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This saturday is my class reunion,Im really dreading this.Havent seen any of my classmates in years.How will they react to my transition? Has anyone ever went to a class reunion after their transition, please post your experiences.

Go in, look like a million dollars. Relax and wait for people to notice you.

In all honesty, if they accept you then you have some good firends. If they don't, what have you lost?

Either way, these things are a time to catch up, find out what everyone has been doing and perhaps compare notes.

What you've been doing is worth sharing.

Now, one more thing. And this is very important.

As soon as you return, a full write-up, posted on Susans'. I, for one, really want to hear how you get on.

Thank you Spacial,you just gave me a well needed  boost of confidence, but im still a little nervous. I will let you know how it goes on Sunday or so.

I too would really like to hear what happens, keep us updated!!

Just adding another echo :) I'm really curious too because I should be going to mine in a couple years.  I hope everything goes well for you, but looking like you do... I would be amazed if anyone has a problem.

Ok everyone, in my avatar pic, this is what Im planning to wear on Saturday at the reunion.Should I wear this, or a long dress?This pic was taken at my cousins wedding 2 months ago.Please say if this dress looks proper on me for the reunion.

You will turn heads in that outfit, in the best possible way. Go for it!

Quote from: mtfbuckeye on August 29, 2010, 12:07:25 PM
You will turn heads in that outfit, in the best possible way. Go for it!

Thank you mtfbuckeye. :-*Just wanted to add  you do kind of resemble that actress you mentioned in that other thread.

Thanks Angela :)

I don't think I could ever be as pretty as you or Melanie Lynskey, but I think I could look like her moderately attractive, somewhat heavier, but still cute cousin! :)

Angela that dress looks gorgeous! I just graduated a year ago, but I always tell my bestie how excited I am to go to our high school reunion because I'll look better than I did in high school and better than everyone else did! Haha I hope I maintain that attitude in 9 years lol.

Quote from: mtfbuckeye on August 29, 2010, 12:15:54 PM
Thanks Angela :)

I don't think I could ever be as pretty as you or Melanie Lynskey, but I think I could look like her moderately attractive, somewhat heavier, but still cute cousin! :)
Never say never.I wish I didnt destroy all my male photos.I looked like the nerdy kid  with glasses from the wonder years. :laugh:You have better starting point than me.

1 thing is for sure andthenwekisss, you will be all woman by then. 8)

I cant get over how kind and warm everyone is here.You helped me from chickening out to go.I still regret missing my first reunion about 9 or 10 years ago.I was afraid they wouldnt have another one.

Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 06:29:39 AM
This saturday is my class reunion,Im really dreading this.Havent seen any of my classmates in years.How will they react to my transition? Has anyone ever went to a class reunion after their transition, please post your experiences.

I am sure everything will be fine,... good luck

Thanks, and good luck on your SRS ! :-*

Yeah, that's the dress.

Quote from: spacial on August 29, 2010, 05:46:15 PM
Yeah, that's the dress.

What do you mean??

Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 05:49:50 PM
What do you mean??

maybe means its lovely, makes you 110% woman, will be as pretty as lots of the GGs and the guys will be wanting to get to know you...
I've heard lots of times of TS who have gone to reunions and had great reception from everyone so go and enjoy yourself.
The biggest fun will be introducing yourself to guys who do not recognise you as the new you.

Lilacwoman yes,Im going to have to reveal myself.Theres bound to be someone to ask me, why they dont remember me.

Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 12:25:20 PM
1 thing is for sure andthenwekisss, you will be all woman by then. 8)

That's why I'm so excited haha :D

Hi

The dress is gorgeous and enhances your natural beauty. Have a wonderful time. Just be the assured woman you are, relax and enjoy. I have a friend who went to her nursing reunion as her true self. Everyone was totally accepting, she had a great time.

Oh, you may want to take a stick to beat off all the guys who will be hitting on to you ::) :-*

Have a wonderful time and keep us all posted
Cindy
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Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 05:49:50 PM
What do you mean??

As lilacwoman says, it's lovely.

But it's also completely appropriate for the situation.

You're going to meet people you last met in your teens. So, you wear something that someone of your age would think appropriate for that age. If you see what I mean.

It's bright, colourful, sexy without being in the least bit over the top.

Thank you to both of you for the warm comments,you have brightened my day.Today was the deadline to drop off the invitations at the high school.I wanted to send my mom to do it, since im on vacation from work this week.She dragged me to the high school, she said that ill feel better doing this. ::)My heart raced when I went inside, and saw who was in charge of gathering the invitations.I was terrified , it was my drinking buddy michael from high school.I was trembling as I explained to him, who I am.He was acceptive! We just got back from lunch together, had a long chat.He wants to be romantically involved with me, but I told him I need a week to think about it.There is a part of me that wants to say yes in the worst way, because I may not have seen him in over a decade, but pretty much know him inside out.But theres also a part of me thats a little freaked out about getting romantically involved with someone that we did so many male bondding activities together.Between the high school reunion and making a decision for this, I feel like Im losing my mind.

Ahmmm
Has someone just realised they are female ::)
Of course he wants into your panties. Enjoy. If you wish, but don't get pushed.  A  kiss and cuddle with no sex is very nice for girls, drives men up the wall, but lets you survey the feelings. I would suggest no sex, too easy at this point. Bad for you and bad for him.

Hugs.


Cindy

Cindy, Im more concerned right now if want to get involved with him period.Would you get romantically involved, not talking about sex in general for a while.But even just kissing and cuddling, with 1 of your best man friends from back in the day? Thats all im asking.

