:58 PM
It would also be nice if all the family would stop feuding about silly things that happened hundreds of years ago.

Tell me about it!!! ;)  my family still talks about things that happened thousands of years ago.  I am sure they will still be talking about such things when I am mummified... ;D


tinkerbell :icon_chick:

I know that it sounds trite... but I'd like to see world peace.  Call me a sucker or an everlasting hold out... but if I could have one wish, it would be that.

Cindi

I sound like Sandra bullock form the pageant movie she did but I'll accept world peace too!
Nice thought to have!
R

OK...World Peace it is...but if I can't have that, I think LynnER had the right idea

Quote from: LynnER on November 04, 2006, 07:16:32 PM
to have a sucessful uneventful drama free year....

I would be happy with a successful, uneventful, drama-free holiday week

Wishing for Whirled Peas........Laurie

I will be getting an early Christmas gift this year - a new birthday :)

But I think the best Christmas gift of all is being invited by our daughter to their house for Christmas.

Steph

The most important thing is safe travels for myself and all of my friends who will be on the road during that time of year.

The next thing I would want would be surgery.

After that it would be really nice to not get any boy clothes this year (I have been FT for years now but yet my mother bought me a boys t-shirt last year, she always has an excuse).

Quote from: Steph on November 06, 2006, 05:43:40 AM
I will be getting an early Christmas gift this year - a new birthday :)
Steph

Well, I will also be born 14 days after Christmas, so it will be a late christmas present for me.....Woohoooo...not everyone knows the day they will be born ;)


tinkerbell :icon_chick:

Okay then a question for all you cultured family types who just love to get together over the holidays!
ha-hummmmmmmmmmmmmm
Will you all be having ham over Xmas.........
cough cough.. I hate ham!
that's why i ask cause it seems to be such a huge holiday thing????????
Agghhhhhh i wanna have like a roast rib of beef or something and every freakin year my unsophisticated family argues the ham, carn sauce, relish tray and all that! (same thing with T-day coming up!)
when will the culinary revolution return!
Please
xmas' wishes early
R

We celebrate on Christmas eve. I bbq a bird in the Webber.  It is yummy!  Brick loves my home made rolls so I always make those... I make them into long shapes so they can be used for turkey sandwiches.

My best friend brings pies or some desert.

We also have a tradition for a really big breakfast on Christmas morning.  I fix Brick biscuits and gravy, really thick bacon, eggs, hashbrowns, and toast from home made bread.  I have something that is a ... errr... lighter ;)

I am looking for something different to go with the dinner.  I always make the same old side dishes.  I want somethin yummy with vegetables in it... anyone have a favorite that they'd care to share.

Cindi

Well, for Christmas dinner that is traditional but uncommon, why don't you roast a goose?

At our house we always had Christmases that were very heavily influenced by German culture.  There it is traditional, at least where my parents came from, to roast a goose for Chrismas dinner.  It's not a bad tasting bird and they are available, if a bit pricy because they're not as popular as turkeys or hams.  Red cabbage braised in apple cider with cloves and a bit of cinnamon is a good side dish along with potato dumplings and gravy.  Unfortunately I don't have a formal recipe for the red cabbage, I play it by ear the way my mom always did, but it IS a different, slightly sweet/acid flavor that really complements goose or, even better, game such as venison.

For Christmas, though, I always dream about the cookies, the music and marzipan (YUM YUM YUM ! ! ! ! I love that stuff) - usually in the form of a pink little marzipan pig.

Ach, now I got started and I can't stop dreaming of Christmas!

hugs & smiles,
helen

For Christmas, I would like my family to have a change of heart and to understand I am still human and still a member of their family. I would like to go home, sleep in the bed I grew up in, and get a hug from my mother as her daughter on Christmas Eve.

Then, on Christmas morning, I'd like to share with my family how much happier I am now that I am myself - and to tell them their gift was the miserable awkward person they knew was never coming back.

Bri

PS- This is going to be a very hard holiday season for me.

QuoteFor Christmas, I would like my family to have a change of heart and to understand I am still human and still a member of their family. I would like to go home, sleep in the bed I grew up in, and get a hug from my mother as her daughter on Christmas Eve.

Then, on Christmas morning, I'd like to share with my family how much happier I am now that I am myself - and to tell them their gift was the miserable awkward person they knew was never coming back.

Bri

PS- This is going to be a very hard holiday season for me.

The first few can be tough doll.  But you are strong. You'll hold up to it.  Someday, you'll go home and sleep in your old bed and share time with your family.  Believe me.  Just keep in contact with them and continually express your love.

A couple years ago, I showed up on my Mom's doorstep for Christmas morning.  She cried profusely, she was so glad to see me.  (I live so very far away that I don't get out much to see them). 

