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Title: Trans Etiquette: When is a Compliment Not a Compliment?
Post by: Shana A on August 01, 2010, 09:11:05 AM
Post by: Shana A on August 01, 2010, 09:11:05 AM
Trans Etiquette: When is a Compliment Not a Compliment?
July 29, 2010 by Matt Kailey
http://tranifesto.com/2010/07/29/trans-etiquette-when-is-a-compliment-not-a-compliment/#more-3327 (http://tranifesto.com/2010/07/29/trans-etiquette-when-is-a-compliment-not-a-compliment/#more-3327)
It's not tough to compliment trans people. Like anyone else, we like to be told that we look nice, or that you love our new shirt, or that we did a good job on our speech or our term paper or winning the World Series.
But there is a confusingly fine line when it comes to certain compliments doled out by non-trans people – and that confusingly fine line might be enough to discourage compliments at all!
The problem comes in when I come out. And the problematic conversation goes something like this: