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Well, in the last couple of weeks, we have brought more people into the circle. My wife told two of her closest female friends and I told one of my oldest friends. The latter is a friendship that goes back to when we were teenagers. All of have generally positive. Shocked at the news, of course, but supportive. My friend I think is having the hardest time wrapping his brain around it. He seemed to be thinking about it more like a nose job. A cosmetic change, in other words. Took several emails back and forth to get him to see it as more than that. He is still having a hard time thinking about what constituted my old identity and what was Melody. Can't blame him as sometimes I have trouble with that myself!

Also, my youngest sister, the only one in my family I have told, ended up telling my sister who is one year younger than me. My family knows I have something brewing and they were starting to concoct some crazy ideas, so my youngest sister thought she might nip it in the bud. Supportive reaction there too, but I don't think this will be secret much longer from the rest.

Congrats, girl! I don't have the guts to actually come out to anybody, but my really close friend who moved to Japan a couple of months ago thinks of me as a guy and will call me by male pronouns when I ask her to. So I'm pretty sure she has an idea.

I was just talking to my sister and I mentioned only one more sister to go, and then she said "actually, I told her already!". Unfortunately, she couldn't tell me much more because she had just boarded a plane. That girl is chatty!  ;D But I love her of course. She did mention she was supportive too. That just leaves my mom now. I hope it goes as well. It is a relief to almost have this part over and I feel blessed it has gone so well.

Devyn, thanks. Hang in there. The fear is something we all face and getting through it is part of the process. I hope you can find the courage. It gets easier the more you do it.