Sorry doll,
Be yourself. Don't even think about anything else. This night is to introduce YOU to the world.


Have a wonderful feminine night and enjoy.
:-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

Hugs and love

Cindy, wish I was you :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*

May I suggest you just keep him hanging?

OK, so you were a bit worried about the school reunion. First person you meet, wow, wants to date you.

Now I'd say that is about a good an endorcement as you could expect. (My heart lept a bit when I read it. )

You could ask him to escort you. You could simply met him there. Or you could simply go and see how things pan out.

If this were me, I wouldn't agree, at this point anyway, to become too involved. Simply because you haven't met each other for a long time. You have certainly taken different paths. You have a history, however positive, it is a history.

I don't say this simply because of your change in gender. I say this because, after a time, you are different people.

I can understand his perspective. But this is a school reunion, not a reunion of two old friends. I should think there's gonna be a lot of people there, male and female who are going to be interested in you. Some may be a bit negative, but most will be positive.

Now the hard bit. How to turn down a guy without hurting his feelings?

No need to be sorry about anything,Im less worried about the reunion now, and more concerned about weather  I should  accept my old friend as my companion.If that makes any sense,Im just very confused right now.

Angela,
I don't see anything wrong with getting romantically involved with someone who knew you before transition. Obviously, if everything goes to plan for me, that's exactly what I'll do (stay with my wife). I will say the timing might not be that great, because if you start seeing him now, that's another variable you have to account for at the reunion. I would say see if he is ok "getting to know you again" first... If he is, and he treats you with respect, this might end up being something really cool, because you have this shared history.

Just remember that YOU are in control, sweetie. I also have to add that if I was this guy, and one of my high school friends showed up looking as spectacular as you.. Hell yes I would want to date them! :)

Spacial,I think I will tell him to escort me to the reunion.It should be a good way to judge him a little. 

mtfbuckeye,I want to thank you.You have been my strongest supporter here.No offence to all the other wonderful people here.I have to add yes, Ill want him to get to know me again, but the learning curve will be alot easier than with someone ive just met.Know what I mean?

Quote from: Angela on August 30, 2010, 05:54:47 AM
No need to be sorry about anything,Im less worried about the reunion now, and more concerned about weather  I should  accept my old friend as my companion.If that makes any sense,Im just very confused right now.

whether or not depends on what happens on the night?  he may turn out to have a long time squeeze or may dis you...but if he stays nice then try keep him as a buddy and entry into the local social scene.

I called him up and told him,Im willing to give him a try .I said  we are going to take it slow for the first couple weeks.He was kind of sad when I said, that after the reunion there will be no mention of things we did together or past lifes events about me.As far as Im concerned that person died years ago.Im going over his house tonight, to watch movies on his 50" home cinema.    8)

Quote from: lilacwoman on August 30, 2010, 07:42:45 AM
whether or not depends on what happens on the night?  he may turn out to have a long time squeeze or may dis you...but if he stays nice then try keep him as a buddy and entry into the local social scene.

I have a feeling about him though. Whenever I feel like this , no matter what we are talking about ,It turns out positive.Last time I had a feeling like this, it was about getting promoted at my bank , and  I did.

Quote from: Angela on August 30, 2010, 05:58:27 AM
Spacial,I think I will tell him to escort me to the reunion.It should be a good way to judge him a little.

I'm really pleased you've come to a decision.

I'm am positive you are going to have a great time.

omg Angela I think that sounds like an amazing opportunity! I'm jealous haha

Nope can't realate to this one...

However only about 18months into my transition, pre my full srs....

I went back to spend an evening with some sympathetic work mates whom were aware of my journey....

But while out with them.... unbeknown to me some other workers I'd known turned up too, who were not aware of me being someone they'd once known....

I was amazed that they really didn't twig who I 'was'.... so I dare say they will not know who you are....

Peoples perceptions of you are totally different to what you might think.... so I dare say unless you choose to confess and reveal all...most will never guess...

So if your the type that might enjoy, the fun of watching their dilemma... as the light bulbs within switch on....

It could be an interesting evening....lol

But I would be wary if it was a faith based school, ultra conservative with many macho/football jock types...

Quote from: andthenwekisss on August 30, 2010, 10:51:31 AM
omg Angela I think that sounds like an amazing opportunity! I'm jealous haha

Thanks, wish I could talk some more with you, but I have to get ready and look my best for tonight.I will post how our first night together went tomorrow.

Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 06:29:39 AM
This saturday is my class reunion,Im really dreading this.Havent seen any of my classmates in years.How will they react to my transition? Has anyone ever went to a class reunion after their transition, please post your experiences.

i just wouldn't go, but that's just me. :) i hope you have fun though, because you've not seen them in years, and it can be very exciting.

My first date with him last night  at his house was amazing !!!I arrived at around 9 pm.I thought we were just going to watch movies and talk.He had prepared a seafood dinner with 6 diffrent kinds of fish.He is a chef at a hotel.The funny thing is I thought I was nervous, but he seemed more than me.After we finished watching a movie, he did ask me some questions about how I came to my decision in changing my gender, and the various procedures I had done.He was very tentative and polite, a side of him thats new to me.The conversation then shifted to previous relationships, which I wish I hadnt brought up.He said he was engaged and very close to be married.But unfortunatelly, he found her cheating on him.He couldnt believe that I hadnt had any relationship, since my change.We both agreed to take it slow for a while.We both couldnt resist on having our first long kiss.Who wouldve thought Mike was such an amazing kisser?It was a new experience as a woman for sure.I feel like a 16 year old after last night.I wont be able to see him today, because he is busy preparing a huge meal for a wedding.But he promised tomorrow when he has off, he is taking me swimming. ;D Im on cloud 9.

