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In reading your posts I am saddened at how critical everyone on Suzan's is about thier appearance. I know many GG's that are flawed with the same issues everyone is posting about.

First is "D", one of my sister in laws has a unibrow that we fondly refer to as her pet catipillar.

Second is "C" another of my sister in laws has a 5:00 shadow that she has waxed regularily. After five we refer to her as Chris. She is only 5' tall and has a butt the size of Manhattan. (I have a niece with the same 5:00 shadow issue)

Third is another female family member (a GG) has a large nose & significant brow bossing, yet tall and thin.

Fourth is my brother in law "E".  Males have thier own set of issues. This guy is skinny and cannot put on wieght if he wanted to. He has no muscle mass. He has no chin. If you splashed some lipstick on him you wouldn't be able to place him as a male.

As for Erosce and I: I am 5'4" and my hips are 48". Erocse is 5'10" and her hips are 38".

My point is everyone, and I do mean everyone has thier imperfections.  Focus on your attributes. There are so many things that make a person beautiful. Most have nothing to do with a person's outward appearance. There are many physically attractive people that are void of inner beauty & intelligence. It is undesirable to be in thier company.

For the MTF this morning or this evening when you are finished putting on  your make up, and your lipstick is done, lean over and give the mirror a little kiss. Tell  yourself you are beautiful. For the FTM turn to the side and with a fist give yourself a punch in the shoulder. Tell yourself "What a Hunk you are.

Love yourself & be kind. There is only one you and you deserve to feel great! Today is your day make it a great one.  :D

Thank you Mrs. Erocse. These are really interesting and relevant thoughts.

Two of the most nicest ladies I have ever met are Erocse and the Mrs.  They are two very pretty women.  But Mrs. E is right.  When I first began this journey I was very upset with my problems.

I went into a meltdown one day and was thinking of the Big Step Out.  Then I looked at myself in the mirror and thru the tears these thoughts ran through my mind.

"What if you were born female?"
"And you still had these problems?"
"All the women in your family have them."
"What are you going to do now?"
"Just give up?"

As I looked at myself and thought on these words, I realized that I am still a woman, I just have some things that the women of my family face.

Now when I get ready for the day, I always finish with a "Good Morning Beautiful".

Thanks for the compliment Janet Lynne you are very beautiful yourself.  ;)
~HUGS~
Mrs. Erocse

Thank you Mrs. Erocse. These are good words to live by.
Hugs
Beth

Quote from: Mrs Erocse on November 19, 2010, 09:11:51 AMTell  yourself you are beautiful.

I can vouch for everything Mrs. Erocse has said (and THANK you for saying them!).  The biggest thing that kicked me into high gear on this journey and convinced me once and for all that this is ME, and not some awful sickness, was getting a load of the SMILE on my face in the very first picture of Me (Colleen).  I'd had a life coach tell me, from looking at a picture of (my old self) that the smile didn't reach my eyes.  And this was in a professional family portrait.  When I saw MY smile... WOW.  It knocked me out.  Now, yes, I know I have my issues, but I've already come a long way in just a few months, without hormones or anything, and I know that when all is said and done, my smile will go much farther in making me beautiful than anything else.  And when I'm MYSELF, I SMILE!  I can't help it.  I just feel so wonderful, inside and out.  I may never be a model, but most GG's aren't, either.  And I will be wonderfully happy just being who I am, issues and all.

Yes, Mrs. E, I completely agree.  I had a bunch of cis-women friends who helped me enormously, because every time I would complain about some (to me) mannish feature of mine they would invariably say: I know just what you mean - I (or my sister, aunt, mother) have the same problem!  Since I could never get any sympathy, eventually I got over myself (although being just a little prettier and curvier would be nice ::)).

Thanks, Mrs. E. :icon_flower:

- Kate

K8 you are a cutie. Have you checked that pretty smile of yours lately?

