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The new job, is going swimmingly and I'm really enjoying it. Like everyone calls me Davis, I get he'd and like I'm excited to go to work just cause of these factors alone. Sure there is some paperwork stuff that still have my female name, but other than that, I'm just Davis. It's nice to have a likeable personality lol. So sure it's been good but yesterday some guy who was helping the instructor she'd me, and the one of the guys in class also she'd me, but I plan on correcting him if he does it again, because the other guy I don't really see. He was just helping out.

But like being she'd just that once, ruined the rest of my day. Then I had to go get a shirt for work, and I couldn't leave the dressing room to get my gf's opinion on the shirt cause I was feeling self concious. I also have bathroom problems, but if I gotta go, I'm gonna go. I try to block out the fact that I'm not peeing standing up.

My girlfriend told me that nobody is that interested in me, and even if they were, I pass 99% of the time. So yeah she made me feel better yesterday.

But other than my one bad day, I really like my new job and the group of people I'm training with. So yeah that's my new update.

-Davis

Good to hear it, Davis. I'm glad the job is working out.

For some of us, that one "she" will always stand out among a thousand "hes." Try to focus on the dozen or so times someone called you by the right pronoun. Sometimes that helps.

That's a good tip Arch. Yeah like all week I've been he'd and those two she's complete ruined my day. I just gotta bounce back quicker instead of dwelling. Like when someone says she, it'll just become automatic to correct them to he. Part of the training. lol

Quote from: DavisJ86 on February 26, 2010, 03:37:18 PM
That's a good tip Arch. Yeah like all week I've been he'd and those two she's complete ruined my day. I just gotta bounce back quicker instead of dwelling. Like when someone says she, it'll just become automatic to correct them to he. Part of the training. lol

Yeah, definitely correct them if you don't feel funny about it. And even if you do...well, keep correcting people; eventually you won't feel awkward.

I think most of us dwell on those little unpleasant moments a little more than we should. I sure do. The trick is to become aware as soon as possible and try to turn your thinking around.

Maybe I should take my own advice today... ::)

Quote from: Arch on February 26, 2010, 05:12:25 PM
Maybe I should take my own advice today... ::)

Easier said than done my friend lol

Sounds really good news Davis.

Just don't let small things ruin your great day.

Oh BTW, there was a news paper article over here by a guy who was going on about more and more guys are using the stall for a pee rather than urinals because guys find them pretty disgusting as well.

Hope you bought your girl some flowers with the first pay check :angel:

Hugs
Cindy

Quote from: DavisJ86 on February 26, 2010, 03:05:29 PM


But like being she'd just that once, ruined the rest of my day. Then I had to go get a shirt for work, and I couldn't leave the dressing room to get my gf's opinion on the shirt cause I was feeling self concious. I also have bathroom problems, but if I gotta go, I'm gonna go. I try to block out the fact that I'm not peeing standing up.


-Davis

Davis, don't sweat it to much about the bathroom.  A lot of guys use the toilet for just peeing,  it is not unusual for a guy to wait out while all of the stands are being used.  Believe it or not, guys can be self conscious about public restrooms.   Speaking from experience, not only do I dread using urinals but so do others.  I've spoken to enough guys to relate to the same issue.  It is an uncomfortable predicament to just whip it out in front of strangers.   

The main thing I have noticed about workplace restrooms is that most seem to just vacate the area without washing their hands.  It used to absolutely disgust me to the point that I would not touch the doors without using paper towels to open the doors, evidently this was a common enough experience that there was often a waste basket near the exit door to disperse paper towels :)

Being a guy is pretty easy,  don't sweat the small stuff.  Matching outfits is not that big of a deal,  most guys I know just toss on whatever shirt and a pair of jeans or slacks if work calls for it.    If somebody calls you a she,  just give them a strange look, as though there is something wrong with them. 

Hope I helped,  even though I am a transsexual I have gotten used to acting it out.   

Quote from: CindyJames on February 27, 2010, 01:26:28 AM

Hope you bought your girl some flowers with the first pay check :angel:

Cindy, haven't gotten paid yet, but when I do I'll be sure to do something special for her. It'll be close to the two year by then lol.

