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I'm getting really miserable because I'm probably going to start my period again within a few days and I wanted to know how you guys that still have periods deal with it or how you guys who no longer have periods dealt with it before. I go to a therapist/physician (I don't know if I spelled that right) and he said that he could def. get me on testosterone very soon, he said he was going to call a friend who works in LA and ask him about dosages and stuff. I think he used to work with other trans people in a different state but he said that I'm the only one who has been to see him while he's worked in WV. The good thing is I don't have to go to another county or city, I can just go to the building beside the hospital which is 15 minutes away from me. I missed my appointment on the 14th because of snow but I'm hoping I'll be able to start T very soon.

For some reason that I don't know I just don't have my periods anymore.

I used to get really upset and angry, feeling like a freak cause men don't have periods. But since I started transition my periods just stopped, magically, and I'm very happy with that.

I generally just put it out of my mind that it even happens, and when it does, I do my best to ignore it and pretend it's not happening.  It can be difficult when it hurts so bad I have to take pain meds and lie down, but even then, dwelling on it only makes it worse.  If I can think of anything else, a book, a movie, thoughts in my head, anything, it makes the pain a little less.  As far as psychological pain, I can't really suggest much.  I just do my best to ignore the whole thing. :-\

I get cramps about a day before until about 12 hrs after I start bleeding.  I use tampons so then I can forget I have it most of the time.  That is all that has ever been in there.  I know I want to start T asap to end it forever.  I day I got my first one was my first day ever.

I play a lot of violent video games. If I'm going to feel like a wrung-out, worn-out old dishrag, all weak and powerless and controlled by some puny inner organs like that, then I feel like I have to do something to compensate. Video games is compensation, really.

It also works when you have PMS - reeeaaally satisfying to set some angry giant mutants on fire with a flamethrower.

Wish i could get my period =[

I also start to feel it about a day before it starts and i start taking pain meds then so the pain gets a little better and i can think about it less. The first day always kills me. I just feel weak and horrible, and just irritated that I have to deal with that unlike other guys. I just keep reminding myself that its almost over, its gunna be such a relief when its done, and then I get a wholllee nother month to not have to deal with it and feel 100% manly.

HATE. PERIODS. SO. MUCH.

To make it so much worse, my mother wanted to throw me a party when I had my first.  All I could think was, I'm in horrible, horrible pain, and you know the women in this family don't continue growing after their first, this is terrible, why would I want to celebrate, I'll be 165 cm forever, arrrghhh~

Then all my female friends is highschool were like "I thought cramps were a myth, I never get them," while I'm sitting in the corner trying to remember which pain medication I took last because I have to rotate pain killers so that my body doesn't build up an immunity to it... Still happened though, Tylenol has no effect on me anymore, neither does that one that starts with a v, that everyone says makes you high, worked for thirty minutes on me and the pain was right back.

Tylenol (or something similar), videogames, and the most masculine clothes I own. Along with the reminder that it'll be over for a month soon. That is what gets me through it.

That is the best part, knowing in 5 days it will be over and I will have 20 plus days free of bleeding down there.

That stinks, man. What a drag. I like their ideas about violently shooting things in a game!

I myself was incredibly lucky--had major abdominal surgery (unrelated) about 13 years ago and it just never came back after that. No rags for me for 13+ years!

I am thankful every day that happened to me. A menstrual miracle is all I can say! I can only imagine how crazy it would make me if I still had periods. Yuck.

You'll get through it, man. This too shall pass!!!

Andy, you got all your girly parts removed as part of another abdominal surgery, how nice to be rid of them.

JosephKT - ugh, my mom did the party throwing thing too. Made people give me feminine energy gifts and crap and I broke down crying seconds after it all ended.

I got mine really early on (lucky guy that I am), so after a few years of getting worked up about it even when I wasn't having one, I was drained of all ability to get bothered by it just because guys aren't supposed to get periods. I mean, mine last 7-9 days, and when I'm already exhausted by constant cramping, headaches, mood swings, hot flashes, nausea, aching, and every other menstrual symptom you can think of, if I had continued to be dysphoric on top of that I'd probably just keel over and die. So that's how I survive mine. I'm distracted from dysphoria by pain and rage towards the world. If my symptoms are light a particular period, I chuck throwing stars at the backyard target, as that requires minimal energy, or start a big project to distract myself.

Oh, and when I get particularly stressed out it starts coming irregularly. One of the few times my body actually cooperates with me by not piling more crap on top of my problems. So that helps.

Your period stops after you start T... doesn't it? That's what I heard...  :-\
Anyways sorry that happened to you man. I guess read a book, play videogames, or listen to music to take your mind off it like everyone else said. Maybe it will stop when you start transition if you haven't already? I wish I could be more help but I haven't even started transition/T myself.

Quote from: Josh T on December 20, 2010, 06:45:19 PM
Your period stops after you start T... doesn't it? That's what I heard...  :-\

Mine stopped after my first shot but T doesn't always stop it quickly and for some guys it doesn't stop at all.

that sucks. what affects if yours stops or not? is some of it genetics or something?

Quote from: KillBelle on December 20, 2010, 01:35:25 AM
Wish i could get my period =[

KillBelle,
I've often wished there was some sort of transplant operation like a kidney transplant - seems such a waste to have so many of us getting rid of that which the others want.   :-\

I used to take birth control non stop so I wouldn't have to deal with it. Been off it for a few months and now its not so bad. The last one only lasted a couple days. Unfortunately only 20 days later and its back. I just distract myself with video games.

Quote from: KillBelle on December 20, 2010, 01:35:25 AM
Wish i could get my period =[

LMAO! What part of uncontrollable bleeding from an orifice sounds fun?

