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Title: Feeling Like A Curiosity
Post by: Little Darkling on June 02, 2010, 07:39:10 AM
Post by: Little Darkling on June 02, 2010, 07:39:10 AM
I suppose this might overall seem a tad strange, but...
When I came out to my last girlfriend about being male-to-female, to start with she was so insanely for the idea that she took me out to buy me my first set of girl clothes, and helped me with a lot of things.
It was pretty much a dream come true, compared to what I'd originally anticipated, being that she'd break up with me or just never wanting to speak to me again.
She was incredibly supportive and understanding. She always seemed to act overly aroused/excited over me being in girl-mode to the point that she admitted that she found it more attractive than usual. She said she'd always felt like a lesbian in some form, and that maybe I was a "gentler" way to ease into the concept for her seeing as I was in guymode 50% of the time we saw each other still.
Then one day she just suddenly...stopped. Said she wanted to date a "real boy" and left me, I've barely spoken to her since.
Since then, I'd slowly come out to a few different people, but there was one in particular who'd never shown any interest in me before whatsoever, who suddenly became very interested and she was almost creepy in what she started saying to me. I'd known her for years and she'd never even hinted at being attracted to me whatsoever [in fact, she'd been pretty brutally cruel in the past], and then she suddenly said she wanted to be with me.
I felt more like she was seeing me being different as some kind of "weird story" she could tell to other people...in fact, I somewhat regret telling her because she seems like the type that'd tell others at my old highschool.
But still, I felt like she only started fetishising or claimed being 'attracted' to me after she found out that I was trans.
Has anyone else experienced anything along these lines? Or of feeling like someone just wants to experience your 'strangeness' rather than actually be your friend?
When I came out to my last girlfriend about being male-to-female, to start with she was so insanely for the idea that she took me out to buy me my first set of girl clothes, and helped me with a lot of things.
It was pretty much a dream come true, compared to what I'd originally anticipated, being that she'd break up with me or just never wanting to speak to me again.
She was incredibly supportive and understanding. She always seemed to act overly aroused/excited over me being in girl-mode to the point that she admitted that she found it more attractive than usual. She said she'd always felt like a lesbian in some form, and that maybe I was a "gentler" way to ease into the concept for her seeing as I was in guymode 50% of the time we saw each other still.
Then one day she just suddenly...stopped. Said she wanted to date a "real boy" and left me, I've barely spoken to her since.
Since then, I'd slowly come out to a few different people, but there was one in particular who'd never shown any interest in me before whatsoever, who suddenly became very interested and she was almost creepy in what she started saying to me. I'd known her for years and she'd never even hinted at being attracted to me whatsoever [in fact, she'd been pretty brutally cruel in the past], and then she suddenly said she wanted to be with me.
I felt more like she was seeing me being different as some kind of "weird story" she could tell to other people...in fact, I somewhat regret telling her because she seems like the type that'd tell others at my old highschool.
But still, I felt like she only started fetishising or claimed being 'attracted' to me after she found out that I was trans.
Has anyone else experienced anything along these lines? Or of feeling like someone just wants to experience your 'strangeness' rather than actually be your friend?
Title: Re: Feeling Like A Curiosity
Post by: Wendy1974 on June 02, 2010, 08:23:01 AM
Post by: Wendy1974 on June 02, 2010, 08:23:01 AM
Oh yeah I've experienced that as well, although for me it wasn't people wanting to date me but people wanting to be my friend. People who are into you to get props for being so hip and liberal make really crappy friends and I can only think they'd make even worse significant others. I'd give the girl a chance to prove herself as a real friend before ever considering her as relationship material if I were you.
Title: Re: Feeling Like A Curiosity
Post by: cynthialee on June 02, 2010, 08:28:18 AM
Post by: cynthialee on June 02, 2010, 08:28:18 AM
No I am more of the corupt them with kink type. It would be far more likely they would leave feeling ussed and taken advantage of, once I thought they were just fetishizing and looking for a joyride.