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Title: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: NatalieUGA on January 04, 2007, 10:31:01 AM
Post by: NatalieUGA on January 04, 2007, 10:31:01 AM
Okay. So we'll try to make this quick.
I'm and MtF woman who will turn 20 here in April. I'm at a state school in the south though it's not as bad as you might think. I'm currently full time at school though I'm pre-HRT and electro. I'm working on all that. My parents aren't really happy about what I've chosen to do with myself. I came out to them nine months ago and we've had little talk of it since then. I'm hoping they'll open up eventually. It's all rather complicated. I'm sure there's more I could say but I'll leave it at that for now.
Natalie
I'm and MtF woman who will turn 20 here in April. I'm at a state school in the south though it's not as bad as you might think. I'm currently full time at school though I'm pre-HRT and electro. I'm working on all that. My parents aren't really happy about what I've chosen to do with myself. I came out to them nine months ago and we've had little talk of it since then. I'm hoping they'll open up eventually. It's all rather complicated. I'm sure there's more I could say but I'll leave it at that for now.
Natalie
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: tinkerbell on January 04, 2007, 10:44:52 AM
Post by: tinkerbell on January 04, 2007, 10:44:52 AM
Hi Natalie and welcome to Susan's!
Thank you for your introduction. There are several members here in different stages of transition, so please don't hesitate to ask questions and take advantage of the many resources this site has to offer. We look forward to your future posts and participation. Enjoy your stay!
tinkerbell :icon_chick:
Thank you for your introduction. There are several members here in different stages of transition, so please don't hesitate to ask questions and take advantage of the many resources this site has to offer. We look forward to your future posts and participation. Enjoy your stay!
tinkerbell :icon_chick:
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Steph on January 04, 2007, 10:47:10 AM
Post by: Steph on January 04, 2007, 10:47:10 AM
Quote from: NatalieUGA on January 04, 2007, 10:31:01 AM
Okay. So we'll try to make this quick.
I'm and MtF woman who will turn 20 here in April. I'm at a state school in the south though it's not as bad as you might think. I'm currently full time at school though I'm pre-HRT and electro. I'm working on all that. My parents aren't really happy about what I've chosen to do with myself. I came out to them nine months ago and we've had little talk of it since then. I'm hoping they'll open up eventually. It's all rather complicated. I'm sure there's more I could say but I'll leave it at that for now.
Natalie
Welcome to Susan's Natalie.
It's always good to see new members, and I hope that you find what you are looking for during your stay with us. We have a lot to offer and there is much to see and do, this coupled with our wonderful members makes Susan's unique on the web.
Take advantage of us, challenge us, but above all participate as that's what makes this site so great.
Chat later.
Steph
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Letti on January 04, 2007, 12:08:43 PM
Post by: Letti on January 04, 2007, 12:08:43 PM
Heh I really admire you guys for having the patience to reply to everyone's introduction posts, even mine ;D.
Neways, this ain't about me but about you Natalie. Welcome and hope you find your place here. :) I've been here only a couple of days but the people here are very kind and open-minded (I guess that's natural :laugh:). Hope to see you more on the forums.
Neways, this ain't about me but about you Natalie. Welcome and hope you find your place here. :) I've been here only a couple of days but the people here are very kind and open-minded (I guess that's natural :laugh:). Hope to see you more on the forums.
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Kate on January 04, 2007, 12:17:27 PM
Post by: Kate on January 04, 2007, 12:17:27 PM
Hi Natalie! (pretty name)
I'm glad you found us!
Parents can take time... I'm sure they're slowly adjusting to the news at their own pace. Have you tried talking to them since the initial coming out? Do they just basically change the subject if you do?
Enjoy your stay... youll find all kinds of neat info, stories and people here... feel free to browse around and take a peek at the Site Rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html) too.
Welcome again, and I can't wait to hear more of your story (if you want to share) :)
Kate
I'm glad you found us!
Parents can take time... I'm sure they're slowly adjusting to the news at their own pace. Have you tried talking to them since the initial coming out? Do they just basically change the subject if you do?
Enjoy your stay... youll find all kinds of neat info, stories and people here... feel free to browse around and take a peek at the Site Rules (https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,2.0.html) too.
Welcome again, and I can't wait to hear more of your story (if you want to share) :)
Kate
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: NatalieUGA on January 04, 2007, 02:10:04 PM
Post by: NatalieUGA on January 04, 2007, 02:10:04 PM
Thanks everyone for the warm welcome. I found the site early this Christmas break and have been lurking to try and stay sane. I decided to join up now.
Kate, I've talked to my mom three or four times (especially this summer) but it doesn't usually get anywhere except keeping the subject stuck in her head. She treats me mostly like before which is way better than it could be but not like I want it. Usually when we talk about it we only get so far before one or the other of us or both ends up a bawling mess. I'm gonna try to talk to her again tonight since we'll be alone. Dad on the other hand said something once the day after I came out. He indicated that he wasn't in support but would keep paying for college and that has been it. He is pretending it's not there now.
