Susan's Place Transgender Resources

I got a boyfriend.  :) A good and bad thing. He knows i'm trans, and will probably be undergoing hormones, and physical changes in the next few years, and that he WILL be viewed as gay when we are out on dates. He says he doesn't care, and ill take anythin his buds throw at him. I love him... But i'm scared this won't work out. I know it won't, but i still want to be close buds. I can see us, 20 years from now, still knowing eachother, still band mates, but him with a wife, and me...i don't know. He's kind of a macho straight guy, and i think the idea that he likes me, is going out with me, freaks him out. He likes me for who i am, but this gender thing is going to get in our way big time. I feel so bad for messing him up, but i'm still happier than i've been for the past few weeks. Is dating this guy me being selfish? Is it just me wanting for someone to really love me? He's going to get teases about me, i know it, and i feel bad about it.

I assume he is mature enough to decide what he wants to do with his life. If you were upfront with him and he is willing to be with you, let him. If he needs to leave in the future, let him.