Angela,
The rational part of me is concerned for you, simply because it sounds like you might be stepping into a complicated, morally ambiguous situation. Back when I still thought I was merely attracted to trans women and not one myself, I repeatedly cheated on my wife. Worse than that, I often wasn't upfront with the trans women I was seeing about being married, or I fudged the status of my marriage, so I could convince them to get into a romantic/sexual relationship with me. I worry Mike might be doing this...

The emotional, visceral side of me is more like OMG! SQUEEE! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you had a great time and he really likes you! I'm jealous! :)

You're a big girl.. but just tread lightly, sweetie.

Quote from: mtfbuckeye on August 31, 2010, 05:54:59 AM
Angela,
The rational part of me is concerned for you, simply because it sounds like you might be stepping into a complicated, morally ambiguous situation. Back when I still thought I was merely attracted to trans women and not one myself, I repeatedly cheated on my wife. Worse than that, I often wasn't upfront with the trans women I was seeing about being married, or I fudged the status of my marriage, so I could convince them to get into a romantic/sexual relationship with me. I worry Mike might be doing this...  Thanks mtfbuckeye,If I know him like I think I do, thats not an issue.When we were in High school, he never cheated on any girl.He was always unlucky for 1 reason or another.He has told me about all his previous relationships,so thats a big plus for me.He wants to reintroduce me to his parents,but I told him lets get to reknow each other for a month or so, and then.

The emotional, visceral side of me is more like OMG! SQUEEE! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you had a great time and he really likes you! I'm jealous! :)

You're a big girl.. but just tread lightly, sweetie.

Thanks for your concern mtfbuckeye.But If I know him like I think I do from high school, there should be no problem.He had the same girlfriend from middle school to high school, but moved away after graduation.

Congratulations Angela... it sounds like heaven!!! A guy that can cook? And cook well!!!! bingo! ;)

Thanks Muffin,I told him I really appreciated that dinner.  I told him if there are any food suprises in the future, he should tell me, he laughed. I must have gained 2 pounds last night.

OK I understand where mtfbuckeye is coming from, but this was your decision.

I am so pleased you had such a wonderful time. He sounds really nice.

Spacial youre a doll.Im curious, would you do the same?Only had 1 embarrasing moment last night, that hadnt happened to me in months.While we were chatting the night away, at 1 moment for some reason my male voice came out. :o I usually have it perfected, so this was awkward.He didnt say anything, and I really appreciate him more for that.

Aww Angela I'm so happy for you!!! This is great news!!! I wouldn't worry about him having a trans fetish, it's only natural to be curious about why we transition and the steps we are taking/have taken. Just take it slow and be safe. Sounds amazing! :)

Thank you Kimberly.I was wondering for days where your signature came from.Today I got Kate"s new album, and I found out. ;D

haha do you love it? Such a good cd! What are you fave songs?

Thers 4 songs I like best.teenage dream, peacock, the one that got away,and of course california gurls.

Those are the only ones!? What about Last Friday Night! Or Pearl! Or Hummingbird Heartbeat?

I didnt say I dislike all the rest.Just mentioned which were my favorites.

Oh of course. That's what I asked lmao!! The only one I don't like is Who Am I Living For? Lol it bugs me idk why

I think the lyrics arent bad in that song, its the music thats kind of off in that song you mentioned.

Yeah just something about it sounds bad =/ but w/e I still love her!!!

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 09:19:19 AM
Spacial youre a doll.Im curious, would you do the same?Only had 1 embarrasing moment last night, that hadnt happened to me in months.While we were chatting the night away, at 1 moment for some reason my male voice came out. :o I usually have it perfected, so this was awkward.He didnt say anything, and I really appreciate him more for that.

I honestly don't know. My relationship with those I knew at school and colege was fractious at best. But that's just me.

As for your voice, may I suggest you take the advice a professional pianist once gave you a young fellow who was going to play live?

When you make a mistake, just play on. The performance is a big piece. The little imperfections just make it interesting.

In your case, few won't know of your history. What they are interested in is you, now.  And you do look good.

Spacial,I do continue like it didnt happen.But how is it to be prevented alltogether?It rarely happens to begin with.It only happens to me when im extremely nervous. 

Quote from: Angela on August 29, 2010, 06:29:39 AM
This saturday is my class reunion,Im really dreading this.Havent seen any of my classmates in years.How will they react to my transition? Has anyone ever went to a class reunion after their transition, please post your experiences.

Last year was my 10 year reunion and I missed it because it was right about the time I was committing suicide / struggling with whether to transition or not.

But I will say that when I came out on Facebook, many many many friends both guys and girls were surprisingly supportive! I couldn't believe it! Mind you, that doesn't mean I didn't have people dropping their friendships from me, cuz that happened too. Just know you will probably have some that are supportive and some that are not. I hope it goes well!!!! *hugs*

I am so sorry to hear that Jerica. :( Hopefully you will get a second chance like I am.

Also Jerica, thanks for that warning in youre last sentence.Ill keep that in mind.

Honey You just Gotta Walk in there and Tell yourself

"I'm Angela, and No One in the WORLD is Better than me"
Keep your Head Held High
Because You have a Reason To :)
Let your Inner Queen out for
You are Queen Bee and They Are all your Workers

You'll do Just Fine :)
♥

Thanks Jocelyn, you make it sound so easy.Ill try my best.

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 11:57:42 AM
Spacial,I do continue like it didnt happen.But how is it to be prevented alltogether?It rarely happens to begin with.It only happens to me when im extremely nervous.

