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I had a really bad day yesterday, idk if it was the rain or the dark weather combined with me letting the small things bring me down. I felt like crap, I was being emotional. I hated it. I hadn't had a bad day in a really long time, I had been happy lately. But things just happened and kept happening all day yesterday, and I think since I hadn't felt so down in a while it hit me good. One girl in one class she/her'd me and it really got to me.
But by the end of the day, thanks to a few good friends :), I was doing way better.

Today, was a total opposite. Im so happy right now, yet stuck. So let me explain my situation a little and what happened..
I go to college, but like I've said before I only pass for like a 10-14, MAYBE 15 yr old boy.(mostly because of my voice and lack of true facial hair-full mustache/chin hair, plus shortness and chubby cheeks)
So today we had to talk in class, each group had to stand up say their name and say a fact about themselves. A girl in that class already he'd me :) BUT today after class I was walking behind two guys that were in there. One kept turning around, and finally said "hey man what was your name again" and I told him. And he was like "so how old are you dude" I was like (oh crap what do I say, how old should I say, omg what do I do) so I said im young. He's like "are you a like a genius" I was like kind of. He said "so how old are you" I said....how old do I look...we were parting so we stopped walking..one guy said "he's probably like 17 and ->-bleeped-<-" I shook my head no, the other guy said "14" I shook my head yeah. He was like see, and we turned and parted.
Yeah, I caught myself in my first lie just so I could stay stealth. Only problem is I have 4 yrs(hypothetically, according to my story) til im legal and can really hang out with these guys, if it even comes to that.
But I passed, I completely passed in a 'my true age' environment..as opposed to yesterday being clocked as a girl in the same but different environment..for now I have to say im around 12 to pass, it sucks, but if I don't ppl won't believe me or they'll see me as a girl.
You don't know how happy I was for him to treat me like a guy, it made my day. Its still lasting. Everyone around me can notice that im happy today, im good. Im on a natural high, just because I passed. And I was confused before, I didn't really know how anyone saw me. But now I do.
Was it wrong for me to lie? I feel bad, I feel like I started a whole web of lies to come, but I did it because I had to. I should've just said 17, I could've if I was on T and had a lower voice but no :/ not yet. And now if I ever see them in any other classes, oh man..what did I do..
What are your thoughts on this situation?

Wrong? No.

Any chance it'll come around & bite you in the butt? Maybe.

You likely didn't see that question coming, and so didn't have a deft solution to it worked out in advance. As a dude, you have the option later of, if you can pull it off, doing the "I was just messing with you, because I look so young I've been asked about it so much I'm over it" thing.

Stealth often involves the path of least astonishment, which can lead to some creative handling of the facts. Just have to be wise about the use of such tactics, as you have to keep track of who's been told what once the talking is done.

More importantly, celebrate your moments of dude-dom when you get 'em.

I agree with Sydney, if the situation comes up definitely do the "I was just messing" thing and tell them an older age that is closer to your own.

just tell people your real age, and tell them you have a hormone deficiency if they say anything about your voice or something. I was stealth in college for half a year before I was on T and I never had a problem. People would ask "Dude, how old are you?" I'd say "18", then they would say "Wow you look like super young." and I'd be like "yeah well". Then feel free to crack a joke about how they are going to be all old and ->-bleeped-<- and you will still look 40 when you are 60 haha.

Just be one of the guys, if they approach you like that they obviously think you are a guy, you will just be the guy who gets made fun of my friends for hitting puberty late. Welcome to the world of men.

Thanks guys, and lady.
That plan might actually work.
Haha.

Well yes Sydney after the fact, I was like oh crap it is gonna come back around and bite me in the butt..so I was kind of like, what am I gonna do, how can I fix it..I was caught in the moment and had to do some quick thinking.

Hopefully it comes back around and I can just say im an older age and I was pulling their leg, cause well they believed me. And I was being seen as a guy, I didn't want to ruin it.

Well it doesn't sound like you put a lot of effort into the lie. Meaning it wasn't a long conversation where you agreed and then talked about it. You can always act like you were messing with them, it was a joke, you wanted to see if they'd believe it because you weren't sure how young you look to other people, etc... use your imagination there are lots of ways to explain it as a joke. Also you could say you misheard the one who said 14 when you agreed and claim you heard something closer to your age.

Hormone deficiency almost always works as an excuse with me, just don't expect girls to fall for it. The men I work with now all believe that is what's different about me, why I'm smaller and all (because where I live most men are freaking huge! I mean like over 6ft and weight 200lbs or more and I'm like 5'5 and 120lbs). The women on the other hand who were around for the stories with the guys knew better, they didn't know WHAT was wrong but when I came out to some of them they were shocked I was trans but brought up they knew the hormone thing was hinkey lol.

Side note: I love your avatar but I swear, my teddy hugs back. BUT I do have a pretty good imagination and have had him for 26 years.... so I've had plenty of time to convince myself of that lol. And yes, him, all of my inanimate objects that I use gender pronouns for happen to be male except my car :P

Quote from: Cowboi on September 10, 2010, 02:49:15 PM
Well it doesn't sound like you put a lot of effort into the lie. Meaning it wasn't a long conversation where you agreed and then talked about it. You can always act like you were messing with them, it was a joke, you wanted to see if they'd believe it because you weren't sure how young you look to other people, etc...

Haha thanks for that, I've seen that I pass more with guys anyway. Its weird how girls are.
But I don't have much of an imagination, so im going to have to sit and think about it for a bit.

And thanks :) haha what kind of teddy do you have?

I have a care bear. The little blue baby one, Tugs, except I call mine Cubby. My grandmother gave him to me when I was born and he was the first thing I ever officially "owned". He sleeps in bed with me every night. Bianca used to tease me about this until we got a teddy bear for one of the pets... it suddenly began ending up in bed a lot, and always on her side :P

Oh that's cool, so sweet.
:)
I used to have one, idk what happened to it! I still have one of my first stuffed animal things though.