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Title: Silence is broken
Post by: alexia elliot on July 12, 2010, 10:16:42 PM
Post by: alexia elliot on July 12, 2010, 10:16:42 PM
I just came back from a week long trip to visit with my sister who I love so much and who lives in Chicago. As usual, I had a great time during stay and spent lots of evenings straight to the morning hours talking with her as I always do enjoy. Suddenly during one early evening she said: do you have something special to tell me, I froze and then, reluctantly as though someone else was speaking through me said: "yes" but time isn't just right and it would be a burden on her have I told her. Of course said that there was no way back, but for strangest reason all fear has left and calm has filled the room. She gestured with her finger to follow her into garage where she smokes because of mosquitoes on the porch. We sat down and she said: "so what is it?" "Do you know what transgender means", I asked. "yes I do" she said. Our eyes met and she smiled this most beautiful smile, I started to explain about all the past hurt, guilt, confusion, she listened. During conversation I deciphered that she didn't know and never suspected. A while had passed and she looked at me and said:" why did you keep this from me for so long, now I understand, lots of things make sense to me now. I am so sorry you had to suffer, have I only known before. I love your sole and I hurt when you do" When she said that I simply broke to tears and so did she and we embraced god only knows how long.
Lots of tears have been shed that night but they were tears of joy and love. I have dreamed of night like this all my life but was so afraid the same. My sister proved to me her unconditional and eternal love, she has now lessen my burden and released me from the bond.
I have taken first major steps in my new life and thanks to her I will be ME.
Lots of tears have been shed that night but they were tears of joy and love. I have dreamed of night like this all my life but was so afraid the same. My sister proved to me her unconditional and eternal love, she has now lessen my burden and released me from the bond.
I have taken first major steps in my new life and thanks to her I will be ME.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Dana_W on July 13, 2010, 12:14:15 AM
Post by: Dana_W on July 13, 2010, 12:14:15 AM
Quote from: alexia elliot on July 12, 2010, 10:16:42 PMWow! What a fantastic response! I can't imagine a better one!
A while had passed and she looked at me and said:" why did you keep this from me for so long, now I understand, lots of things make sense to me now. I am so sorry you had to suffer, have I only known before. I love your sole and I hurt when you do"
I'm totally happy for you (even as I seethe with jealousy ;) ). Good job for being brave enough to be honest, and yay for your sister! This sounds like a real foundation to build a successful transition upon.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on July 13, 2010, 12:20:02 AM
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on July 13, 2010, 12:20:02 AM
Aww I looooove it! <3 So sweet bb. =D
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Janet_Girl on July 13, 2010, 12:21:35 AM
Post by: Janet_Girl on July 13, 2010, 12:21:35 AM
Alexia, I am so happy for you. Now not only you have a sister how loves you, she has a sister to be proud of.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Ellieka on July 13, 2010, 01:19:40 AM
Post by: Ellieka on July 13, 2010, 01:19:40 AM
Gosh! I just love to hear these kind of stories! I'm so happy for you girl! Welcome to the first steps. Many more will follow I'm sure.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Cindy on July 13, 2010, 04:31:13 AM
Post by: Cindy on July 13, 2010, 04:31:13 AM
Darling that is wonderful,
My sister was the same, my sister in laws have been the same. We hear the bad stories but there is love out there. Congratulations and my love to you and your Sis.
Now get cracking :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cindy
My sister was the same, my sister in laws have been the same. We hear the bad stories but there is love out there. Congratulations and my love to you and your Sis.
Now get cracking :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:
Cindy
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: spacial on July 13, 2010, 05:07:06 AM
Post by: spacial on July 13, 2010, 05:07:06 AM
Doesn't get much better than that really.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Dryad on July 13, 2010, 06:24:05 AM
Post by: Dryad on July 13, 2010, 06:24:05 AM
Nope; it doesn't! That's amazing, and I'm so happy for you! :icon_joy:
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Diane Elizabeth on July 13, 2010, 07:15:36 AM
Post by: Diane Elizabeth on July 13, 2010, 07:15:36 AM
Beautiful story. I wish everyone had a sister like yours (except the smoking). Mine are ultra conservative. I think when I come out that they will be stunned and reject me at first. But, they should come around eventually. I hope.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Jasmine.m on July 13, 2010, 08:05:04 AM
Post by: Jasmine.m on July 13, 2010, 08:05:04 AM
Yay!! I don't think you could've had a better reaction!!! :D
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: cynthialee on July 13, 2010, 09:38:25 AM
Post by: cynthialee on July 13, 2010, 09:38:25 AM
omg that was so sweet I teared up
I want to trade you sisters..... :D
I want to trade you sisters..... :D
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: inoutallabout on July 13, 2010, 10:09:19 AM
Post by: inoutallabout on July 13, 2010, 10:09:19 AM
It's so cool that you have such an understanding sister! Groovy!
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Ghost03 on July 13, 2010, 10:52:09 AM
Post by: Ghost03 on July 13, 2010, 10:52:09 AM
Aw that's great you got such a good reaction! :)
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: alexia elliot on July 13, 2010, 11:04:15 AM
Post by: alexia elliot on July 13, 2010, 11:04:15 AM
thanks soooo much, I don't think I would have a strength to say what I said without you all. I mean it from bottom of my heart, you girls have given me a first true home and strength to believe it can be done. For all my life I knew I was different but I felt damaged you have given me a permission to feel whole, complete, undeniably perfect. Now I have my lovely sister to walk beside me and protect me from demons.
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Debra on July 13, 2010, 11:52:30 AM
Post by: Debra on July 13, 2010, 11:52:30 AM
awww girl this made me cry. I'm so glad you were able to tell your sister and that she was so understanding and loving! *hugs*
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on July 13, 2010, 01:19:56 PM
Post by: Britney♥Bieber on July 13, 2010, 01:19:56 PM
I did what you did with my older sister, who I was worried to tell for some reason. And she said she kinda knew haha. =D ty for the ~inspiration~
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Steffi on July 13, 2010, 01:52:24 PM
Post by: Steffi on July 13, 2010, 01:52:24 PM
It made me tear up too.
So glad that you got such a great response from a wonderful sister
So glad that you got such a great response from a wonderful sister
Title: Re: Silence is broken
Post by: Sarah B on July 13, 2010, 02:09:18 PM
Post by: Sarah B on July 13, 2010, 02:09:18 PM
Hi Alexia Elliot
A priceless moment for your memories and of course someone who loves you unconditionally for who you are.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story, it is so wonderful to hear these stories, they show the care, love and understanding that exists around us.
I also had a few tears in my eyes.
Kindest regards
Sarah B
A priceless moment for your memories and of course someone who loves you unconditionally for who you are.
Thank you for sharing such a beautiful story, it is so wonderful to hear these stories, they show the care, love and understanding that exists around us.
I also had a few tears in my eyes.
Kindest regards
Sarah B