Curves............I would love to share mine. I have ubundance to spare more than I care for.  Why hasn't some one figured out that process? Sharing curve distribution.  :D

Thanks for the boost Mrs Erocse. I needed a reminder of what a sexy devil I am. :P

I've noticed this also and it is so easy for us to be our own worst critics and most often we are the only ones who see these OMG terrible flaws

Even the most drop dead gorgeous GG women can somehow find fault with themselves...
Nature of the beast... Go figure

I see my flaws and the things I can do something about I work on... But I also see my attributes and have learned to highlight them or at least attempt to

But yeah, no-one's perfect... I definitely won't be a super model anytime soon... But you bet I'm going to be as pretty of an old gal as possible  :laugh:

Mrs Erocse You are Wonderful in Absolutely every way of the word  :)

I hope that with time all this energy being focus on criticizing our own appearances will switch gears and aim towards helping one another and our community grow as a whole

xoxoxoxox

What a beautiful post.  Thank you so much Mrs Erocse!

I have enjoyed seeing the two of you come on here.  You are two beautiful women.  And you have a wonderful heart as well.

Kristi

Mrs. Erocse you've won me! Listen to her, folks! I too am GG, and what shall I tell you about first? My big nose? The spaces between my teeth? My round and jiggly parts? The chin hairs I have to pluck? It's true that the uglier the personality the less attractive the physical appearance becomes. And it works both ways. I'll even venture to share with you my experience that when you care for someone, traits that aren't usually considered attractive become beautiful to the beholder. And you never know who's beholding wonderful YOU.    <3 Valerie

I have a confession to make. Erocse helped me with this post this morning, while we were drinking tea & coffee. We had fun doing this together. Feeling guilty for not sharing all these nice things you are all saying.  ;)

@ val
I'm still a GG, Id-ing androgyne..and, yeah...

For me having two eyebrows is a lifestyle choice...also recently, my hairline is growing a thin, pigmented fuzz downward to meet with the tops of my eyebrows...as a result I now first pluck, then shave my FOREHEAD every so often... ???
And has anybody ever heard that Roseanne Barr joke about her daughter saying  "Mommy, when I grow up, I want my boobs to be nice and long like yours?"  Mine are small, but they are entirely too gravity cooperative.
And having a mustache would be one thing-but these few black hairs that make me look like a catfish on my upper lip?
My tweezers see a  lot of service these days.

I will try to be kind to myself...it's really hard, I'm not in the habit of doing that, Mrs E.  I'm afraid if I'm kind to myself I'll be slacking and not getting things done...and I never get it everything that ought to be done done.

I needed this. Thank you.

I was forcibly reminded how tiny I was in a mosh pit today when I took a hit to the jaw that sent me *up into the air* and then dumped me on my knees a few feet away. I really needed to be told it didn't matter.

Thank you from me too.  My therapist reminded me that cis-women are critical of their bodies too, so not to be overcritical.
I had my nose done years ago so I could breath through it, and that also got rid of the bump that all my mother's side of the family have.  I can fix the head hair loss the same way once I go on HRT.   Apart from that I realise I will just play with the hand nature dealt me.

Hugs to you both, and hope you are ok Aegir.

Quote from: Aegir on November 20, 2010, 04:32:52 AM
I needed this. Thank you.

I was forcibly reminded how tiny I was in a mosh pit today when I took a hit to the jaw that sent me *up into the air* and then dumped me on my knees a few feet away. I really needed to be told it didn't matter.

You Ok?

Cindy

Quote from: Mrs Erocse on November 19, 2010, 11:09:41 PM
I have a confession to make. Erocse helped me with this post this morning, while we were drinking tea & coffee. We had fun doing this together. Feeling guilty for not sharing all these nice things you are all saying.  ;)

Oh I think everybody knows me well enough to know just what I contributed.........., "butt the size of Manhattan",and  " we fondly refer to as her pet caterpillar" and "If you splashed some lipstick on him you wouldn't be able to place him as a male." 

Hugs, Erocse

You two are just far too acey. he he

Helena we are too old to know what acey means. Please do tell  :)
The Erocses

Thank you Jennifer. You are beautiful too. Did you get a new holiday party dress yet?  :D

Acey: Pronunciation key (Ai-see

Definition:
Brilliant, fantastic. Filled with much happiness and feelings of joy.