It can happen and it is a beautiful thing when the love builds to overcome the feelings of hatred and self righteousness.

My first Christmas away (1986) was spent entirely alone.  I was staying with a T friend but she was out of town for the holiday.  I did call my mom.  I told her I that I loved her and she cried.  So did I.  I had nothing. I was lonely. I was staying in a dump. I had just had my breasts done and I wasn't feeling all that well yet.  It was one of the hardest and most difficult days of my life.  I drove around that afternoon looking for a place open to get something to eat.  There was nothing.  I went back to the dump and ate a bagel.

That was twenty years ago.  It is a good time to remember.  Every time I get to feeling a little down, I know that things can always be a lot worse.  I've lived them.

Chin up Bri. Call your mom on Christmas and tell her that you love her.  You don't need tell her anything else.  It might be just the thing to break the ice.

Cindi

Oh, Cindy. This was just the thing to leave me a crying mess... I miss them more than words can say... I miss them all the time now... It is an ache in my soul that is never 2 seconds from my thoughts. I never imagined that they could do this...

/me hugs

Bri
I feel your pain, but in time the family will come round.
Try and start writing to your mother first as mothers have a deep bond with a child.

I was excomunicated from my family when I crossed the rails and rebelled and it took six years for mum to come round.
My two sisters have never come round.

I saw your Utube film about yourself and you come across as strong willed and determined so I have faith in you.
Failing that bring the girls and lets go skiing.

Take care xx

I would love to turn the clock back, 8 years and spend my last Christmas with my son's again.

I miss them so much and just to spend one minute with them would be a wish come true.

Buffy

Buffy why do you say last Christmass ?

Quote from: Brianna on November 09, 2006, 10:47:05 PM
For Christmas, I would like my family to have a change of heart and to understand I am still human and still a member of their family. I would like to go home, sleep in the bed I grew up in, and get a hug from my mother as her daughter on Christmas Eve.

Then, on Christmas morning, I'd like to share with my family how much happier I am now that I am myself - and to tell them their gift was the miserable awkward person they knew was never coming back.

Bri

PS- This is going to be a very hard holiday season for me.

Hugs Brianna,

You echo my sentiments exactly.  Fortunately, they seem to at least be willing to talk to me.  I wish so very hard that they would have me back in their lives.  I haven't even seen my parents (nor have they seen me) since April of this year and I have changed a lot since then.  I know they care about me, but I just hope they will at least allow me to be who I am without trying to reduce me to tears.  It has been nearly a year since I came out to them (3 days after Thanksgiving last year) and they refuse to see me as female.  I suppose if I could at least start seeing them regularly, they would be able to realize I really am who I say I am.  A phone call will definitely be coming to them this month.  I think there is a way, but it will be tough.  Otherwise it's Thanksgiving and Christmas alone this year.  I just am unable to give up hope though.

Melissa

I wish that I would be done with school. I wish I would stop questioning everything in my life. I wish that I already knew all the answers.  I wish that my roommates were more responsible.  I wish that I could stop living in the dump that is my apartment.  I wish that I could get along with my mother long enough to warrant taking a trip to see my family.  I wish that I can have a nice Thanksgiving dinner.  I wish that my car had not broken down, I wish that I would stop breaking down, I wish I would stop worrying about everything, and I wish I would stop having these kinds of rampages.

Bri.. I'll set an invisible place at our table for you this Xmas.. You can marvel in the dysfunctionality of my family while i set there as a girl (that they full well know about!!!Grrrrrrr) in guy clothes playing the fake man for the sake of their sanity....  You can listen to my brohter-in-law attempt adult communication by saying so ahh hfm hfm rick hows tennis going.. (I'll think gee @!?hole its December how do you think its going???)
WaHoooooooooooooooooooooooo  You sure you wanna have a place with us? hehe... either way you're in!  my puppy can sit between us her first Xmas and you can get your leg slobbered on!
Alas I feel your pain and think its just sad, not right!  I hope there is something that comes your way to help!
I said before in a post did not elaborate about my dad dying here home at cancer in hospice i spent most evenings with him in our living room and i think in his end months he (he was an alcoholic too though) fully understood what he missed in life and how much of his kids lives he missed, he cried a lot which was hard for me to sit and see....
anyway Like julie and a lot of others have said somehow we have to turn the misery around, make positives out of negatives, I'm still waiting for a formula for that though!
Xmas culinary help:
side dishes?
Try corn bread casserole, a vegetable style lasagna, maybe a vegetable strata, roasted fruits with vegetables, the old frenches or campbell's do not know which one owns the recipe rights but Green bean casserole is refreshing if you never have it? Especially if you take the time to slice, flour and fry your own onion rings for on top!
Creamed corn pudding!  Sweet potato casserole is yummy if you put crunchy cookie/cinnamon topping on it before baking!