I doubt you can.

But think of how others might react. Some might be embarrassed for you, others might find it funny. Of those two, the second seems best and a little laugh will break the ice. It will also help those who do feel awkward.

You have nothing to doubt yourself over. You're beautiful, intelegent and let's face it, you couldn't be more honest if you gave them your personal diary.

You have absolutely nothing to lose here. You haven't met these people in years. If you didn't go, you wouldn't really miss them. You have nothing to prove. All you're doing is walking in and saying Hi everyone. Remember me? I use to be that guy. Now I'm this girl. So, what have the rest of you been up to then? Anything interesting?

For you, it's win win. Even of you come away with every one of them resenting you, you still have lost nothing. But I seriously doubt that will happen.

One thing occurs. As I think I said, I went to an all boys boarding school. But sadly, I haven't managed to transision. If I had and went to a reunion I'm pretty certain some would be asking me some questions that may seem a little personal. They wouldn't be doing it for meanness. Mean people would make mean comments. It would be genuine interest.

If someone asked me, for example, if I've had it chopped off, I think I'd respond with something along the lines of looking directly at them and saying, That's not how it's done. If they asked me if I'm all woman, I'd say, All of me.

But don't get too hung up on this. If it happens, just play by ear. You have nothing to lose, nothing to prove.

I don't know your old friends of course or the relationship you had previously. But I wouldn't be surprised if a few do get a little over familiar.

It might be something to be prepaired for.

Spacial,I think the 1 thing that will get me through this, is having Michael by my side.It couldnt have happened to me at a better time. :) He is the organizer of this whole reunion.

is your reunion this saturday? your nerves could be mixed in with excitement. i remember watching this one episode of oprah that was on not so long ago. it was about an mtf transwoman. in high school she tried to be the perfect guy, and she was actually very successful with it. she was the quarterback on the football team, and very popular. the one all the girls wanted to date, and the one all the guys wanted to be like, but all she was doing was overcompensating herself into someone she truly wasn't. she transitioned later on, and is now in a filmmaking career. she ended up going to her high school reunion, and most people were admirable of her, but one girl, not so much. there's actually alot of people who do accept it surprisingly. it's one of those things that you just have to go for, and it can be a very rewarding experience. it sounds like it has been so far for you, and there may even be more on the way.

Great great movie... worth a look... website here:

http://www.prodigalsonsfilm.com/ (http://www.prodigalsonsfilm.com/)

I've never been to any of my reunions but MUST go when I'm through transition. It could be so much fun. Imagine a fully male class with the macho-factor going sky-high... and I'd be the only woman there. Could be that they won't even let me in saying I wasn't their classmate, but if I somehow could get past the guards I'd like to hear they asking "Is there anything interesting happened to you all these years?" :) I laugh every time I think of that situation :)

I think you too should go :)

g

Angela,
This has become a very though-provoking thread for me. I've never thought of any of my male friends from college in a seriously romantic way, but every since you've talked about going to the reunion w/your old friend, it's made me realize that there are a couple of male friends who I'd go weak in the knees for if they showed interest in me after I transitioned (even though I'm primarily attracted to CIS and trans women)..

Quote from: JocelynFreiky on August 31, 2010, 01:01:45 PM
Honey You just Gotta Walk in there and Tell yourself

"I'm Angela, and No One in the WORLD is Better than me"
Keep your Head Held High
Because You have a Reason To :)
Let your Inner Queen out for
You are Queen Bee and They Are all your Workers

You'll do Just Fine :)
♥

Every time I see your posts I'm like omg :( haha You're seriously so gorgeous.

Especially her eyes. :)

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 02:02:56 PM
Especially her eyes. :)

ikr! I'm so jealous of you girls! So many pretty girls here and I hope I look as good as you and Jocelyn and the other ones haha.

Another impressive looking girl on here is Jessica . C Cant believe her beauty!  :o

I knowww!!! =/

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 02:02:56 PM
Especially her eyes. :)

Quote from: andthenwekisss on August 31, 2010, 01:57:10 PM
Every time I see your posts I'm like omg :( haha You're seriously so gorgeous.

Umm I'm Amazed By ALL OF YOU LOVELY BEAUTIES!!!

Such Gorgeous Sisters!!!!

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 02:40:25 PM
Another impressive looking girl on here is Jessica . C Cant believe her beauty!  :o

Jessica and Jerica are Absolutely Beautiful
and Ariix is probably one of the most Stunning Women (T and Natal)
I've ever Seen!!!

Thanks but I still look like a boy!! -__- My hair is so short too!

andthenwekiss.. you already look great... consider me appropriately jealous :)

Quote from: andthenwekisss on August 31, 2010, 03:00:44 PM
Thanks but I still look like a boy!! -__- My hair is so short too!

If Thats you in the Pic You look ADORABLE!!!
And as Girly as They Come
:D

@Jocelyn yeah it's me haha I added fake hair though. But omg thanks! :)
@mtfbuckeye aww thanks! You'll be gorgeous! I swear you'll look exactly like that actress. btw you can call me Kim or Kimberly :P

Quote from: Angela on August 31, 2010, 01:37:33 PM
Spacial,I think the 1 thing that will get me through this, is having Michael by my side.It couldnt have happened to me at a better time. :) He is the organizer of this whole reunion.

That is good news.

But don't put yourself down. You've had the strength of character to face up to yourself and make these changes in your life. Then you had the strength of character to go to the reunion. Add on all the other problems you've dealt with along the way.

