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Honest.

Tomorrow is the day.

-_-

I think if I believe that I'll believe anything.

I know that now is the right time, I am sure my parents will be accepting or at least try and be. I just can't bring myself to start the conversation.

My notepad is now full of 30 (yes, thirty) letters to my parents, each one of them never being sent. I'm just hiding, I need to break out.

Thing is I don't even see this as a big deal. I don't know why it has turned itself into one.

Gah,

Tomorrow.

I am going to come out, and I am going to do it tomorrow; and the next week shall be swell.

Good luck and let us know what happens!

Be strong and send that letter!
Best of luck and wishes.

whatever the mind can conceive the soul WILL achieve.

good luck

The first step on a journey is often the hardest, but also the most important.

Reality is often very different than the things we expect to happen.  Remember that and take heart.  I came out to my wife this week, in a counselling session, and her reaction was SO different than I was expecting, I still can't believe it.  She didn't run screaming from the room, she didn't pass out, or have a heart attack, or any of the many things I had expected might happen.  The world didn't end.  We're talking, still together, and she seems to be striving towards acceptance, although there is a LOT of work to do yet.  Still.  I now know how deeply she loves me - she's even asked if we could still live together (I assume she means if I end up transitioning).  She hasn't thought it all the way through yet, but she's working on it.  She's a brave girl.  And she wants to be supportive, to be there for me.  That's HUGE.

So take heart, girl.  The world doesn't work quite the way we think it does, and people are actually capable of growth and understanding, we just have to give them a chance.  Maybe that's why we are the way we are, to teach others about acceptance.  I'd like to think there's SOME great payoff for all this heartache...

Almost 100% of us on this forum know that nightmare limbo from personal experience.

If you come out tomorrow, or wait thirty more years, the time that comes will just have to be the right time.

Good For You, Warrior!

You are very brave :)
Coming out is the first step to a beautiful journey
Fight On To be Who you truley are :)
xoxoxoxox

Good luck!  It is hard, but you can do it!  I came out to my mom today, and:

Quote from: Kim Ireland on July 16, 2010, 08:53:42 PM
She didn't run screaming from the room, she didn't pass out, or have a heart attack, or any of the many things I had expected might happen.  The world didn't end.

So yeah, people's reactions can surprise you!  If you're ready, go for it, and I hope everything turns out great for you! :)

 My impression from posts over the last few years and my personal experience is that coming out to family and friends is not as horrific as many of us assumed. Ok there have been some nasties but I think in the main the positive win.

There is also nothing like the liberation you feel once you are out. As others have said it may be the hardest step but it is the critical one.

Good luck and let us know how it goes. Remember you are not alone, we are here with you


Cindy

And even if you do have a few people just handle it very badly, you may be surprised at how little that winds up mattering in the big picture.

I seem to have lost my best friend when I came out. But by all accounts (even my therapist used the word "jerk"), I appear better off. New friends were more than happy to volunteer.

At the end of the day, most people are going to put your happiness over their own opinions as much as they can, and the others can generally be replaced if they don't come around.