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gods bless me. I live in Alabama and am trans, I just came out to my parrents about a month ago. My SO and I have been living together for over 3 years. And her and her mom we're the first people i came out to. but for the most part I'm still living as a male which really stresses me some times. I really hate getting sirred but whats a girl to do......

Quote from: Jessi_the_red on August 17, 2010, 03:41:07 PM
gods bless me. I live in Alabama and am trans, I just came out to my parrents about a month ago. My SO and I have been living together for over 3 years. And her and her mom we're the first people i came out to. but for the most part I'm still living as a male which really stresses me some times. I really hate getting sirred but whats a girl to do......

have a good think about whether you can live a good unknown number of years as an in-closet male or if the feelings of being TS are genuine.  Most TS find that relationships break down so it might be a good idea to have a good talk with the girl about getting trapped by pregnancy.
Good luck, many of us have been there.

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Quote from: Jessi_the_red on August 17, 2010, 03:41:07 PM
gods bless me. I live in Alabama and am trans, I just came out to my parrents about a month ago. My SO and I have been living together for over 3 years. And her and her mom we're the first people i came out to. but for the most part I'm still living as a male which really stresses me some times. I really hate getting sirred but whats a girl to do......

Finally! Someone in the same sociological area of the south! Although im from northwest Georgia, people over here act almost the same in Alabama from times i have visited. Its gonna be all right. I suggest looking online for a therapist who specialize in the field and give them a call. welcome here! Btw, i just recently came out to, and its awkward at first around those you love, but you know who you are on the inside and stick to it girl!

omfg luckly my girlfriend is a lesbian doesn't want kids ever (they scare the crap out of her). already have a psych and working on getting my name changed to some thing gender neutral for a least 3-4 years untill 'mones kick in and then I'll fish spelling out my name on the pape work XD

Wow! talk about lucky! My girlfriend is straight.... well im glad to hear that things are going good for you so far  :)
Btw, there's a joke us Georgians have about Alabamans: Its only in Alabama where you can marry Y'er cousin (I'm just messing with you!  >:-)). I am happy for you, as she will help you out a lot!

I know a few more of us are from Mississippi on this forum, and I bet the South is represented reasonably well here.

Welcome aboard.

Welcome Jessi,

There's plenty of great people and useful information floating around. Make yourself at home..

Hugs,
Kelly

Save your Confederate Dollars, for the South will rise again..

Another Small town Georgian here.............thank god I live near the ATL though.  I wish you the best.  I know how hard it is to come out when living in such a closed minded area.  I've started to face life with confidence and not try to hide who I am, and I've found that transitioning isn't as horrible as I thought it would be.  Lost a lot of friends, but I have gained just as many.  I hope if you decide to transition, life goes well for you too.

Florence Al,

Here.

Anna

Shreveport, LA here :)

IDK how closed minded this area is, the mayor just passed a law that doesn't allow city employers to discriminate against transgendered. We are apparently just big enough to have at least 1 endo (that works in a charity hospital, btw) that helps alot of us out with HRT... I'm still waiting for my letter tho :(

Well I'm from Savannah though now live on the left coast.  Savannah's still very much the old south.

Beni

Hi there from the Far Deeper South!! Next stop Antarctica  ;D

There seem to be a fair few guys and girls from your part of the world, I am sure they will come out and say hi too. Lots of good stuff here.

Sandy.

Quote from: Beni on August 18, 2010, 12:16:11 AM
Well I'm from Savannah though now live on the left coast.  Savannah's still very much the old south.

Beni

Savannah is a nice city in certain areas. I like the river walk shops and the shopping area in town. I used to visit during high school year for all state chorus. Always lots of fun! Wow lots of support here in the south! I'm loving it!

The south seems to be a place of manners. Yes there are exceptions (there are exceptions everywhere) but for the most part, from what I've seen, here everybody keeps their mouth shut and keeps to their own business, even if they're bigots at heart.

I had an experience today, I'd like to share:

I was working at a truck stop today. While writing an invoice at the front desk around truck drivers and mechanics at the service desk, a non-passing trans came in and asked where the rest area was. I looked at her and just shrugged, not knowing where and told her to ask the people behind me because I do not work here. Nobody that concerned themselves with her seemed to pay any attention, but the people that were in the know actually helped her out quite nicely. One lady even took her stuff and helped bring it up to the rest area for her. Moments after she left a trucker joked saying to somebody coming in from outside, "didya see what just came by here? hah hah hah"

It was annoying that he said that, but at the same time I felt a little more secure because he at least tried to save her some sort of embarassment.

as my dear sweet clueless mother (I've come out to my parents but she just doesn't understand every thing just yet) put it
"everyone is famous in a small town." guess I'm just shooting for Infamous XD

Quote from: annajasmine on August 17, 2010, 10:28:28 PM
Florence Al,

Here.

Anna

Really now?

