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Title: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:05:16 PM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:05:16 PM
I was hanging at school with some friends (friends who use the correct pronouns!)
and I was talking with a girl from my class, she knows my name is Elijah, and my friend was there, and happened to call me (he) in front of this girl. The girl then looked at me and said "wait, um i dont mean this to be offensive, but are you a guy or a girl?"
and I said "guy, yea I get that a lot though" (cause I'm not going to say girl, and i'm not gonna try to explain trans to a stranger)
then she said "ohh, I was confused, you look really feminine, and you kinda dress like a lesbian"
I was wearing some blue jeans, and a college hoodie.. should I stick to my buttondowns?
and I was talking with a girl from my class, she knows my name is Elijah, and my friend was there, and happened to call me (he) in front of this girl. The girl then looked at me and said "wait, um i dont mean this to be offensive, but are you a guy or a girl?"
and I said "guy, yea I get that a lot though" (cause I'm not going to say girl, and i'm not gonna try to explain trans to a stranger)
then she said "ohh, I was confused, you look really feminine, and you kinda dress like a lesbian"
I was wearing some blue jeans, and a college hoodie.. should I stick to my buttondowns?
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Silver on January 27, 2010, 10:29:45 PM
Post by: Silver on January 27, 2010, 10:29:45 PM
Quote from: Elijah on January 27, 2010, 10:05:16 PM
I was wearing some blue jeans, and a college hoodie.. should I stick to my buttondowns?
IMO they're more masculine. Help me pass a lot.
Anybody can wear a hoodie. It's androgynous.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:31:18 PM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:31:18 PM
Quote from: SilverFang on January 27, 2010, 10:29:45 PM
IMO they're more masculine. Help me pass a lot.
Anybody can wear a hoodie. It's androgynous.
yea I guess I always knew that.. I think I will invest in some more buttondowns.. what other shirts could I wear? or jackets? cause it is COLD and all i have r my hoodies
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Silver on January 27, 2010, 10:34:17 PM
Post by: Silver on January 27, 2010, 10:34:17 PM
Quote from: Elijah on January 27, 2010, 10:31:18 PM
yea I guess I always knew that.. I think I will invest in some more buttondowns.. what other shirts could I wear? or jackets? cause it is COLD and all i have r my hoodies
Leather/Fake leather jackets are masculine.
Blazers? Various types of coats/jackets?
Trench coat if that's your thing?
I don't know. If you don't mind buying new clothes, I'm sure there's plenty of warm clothes for men.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Osiris on January 27, 2010, 10:42:16 PM
Post by: Osiris on January 27, 2010, 10:42:16 PM
I would advise against leather as that's big among butch lesbians.
Button downs and blazers are good. Classic men's clothing is always good.
Button downs and blazers are good. Classic men's clothing is always good.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:46:57 PM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 27, 2010, 10:46:57 PM
Quote from: Osiris on January 27, 2010, 10:42:16 PM
I would advise against leather as that's big among butch lesbians.
Button downs and blazers are good. Classic men's clothing is always good.
I love button downs, and I love blazers very much, but i have no idea where to get one that will fit my small frame
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Osiris on January 27, 2010, 10:54:08 PM
Post by: Osiris on January 27, 2010, 10:54:08 PM
A good trick is shopping in the boy's section.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 03:26:18 AM
Post by: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 03:26:18 AM
I am curious... what is "dressing like a lesbian"?
Now I'm nervous about my own dress sense! :-\ Buttondowns are not the done thing here for casualwear, unless you're in management (or just a douche).
Now I'm nervous about my own dress sense! :-\ Buttondowns are not the done thing here for casualwear, unless you're in management (or just a douche).
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Alessandro on January 28, 2010, 04:29:06 AM
Post by: Alessandro on January 28, 2010, 04:29:06 AM
I am confused by that comment as well. Surely 'dressing like a lesbian' is a woman dressing like a man to look butch? How can a guy dress like a lesbian?
It makes sense if they think you're a girl, I get the lesbian thing a lot. But if you passed, then why would they say you dress like a lesbian ??? Sorry don't get that!
It makes sense if they think you're a girl, I get the lesbian thing a lot. But if you passed, then why would they say you dress like a lesbian ??? Sorry don't get that!
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Silver on January 28, 2010, 04:43:38 AM
Post by: Silver on January 28, 2010, 04:43:38 AM
Quote from: Alessandro on January 28, 2010, 04:29:06 AM
I am confused by that comment as well. Surely 'dressing like a lesbian' is a woman dressing like a man to look butch? How can a guy dress like a lesbian?
It makes sense if they think you're a girl, I get the lesbian thing a lot. But if you passed, then why would they say you dress like a lesbian ??? Sorry don't get that!
