Susan's Place Transgender Resources

Decided to join up here. Seems like a great place to get lots of good information and meet a lot of people with the same struggles and aspirations. I'm a 20 year old FTM. I'm attending college, I haven't started any transitioning because of my parents and school, but would love to start within the next year or two. That's about it for me. Could someone tell me how to edit info on here and to post a picture? Thanks!

Hello and welcome to the group.

Thank you very much koolstacy!

Hi, Caleb. I don't suppose your college covers any trans-related health care?

Not that I know of. Do a lot of colleges do that?

Caleb:

Welcome!  You've got friends here ... people you can REALLY talk to ... people who WILL listen to you.  You'll like this place.  Give it a chance and get into it.  Once you've posted a certain number of comments, you will automatically get access to a screen that will let you post a profile and a picture.  I think you need at least 15 posts to get that screen, although that may have changed.

Glad you're here!    :)

Thank you very much Lacey! I can't wait to get to know others who go through the same day to day struggles as me and yet overcome them as well.  ;D Glad to be here!

Hi Caleb, :icon_wave:

Welcome to our little family. Over 4800 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.

Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams.  Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.

But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:

And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )

• Site Terms of Service and rules to live by  (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
  
• Standard Terms and Definitions (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,54369.0.html)
  
• Post Ranks ( including when you can upload an avatar) (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,114.0.html.)
  

Hugs and Love,
Janet

Thank you Janet! We're all one big family!

Hello from Orange County California.

Hey Stacy... we on the total opposite side of the U.S. Nice to meet you all, thanks for all your kindness.

Feel free to contact me if you need to talk.

Thank you, I appreciate that.

A little about me.  I am a pre-op M to F having lived as a female since age 8. I am starting RHT next week. My voice has always sounded female, my chest is 38A and that is all natural.
Most people asks of I am a male or female I tell them female. When I dress as a male eyelids goes up.   When I dress as a female no reaction. I am what the doctors calls having both male and female anatomy.  The police told me that I must keep my breast covered. I was at the beach swimming when tgat. Happened.  Cops was like your male? He said I never seen a guy that has not sure how to spell the word so I will say the dark arial around the nipple just like femals has. His partner said he could be on estergin I said not until next week.so they warned me. My top came off when a big waive hit me

From a southern girl, to a southern boy, welcome :)
You'll feel at home here.
xoxo

Dang Stacy.. that's some tough stuff to have to go through. I'm glad you're taking the steps to get something started next week! I'm excited for you!

And hey Ali.. nice to hear from a southern gal!

one thing is first sure..... One has to have thick skin.

plus it helps that my insurance is paying for the HRT and surgery.

How is your transformation coming along?

Oh I know! Well let me tell you some about me. I'm going to Clemson University to get a degree in health service administration. I want to start my transitioning, but with parents and friends that don't know, it's hard to do so. My parents know, but don't approve at all. Which makes life a lot harder. But I don't suppose this was all meant to be easy. I don't really like to refer to myself as a "transsexual" but more as someone with gender identity disorder. Having a male brain. Hm I'm really just your typical guy other than that!

Quote from: Caleb on June 13, 2010, 01:41:02 AM
Oh I know! Well let me tell you some about me. I'm going to Clemson University to get a degree in health service administration. I want to start my transitioning, but with parents and friends that don't know, it's hard to do so. My parents know, but don't approve at all. Which makes life a lot harder. But I don't suppose this was all meant to be easy. I don't really like to refer to myself as a "transsexual" but more as someone with gender identity disorder. Having a male brain. Hm I'm really just your typical guy other than that!

The first step is always hard.  Did you do any research on discrimination laws in your state?   The more you do what makes you comfortable the easier it's gets

I say dress how you want, do not worry about what others thinks.  I made some very good friends when I stopped living a lie. I lost 2 friends.  I am now more confident. My wife says I am happier all around. Always be true go your self.

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My neice told me something interesting.

"You do know we Have one moreover thing on common? What would that be? I am just starting puberty and your starting your 2nd puberty. "   My neice is 11. And after thinking what she said I agree I guess we will experience and be their and Have girls talk. 

Oh yeah I already dress how I want. I have a few friends who I knew wouldn't care and they know and have supported me tremendously. I still haven't worked up the courage to get my hair cut though. And I would really love to start T, but I just know if I can wait two more years after college is over the ride could be a lot easier. 

I use to think the same way but I always found a new excuse.  Out here in California men has long hair and O seen females having short hair.  My advise, once you go for it, it's easier.

Yeah.. I really really really want to get it cut. I just don't want to hurt my parents. And I know it would, so I'm trying to hold it off.

I understand where you area coming from.  It must be conflicting,  you ever sit down with your parents and have a serious talk about you wanting to be a man?

Oh yeah of course. I was then taken to Christian groups and stuff to try and change me. My parents are very very very religious.

I Have not read anywhere in the Bible where it's a sin to have a sex change.  You need to do what makes you happy. Your parents should come around.   if nothing else Tell them your thinking about swimming in college and you need short hair.

Haha true ture.

II Know in my case even though my friends and family supports my decision to go from M2F some days I have a internal struggle. But every one that is making this decision goes through.  I am joining a local Transgender group in my area.  You think about joining a local transgender group?

I've thought out it, but I'm just not totally sure it's something I want to do right now.

If nothing else you make new friends.