I'm about an hour and a half due west of you (if that much)

How's Florance for a t-girl?

I seem to recall having read some good things about the resources available in Huntsville but I'm foggy on that.

Jesse, what part of North Alabama - East or west?

cullman county, or redneck central. but there are quite a few resorces in huntsville for a Trans male or female, my psych is in huntsville along with my laser place and the NAGC meets there once a month, so I am kinda of partial to Huntsville.

now all i've got to do is find a  GP or Endo.

Quote from: Jessi_the_red on August 18, 2010, 06:41:02 PM
cullman county, or redneck central. but there are quite a few resorces in huntsville for a Trans male or female, my psych is in huntsville along with my laser place and the NAGC meets there once a month, so I am kinda of partial to Huntsville.

now all i've got to do is find a  GP or Endo.

I been to a few NAGC but none recently. My therapist Tamara is in Huntsville.

We might of meant.

Anna

We may have I go as often as i can break away from the D&D game that keeps moving weekends on me.

Anna can't reply to messages not sure why, would really love more info.


Thanks
Jessi

East Central Alabama here...

Hi and welcome Jessi  :)

I really wonder what is going to happen when i start living full time in the "land of the burnning cross"?

Quote from: Jessi_the_red on August 19, 2010, 10:45:07 PM
I really wonder what is going to happen when i start living full time in the "land of the burnning cross"?

If my experience is any guide, not very much.

Not much bad that is. You'll find some really cool people you didn't expect to appear....you'll find some folks with pity in their eyes and a sad head-shake at how you've succumbed to perversion...you'll note some folks who walk by you in the store then start "coincidentally" giggling once they are past.

But outright nastiness? threats of violence and such? don't be entirely shocked if you don't see any of that.

Quote from: Tammy Hope on August 18, 2010, 06:30:25 PM
Really now?

I'm about an hour and a half due west of you (if that much)

How's Florance for a t-girl?

I seem to recall having read some good things about the resources available in Huntsville but I'm foggy on that.

Jesse, what part of North Alabama - East or west?

I move 50 mile south to Florence AL from Lawrenceburg last year.
Florence is not bad if you don't mind the occasional  talk about you and weird looks. I not full time so I really don't know how bad it can be or maybe how good it can be.

Anna

Quote from: Tammy Hope on August 19, 2010, 10:57:47 PM
If my experience is any guide, not very much.

Not much bad that is. You'll find some really cool people you didn't expect to appear....you'll find some folks with pity in their eyes and a sad head-shake at how you've succumbed to perversion...you'll note some folks who walk by you in the store then start "coincidentally" giggling once they are past.

But outright nastiness? threats of violence and such? don't be entirely shocked if you don't see any of that.

ah well thats nice at least as for those who laugh they'll get theirs in the end.

Kentucky girl here (OK, I only live here. I'm from California, but this is the longest time I've ever lived in one city before). I feel probably the same weird sense of fear about the south that you do. I live in Lexington, and I'm told it's pretty accepting, but I'm a bit of a hermit so I don't get out enough to test the waters.

Maybe I'm just stereotyping them, but true southerners scare the bajeezes out of me. Someone pulls up next to me in a truck with far too much camouflage and a ratty old hat, I stiffen up, stay still and look straight ahead so as not to attract too much attention.

Call me crazy though, because I can't wait to finally start hormones and see what kinds of reactions I can get.

I may be a tad bit sadistic...

yeah....sadistic.....(wheels turning....evil smile....) okay so whens the bonfire and hotdog roast? I'll bring the pom-poms you bring the make-up and wine coolers XD

If I'm bringing wine coolers, give me 6 months to get legal :P

I'm totally hosting a wienie roast right soon as I'm out to everyone and full-time >:-D

Well news update went today and filled out the papers my name change is in the works(well at least to get rid of the male monocer I've been stuck with since birth) going to gender neutral for now.

Hello and welcome Jessi the Red,

I'm also a southern girl - well sort of. I'm an Atlanta Yankee. Originally from Massachusetts, but I've been here for ten years now, so I'm approaching the 'legal' southerner age. :)

I am also largely a hermit and have only crawled out of my hidey hole a few times. I know many parts of the ATL Metro area are very trans friendly, but there are spots that are so definitely not, like where I live. My mom is very against my being trans.

Deanna

One big plus of ATL - you get to go to SCC!

I was hoping to be in good enough shape to go this year but, alas, maybe next year...

Welcome Jessi to the "Alice in Wonderland" ride, lol.

stardust

Quote from: stardust on August 24, 2010, 02:46:37 AM
Welcome Jessi to the "Alice in Wonderland" ride, lol.

stardust

so wheres the pot smoking catipller?

Welcome! I hope you are able to be closer to a real you soon =)

thank you all for the kind wellcome, Its nice to have people to talk to other than my so and family. As most of my friends won't speak to me since a psudo coming out atempt.