Yeah I'm not going to let my bathroom anxieties get the best of me, that wouldn't be good. Samara, I have noticed that guys don't wash their hands afterwards, and that baffles my inner germaphobe. I've gotten used to it, but it was shocking lol. In my head I was screaming, "That is so unhealthy!". And you did help alot. Both you and Cindy.

Just gotta get my swag back in place and then I'll be fine

Quote from: DavisJ86 on February 27, 2010, 05:28:52 AM
I have noticed that guys don't wash their hands afterwards, and that baffles my inner germaphobe. I've gotten used to it, but it was shocking lol. In my head I was screaming, "That is so unhealthy!".

My mother was fanatical about hand-washing and brought me up to wash my hands every single time. I can only assume that she was just as adamant with my brother.

My ex, on the other hand...well, one thing that always bothered me about him was that he didn't wash his hands after peeing. Even when I mentioned it, he didn't do it.

Many times, I found myself thinking that he had been badly brought up. To my mother's way of thinking, RESPECTABLE people always wash their hands.

And wipe their feet before entering the house. And don't slam doors. And don't raise their voices. And...

My mother was fanatical about hand-washing and brought me up to wash my hands every single time

My mom taught me not to pee on my hands.

Quote from: tekla on February 27, 2010, 02:19:28 PM
My mom taught me not to pee on my hands.

Gee, I would have thought that this lesson was unnecessary...

Dude, it's the standard, older than the bible joke about washing your hands in the men's room.

Yeah I don't wash my hands in the mens room because of the basic rule above. I think you would get noticed way more for that than for anyone thinking you don't pass.
Myles

Quote from: tekla on February 28, 2010, 04:27:17 AM
Dude, it's the standard, older than the bible joke about washing your hands in the men's room.

Dude, I didn't say I'd never heard it before. ::)

My ex (male) was anal retentive about washing his hands, even in public rest rooms.  As am I.  I don't care if most men don't, and I get Tekla's point (I feel the same way about wiping... I didn't actually touch myself or get urine on myself).  But I still wash my hands.

Anyhow...


Jay

It always seemed to me that whatever I'm picking up from touching myself - and even if I did pee on my hands, urine is damn close to sterile due to the high levels of ammonia in it, EVERYBODY has been touching the sink after they've done whatever they were doing, and NOBODY has been cleaning that sink for hours, and hours, and hours, and when they do clean it, its done in some half-assed manner by some minimum wage person who doesn't really care about doing that job, so the sink is a literal Ground Zero for the next plague.  So I'm far less worried about how dirty my dick is (and it's not) then touching the sink that 20, 30, 40 people just took huge steaming massive dumps, then wiped their butt, and then put their hand on that sink you want me to touch?

And now, try not to think of that the next time you go to wash your hand in a public sink.  And no need to thank me, paranoia is just a free gift.

Quote from: tekla on March 01, 2010, 09:05:14 PM
It always seemed to me that whatever I'm picking up from touching myself - and even if I did pee on my hands, urine is damn close to sterile due to the high levels of ammonia in it, EVERYBODY has been touching the sink after they've done whatever they were doing, and NOBODY has been cleaning that sink for hours, and hours, and hours, and when they do clean it, its done in some half-assed manner by some minimum wage person who doesn't really care about doing that job, so the sink is a literal Ground Zero for the next plague.  So I'm far less worried about how dirty my dick is (and it's not) then touching the sink that 20, 30, 40 people just took huge steaming massive dumps, then wiped their butt, and then put their hand on that sink you want me to touch?

And now, try not to think of that the next time you go to wash your hand in a public sink.  And no need to thank me, paranoia is just a free gift.

There are ways to wash (that will get that ick off too) and then NOT touch afterwards... LOL.

And thank goodness for the invention of touchless faucets and paper towel dispensers and doorless rest rooms!   ;D


That and there are always wet wipes in the car (habit left over from having a kid who was immunocompromised for a few years).

Jay