Usage:
Erocse and Mrs Erocse are seriously too acey. he he :laugh:

Quote from: Jennifer on November 20, 2010, 06:36:18 PMMaybe something in red?  :-\

Just in time for Christmas!  Then you can dance to the Billy Joel song...  :laugh:

Thanks Helena for the compliment and your new avatar is pretty.  Jennifer Red is decidedly festive. I admired the silver sweaters too. I love to sparkle. I always say that every woman should sparkle. I will buy sweaters just because they have rhinestone buttons. I love buttons too.  :D

Quote from: CindyJames on November 20, 2010, 05:27:10 AM
You Ok?

Cindy

Lol yeah physically I am just a little bruised but that's just part of the show, lol. I just felt way way tiny and it was bad.

Quote from: Janet Lynn on November 19, 2010, 11:06:28 AM
Two of the most nicest ladies I have ever met are Erocse and the Mrs.  They are two very pretty women.  But Mrs. E is right.  When I first began this journey I was very upset with my problems.

I went into a meltdown one day and was thinking of the Big Step Out.  Then I looked at myself in the mirror and thru the tears these thoughts ran through my mind.

"What if you were born female?"
"And you still had these problems?"
"All the women in your family have them."
"What are you going to do now?"
"Just give up?"

As I looked at myself and thought on these words, I realized that I am still a woman, I just have some things that the women of my family face.

Now when I get ready for the day, I always finish with a "Good Morning Beautiful".

Amen, amen and amen ... to EVERYTHING Janet Lynn says here.  She and I have had this very conversation ... with her being my cheerleader saying these words to me and soothing one of my many bum-out sessions.

Just this afternoon, no joke, I was reading "No Way, Renee!" by famous and pioneering transsexual Renee Richards.  On pages 232-233, she says that there are some transsexuals who should NOT try to present as women due to what she calls lack of what she labels "somatic compliance."  What's THAT mean?  Renee Richards explains that some transwomen are so masculinized that they will never pass and will place themselves in harm's way by attempting to.

This is me!  Okay, so I've got the legs ... the hips ... the aesthetic bone structure going for me, but these wide-assed shoulders and way-broad back will get me SOOO clocked by the douchebags and a-holes out there that I'll be asking for a hassle.  Like, what genetic woman has shoulders and a back like this?  Professional female bodybuilders ... Oh, Christ!  Sigh ... Yet another thing I get well-nigh suicidal about.

Thank you, Janet Lynn for your VERY wise words!

Thank YOU, Mrs. Erocse, for starting this BEAUTIFUL thread!

Janet Lynn knows The Erocses better than I do, but I can attest to how awesome they are!  Erocse and Mrs. Erocse, what a much better world this would be if only more people in it were like you two. 

Hugs & Peace!    :D   Lacey

Good words to live by.

Sometimes we forget how lucky we are. I feel upset at times going out a splurging while I know others cannot. I feel for those in countries that will never accept them, and indeed will persecute them.
For my sisters and brothers here who are fighting the fight. I have been totally blown away by how supportive people on this site are. I am taking joy in my life thanks to my friends here, my weekends can be tough, my friends know why, but every weekend is another hill. But thanks to all of you, I cope, even if I get a little emotional ::). As Alexis posted too me, "It's the whoremones dear, just the whoremones.

Love to you all and Erocse and Mrs :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-* :-*


Cindy

thanks mrs. erosce, that is a very important thing to remember. if not for looks, for any kind of flaw.
i also have to remember there's only one me and that I'm unique and can accomplish anything and all that stuff. no punches in the shoulder though, that'll probably bruise  :laugh:

Quote from: Jennifer on November 21, 2010, 07:50:38 AM
Well said Noah, well said. I just went to the mirror and repeated those words a few times. Thanks. ;D

Jennifer

whaaah i actually helped someone, cool  :)