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Title: The Women's Group
Post by: K8 on October 03, 2010, 06:18:17 PM
Post by: K8 on October 03, 2010, 06:18:17 PM
There's an informal women's group at my church that meets once a month. Most of the women are in their forties and fifties but some are older or younger. Except for perhaps a few of the newer ones, all of them know that I'm trans.
Today they invited me to join them. I am friendly with all of them, but they aren't the women I usually hang out with. Still, I was pleased to be asked and didn't think that I should refuse.
I had a good time. We just talked about various things, none of which I remember now – just connecting with each other. It was nice to spend time with a new group of people. I was comfortable the whole time I was there, even when trying to explain to an elderly woman that I knew her from years ago when I looked different. (She still didn't remember me – she has memory problems.)
It was nothing special, but it was nice to be included. And isn't that what most of us want – to be included in a group of people similar to ourselves?
- Kate
Today they invited me to join them. I am friendly with all of them, but they aren't the women I usually hang out with. Still, I was pleased to be asked and didn't think that I should refuse.
I had a good time. We just talked about various things, none of which I remember now – just connecting with each other. It was nice to spend time with a new group of people. I was comfortable the whole time I was there, even when trying to explain to an elderly woman that I knew her from years ago when I looked different. (She still didn't remember me – she has memory problems.)
It was nothing special, but it was nice to be included. And isn't that what most of us want – to be included in a group of people similar to ourselves?
- Kate
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: azSam on October 03, 2010, 06:23:26 PM
Post by: azSam on October 03, 2010, 06:23:26 PM
That's great Kate. I'm happy that you felt accepted and that it all went smoothly. Yay!, for being accepted! :D
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: Colleen Ireland on October 03, 2010, 06:33:51 PM
Post by: Colleen Ireland on October 03, 2010, 06:33:51 PM
Quote from: K8 on October 03, 2010, 06:18:17 PMIt was nothing special, but it was nice to be included. And isn't that what most of us want – to be included in a group of people similar to ourselves?
From where I sit, it was something very special indeed. THEY reached out to YOU. Invited you into their group. That is an enormous thing, I think, and the fact that everything seemed so normal makes it even more special, I think. Talk about "Living the dream!" That is amazing. I'm really happy for you, Kate. We should all be so blessed.
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 03, 2010, 10:14:31 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 03, 2010, 10:14:31 PM
That is great Kate. And even if they are not the type of women you hang out with, they asked you to join them. Is that not the purpose of a women's group? To bring together women of different backgrounds?
Go and have some fun. :D
Go and have some fun. :D
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: Asfsd4214 on October 03, 2010, 10:28:49 PM
Post by: Asfsd4214 on October 03, 2010, 10:28:49 PM
That's fantastic, I had a similar experience just recently and its subtly changed my life.
A week or so ago I was at a narcotics anonymous meeting, and in many ways it changed my life, however not in the ways you might expect.
I woman came up to me and said I should check out the womens NA meeting on saturday, it was then for the first time I realized... I actually passed, up close, for sure, for an extended period of time (wearing my traditionally ambiguous dress sense, lol).
A week or so ago I was at a narcotics anonymous meeting, and in many ways it changed my life, however not in the ways you might expect.
I woman came up to me and said I should check out the womens NA meeting on saturday, it was then for the first time I realized... I actually passed, up close, for sure, for an extended period of time (wearing my traditionally ambiguous dress sense, lol).
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: Lacey Lynne on October 06, 2010, 12:44:41 AM
Post by: Lacey Lynne on October 06, 2010, 12:44:41 AM
Quote from: Colleen Ireland on October 03, 2010, 06:33:51 PM
From where I sit, it was something very special indeed. THEY reached out to YOU. Invited you into their group. That is an enormous thing, I think, and the fact that everything seemed so normal makes it even more special, I think. Talk about "Living the dream!" That is amazing. I'm really happy for you, Kate. We should all be so blessed.
Colleen said it perfectly, Kate. Wow, that's GREAT news! Honestly, I don't think it gets any better than this. Genetic women accepting you into the fold? Rock on!
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: Cindy on October 06, 2010, 02:01:22 AM
Post by: Cindy on October 06, 2010, 02:01:22 AM
Excellent news Kate. As others have said doesn't matter if they are not your usual friends. They have stepped out of the way to acknowledge you. At that is a very special thing to do.
Hugs
Cindy
Hugs
Cindy
Title: Re: The Women's Group
Post by: justmeinoz on October 06, 2010, 05:28:51 AM
Post by: justmeinoz on October 06, 2010, 05:28:51 AM
Wonderful news Kate. The fact that it was "nothing special" makes it a truly special experience.
Hugs from me too, Sandra.
Hugs from me too, Sandra.