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Title: Heyas
Post by: Cat-O-One-Tail on September 16, 2010, 06:22:14 AM
Post by: Cat-O-One-Tail on September 16, 2010, 06:22:14 AM
Thought I'd drop in and say hi since I was looking around. Funnily enough, I came across the forum when I was doing a search related to epilators and hair removal :laugh: and just started looking around.
I'm not actually transgender, though I did work with someone who was MTF who shared some of what she had to go through. We were work friends during her 1 year of having to live as a female in order to have her surgery covered by the health care system. The government has actually since axed the program to allow people to have the surgery at no cost, in the name of saving money, though I've heard it was literally a savings of a few cents. Nice. ::) I know that she was able to complete her surgery before it all got changed since we chat on facebook once in a while.
Suppose some people might consider me to be androgynous since I really don't do "typical" female things, I don't really label it either way I guess. I just do what I'm comfortable with and wear what I like and that's it. Generally speaking I'm more masculine in dress and attitude... don't do make up very often (once in a while if the mood strikes), haven't work a dress/skirt since I was about 8, keep my hair buzzed to a #2-3, and a good 70%+ of what I wear comes from the men's section. Why? Because I don't LIKE a lot of what's in women's wear. Call it what you will, I'm a tomboy, andro, or just someone who thinks gender stereotypes are stupid.
For the same reasons as above I've recently discovered that I'd be considered pansexual. While I've never dated a female, I don't see any reason NOT to either if I met one who had all the qualities I look for in a partner. My general thought has always been "if I'm not having sex with you, it doesn't matter what I am". That attitude came around in junior high school, when, for whatever reason, someone decided that since I didn't dress/act as a "typical girl should" that I must be gay. The first few times someone asked or made a comment, I'd say no, I'm not. Then I got to thinking about it, what if I were gay? Would it really be anyone's business but the person who I was dating? So I started answering the "are you gay?" question with, "none of your business". Of course that just made the immature children assume I was.. fine.. whatever. I started dating a boy a couple of months later, and of course that that point the question was
"Hey! You said you were gay!"
To which I'd reply "No, YOU said I was gay, *I* said it was none of your business".
"Oh, so you're straight then?"
"I didn't say that either..."
"Which is it then?"
Really.. you'd think they'd have gotten the point by this time, but yet again I'd say:
"It's the same as it was LAST time you asked/made a stupid comment, it's none of YOUR business!"
Honestly, you'd think the fools would have understood at that point they were trying to have a battle of wits while being completely unarmed. They could attempt to tease me all they wanted but it wasn't actually doing anything, because while they thought they were laughing at me, I was laughing at how incredibly stupid THEY were.
However, what it did do, was give me a little bit of insight into what homosexuals and transgendered people had to put up with... and I found it ridiculous that anyone would feel the need to tell another person how to live, who they should or shouldn't love, and how they should or shouldn't feel comfortable. As long as nobody is being hurt or forced into anything it seems like a real wasted effort to interfere in other people's business.
So.. in a nutshell.. Hi! ;)
I'm not actually transgender, though I did work with someone who was MTF who shared some of what she had to go through. We were work friends during her 1 year of having to live as a female in order to have her surgery covered by the health care system. The government has actually since axed the program to allow people to have the surgery at no cost, in the name of saving money, though I've heard it was literally a savings of a few cents. Nice. ::) I know that she was able to complete her surgery before it all got changed since we chat on facebook once in a while.
Suppose some people might consider me to be androgynous since I really don't do "typical" female things, I don't really label it either way I guess. I just do what I'm comfortable with and wear what I like and that's it. Generally speaking I'm more masculine in dress and attitude... don't do make up very often (once in a while if the mood strikes), haven't work a dress/skirt since I was about 8, keep my hair buzzed to a #2-3, and a good 70%+ of what I wear comes from the men's section. Why? Because I don't LIKE a lot of what's in women's wear. Call it what you will, I'm a tomboy, andro, or just someone who thinks gender stereotypes are stupid.
For the same reasons as above I've recently discovered that I'd be considered pansexual. While I've never dated a female, I don't see any reason NOT to either if I met one who had all the qualities I look for in a partner. My general thought has always been "if I'm not having sex with you, it doesn't matter what I am". That attitude came around in junior high school, when, for whatever reason, someone decided that since I didn't dress/act as a "typical girl should" that I must be gay. The first few times someone asked or made a comment, I'd say no, I'm not. Then I got to thinking about it, what if I were gay? Would it really be anyone's business but the person who I was dating? So I started answering the "are you gay?" question with, "none of your business". Of course that just made the immature children assume I was.. fine.. whatever. I started dating a boy a couple of months later, and of course that that point the question was
"Hey! You said you were gay!"
To which I'd reply "No, YOU said I was gay, *I* said it was none of your business".
"Oh, so you're straight then?"
"I didn't say that either..."
"Which is it then?"
Really.. you'd think they'd have gotten the point by this time, but yet again I'd say:
"It's the same as it was LAST time you asked/made a stupid comment, it's none of YOUR business!"
Honestly, you'd think the fools would have understood at that point they were trying to have a battle of wits while being completely unarmed. They could attempt to tease me all they wanted but it wasn't actually doing anything, because while they thought they were laughing at me, I was laughing at how incredibly stupid THEY were.
However, what it did do, was give me a little bit of insight into what homosexuals and transgendered people had to put up with... and I found it ridiculous that anyone would feel the need to tell another person how to live, who they should or shouldn't love, and how they should or shouldn't feel comfortable. As long as nobody is being hurt or forced into anything it seems like a real wasted effort to interfere in other people's business.
So.. in a nutshell.. Hi! ;)
Title: Re: Heyas
Post by: Hermione01 on September 16, 2010, 08:39:55 AM
Post by: Hermione01 on September 16, 2010, 08:39:55 AM
Hi and welcome cat o nine tails, love your intro and attitude. :)
Title: Re: Heyas
Post by: Janet_Girl on September 16, 2010, 10:36:57 AM
Post by: Janet_Girl on September 16, 2010, 10:36:57 AM
Hi cat o nine tails, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 3400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
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Why does it matter to someone else what one's sexuality is? As you said it is a "Noneya". Some people just have to know everyone else's business. Sorry to hear about your friend, it is a pain to save up the money for surgery.
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 3400 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
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Why does it matter to someone else what one's sexuality is? As you said it is a "Noneya". Some people just have to know everyone else's business. Sorry to hear about your friend, it is a pain to save up the money for surgery.
Hugs and Love,
Janet