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This brought me, my sisters, and neice lot closer. They range from 10-15 and my older sister is 32. She is a lesbian.  But my younger brother don't care either way. I think he is disappointed in m.  But I don't care, I made Mind up and I am a lot happier.

Quote from: Caleb on June 09, 2010, 10:41:28 PMNot that I know of. Do a lot of colleges do that?

I wouldn't say "a lot," but it's becoming more and more common. It's always worth looking into. And if you're planning on grad school, you might take health care into consideration when deciding on where you want to go. I mean, if you're torn between two or three equally appetizing choices.

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How do you like Clemson?

I love it! It's tough, but it's a lot of fun!

I've heard it's a very good school. I'm glad you like it.

Thank you... it's an awesome school. Big school too.

tsk tsk. Clemson.
Nope. UGA girl here :)
haha
xoxo

Haha! Oh yea? What year are you?

lol, well, I'm not technically a UGA student. I'm at another local college. But, I still consider myself a Dawg :)

And, I'm a freshman. I waited two years before going back to school :p
xoxo

Oh gotcha gotcha! Nice.. well still not too far from here!

Yep :) I've never traveled out that way though. I bet it's just as pretty as Athens. A lot of college towns are.
xoxo

I actually went to Athens this past semester with a sports team. It was FUN!

Haha. Yeh, it definitely is. I'm a bit ready for a change of scenery though
xoxo

Well go out and get around. It'll be a good experience.

Oh, yeh. I'm gonna lol
But, now that we've basically hijacked your intro post, I'll again say, glad to have you here. haha
xoxo

Haha! Thank you thank you!  :P

This is a very friendly and active group....I love it here.

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Caleb can I ask what state or country you reside at?

I'm from South Carolina. Lol why?

Was wondering.  And thanks

Oh ok. You're very welcome!

I was born in South Carolina when my father was stationed there, back in the Dark Ages. I'm still ticked that they won't change birth certificates.

For real? I didn't know that... SC won't change birth certificates? No way!

That stinks..... I hope Ohio law allows people can change
birth certificates


Hard to type and walk at the same time.

Quote from: Caleb on June 14, 2010, 12:51:15 AMFor real? I didn't know that... SC won't change birth certificates? No way!

Well, they will amend it with some sort of little card stapled to the original. But that's not quite the same, is it? So I don't see the point of trying to change my BC if it's only an amendment.

I take it you were born in SC too?

Yep born and raised. So would I have to get a residency change if I wanted to get my name changed without having my "old name" stapled to it?

I called Ohio and found out that I can change the name in the form of an attachment but I cannot change the gender.

Nice see someone in South Carolina, I have family down there, some been wanting me move down there as well, but have supports up here and not sure how well the community is taken down there.  I do hope eventualy move there or North carolina though.  and I was born in North Carolina, no idea the rules there yet for birth certificate

Well just for a heads up... South Carolina is the "bible belt." You won't find too much support! But it's great here other than that!

Quote from: Caleb on June 14, 2010, 09:53:38 AMYep born and raised. So would I have to get a residency change if I wanted to get my name changed without having my "old name" stapled to it?

I assume that legal name change is free and clear--that is, once you change your name, it's yours to use in all situations. That's the way it seems to work in all fifty states. But birth certificate policies definitely vary. If my recollection is correct, SC will not change a name on a BC--don't quote me on that--and I know they will not change a gender marker. All they'll do is attach an amendment card.

But the good news is that few situations call for a birth certificate. Most require a driver's license, Social Security card, or maybe a passport. And you can get all of those changed.

My name change cost me a total of $400.00 that included filing fees, publication fees and official copies.

I had to show the judge my birth certificate it's a federal regulation, thanks to former president bush

Wow that's a lot of money just for that.

I agree

Nods, thats why I haven;t been able change my name legally yet, been saving money for it.  And yeh thats what I figure for South Carolina, with support.  I'd like to move down there one day, but for now am where I need to be.

Hi Caleb. Im in NC. im kinda new here too. :)

FYI, if you are low income, you should look into a fee waiver for your name change. I don't know if all states have them, but it can't hurt to look.

Boy, this intro thread has gone all over the place, hasn't it? I don't think I've seen that happen before.

In this state a fee waiver is mainly for Disabled or welfare.   Either way I did not qualify.

Hey Hauser... nice to meet you!

Haha this thread has gone all over the place!

hey caleb. i'm new too. My names Todd n i live in gaston. Know where that is? anyway i'm planning on attending Clemson too. u graduating anytime soon? it'd be nice to have a brother when i get there. lol. Us ftms gotta stick together.  Dont worry though i'm bogged down by the same problems u are. my parents and friends dont really know bout me either.

It's a shame that family cannot accept the facts.  Some times u just got to go for it.  My son told me today that he has been wearing his sisters clothingl.  I told him you cannot wear your sisters clothes, we after school we will buy you all new cloths.   He (she ) is giving her old clothes away.

Hey Todd... yep I know where Gaston is. And that's awesome you're going to be coming to Clemson. I'll be graduating in another two years. When you coming?

i'll be up there not this year but the next. i'ma be a senior this year. lol. but yeah, maybe we can trade myspaces or soemthing. idk anyone like me even in my own state so it's pretty cool to find u. lol.

Todd congratulations

Oh ok.. so you'll be a freshie when I'm a senior. Well sounds like a plan... if you want to private message me your real name I can find you on facebook.

its sharon buttrey. sorry cnt pm or else i would have