Community Conversation => Transitioning => Coming out of the closet => Topic started by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:14:51 PM Return to Full Version
Title: Well, it's about that time
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:14:51 PM
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:14:51 PM
Ok well it's about that time I come out to everyone... I've been living out of my home state for like 7 months and in that time I've been going to therapy, accepted being trans and am starting transition. I had a laser consultation yesterday and my second dr appt tomorow which I think I'll have a perscription.
I'm flying home for the holiday and well people are going to ask me what I'm doing with my life an well, I need to tell them... I'm 25 and well have been pretty successful as being a guy in perspective to others, if that makes sense. I don't know how i'm going to tell anyone... It's stressing me out but I know I'll feel so much better when it's all in the open. I've already told 2 friends here where I live now and they are great, but they also have only known me or a few months unlike my friends back home who have for 10 years!!! It's like not as much "coming out" but "explaining" it to everyone which then in turn makes me sit through a Q & A...
I've also already told my sister who has been great :)
I guess I'm afraid of coming out then somehow realizing I'm not trans and having to deal with the fact I told everybody I am :(
I did feel this same doubt before I came out to my sister and I didn't doubt myself after we started talking... but my parents and friends... It seems different
I dunno, I just need to vent to releive my anxiety and stress, thanks for bearing with me!!!
I'm flying home for the holiday and well people are going to ask me what I'm doing with my life an well, I need to tell them... I'm 25 and well have been pretty successful as being a guy in perspective to others, if that makes sense. I don't know how i'm going to tell anyone... It's stressing me out but I know I'll feel so much better when it's all in the open. I've already told 2 friends here where I live now and they are great, but they also have only known me or a few months unlike my friends back home who have for 10 years!!! It's like not as much "coming out" but "explaining" it to everyone which then in turn makes me sit through a Q & A...
I've also already told my sister who has been great :)
I guess I'm afraid of coming out then somehow realizing I'm not trans and having to deal with the fact I told everybody I am :(
I did feel this same doubt before I came out to my sister and I didn't doubt myself after we started talking... but my parents and friends... It seems different
I dunno, I just need to vent to releive my anxiety and stress, thanks for bearing with me!!!
Title: Re: Well, it's about that time
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:17:36 PM
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:17:36 PM
Just be brave bb and you'll be fine. It's great that you're independent so that they can't kick you out and have you on the streets. Just be brave and do what you need to do and make sure you keep us updated <3 I hope everything goes well!
Title: Re: Well, it's about that time
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:25:03 PM
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:25:03 PM
:) it is nice that I get to come back here next Monday if everybody does end up hating me (which I'm sure they won't)
any advice on if I should tell people right away or wait? I feel like waiting will eat me alive...
My biggest fear about coming out, which has been true my entire life is still self doubt to some degree... But that's prob because I'm not out... Coming out as a way of eliminating my doubt?
any advice on if I should tell people right away or wait? I feel like waiting will eat me alive...
My biggest fear about coming out, which has been true my entire life is still self doubt to some degree... But that's prob because I'm not out... Coming out as a way of eliminating my doubt?
Title: Re: Well, it's about that time
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:28:49 PM
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:28:49 PM
I'm not trying to advertise anything but this video should be very helpful. She also has a second part on her youtube page.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SB3cZt9lN8o# (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SB3cZt9lN8o#)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SB3cZt9lN8o# (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SB3cZt9lN8o#)
Title: Re: Well, it's about that time
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:41:15 PM
Post by: rylielove on June 29, 2010, 04:41:15 PM
Oh jeez, I just want coming out to be over and in the past but I have to wait... Well I don't have to but I want to tell everybody in person...
It's tough to talk to my friends on the phone and not have them know yet... Arrerggggh
It's tough to talk to my friends on the phone and not have them know yet... Arrerggggh
Title: Re: Well, it's about that time
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:47:54 PM
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on June 29, 2010, 04:47:54 PM
I get you! Only my immediate family knows I'm "gay" and my sisters and bestie know I'm trans but when I come out to my parents I feel like telling them to tell everyone else lol.