He's not passing. That's the point right there. Butch lesbians have a style that is not "male" it's its own thing.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 05:31:03 AM
Post by: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 05:31:03 AM
Quote from: SilverFang on January 28, 2010, 04:43:38 AM
Butch lesbians have a style that is not "male" it's its own thing.
Which is exactly what I'm curious about!
What is butch lesbian style?
(I'll take stone pyramids for 400.... :laugh:).
But really, what is this "lesbian style" thing? What sort of things to they tend to wear? Mens stuff, or womens stuff?
I am curious because I want to do everything in my power NOT to look like a lesbian! :laugh:
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Alessandro on January 28, 2010, 05:33:23 AM
Post by: Alessandro on January 28, 2010, 05:33:23 AM
Quote from: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 05:31:03 AM
Which is exactly what I'm curious about!
What is butch lesbian style?
(I'll take stone pyramids for 400.... :laugh:).
But really, what is this "lesbian style" thing? What sort of things to they tend to wear? Mens stuff, or womens stuff?
I am curious because I want to do everything in my power NOT to look like a lesbian! :laugh:
Seconded! Bring the wisdom folks :laugh:
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Nick Aiden on January 28, 2010, 08:15:29 AM
Post by: Nick Aiden on January 28, 2010, 08:15:29 AM
Quote from: Teknoir on January 28, 2010, 05:31:03 AM
What is butch lesbian style?
(I'll take stone pyramids for 400.... :laugh:).
That was hysterical I LOL'd for real.
Anyway. As far as Lesbian style, I think its a lot of androgynous clothes, a little men clothes, and a little female clothes. They have a strange balance of all 3, imo.
I don't think there is anything you can really do about it. Because anything guys wear, could be something a lesbian would wear. And I mean anything, they wear button downs and blazers too.
Stick to your guns, dress like you. If people ask do what you did, "I'm a guy. But I get that all the time."
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: jose on January 28, 2010, 08:32:58 AM
Post by: jose on January 28, 2010, 08:32:58 AM
to me hoodie is fine for a guy and i take it as my usual look.
it turns out very intresting that i get "sir" like all the time but god knows i dont even start binding yet.
so maybe it's not about the clothes, it's about the way you act (like talking, behavior etc.) and of course your temperament as well.
sorry for the expressions i may have make mistake in, i dont speak english fluently :D
it turns out very intresting that i get "sir" like all the time but god knows i dont even start binding yet.
so maybe it's not about the clothes, it's about the way you act (like talking, behavior etc.) and of course your temperament as well.
sorry for the expressions i may have make mistake in, i dont speak english fluently :D
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Radar on January 28, 2010, 10:01:09 AM
Post by: Radar on January 28, 2010, 10:01:09 AM
Yeah... I don't get that statement. I don't understand "lesbian dress" either. Hoodies are so feminine- guys never wear them. ::) I wouldn't worry about her comment. It sounds to me that you just had an encounter with someone who suffers from Teh Dumb.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: spacial on January 28, 2010, 10:32:37 AM
Post by: spacial on January 28, 2010, 10:32:37 AM
Think she was goading you. ;)
It's up to you, but can I suggest all you really need is a big laugh. Perhaps followed by, 'Yeah, I think you're nice too!' :D
It's up to you, but can I suggest all you really need is a big laugh. Perhaps followed by, 'Yeah, I think you're nice too!' :D
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: deviousxen on January 28, 2010, 11:39:26 AM
Post by: deviousxen on January 28, 2010, 11:39:26 AM
Quote from: Elijah on January 27, 2010, 10:46:57 PM
I love button downs, and I love blazers very much, but i have no idea where to get one that will fit my small frame
Cargo pants in masculine cuts?
And avoid leather, I agree. Unless you're Arnold or a hardcore lessie :P
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 28, 2010, 11:41:51 AM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 28, 2010, 11:41:51 AM
Quote from: spacial on January 28, 2010, 10:32:37 AM
Think she was goading you. ;)
It's up to you, but can I suggest all you really need is a big laugh. Perhaps followed by, 'Yeah, I think you're nice too!' :D
goading?
Post Merge: January 28, 2010, 11:43:16 AM
Quote from: Kara-Xen on January 28, 2010, 11:39:26 AM
Cargo pants in masculine cuts?
And avoid leather, I agree. Unless you're Arnold or a hardcore lessie :P
Kara- xen you are so cute.. lol I just wanted to say, always adorable in your avatars
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: spacial on January 28, 2010, 11:51:49 AM
Post by: spacial on January 28, 2010, 11:51:49 AM
Sorry Elijah
What I meant is that I get the feeling she is just having a go at you. Saying that to poke a bit of fun.
I was suggesting that changing your wardrobe might be over reacting to a jibe.
What I meant is that I get the feeling she is just having a go at you. Saying that to poke a bit of fun.
I was suggesting that changing your wardrobe might be over reacting to a jibe.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: deviousxen on January 28, 2010, 04:00:38 PM
Post by: deviousxen on January 28, 2010, 04:00:38 PM
Quote from: Elijah on January 28, 2010, 11:41:51 AM.__.
goading?
