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Title: Examples of family letters?
Post by: Espenoah on January 02, 2011, 10:48:53 PM
Post by: Espenoah on January 02, 2011, 10:48:53 PM
My mom and I have decided that since hormones are coming around the corner here soon, I need to write a coming out letter to our family. Problem is, I'm not good with words at all, and I tend to come off as blunt and abrasive when it comes to things like this. I want to express sympathy as well as the technical details, which I'm rather horrible at. It would really help if I could see some examples...I'm FtM, but I'd gladly read MtF letters too. I'm just really stuck...If anyone wants to lend a hand, I would really appreciate it. Sending a PM would be just fine. :) Thank you!
Title: Re: Examples of family letters?
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 02, 2011, 10:54:57 PM
Post by: Janet_Girl on January 02, 2011, 10:54:57 PM
You might want to look in the Reference Library, there is a lot of good info there.
Title: Re: Examples of family letters?
Post by: Espenoah on January 02, 2011, 11:24:28 PM
Post by: Espenoah on January 02, 2011, 11:24:28 PM
I did check out the reference library, but I'm still having trouble wrapping my head around it. I've taken some pointers from it to start writing my letter, and they've helped a lot, but I still find it difficult. What I write doesn't seem to come out like I want it to. I think having a specific example would help. Maybe I should point out that I won't under any circumstances share the letters with anyone else.
Title: Re: Examples of family letters?
Post by: spacial on January 03, 2011, 08:48:17 AM
Post by: spacial on January 03, 2011, 08:48:17 AM
Espenoah.
How about this.
Make a list of all those you want to tell.
Then, divide them up into, those you want to give the full monty, explainations, sympathy, references to your own background and growing up and stuff, a second of those that will just need the basics, that you're not growing horns and you still care about them. Then the third, those that just need to be told. If they want anymore information, here's a link, ect..
To the first group, just tell them what you told your mom.
The next two, remove those bits you don't think they need to know.
How about this.
Make a list of all those you want to tell.
Then, divide them up into, those you want to give the full monty, explainations, sympathy, references to your own background and growing up and stuff, a second of those that will just need the basics, that you're not growing horns and you still care about them. Then the third, those that just need to be told. If they want anymore information, here's a link, ect..
To the first group, just tell them what you told your mom.
The next two, remove those bits you don't think they need to know.