Hahaha. I know right? This is what I was thinking. Be honest now girls. The whole "getting your period and entering womanhood" or whatever. Who would really WANT their period? I mean you SAY you want it. But I'm just curious, do you really?? You really don't know what it's like unless you actually go through it yourself! 

maybe she means she wants it to be able to say she has it, and to say that she can get pregnant.  I doubt she actully wants to have to bleed from her genitals.

That's what I thought too.

I, for one, do not want any periods.  However, I would put up with it if it meant being female.

I don't know why anybody would insist on wanting an uncontrolled hemorrhage.  That doesn't sound like a favorable condition to be in.

Quote from: KillBelle on December 20, 2010, 01:35:25 AM
Wish i could get my period =[

You can have mine. Pass me a knife and I'll give you my girl innards, never used  :D

Quote from: Nikolai_S on December 20, 2010, 06:33:31 PM
JosephKT - ugh, my mom did the party throwing thing too. Made people give me feminine energy gifts and crap and I broke down crying seconds after it all ended.

Feminine energy gifts @-@?

Quote from: Mr.Rainey on December 20, 2010, 11:32:19 PM
You can have mine. Pass me a knife and I'll give you my girl innards, never used  :D

This. If only!!

Quote from: Mr.Rainey on December 20, 2010, 11:32:19 PM
You can have mine. Pass me a knife and I'll give you my girl innards, never used  :D

If only the universe were that simple.

Quote from: Mr.Rainey on December 20, 2010, 11:32:19 PM
You can have mine. Pass me a knife and I'll give you my girl innards, never used  :D

OMG trust me if i could trade you my guy body parts (presurgery) then i would do it in a heartbeat. I HATED HATED my penis...it was the worst curse. i woke up every day with a boner and wished to god that it would go away

KillBelle, just wanted to say that if that is you in the picture, you are gorgeous!

thanks!!

Uhhh, to return to the topic, I just tell myself to "take it like a man" to get through it.  Some people have an angel or a devil on their shoulder, but I have a teeny, tiny drill sergeant yelling at me to "get over it" and "be a man" about it.  It's hardest to do at first, not just when you're young, but on the first day each time, but after a while you get into a routine about it. 

I've gone through a few different types of birth control in order to find what makes me bleed the least, last the shortest, and hurt the least. Granted, getting pumped with female hormones sucks, but I would rather deal with the hormones than deal with my PMDD.

How do I deal with it? I just do my best to forget it's going on.

I'd get depressed and withdraw into my own little world and not see much of what was happening outside of that.  Glad that has all gone away.

Quote from: JosephKT on December 20, 2010, 11:50:37 PM
Feminine energy gifts @-@?

Indeed, things like rose quartz hearts, clay figurines with breasts, womens health books, fertility necklaces.... yep. It was mostly her and my aunt, who's pagan. Both very feminist. So well meaning.... yet so unfortunate.

I was lucky in that i didnt have to deal wth cramps, i did have bloating, an my periods lasted 7-8 das, so that sucked.  i always used tampons, because penetration doesnt bother me, and the tampons let me forget about it, pants were disgusting to me, i hated feeling the blood come out when i stood up, and it felt like a diaper.

i dont really remember how I delt with the dysphoria and anger it caused me

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Indeed, things like rose quartz hearts, clay figurines with breasts, womens health books, fertility necklaces.... yep. It was mostly her and my aunt, who's pagan. Both very feminist. So well meaning.... yet so unfortunate.

having had many a Pagan ex-girlfriend, and a worshiper of the old gods, I. Am. So. Sorry.  That's way more celebratory than my relatives tried, and so much more of a knife to the guts.

Quote from: KillBelle on December 21, 2010, 12:15:17 AM
OMG trust me if i could trade you my guy body parts (presurgery) then i would do it in a heartbeat. I HATED HATED my penis...it was the worst curse. i woke up every day with a boner and wished to god that it would go away

If only we could switch gender parts. I would trade you my female part for your male part. This includes internal organs too!

Having PMS sucks. Whenever I have them I generally stay home for the period of time. I don't need to exhibit my frustrations and PMS juice to people. I prefer to ride it out at home, and then go back out in public viewing once I'm over with it.

I'm going to try to persuade my ob gyn to possibly get me on T... to end my periods because I become suicidally depressed whenever I'm PMSing. I sometimes feel the urge to want to harm others... if you know what I mean. The feeling isn't good. Being inside of a woman's body is a curse! I don't know what my ancestors did to someone, but they manage to screw with me well enough!

Quote from: Josh T on December 21, 2010, 12:45:12 AM
KillBelle, just wanted to say that if that is you in the picture, you are gorgeous!

I was thinking the same thing about her.

I can ignore it until I go to the bathroom and then of course it's obvious. Lucky for me I don't get a heavy period but it lasts longer and then I start again 2 1/2 weeks later :(

Quote from: KillBelle on December 21, 2010, 12:47:38 AM
thanks!!

not a prob.

Elijah, I agree  tampons are the best way for me to handle them until I can get on T.  Hopefully I can get a total hyster in a few years and be rid of my girly parts altogether.

I honestly don't know any woman who likes her period. I don't think it's uncommon. I personally hate it like everyone else and tampons are a bit less messy.

I'm lucky to not have cramps that often but when i do i just take pamprin, those work better than tylenol and i go do my regular stuff. lying down and thinking endlessly how much you want it to be over just makes it hurt worse. same with headaches or back aches i get every once in a while. i soooo can't wait to be done with these forever though. good friggin grief. maybe i get T in a few short months.