Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Hi everyone,

So after perusing these forums for a while, I finally worked up the courage to register. I'm a 21 year old transgender guy with a female body. I came to terms with my gender identity last year, having denied it to myself since I realized I wasn't quite comfortable in my body when puberty started to change it. I'm still struggling with my fears about how people will perceive me and that I would lose everyone I loved if I were to come out.

I've been working on figuring out what I need with a great trans and queer friendly therapist. I have a partner of three years who is a cismale and had identified as straight all his life who is coming to terms with what it means to be in love with and attracted to me. So far, I think things are going the best they can; we both try really hard to communicate when we're feeling insecure about something, and we always talk things through after fights.

I have come out to my boyfriend and my therapist, and a group of people who I didn't know who came to a presentation of Pat Califia's (that one took a lot). I'm still terrified about telling my parents and sister.

But enough about my insecurities... I'm a 4th year University student studying the psychology and neuroscience of language, hence the name. I'm really glad this community exists; it can feel so isolating when you're the only trans person you know.

Thank you guys for building such a great resource and support network!

Hi Brainiac, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 4300 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
  

Hugs and Love,
Janet

welcome, dood
how is chat? :P

Oh, and special thanks to FlanHusky for activating my account instead of letting me sit there banging my head against the keyboard... :)

Welcome, Brainiac.  This is a great place to come to work out those insecurities by getting different perspectives and learning from other people's experiences.  Good luck, regardless of which path you choose to take.

Welcome to Susan's, Brainiac. :icon_flower:

There's lots of good information and good people here.  I think you'll fit in fine.

The early stages are often the hardest.  And I've found this to be sometimes very difficult for those who love us - they accept us but aren't sure how to handle it all.  I'm glad for you that you two are continuing to work things together.

I studied language from the cognitive science standpoint and found it fascinating.  We are of many different ages here and come from many different backgrounds, but we have one thing in common - we just want the freedom to be ourselves.  (And perhaps a little help in discovering just what that is. ::))

Happy exploring. :icon_wave:

- Kate

Thanks so much for the welcome, everyone!

(And my major is actually cognitive science too!  That's really neat. :D )