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Title: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: justsomekid1 on May 31, 2010, 05:51:14 PM
Post by: justsomekid1 on May 31, 2010, 05:51:14 PM
I was born both female and male. I live as a boy been raised one. Well since puberty I have noticed is far more feminine even with the mdication. I feel like neither but most my friends are girls. I'd like to be neither but the dillema I'm hating is if I just am a guy but my body's of a girl then I don'treally know how I could go on like this. I want to tell my parents but I can't tell them I feel like a girl because I don't. Bu I don't want my boobs to be removed either so how shoul I goabout this to convince them that I really want to be a girl but not for emotional reasons.
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: Lachlann on May 31, 2010, 06:11:24 PM
Post by: Lachlann on May 31, 2010, 06:11:24 PM
I think you've got the wrong section. You'd probably be better off posting this in MTF or intersex.
But really, it is an emotional decision to a great degree I think. In the case of intersex children, I think(and many doctors) it's important they decide for themselves what their gender identity is. Don't let your parents choose for you.
But really, it is an emotional decision to a great degree I think. In the case of intersex children, I think(and many doctors) it's important they decide for themselves what their gender identity is. Don't let your parents choose for you.
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: K8 on May 31, 2010, 06:18:02 PM
Post by: K8 on May 31, 2010, 06:18:02 PM
First, welcome to Susan's, JustSomeKid. :icon_flower:
There's a lot of good information and good people here. Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common. Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.
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And as an answer your question: Whether you are really a boy or a girl or neither is something that is in your brain. Or you could see it as in your heart – your soul. You might explain to your parents that it is not for emotional reasons that you want to be a girl – it is because that is what you are in your soul.
Good luck.
- Kate
There's a lot of good information and good people here. Each of our stories is unique but we have a lot in common. Settle in, pull up a keyboard, and explore.
Be sure to look under the Announcements heading. There you will find the rules we live by in this little world of ours:
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And as an answer your question: Whether you are really a boy or a girl or neither is something that is in your brain. Or you could see it as in your heart – your soul. You might explain to your parents that it is not for emotional reasons that you want to be a girl – it is because that is what you are in your soul.
Good luck.
- Kate
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: Hermione01 on May 31, 2010, 07:39:48 PM
Post by: Hermione01 on May 31, 2010, 07:39:48 PM
Quote from: justsomekid1 on May 31, 2010, 05:51:14 PM
I was born both female and male. I live as a boy been raised one. Well since puberty I have noticed is far more feminine even with the mdication. I feel like neither but most my friends are girls. I'd like to be neither but the dillema I'm hating is if I just am a guy but my body's of a girl then I don'treally know how I could go on like this. I want to tell my parents but I can't tell them I feel like a girl because I don't. Bu I don't want my boobs to be removed either so how shoul I goabout this to convince them that I really want to be a girl but not for emotional reasons.
From your pictures posted in other thread you definitely look female. Can't your parents see that too? I think you should talk to your doctor and/or therapist.
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: aydan_boy on June 01, 2010, 12:45:20 AM
Post by: aydan_boy on June 01, 2010, 12:45:20 AM
Wrong section, but what the hell:
If there the nicer kind of adult, go straight out and tell them, sit them down, preferably when there in a good mood, and tell them how you feel, then hope for the best. If there not so open to this kind of gender related thing, then maybe a letter? Slide it under there bedroom door, send it via email while your at work/school/out or maybe get a school counseler, or therapist if you have one to help you get your feelings about what you want to be/are through to them. Hopefully they will be understanding. Best of luck, justsomekid1.
If there the nicer kind of adult, go straight out and tell them, sit them down, preferably when there in a good mood, and tell them how you feel, then hope for the best. If there not so open to this kind of gender related thing, then maybe a letter? Slide it under there bedroom door, send it via email while your at work/school/out or maybe get a school counseler, or therapist if you have one to help you get your feelings about what you want to be/are through to them. Hopefully they will be understanding. Best of luck, justsomekid1.
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: K8 on June 01, 2010, 08:01:01 AM
Post by: K8 on June 01, 2010, 08:01:01 AM
Aydan_boy has a good suggestion - enlisting the help of another adult, such as a counselor or teacher or doctor. You don't have to do this alone.
- Kate
- Kate
Title: Re: How do I explain to my parents I'm supposed to be a girl?
Post by: justsomekid1 on June 01, 2010, 11:49:04 AM
Post by: justsomekid1 on June 01, 2010, 11:49:04 AM
Quote from: Hermione01 on May 31, 2010, 07:39:48 PM
From your pictures posted in other thread you definitely look female. Can't your parents see that too? I think you should talk to your doctor and/or therapist.
well yeah but at my age it all just takes hair to look more or less feminine. My parents blame it on how I dress really
I thought I remove this thread