You are a lot tougher than you give yourself credit for. But we all need to find ourselves and discover how much strength we really have. You are going to surprise yourself.

thanks kim (blushing).. you don't know how much it means to me to hear that from someone as beautiful as you :)

Omg shut up!!! Awwww :D

What can I say, Kim? You're stunning :)

Omggggg!! That's sooo nice!!!

I'm a nice person, but it's also the truth, Kim. :) You're a very fortunate young lady to ALREADY look so feminine and pretty.

Awe I guess I can't see it yet haha. One day hopefullly

I agree! You look gorgeous girl! =)

omg thanks! I can't wait till my hair is really that long!

Quote from: andthenwekisss on August 31, 2010, 03:00:44 PM
Thanks but I still look like a boy!! -__- My hair is so short too!

dump the black T for a pastel top with v or scoop neckline and no-one would imagine boy.

:O

*loves black Ts*....

...if you can pass in a black T then awesome! Nothing says F more than passing while wearing a T! It's what I wear the most to create a more androgynous look (girl jeans and a black band shirt), the thought of getting read as a guy in girls clothes is bothersome for me... but we're all at our own unique stages of transition with our own preferences! ^__________^

*burns the bra and waves the black T proudly*.  ;)

Believe me, the day my boobs grow and I have cleavage I'll never wear a t shirt again. Well I will cuz I have a few I love, but my motto is boobs up and out! I can't wait till my chest is hairless and full!! :D But thank you I feel much better about passing in the future.

Getting ready to spend the entire day at the beach with Michael. 8) Im excited  and jittery at the same time, because this will be the first time he sees me in a bikini.On our first date I wore slacks.Ill talk to everyone again tomorrow.Love you girls ! :-*

Good luck bb <3

Quote from: JocelynFreiky on August 31, 2010, 02:55:55 PM
Umm I'm Amazed By ALL OF YOU LOVELY BEAUTIES!!!

Such Gorgeous Sisters!!!!
Jessica and Jerica are Absolutely Beautiful
and Ariix is probably one of the most Stunning Women (T and Natal)
I've ever Seen!!!

Awww thank you girl =)

Ive had the best day in my life so far today.Michael arrived exactly at the time he said he would pick me up for the beach.Once we got there ,I saw a side of him that I never saw before, his sensitive side.He started crying when he saw me in my bikini.I told him whats wrong? He said I cant believe its you.I told him its alright, but I want him to get over that as soon as he can.I want him to only see me as Angela, and no references to the past.I even told him im giving him a few months to talk about it to me, to get it out of him for good.The ocean was pretty warm considering its september.After we finished swimming, he told me to stay at the beach and would be back in a half hour with a suprise.He then came back with 2 chairs and 2 huge takeout caesar salads from the hotel he works at ! ;D After we finished ,he took home so I could get Ready to go see a local music festival with him.It was great, but we had to leave a half hour in because of heavy rain.This is really turning out better than I could ever imagine.Its just puzzles me that he wants to do some guy stuff with me? He promised that its only for this week.Tomorrow he wants to play basketball with me. ???I guess I can understand, he wants to do these things 1 last time. He assured me he is not in a rush for sex, but I can tell that if I made the 1st move he would be ready.Im really falling for him, so I wont keep him hanging for too long.Im thinking mid september.It will suck once monday arrives, because my mini vacation will be over, and its back to work. :(  Have to say goodnight everyone, its almost 1 A.M.  here.

omg Angela I'm so happy for you!! <3 On the other hand I'm so jealous haha. But you deserve it! You're gorgeous. And sweet. <3

Angela,
First of all, you look awesome and love the Debbie Gibson quote! To me, it seems like he wants to see how much of his old guy friend is left. I think it is only natural for him to be curious about that. He saw you in swim wear today (which I suspect was the point) and now knows how far the changes go. Basketball would seem like another way for him to see if any of the old you is around in Angela. Given the effects HRT have had on your body, I'm sure there will be differences.

OMG, Angela, I have read the whole thread since it started and didn't want to bud in but as it is unfolding I just can't hold back any longer. It is like a best chick flick movie story but better cause it is in a transgender theme and keeps getting better and better. I am so happy for you, Michael sounds like a swell guy and good friend, but when sex comes into play how do you think friendship will progress. I am a bit older and from my life perspective I am bit afraid for a chance of you loosing this friendship when it does progress into sex. I hope I am exaggerating and truthfully I don't know zip about Michael. Just get real good feeling about this decision before committing to it, a bit longer wait is OK but too soon might create a friction in a relationship. Love ya, and can't wait for the new page :)

Angela, you are either a great story teller or the luckiest girl on Earth. It takes a lot to cause me envy but you've succeeded. So I'll leave you with an angry face:   >:(

;) Seriously though, congratulations on your good fortune.

Alexia,
They have already made a scenario like this into a movie. Not exactly the same, but the basic elements of a transsexual meeting up with a friend from her old life and them falling for each other is the same. It's called "Different for Girls."

You are right Melody, I just looked it up, 1996. I will make sure to watch it.

aarrgghhhh if there is one thing I can't stand is people, no TS, TS only do this... they see someone that is happy and then try and add negativity. This is nothing like that movie wtf lol and she's described him in such a wonderful light that it's shameful to think anyone could say anything nasty about him, or have doubts bllaaaggg.....

Angela I'm sure you are ignoring all the negative comments.. he sounds awesome and a catch!!! I'm so happy for you! ^______________________^
*hugs*.

Wow, Muffin, no one has yet to say anything negative about anyone or anything. Every one here is wishing Angela a great relationship and friendship too last a lifetime. Do not jump to conclusions before reading posts as they are written.

