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Why does it seem like the more we plan to complete our surgery and get everything done to fit who we are. The more it seem like we not getting anywhere. When we first plan things out it seem so simple but then now we have to worry about the cost of the surgery. When to get it done where to get it done. Which doctor should we see. Who can we trust. Who our friend. The more I think about it, the more it just seem so hard and out of reach.

Oh no... with every problem resolved, another piece to a big puzzle is placed.  It just seems confusing in the beginning.  It's hard to see the big picture when all you can work on is the straight edges of the puzzle.  But as you work at it, everything comes together.  Can you imagine how much satisfaction you will have when you accomplish this thing that now seems so impossible?

My dear, you will be able to do anything.  For you will be invinicible!

I'm dead serious about this.  You want, you can, and you will.

Chin up babe.

Cindi

Thanks cindi I will try my best
I would feel so good and stress free from one of the major problem in my life. I think I would feel more confident in myself and happy with my life.

B2L... please don't take this as a lecture okay?  But you must eliminate the word "try" from your vocabulary.  You must say "I will do".  Try implies a reluctant acceptance of failure before you start.  It really does.  "Oh I tried and failed... poor me."

Wouldn't it be better if you could say "I did it!".  Yeah, it already sounds better.

One step at a time my dear... one step at a time.  Isn't that how you knit a sweater?  One stitch at a time?  It can be done.  Certainly, you are as smart as someone who can knit a sweater.  Think of the other wonderful things you have done in your life that other people could not have done.  You are special. You can.  This must be in your mind.

Meanwhile we are here to help.  Of course we will console you if you come to us with a "poor me" message.  We all run into problems once in a while.  But imagine how much more productive we could be if we could answer a "How do I do this" question?  And how joyous it will be to share your success stories with us!

Go forth... don't try... DO!

Chin up and all that.

Cindi

Ok I work on it. I will do it :p
Well it always good to have someone wake me up from a long downhill fall. Always need to get up and get on my feet to open my eyes to reach my goal.

I once read that Buddha taught, "We all have 83 problems.  When we resolve one problem another pops up to replace it.  The real problem isn't in having problems, it's in thinking we will can get rid of all our problems." (paraphrased)

Once you change your goal from one in which you will eventually live in a carefree world to one in which you accept solving problems as a way of learning and improving yourself, life becomes much more enjoyable and a lot less frustrating.

Julie

Quote from: born2learn on December 22, 2006, 12:22:29 AM
I would feel so good and stress free from one of the major problem in my life. I think I would feel more confident in myself and happy with my life.

As people are saying though, there's always another problem waiting to move up in line. Life isn't to be solved, it's to be lived, experienced, in all it's frustration and gooeyness and delicousness and stinkiness and perfume and love and anger and laughter...

You can't swallow the ocean in a single gulp, as they say. Maybe don't look so far ahead, don't let overthinking the details overwhelm you. TRUST me on this, lol. Just stay true to yourself, and the details will tend to sort themselves out as you go. It's the oddest thing, but they really will. The world has this goofy way of throwing roses at your feet (thorns and all) when you start being honest, when you're True. Following your bliss and all that.

As a reminder, the top line of my journal says:


Kate