I'm getting hungry....
One last thing:........The GOOSE.. well i actually like more exotic game and fowl.. my family 4-getta-bout-it! but funny story..
Years back as a young sous chef i worked in a big resort we did thousands of dinners and buffets and parties for the holidays especially thanskgiving and xmas...Scratch cooking, high end stuff dinners were at the time 26.00-29.95 ala carte, etc..
Anyway we had this group of like 80 reserved a whole strip of condos, reserved a private (dining - conference room that seated 100 people homestyle) room for thier whole family they stayed at the resort for a whole week, well for their thanksgiving dinner they wanted this like 40.00 a person old  fashioned theme meal, Roast goose, stuffed with wined fruits, plum pudding, blood pies, you name it the menu was cool and i prepared 80% of it cause it was a rich family and our executive chef wanted it perfect!!!...Anyway i set about prepping and getting the goose into the ovens in the large banquet kitchen i had 18 geese prepped and slow roasting, I go on about other things get involved out of the kitchen into other things; meanwhile hours pass, no one in the kitchen (all very busy) is watching these birds for me.. YIKES I have this epifomy.I go running to the conference areas from another end of the center, fly into the kitchen open the oven and i had these very small shrivelled up things that looked like quail by the time i got to them...They were literally 2lbs instead of 11 or 12 lbs...
I had to put turkeys in, just hours from the dinner for these vip's (i cannot actually say who they were on this post but they were big time VIP's) and i had to go and explain to them what i did... I thought i would get fired and actually in the spirit of the holiday they got a good luagh out of it, actually had me in the room carving their fake gooses (turkeys) and retelling my tory, I ended up with a 250.00 tip from that group and forgiveness when i thought the world would end!  Well the facility director was not as forgiving he all but fired me! Gulp.. ah the things I've done as a young chef!'
That's my story and i'm sticking to it!
Bye the way the foods and things you guys speak of for the holidays are all very very interesting!
Thanks
R

Quote from: lolli on November 10, 2006, 10:26:08 AM
Buffy why do you say last Christmass ?

That was the last Christmas I spent with them, I haven't seen then since then as I was disowned by my family and stopped from seeing them.

Buffy

Quote from: Ricki on November 04, 2006, 07:05:24 PM
My Xmas wish... I want to wake up and be a girl!
Ricki

Oh Ricki, you don't know how many times I asked Santa to turn me into a girl when I was a child.  I'd write endless letters to him.....I wonder what my parents said when they read them.. ;D


tinkerbell :icon_chick:

   Hmmm...it's selfish and I feel terrible for saying it but I would like to hear from my family.  I suppose I should wish primarily for world peace or world health...I do wish for those things, I really do....it's dumb but have wished for those things since I was a child but as greedy as it seems I would just like to hear from my mom.  I go through this every year and every year I swear to myself it will be the last time but it never is.   For those that don't know I am at year number 5 of my mom not speaking to me since we had "the conversation"...I think it's year 5 at least..it may be year 6...it's becoming more and more difficult to keep track of. 

  I try not to be sad this time of year....because it only affects others negatively, so basically I just cry myself to sleep in private where nobody else can hear or see.  I just want to be accepted, not necessarily understood, just accepted. 

  Damnit...I hate this time of year.

  I had already lost most of my family over spiritual views many years ago so I won't know what it's like to lose them over being transgender.
  Since I have an understanding wife and I think my kids would understand I've been blessed.
  As I read these posts it really touches my heart and I know that there is nothing I can do to ease that burden of rejection you feel over being out as I felt over becoming Christian. I really wish I could say something that would help.
  I think if I could have one wish granted for Christmas it would be that each and every one of you would find that love, acceptance, understanding and reunion with your families that you so miss and long for.

  Tiffany

Tiffany and to others that have posted you know what? :P  you've helped me here a little i actually love the holiday season (working in the food service end is what drags it down you cannot really seem to enjoy it yourself..) and I will use this year to maybe just ease off a little with my loving dysfunctional family and actually show some Xmas spirit!  No-no I'm not dressing up like Mrs Claus but.. after hearing some of the very sad stories of you guys not even seeing your families maybe i should show a little consideration and not completely take them for granted!  Okay Ho Ho ho
thank you all very much! 
r

Quote from: BrandiOK on November 11, 2006, 01:00:06 AM
   Hmmm...it's selfish and I feel terrible for saying it but I would like to hear from my family.  I suppose I should wish primarily for world peace or world health...I do wish for those things, I really do....it's dumb but have wished for those things since I was a child but as greedy as it seems I would just like to hear from my mom.  I go through this every year and every year I swear to myself it will be the last time but it never is.   For those that don't know I am at year number 5 of my mom not speaking to me since we had "the conversation"...I think it's year 5 at least..it may be year 6...it's becoming more and more difficult to keep track of. 