I wasn't trying to be negative. I only wish Angela and her new boyfriend the best and hope she finds happiness with him. The movie is obviously not about Angela, but the basic rough outline is the same, so I thought people might be interested. As a movie, yes it has conflict and gets ugly at times, but that is the nature of movies and why they are interesting. I hope that Angela's real life story is so sweet and perfect that it would make the most boring movie ever! 

>>>alexia

Quote"Michael sounds like a swell guy and good friend, but when sex comes into play how do you think friendship will progress. I am a bit older and from my life perspective I am bit afraid for a chance of you loosing this friendship when it does progress into sex."

I've seen the movie the guy is a jerk and treats her like crap for the most part. I wasn't just referring to that movie but other peoples comments, if not more so. But yeah no need to derail the thread over my own personal observations. If you don't agree then ignore my comments simple.

Quote from: Muffin on September 01, 2010, 09:41:56 PM
>>>alexia
I've seen the movie the guy is a jerk and treats her like crap for the most part. I wasn't just referring to that movie but other peoples comments, if not more so. But yeah no need to derail the thread over my own personal observations. If you don't agree then ignore my comments simple.

Seems you are the one doing the derailing by accusing me of trying to tear down a sister.
I felt I had to respond to such an accusation. I will now take your advice and ignore your posts on this topic. Very simple. 

I wasn't trying to compare Michael to the guy in the movie, only the general circumstances of the movie.  Angela knows Michael best and I am sure she can make the best decision for her life. I also apologize Angela if you interpreted any of my comments as being negative or if any of the preceding has taken the glow off things. I am genuinely happy for you and wish you the best in this exciting new relationship.

Quote from: Melody on September 01, 2010, 09:56:17 PM
....Angela knows Michael best and I am sure she can make the best decision for her life

lols I wasn't trying to tear anyone down at all, just a simple observation that I'm sick of seeing only on TG-forums. but blah......
It's good that you added that last line in... it's good to see you acknowledge it.

Thank you everyone for the nice comments.Those other comments I really dont look at as negative, just people stating their opinion.At least thats what they come off as to me.

Kimberly, love your new avatar ! You are like the little sister I never had.

Quote from: Angela on September 02, 2010, 02:00:35 AM
Kimberly, love your new avatar ! You are like the little sister I never had.

Aww Angelaaa!! :D Thanks <3 If I didn't have sisters, I'd feel the same haha. :D
I love my new avatarrr. I did edit my chin to be smaller on photoshop but I hope I don't need FFS to look more feminine. If I do, that'll happen after SRS.

i like this thread.  its the most adorable thing ever.  i am just filled with 'aww's  :)

The basketball game didnt quite go like I expected.My shooting arms arent what they used to be. :( Michael kind of got a kick out of it.1 positive thing about this, he wont be asking me to do any more stuff we used to. do.He wants to reintroduce me  to his parents   , but I told him to wait a few weeks.I have enough pressure this week with the reunion. I remember his parents from years ago, they seemed nice.But have no idea how they would react now, with me dating Mike as a female. It would crush me if they dont approve.People at the reunion, I could get over in time about rejection, but Mikes parents approval is just something I want.

That basketball game would have been something to see.

I can really understand how you feel, knowing you could do it but can't now.

Pretty sure you can relearn though. Moving around in a different body, as you will be, is gonna need some different approaches.

Spacial,I dont think I even want to relearn.I told Michael, he was upset.   :( But I just cant get into the game like I used to.I still like watching the occasional game on tv, but playing it today seemed boring.He accidentally knocked me down once, something he would never be able to do in high school.I beat him constantly back then.Now I got beaten by 30 points. :embarrassed: Enough about the game, I see him as my man.

Angela I really hope his parents accept you two. I wish you luck!! :) so happy for you big sister!! <3

Thanks little sis.Im in no rush to go to his parents for a while.My mom already knows and is ok with him.My dad it doesnt make any diffrence, because we havent spoken in years. :( 

I wouldn't be in a rush either haha! Especially before srs. And I'm really sorry about you dad. That really must be hard. :( I didn't think I would care how my parents reacted but it really started to upset me. I'm not sure how okay they will be but they're in denial right now haha. =\

Hi Angela, I just read up with this topic and I am really happy for you. It is wonderful that you have found support and love in an old friend.
It is only natural that he places remarks or wants to things you don't see fit. It takes time to adjust and be fully comfortable with this new situation and the way he goes about it seems perfect. He seems to rush things and it is good of you to tell him to slow down a bit. Right now you have plenty of things to think about, especially the upcomin reunion.
I wish you all the best and a great evening. You look great, I am sure you both will be fine.

Thank you Octavianus, it means alot coming from you.Because you are in an almost similar relationship. Kimberly, being in denial is better than rejection. :)

It is better. I'm luckier than most girls in some ways but then again if I don't get a job it's all wasted since I'll be stuck.

Michael called me this morning, if I could substitute for him this morning at the school for the last day where people bring in their invitations if they are attending reunion.He seemed so tired from work I said yes.Turned out to be a big mistake.2 people from my class came in , 1 was very happy for me.I started to think this reunion is going to be great tomonrow.Then my old college girlfriend came in,I couldnt wait to tell her.I poured my heart out to her, telling her how I came to this decision.She was speechless,I said what do you think.She said ,You should be ashamed of yourself and I never want to see you again. :'( This was the first person that I needed to absolutely have approval,I could care less if anybody else rejects me.Im still going to go tomorrow, but my enthusiasm is gone.I was hoping that we would be good friends and even see each other ever week, and get caught up.Tol Michael about this, he told me to just erase her from my mind.Its just not that easy.

