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I just hate him.

He is a ->-bleeped-<-ing primate!!!!!!!!!!!!

he is a bully and should be put on sedations...

started shouting at me, so I just left and now he's shouting at mom 20 minutes later..
all because the "surgery" is not the thing I needed, according to him I need to be in some psychiatrist section.

and now after his psychotic episode he is just sitting in the room next to mine on his computer, singing happily to himself.

That's so uncomfortable having him so close here, and every time he has those psychotic episodes I am scared he will go to physical violence against me or mom like he did once before.

Just remember if he dos call the police.  It is assault regardless.  Especially being that he is A) not married to your Mom and B) he is not related to you.

Sounds like time to live somewhere else. Be careful, it happened once it will likely happen again.

Quote from: LordKAT on March 12, 2010, 11:39:25 AM
Sounds like time to live somewhere else. Be careful, it happened once it will likely happen again.

Still trying to get a job to make it happen.. but I am kinda stuck with catch 22 being in a small village and they want me to be in the city or have a car but for moving to the city I need money.

Abuse is abuse dear. You and your mom need to get away from this person. If she won't go for help, you need to pronto.

I don't know where you live, but in your area there must be some type of social services network that can help you get free of this. Some churches may be able to help you as well.

Abusers continue to be abusers. The violence can and will escalate. Don't enable him in his game of cruelty. You and your mom could end up hurt or dead.

Once you've managed to escape, you can attempt to help your mum do the same from a safe distance.

Good luck!

Israel so churches isn't much of a reality here and social worker, I already tried, all they can do is try to help me get a job by guiding me to the right direction but not interfering. I am meeting one every week.

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Now over 2 hours later he is in the living room shouting at mom about my psychological problems again and how mom shouldn't help me or anything at all..

Look up this organization. It's a start!
http://www.naamat.org/index.php?option=com_contact&view=category&catid=51&Itemid=72 (http://www.naamat.org/index.php?option=com_contact&view=category&catid=51&Itemid=72)

There are services out there for you and your mom. You don't have to put up with abuse. Battered woman and children can stay at these shelters for free. I would also consider calling the police if you are in a position of being threatened with physical harm. Remember that emotional abuse is often the precursor for domestic violence.

Go seek help!

Just to repeat what everyone else has already said, this guy's a bully and you have to try to do something.

Whatever it takes.

As you said, he may become violent at some time. That is not acceptable.

Please get some help, for your own sake as well as your mom's.

Having been in a "psychiatrist section", I can vouch for the idea that you don't come out any less trans. Why exactly is he angry, does you existence offend him on a physical, religious or ethical level or is it just the money that was spent for your surgery? If you're truly stuck there, a good survival technique is to lay low, and use "I" statements to diffuse the tension. For example: "I think maybe we should talk about this another time" is going to land better than "You aren't listening!".

control freaks like this guy need removing from your lives...his harping on about you to your mother will eventually turn her off him anyway but until then you need to assert your right to be yourself...next time he's raving try calling the police to him..it might do the trick.