  I try not to be sad this time of year....because it only affects others negatively, so basically I just cry myself to sleep in private where nobody else can hear or see.  I just want to be accepted, not necessarily understood, just accepted. 

  Damnit...I hate this time of year.

Brandi,

There is nothing wrong in wanting to hear from your family.  Who wouldn't?  If I may, have you thought about sending them a Christmas card?  It could reopen lines of communication....

Just a thought to go with a hug.   :icon_hug:

CHaunte

May I ask anyone in the States what is Key lime ? when is it used.

Sorry I know its off topic but since Ricki offered the cakes and someone else asked for key lime, well I had to ask.

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia.

Key Lime
Scientific classification
Kingdom:   Plantae
Division:   Magnoliophyta
Class:   Magnoliopsida
Order:   Sapindales
Family:   Rutaceae
Genus:   Citrus
Species:   C. aurantiifolia

Binomial name
Citrus aurantiifolia
(Christm.) Swingle

The Key lime (Citrus aurantiifolia, Citrus aurantifolia, or Citrus x aurantiifolia (Christm.) Swingle), also known as the Mexican lime, West Indian lime or Bartender's lime, has a globose fruit, 2.5-5 cm in diameter (1-2 in), that is yellow when ripe but usually picked green. It is smaller, seedier, has a higher acidity, a stronger aroma, and a thinner rind than that of the more common Persian lime. It is valued for its unique flavor compared to other limes, with the key lime usually having a more tart and bitter flavor. It is perhaps most distinguished as an ingredient in the Key lime pie.

my chrismiss wish!!! A roboraptor and a packet of choccy buttons!! ^_^

hehe... ok >_>  what i really wish for....... hmmm   :-\ harder than i imagined... >_> can i just stick with the choccy buttons for now?  ;D

Very Good Helen i do not think i could have typed it as well!
Changed the pic too so if you did not get a slice sorry........
Maybe chocolate cheesecake later in the week!
Yum!
R

My Christmas wish would be to be able to get together with all my friends here in AZ and the various friends that I've met online (even those I've lost track of) to have a wonderful holiday.  I feel that friends are the family that we choose to be with, and I am very grateful to each and every person I've met who has been supportive of me in my transition.  There are quite a few of them that I've never met in person, and I'd love to be able to just once speak to them face to face and give each of them a big hug.  I'm becoming a bit of a sentimental woman as I go down this path.  But that's not a bad thing  ;).

Quote from: Ricki on November 12, 2006, 06:13:02 PM
Very Good Helen i do not think i could have typed it as well!
Changed the pic too so if you did not get a slice sorry........
Maybe chocolate cheesecake later in the week!
Yum!
R

That was a COPY and PASTE, hon'  I'm not THAT dedicated!  ;D

Virtual slices from a pixellated pie never held much temptation for me so, thanks anyway!

I changed my piccy too - isn't she gorgeous?

hugs & smiles,
helen

Quote from: HelenW on November 12, 2006, 08:46:57 PM
I changed my piccy too - isn't she gorgeous?

hugs & smiles,
helen

Yes she is... and her daughter is just as lovely.  Both are favorites of mine.

Cindi

i know its an old thread... but santy is bringing me hormones for christmass !! :D
i had to tell someone or i would have burst

This is fantastic news, Jess!

Congratulations! :eusa_clap: :eusa_dance: :eusa_clap:

PS - W..Where did you send the letter?  I've been asking Santa to change me one way or another for decades!  I had to go the shrink/endo route to get mine!  :D

Hugs & Smiles,
helen

thanks :D
i think santa may be comming to terms with some issues themself and took pity on me ;P

I went chrissy shopping today.
I hate having to go into the city, but it had to be done.
The only pressy Santa may give me is some counciling  :( all good things come to those that wait.

Con grats Jess, hope all goes well for you.

Hmm, I already got my presents this year, which was a bed and a PS2. ;D  Anything else I get is gravy.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on November 20, 2006, 01:16:06 PM
Hmm, I already got my presents this year, which was a bed and a PS2. ;D  Anything else I get is gravy.

Melissa

I'll be making lots of gravy this week.  You are welcome to have some if you like.  ;)

I do remember that the first thing that I bought for myself when I went out on my own was a twin sized bed.  I slept on the floor for six months.  It was the only piece of furniture that I had for almost a whole year.

Cindi