I have enjoyed reading this thread, it's like a chick-lit serial, except for your old girlfriend's attitude.  :(
You have Michael and she doesn't though, so  :icon_punch: to her! If that is the way she turned out, who needs her for a friend.

Have a great time, and enjoy being with the people who appreciate you.

Go kid, Sandra.

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 06:31:31 AM
Michael called me this morning, if I could substitute for him this morning at the school for the last day where people bring in their invitations if they are attending reunion.He seemed so tired from work I said yes.Turned out to be a big mistake.2 people from my class came in , 1 was very happy for me.I started to think this reunion is going to be great tomonrow.Then my old college girlfriend came in,I couldnt wait to tell her.I poured my heart out to her, telling her how I came to this decision.She was speechless,I said what do you think.She said ,You should be ashamed of yourself and I never want to see you again. :'( This was the first person that I needed to absolutely have approval,I could care less if anybody else rejects me.Im still going to go tomorrow, but my enthusiasm is gone.I was hoping that we would be good friends and even see each other ever week, and get caught up.Tol Michael about this, he told me to just erase her from my mind.Its just not that easy.

Angela..

One thing we can never control is people.

This would have happened anyway. Like a sort of time bomb, waiting to go off.

OK, so you wanted her approval. She has been silly and negative. Her loss.

Tomorrow, there will probably be some others. Their loss.

What you are actually seeing is the reality of these people. Imagine, for a moment, you hadn't changed. This girl was still part of your life. One day, she makes a negative comment to a transgendered person. Is that really the sort of person you would want to associate with?

You are living your life, your way. Just hold your head up high. All that you can lose are your previous illusions about some of the people you knew.

I was afraid something like that might happen with the old girlfriend. Just remember that this is about her, not you. Your confession cast your old relationship in a new light and challenged her own sexuality. Your a woman now and she was your girlfriend and she was probably afraid of what people would now say at the reunion about her. This is a lot to digest in a few minutes.

My wife and I have been married for 15 years and after I confessed my trans nature, it turned her world upside down. If she stays is she now a lesbian? Big questions like that. It has taken weeks for her to work through a reexamination of herself and she is not nearly done grieving what we had.

Anyway, I guess what I am saying is to cut her a little slack. Yes, what she said was terrible, but I know my wife loves me and she has said some pretty unflattering stuff too. Give her some space and she might come around, but don't place too much importance on this. She is part of your old life and you are building a new one with Michael.

Dear Angela, Michael is a swell and very intuitive person, sounds to me he has eased you in by having you attend signups before hand. Your attitude will be shaped by what you had to endure but it is for good. Wow, he really is a carrying and wise friend. Be your self, you already gonna have a best friend there to cheer you on. I am overwhelmed by your strength and courage to plunge into this pool of unforeseen emotion, I remember high school, the most harsh and criticizing crowd there is on the other hand the best friendships have formed there as well. Smile, it is one of the worlds most potent influences, share your wonderful soul with others, love, Alexia.

Thanks Alexia and Spacial for the kind words.But I dont think you quite understand the situation.This girl and me, had been a couple throughout college and high school.We shared some very intimate moments together.If not for her having to move away for her Masters degree , we might have even been married today.Few months after she moved away, I "discovered" myself.Melody,I really dont know if I can forgive her, even if she does come around.Im hoping she doesnt cause me any trouble tomorrow,  because I would leave immediately.

You said it yourself Angela. A few months later, you discovered yourself.

It isn't a virus, it was always there. You just discovered it.

Sorry, but life is full of disappointments. This girl wasn't the one for you. She know it and as melody says, perhaps you need to cut her some slack.

You're a beautiful woman. You always have been.

Now, tomorrow, you're going to that reunion. I'm pretty sure a lot of people will be expecting to meet you. You're going to have a great time and just enjoy yourself.

(I was about to write, In a little over 24 hours..... Then I remembered you're on a different time zone. Oops).

Thanks Spacial, Your username should really be Miss Confidence Booster.In a way, you are kind of right about the time zone.It is almost 5.30 P.M here in Greece.The reunion is tommorrow night at 9 P.M.

Everyone is such understanding people at this forum.You truly are great friends.The way I feel about you girls, is best explained by the infamous lyrics from the golden girls tv show ! Her are the lyrics..............    "Thank you for being a friend." "Travelled round the world and back again."  "Your heart is true, your a pal and a confidant."  "And if you threw a party, invited everyone you knew, you would see the greatest gift would be from me, and the card attached would say thank you for being a friend".

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 09:20:35 AM
Thanks Spacial, Your username should really be Miss Confidence Booster.In a way, you are kind of right about the time zone.It is almost 5.30 P.M here in Greece.The reunion is tommorrow night at 9 P.M.

OMG! You're in Greece!  I was thinking middle America.   No wonder the ex-girlfriend got upset...in Greece men are men and the women are grateful and now you've gone and spoilt that ideal for her...and she's wondering if that means she is destined to exile on Lesbos.
Enjoy Michael and whatever else life gives you but like lots of us you'll find that many old friends just have to be let go.

Έχετε μια καλή στιγμή, είσαι ο εαυτός σου, και να μας ενημερώσετε για όλες τις λεπτομέρειες αργότερα. Μετά από όλα, είμαστε όλα τα κορίτσια! ;)

Dear Angela, I feel for you but these things do happen and there will without doubt be more similar encounters in the future. As much as people would like to smite her for the way she behaved it might be understandable. Please don't get me wrong, I do not approve of her reaction but you have to realize that it can be quite a shock to realize the person she loved for so long is actually a woman. Many different factors can play part in her reaction. It is possible she cannot understand your transition, she can feel mislead by you or maybe it is even harsh intolerance. Maybe she is shocked that she realizes that she did not know this part of you. This does not mean she is right, but a person can feel this way.

