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Hi all, I have been very excited to start transition, and all of my friends know about it and are cool with it so far. However, I still present myself as a male to them and it sort of bugs me. I think that I'm too scared about what they'll think.

I understand that if they are my true friend they won't care, but I think I'M the one who cares lol. It's just going to be awkward going out with them or going to their houses in a skirt and makeup when I have been wearing sneakers and baggy jeans for the last 10 years in some cases.

How can I get rid of this feeling of fear?

Chrissi

Perhaps take smaller steps, like just wear eyeliner and an andro top at first instead of going all the way with skirts and full makeup.

I went out for the first time in january and since then ive had generally a positive reaction from people, when i went full time about 3 weeks ago i lost 2 friends, (its mroe complicated than that but thats the gist of it). It will take your friends a while to get used to it though, i jumped straight in, first time out was a dress with jeans underneath, now 3 months later i recon they would find it strange to see me in boy mode lol

Im an FTM and I feel like this with friends sometimes. Now I think its easier for an FTM because wearing baggy jeans and a t-shirt is accepted with both genders whereas someone who is biologically male wearing a skirt is hard for people to deal with. Just like other people have said just take small steps. I often find it very awkward around friends and to some degree (even though I shouldnt) I do care what they think so I always make sure they are comfortable with my level of masculinity. Just gradually let yourself out.

Quote from: Hurtfulsplash on May 12, 2010, 01:18:12 AM
Perhaps take smaller steps, like just wear eyeliner and an andro top at first instead of going all the way with skirts and full makeup.

Yea I say take it in smaller steps too ;D Or you could wear girls jeans, you dont have to wear skirts since theres trousers (pants) for girls. I really like the subtlety of my girls jeans, I've been wearing this kind of girlswear for about a year, now that im more confident, im slipping into girls tops too :)

Make-up? Hmm, I've never worn makeup yet, I don't think my face needs make-up tho ;D

Get some girls Tshirts and jeans and running shoes. Save the dress's for formal and the skirts for dates or the office. (when you get there.)
Most females aren't wearing skirts and blouse's all the time. Anyways; as the jeans and tshirt look is unisexual and the default clothing of the comon citizen it is easy for others to adjust to and easier for others to accept, I highly endorse the look.  :)

Yeah I find it hard as a close friend still refers Myself as she and it bugs me majorly.