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ok, so I have a big thing for older guys, Ive always been more attracted to the more mature 40-50 year old men, like, johnny depp, or robert downey jr.

now my roommate is complaining about how I think RDJ is hot, he says he is old and gross, but I think he is sexy!

My roomie says that once the T is in my system more, I will stop liking older men, because liking older men is a feminine thing, and usually women like older men, and men like younger people.

whats your take? 

I think your friend is full of it.

I know people of all ages who like people of all ages, regardless of their sex.  I have a friend (female) who absolutely loves guys who are around 70, but she's dating a guy who's not much older than her.

Women like younger men (depends on age of the woman usually) just as much as they like older men and vice versa.

I find older men to be interesting in their own right. (when I am attracted to one of them)
You like who you like. If you like older men thats cool, it is no one's buisness other than yours and your lovers, right?

There are tons of young gay guys that seek out older men, so I don't think you're alone in that at all. I don't see it as a feminine/masculine thing in any way. Sure, sometimes T changes whether you like men or women or both, but I don't think it will change the type of man or woman you're attracted to, if that makes any sense. Just my opinion.

Your taste might change on T, it might not. Hell, it might change over time for any one of a million other reasons, or no reason at all.

People like people. There's no rules. If women only liked older men, then this whole "cougar" thing wouldn't have gotten so big. If men only liked younger people, then the whole "older more mature experienced woman I was 16 she was 30" thing wouldn't be written into skin mag spoofs and comedy shows.

Personally, I have experienced some minor taste change on T. A lot of it is due to personality change, some change in what I want from a partner and some of it is due to being more visually oriented. But, I also experienced taste change anyway as I got older - the types I was attracted to at 16 is different to the types I am attracted to at 26.

I think your friend is investing a lot of opinion in stereotypes that might not prove 100% accurate in the real world.

Gay communities have a sort of tradition of older men who initiate and mentor younger guys. Except for the occasional exception, we can't learn from our fathers; and our peer groups in junior high and high school are overwhelmingly straight.

If you retain your interest in older guys, you'll fit right in. Your tastes might change/broaden over time, but I don't think the T will have much to do with it.

WTH? I'm not into guys and even I know that's not true. Some people- no matter their age, gender or sexual preference- just like older, mature people.

Is your roommate trans? If not he probably knows nothing about what it's like for transmen to start and take T.

Your roommate is talking utter crap. Nothing else to say.

To me it kind of seems your roommate its not thrilled with your transition and is trying to make up reasons for you to not want to keep taking it. It's not a "girly" thing to like older men. IDK where he got that idea from.. Also if anything, I think testosterone will broaden who you think is attractive, atleast it did in my case. I really dont think you should have to worry about it, and maybe you want to find out why your roommate is coming up with crap like this.

Good luck

You have no idea how T will affect you much less your roommate.

It's very individual.   From what I've heard T doesn't take away desire but perhaps makes it more flexible? 

I really don't know.  I know I look at girls more than I use to after 5 months on T.

As far as older men, heck yes.  If they are the type of graying older gentleman then heck to the yes

he has asked me to add that he got this information from a study in one of his classes

zomg elijah your roommate is so wrong GAWD

Quote from: Elijah on October 10, 2010, 09:23:42 PMMy roomie says that once the T is in my system more, I will stop liking older men, because liking older men is a feminine thing, and usually women like older men, and men like younger people.

What???
No.
Unless it's for status reasons, bragging in front of friends or cause they want to found a family and need a woman who can still get pregnant.

Your roommate has no idea what they're talking about.  I may be reading too much into it, but it seems as if your friend is saying you're feminine:  you like older men; women like older men=you are like a woman.  Whether that's actually what they're getting at or not, I don't know.  But it's a load of bs either way.

As the others have already said, T can sometimes change a person's sexuality.  But that doesn't always happen.  It's as individual as the rest of the changes we experience.  Before I started T, I was bisexual with a strong preference for males.  Now, I am 100% gay, couldn't imagine ever dating a woman, and am extremely attracted to masculine, hairy older men (late 40s through early 50s).  It's all individual really.

Elijah your roommate has developed a serious case of oral diarrhea. Try jamming some toilet paper in there if the symptoms persist.

Quote from: Aegir on October 11, 2010, 10:52:31 PM
Elijah your roommate has developed a serious case of oral diarrhea. Try jamming some toilet paper in there if the symptoms persist.

I laughed so hard when I read that. xD