I am sorry if I sound offensive to you, but this is how people are. As much as we want we can't change that and we have to learn to live with it. Right now you you have found a special person who cares about you and you should cherish that

Thanks Alexia ! Did you do that from 1 of those translation sites ? Because it came out about 90 percent correct translation.But its your thought that counts ! :)

Aww Angela I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's really her loss, she sounds like a lame person and she doesn't deserve to be your friend. :( I know how you feel a little bit. =/ And omg quoting the Golden Girls, I love you even more <3

Dear Octavianus, while you may be right about her, but only time will tell.

Quote from: KimberlyJean on September 03, 2010, 12:15:45 PM
Aww Angela I'm so sorry that happened to you! It's really her loss, she sounds like a lame person and she doesn't deserve to be your friend. :( I know how you feel a little bit. =/ And omg quoting the Golden Girls, I love you even more <3

Kimberly thanks. Im kind of suprised someone as young as you knows the golden girls show !!! :o Do you watch it in reruns ??? ;D

Quote from: Angela Venetos on September 03, 2010, 12:18:21 PM
Kimberly thanks. Im kind of suprised someone as young as you knows the golden girls show !!! :o Do you watch it in reruns ??? ;D

Yeah my sisters and I grew up watching it and we're huge fans of it still. My friend Tina is actually a super fan. Like she's OBSESSED with it, seen every episode and quotes them all the time haha. I love it though. The cast is amazing. RIP Bea, Rue & Estelle :(

The way she reacted is awful and it is up to her to sort this out in her mind.
It is hard but for now please don't think too much about it. It will be wasted energy and you have a very busy day tomorrow. I look forward to read all bout it.
So please don't be sad, chin up, chest forward and have a grand evening.

There is only one tiny phrase in Greek I have memorized:
Γνῶθι Σεαυτόν

It was engraved in the temple of Apollo at Delhi and although it is very old, I think it is still a very important message.
Know yourself, be yourself and have fun tomorrow!

Quote from: KimberlyJean on September 03, 2010, 12:20:50 PM
Yeah my sisters and I grew up watching it and we're huge fans of it still. My friend Tina is actually a super fan. Like she's OBSESSED with it, seen every episode and quotes them all the time haha. I love it though. The cast is amazing. RIP Bea, Rue & Estelle :(

Yes, hard to believe only Betty is the last one alive. This is likely my last post till sometime Sunday.Ill let everyone know how it went.I told Michael it would be better, if we didnt come together as a couple to the reunion.But he said he will take care of it. Ill see you girls on Sunday.

Good luck Angela!! <3 I'll be thinking about you <3

I have been watching this for a while and a few thoughts.

It sounds like you have a winner in your new boyfriend.   Just enjoy him and the times you have together.  May they many and long.  :)

Now as to the ex girlfriend.  Maybe she is jealous because you became such a beautiful woman.  If she starts anything I hope you just slap her face and hard.  After all that is what women do.  :D

I have long been a fan of the Golden Girls.  It is a shame that most of them are gone now.  A friend once told me that I was like Blanche.  Well I don't really see it as I don't date.  But I did love her character.

I hope you night was a beautiful night with lots of great memories.

Hugs my sister.

I guess google ain't that google after all. I will stick to ingless. As to the Golden girls, I didn't want to admit but, yes I too was a big fan.

Janet thanks for your wishes,I wouldnt slap her,Ill just ignore her.Here in Greece, the golden girls havent been on tv since the 80s.So I ordered all the dvds from amazon a while back, to watch whenever I want to !Thats what ill be doing tonight, lol ! Alexia, no hard feelings, its the thought that counts.

Quote from: Janet Lynn on September 03, 2010, 12:53:56 PM
I have been watching this for a while and a few thoughts.

It sounds like you have a winner in your new boyfriend.   Just enjoy him and the times you have together.  May they many and long.  :)

Now as to the ex girlfriend.  Maybe she is jealous because you became such a beautiful woman.  If she starts anything I hope you just slap her face and hard.  After all that is what women do.  :D

I have long been a fan of the Golden Girls.  It is a shame that most of them are gone now.  A friend once told me that I was like Blanche.  Well I don't really see it as I don't date.  But I did love her character.

I hope you night was a beautiful night with lots of great memories.

Hugs my sister.

I actually considered Blanche as my name for a few minutes because I love the character so much :P But I figured a 19 year old girl with the name Blanche is a little odd haha. She was my favorite!

Good luck Angela! I hope the Reunion is everything you dream it will be!

Your story is making me think of my 20th college reunion coming up in 2013. If everything goes well in my transition, I hope to be quite female looking on the outside by then. I hope I look half as good as you!

Quote from: KimberlyJean on September 03, 2010, 12:20:50 PM
Yeah my sisters and I grew up watching it and we're huge fans of it still. My friend Tina is actually a super fan. Like she's OBSESSED with it, seen every episode and quotes them all the time haha. I love it though. The cast is amazing. RIP Bea, Rue & Estelle :(

Same here I watch it weekly.How old are you?

Quote from: tori319 on September 04, 2010, 12:55:57 AM
Same here I watch it weekly.How old are you?

I'm 19 :P I dvr it and watch every once in a while. :P I love it though.