Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Well I guess I should start talking if I want to get anything out of these forums.

I'm not sure I'd classify myself as transgendered to the extent that most of the people here seem to.  I'm a boy, and I'm okay with being a boy for the most part, but I often wish I had been born a girl and I frequently and thoroughly enjoy crossdressing and acting like a girl in other ways.  I'd say I'm maybe 45% transgendered.  Silly to give it a number I know.  I don't think I'd ever go through with a full transition or surgery or anything for a couple of reasons, first I fear judgment of everyone I would have to tell, and second I think it'd be like giving up being a boy to get being not quite a girl, if that makes sense.  I mostly keep my crossdressing habits to myself but lately my good friend has encouraged me to show it some in public, such as wearing my cute bow or nail polish to school.  She's been a great understanding friend but most of the people I know aren't as open as her so it's like every time I go out I have to choose between wearing what I want and making others uncomfortable, or conforming and just being a normal guy.

Anyway, that's an adequate ramble of my issues that suffices as an introduction, other than of course my name.  My boy name is Jason but when I'm feeling girly I like to be called Nessa.

So Hi!

Hi, nice to meet you Nessa.

Hi Nessa, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 4600 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

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Hugs and Love,
Janet

So perhaps I may ask a question or 2....
(maybe even make a statement)
How long back can you remember having these feelings? When did you start cross dressing? Do you ever feel like you need to dress like a girl to feel comfortable?

You do not have to live your life to keep others happy. You can only find peace in living true to your own needs.

Thank you all.  To answer your questions cynthia, my earliest memory was when I was probably around 5 and me and my friend dressed up in my sister's dresses.  I sorta figured every kid plays around with odd things tho.  I started stealing her panties to wear when we were teenagers but not frequently.  I liked to look more like a girl.  I've been getting my own clothes and such a lot more over the last about a half a year, I'm 20 now.

I don't think I've ever needed to crossdress to feel comfortable, but it always helps.

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With what I've said about myself do you think I should mark my gender as male or female?

Or don't mark it at all.  I don't. ;)  I believe myself to be physically male and present as one now, but it isn't very comfortable to be perceived or judged as one.  However I'd feel like I was faking it were I to ask others to see me as or identify myself as female.

See most of the time I feel more male but at times I really feel like I should be a girl so I don't know

Hi Nessa,

You can be in between, many are. You are who you are, if being male and cross dressing is for you, then it is. No worries, no need to try to fit a label to yourself. People come in too many varieties to worry about it.


Welcome to site. I get the feeling you will fit right in.

Thanks KAT, I think that's exactly what I needed to hear.  I am in between, and I'm glad I'm not the only one who understands that

You are quite welcome.

Hi Nessa and Jason :-*

Welcome. Yes things can be pretty confusing feeling one way then the other. But there is no demand, expectation or anything here. Just be comfy in yourself, It'll all work out. But if you need help, discussion or whatever just post. I think we are rather a nice group of people who try hard to help each other. And of course - believe it or not - we don't all live in the USA. Oh my god the social fabric is destroyed everywhere on the planet.

I'm in Australia

Welcome agai

Cindy

Thanks :)

I am not a profesional. (pshrink that is. )
I would not assume to tell you what gender I think you are.
Perhaps you would benifit from reading the androgyne board, the MTF board, and the FTM forum. (yes even the FTM's they are fairly smart and definatly more active than others around here.)
Anyways, you are only 20 and you do not seem to be in a panic, so I do not think you need to rush this. But I would sugest that you do try and nail this down one way or anouther before you turn 25. If you need to transition you do not want to go into late 20's without doing something. Testosterone poisoning will do a serious number on you from 25-30ish.

1 more ???
Do you have a therapist?

Thanks for the advice, I don't have a therapist and I don't think I really want one.  The only person I really talk to about this is one friend.