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Title: New guy in the house
Post by: tvc15 on October 22, 2010, 04:44:32 PM
Post by: tvc15 on October 22, 2010, 04:44:32 PM
Hey guys!
I'm an eighteen-year-old trans guy living in Orlando, Florida.
I was assigned female at birth, but I've always identified as male. I never connected my ongoing social anxiety, depression, and self-hatred to my identity conflict, because I figured there was nothing I could do about it. Being bi, I was already part of the LGBT community, so you'd think I would have learned sooner; sadly, the T seems to be mostly silent, and I never heard enough to think about applying it to myself.
So growing up was confusing. And difficult. I just couldn't understand why I was so hesitant to meet people and feel comfortable in my body. This summer I decided to be honest with myself and do some soul-searching. The answer was there all along. Just knowing I don't have to stay trapped forever has done wonders for my self-confidence. I'm now an optimistic person, and I look forward to my future for the first time in my life.
I've told my friends, and they've all taken it well. My brother is cool with it too, and my mom is coming around. I think it might take her a while. Her initial reaction wasn't so good, but now that I've been going to therapy and discussing it with her, she's getting used to the idea. It scares her, which I understand. I'm impatient to just get things going, but she deserves to be on this journey with me. I don't want to drag her along if she still needs time to adjust.
That's the short version of my story! This seems like an awesome community. If you live around here, send me a message. It'd be cool to meet up, or just chat.
Peace!
I'm an eighteen-year-old trans guy living in Orlando, Florida.
I was assigned female at birth, but I've always identified as male. I never connected my ongoing social anxiety, depression, and self-hatred to my identity conflict, because I figured there was nothing I could do about it. Being bi, I was already part of the LGBT community, so you'd think I would have learned sooner; sadly, the T seems to be mostly silent, and I never heard enough to think about applying it to myself.
So growing up was confusing. And difficult. I just couldn't understand why I was so hesitant to meet people and feel comfortable in my body. This summer I decided to be honest with myself and do some soul-searching. The answer was there all along. Just knowing I don't have to stay trapped forever has done wonders for my self-confidence. I'm now an optimistic person, and I look forward to my future for the first time in my life.
I've told my friends, and they've all taken it well. My brother is cool with it too, and my mom is coming around. I think it might take her a while. Her initial reaction wasn't so good, but now that I've been going to therapy and discussing it with her, she's getting used to the idea. It scares her, which I understand. I'm impatient to just get things going, but she deserves to be on this journey with me. I don't want to drag her along if she still needs time to adjust.
That's the short version of my story! This seems like an awesome community. If you live around here, send me a message. It'd be cool to meet up, or just chat.
Peace!
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 22, 2010, 05:48:06 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on October 22, 2010, 05:48:06 PM
Hi Phoenix, :icon_wave:
Welcome to our little family. Over 38es 00 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:
And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )
Hugs and Love,
Janet
Welcome to our little family. Over 38es 00 strong. That would be one heck of a family reunion.
Feel free to post your successes/failures, Hopes/dreams. Ask questions and seek answers. Give and receive advice.
But remember we are family here, your family now. And it is always nice to have another brother. :icon_hug:
And be sure to check out these links ( MUST READS )
- Site Terms of Service and rules to live by (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html)
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Hugs and Love,
Janet
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: erocse on October 22, 2010, 05:50:38 PM
Post by: erocse on October 22, 2010, 05:50:38 PM
Welcome to Susan's. !!!
WOW !! It seems like I have seen at least a dozen new ftm new comers recently join Susan's. All have had there act together just like it seems you do. THAT SO GREAT !!
I look forward to your posts.
Erocse
WOW !! It seems like I have seen at least a dozen new ftm new comers recently join Susan's. All have had there act together just like it seems you do. THAT SO GREAT !!
I look forward to your posts.
Erocse
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Zack on October 22, 2010, 05:58:36 PM
Post by: Zack on October 22, 2010, 05:58:36 PM
welcome to susans :]
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Nathan. on October 22, 2010, 06:09:45 PM
Post by: Nathan. on October 22, 2010, 06:09:45 PM
Hey, welcome to Susans :)
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Arch on October 22, 2010, 06:46:57 PM
Post by: Arch on October 22, 2010, 06:46:57 PM
Hi, Phoenix. I'm glad you found us. Pull up a virtual chair and make yourself comfortable.
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Hermione01 on October 22, 2010, 06:52:35 PM
Post by: Hermione01 on October 22, 2010, 06:52:35 PM
Hi Phoenix and welcome. :)
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: xAndrewx on October 22, 2010, 06:59:40 PM
Post by: xAndrewx on October 22, 2010, 06:59:40 PM
Welcome to Susan's Phoenix! I'm also a trans guy from Orlando. Have you gone to the trans meetings at the center? If not it might be something you wanna check out. The link is glbcc.org if you're interested. It might help you out. Glad you found the site man.
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Theo on October 23, 2010, 05:26:08 AM
Post by: Theo on October 23, 2010, 05:26:08 AM
Hi Phoenix. There's a rash of us new guys. I am sure you'll enjoy being here.
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: Stephanie Stephens on October 23, 2010, 06:21:58 AM
Post by: Stephanie Stephens on October 23, 2010, 06:21:58 AM
Hi Phoenix,
Welcome. I am rather new too. You have found the best place on the Internet for us.
Stephanie
Welcome. I am rather new too. You have found the best place on the Internet for us.
Stephanie
Title: Re: New guy in the house
Post by: tvc15 on October 24, 2010, 04:06:04 PM
Post by: tvc15 on October 24, 2010, 04:06:04 PM
Thanks for the kind replies everyone!
Michael Alexander: I haven't gone to the GLBCC yet but I've heard good things about it! I'm going to try to make it to one of the meetings, it'll be cool to meet new people.
Michael Alexander: I haven't gone to the GLBCC yet but I've heard good things about it! I'm going to try to make it to one of the meetings, it'll be cool to meet new people.