Anything else about me I'm willing to share. I'm just so used to the whole story by now I don't know what's important. Ask anything.
Kate, I've talked to my mom three or four times (especially this summer) but it doesn't usually get anywhere except keeping the subject stuck in her head. She treats me mostly like before which is way better than it could be but not like I want it. Usually when we talk about it we only get so far before one or the other of us or both ends up a bawling mess. I'm gonna try to talk to her again tonight since we'll be alone. Dad on the other hand said something once the day after I came out. He indicated that he wasn't in support but would keep paying for college and that has been it. He is pretending it's not there now.
Anything else about me I'm willing to share. I'm just so used to the whole story by now I don't know what's important. Ask anything.
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: cindianna_jones on January 04, 2007, 03:40:29 PM
Post by: cindianna_jones on January 04, 2007, 03:40:29 PM
Welcome Natalie! Your parents are in excellent shape considering your youth and that it has only been nine months. You are doing the right thing by keeping in contact with them and showing your love. Eventually, they will either accept it all or at least learn to deal with it in their own way. Some of us have been through much worse, so we all have immense shoulders to cry on if you have a need.
You do what you need to do.... keep love in your heart... know your goals... and my dear, don't forget the most important... love life and be happy.
Chind up!
Cindi
You do what you need to do.... keep love in your heart... know your goals... and my dear, don't forget the most important... love life and be happy.
Chind up!
Cindi
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Terri Gene on January 04, 2007, 03:49:47 PM
Post by: Terri Gene on January 04, 2007, 03:49:47 PM
QuoteIt's all rather complicated. I'm sure there's more I could say but I'll leave it at that for now.
It may seem easy enough in the beginning of exploration, but generrally there is a scuffle of some kind behind it all. You know best what is right for you, but stay prepared for people not welcoming you in their presense. It's a small world and the understanding people in it are even smaller. Watch your back and sides when You declair who you are publically.
Terri
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Mamalee on January 04, 2007, 04:09:30 PM
Post by: Mamalee on January 04, 2007, 04:09:30 PM
Hang in there Natalie. It all works out sooner or later.
Just be strong and keep on getting good support. Trust me. Your parents will come around.
Just be strong and keep on getting good support. Trust me. Your parents will come around.
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 05, 2007, 05:30:41 AM
Post by: Jillieann Rose on January 05, 2007, 05:30:41 AM
Hi Natalie,
And welcome to Susan's.
Are your parents paying for your schooling?
Yes it is very hard when love ones don't seem to accept you. I came out to my wife over a year ago and somedays it's seems like she is okay with it and others she won't even look me in the face. She has never seen me dress and has ask me not to infront of her.
So I do understand, please don't give up hope and give your parents more time. It is a real shock to them.
Glad to meet you.
:)
Jillieann
And welcome to Susan's.
Are your parents paying for your schooling?
Yes it is very hard when love ones don't seem to accept you. I came out to my wife over a year ago and somedays it's seems like she is okay with it and others she won't even look me in the face. She has never seen me dress and has ask me not to infront of her.
So I do understand, please don't give up hope and give your parents more time. It is a real shock to them.
Glad to meet you.
:)
Jillieann
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Suzy on January 05, 2007, 08:06:16 AM
Post by: Suzy on January 05, 2007, 08:06:16 AM
Welcome Natalie. Although our stories are all different they all have a lot in common with yours. We all know the difficulties of how this will affect relationships and some here can give you some pretty good advice to walk you through those har dmoments to come. Glad you started posting.
Peace,
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Peace,
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Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Kendall on January 05, 2007, 11:02:17 AM
Post by: Kendall on January 05, 2007, 11:02:17 AM
Welcome Natalie,
You have reached a great community. College is a great time to sort out life and who you are. Its also a great time to figure out your financial and career path. Parents are quite common against or want to ignore the TG issue. Its just one of the challenges to face. You know whats best for you though.
Enjoy the site now, out of the shadows of lurking and looking. There are many former lurkers here lol. Glad you decided to post.
Kenny
You have reached a great community. College is a great time to sort out life and who you are. Its also a great time to figure out your financial and career path. Parents are quite common against or want to ignore the TG issue. Its just one of the challenges to face. You know whats best for you though.
Enjoy the site now, out of the shadows of lurking and looking. There are many former lurkers here lol. Glad you decided to post.
Kenny
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: Jolene4ever on January 06, 2007, 01:17:13 AM
Post by: Jolene4ever on January 06, 2007, 01:17:13 AM
Hi Natalie. I congratulate you on coming out to your parents..you have crossed a huge barrier & it's good..if I had done that back in the 50's they would have put me in a mental institution. Anyway welcome. Everyone we talk to is a help. Keep smiling, you won't get wrinkles. :D Jolene
Title: Re: I'm new. This is my story.
Post by: katia on January 06, 2007, 04:54:41 AM
Post by: katia on January 06, 2007, 04:54:41 AM
Welcome to the site! A lot of really great friendly people here. You will learn a lot, i know i am!