Post MergeJanuary 28, 2010, 10:43:16 AM
Kara- xen you are so cute.. lol I just wanted to say, always adorable in your avatars
... Thanks. But to be honest I REALLY handpick my pictures now. I lost so much weight I should still have DX
I hope it stays that way... I've been so sickly.
Thanks...
Sorry to derail. For the record you don't really strike me as looking like a lesbian from your pictures : D
Maybe post a picture so the forum can more accurately judge your attire?
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: jonjon on January 28, 2010, 04:36:02 PM
Post by: jonjon on January 28, 2010, 04:36:02 PM
Quote from: Elijah on January 27, 2010, 10:05:16 PM
I was hanging at school with some friends (friends who use the correct pronouns!)
and I was talking with a girl from my class, she knows my name is Elijah, and my friend was there, and happened to call me (he) in front of this girl. The girl then looked at me and said "wait, um i dont mean this to be offensive, but are you a guy or a girl?"
and I said "guy, yea I get that a lot though" (cause I'm not going to say girl, and i'm not gonna try to explain trans to a stranger)
then she said "ohh, I was confused, you look really feminine, and you kinda dress like a lesbian"
I was wearing some blue jeans, and a college hoodie.. should I stick to my buttondowns?
Off topic man... but i just gotta say I LOVE YOUR SIG!!!! O_O watership down ftw!!! XD
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: icontact on January 29, 2010, 07:07:30 PM
Post by: icontact on January 29, 2010, 07:07:30 PM
What a stupid comment, everyone wears that. Just stay away from flannel, that's the big 'un.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: insanitylives on January 29, 2010, 07:16:34 PM
Post by: insanitylives on January 29, 2010, 07:16:34 PM
Quote from: Sameth on January 29, 2010, 07:07:30 PMYeah, agreed.
What a stupid comment, everyone wears that. Just stay away from flannel, that's the big 'un.
Saw the title, first thought was "No, they're just borrowing men's style"... I'mma stand by that statement.
I don't really see how what you were wearing could be taken that way, unless it's, like, a tighter hoodie (for some reason I doubt this)
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Myself on January 30, 2010, 04:52:56 AM
Post by: Myself on January 30, 2010, 04:52:56 AM
She probably just thought you are a girl dressing in man's clothing so being lesbian and then figured you are a boy but tried to say she thought you're a lesbian or something O_o
I doubt a boy can dress like a lesbian, but maybe.
I doubt a boy can dress like a lesbian, but maybe.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: thestory on January 30, 2010, 05:16:28 AM
Post by: thestory on January 30, 2010, 05:16:28 AM
Maybe she was being a jerk and calling you out. Can't really tell. Or like others said probably just trying to point out they thought you were a girl.
But I do agree, that dressing as a lesbian could be seen as dressing like a guy...so a guy dressing as a lesbian is dressing as a guy. seems like pretty straight forward thinking that they just missed.
I dunno... weird.
But I do agree, that dressing as a lesbian could be seen as dressing like a guy...so a guy dressing as a lesbian is dressing as a guy. seems like pretty straight forward thinking that they just missed.
I dunno... weird.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: deviousxen on January 30, 2010, 12:30:13 PM
Post by: deviousxen on January 30, 2010, 12:30:13 PM
Quote from: Myself on January 30, 2010, 04:52:56 AM
She probably just thought you are a girl dressing in man's clothing so being lesbian and then figured you are a boy but tried to say she thought you're a lesbian or something O_o
I doubt a boy can dress like a lesbian, but maybe.
There is a subtle difference. I mean... Certain clothes from 300 years probably mean totally different things than what they mean now. Things morph and traverse tribes...
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 02:09:08 PM
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 02:09:08 PM
I found you Elijah.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Silver on January 30, 2010, 02:15:58 PM
Post by: Silver on January 30, 2010, 02:15:58 PM
Quote from: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 02:09:08 PM
I found you Elijah.
Welcome back, I hadn't seen you here in a while and I wondered what happened to you.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:08:06 PM
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:08:06 PM
Just hadn't posted on the forums in a while. I'm sorry. *huggies*
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 30, 2010, 04:20:05 PM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 30, 2010, 04:20:05 PM
Quote from: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 02:09:08 PM
I found you Elijah.
hey, r u from transqueernation?
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:22:41 PM
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:22:41 PM
Yea, I am, Im sammy.
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 30, 2010, 04:24:56 PM
Post by: Elijah3291 on January 30, 2010, 04:24:56 PM
Quote from: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:22:41 PM
Yea, I am, Im sammy.
nice to hear from u again
Title: Re: I dress like a lesbian!???? O-o
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:32:43 PM
Post by: emoboi on January 30, 2010, 04:32:43 PM
yea *hugs*